Help Yourself

Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult: Many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

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7 Steps to Changing Your Narcissistic Responses

If you know you are narcissistic and want to change, you can find a better way to deal with the issues that trigger your rage.

Parenting Effects on Children: What Is Your Parenting Style?

What is your parenting style? Data published in a new research study provides evidence on cultural variations in parenting.

Love and Toddler Brain Coping Mechanisms

Most of the time, toddlers can get away with blame, denial, and avoidance because they’re so darn cute. When adults do it, we’re not so cute.

11 Reasons Women Have Difficulty with Orgasm, and What Helps

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 17, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Up to half of women report difficulty with orgasm. Research identifies barriers to sexual pleasure, and provides guidance on how to enjoy intimate experiences more fully.

Five Preachy Pleas

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 17, 2018 in How To Do Life
Exhortations from my new book, Careers for Dummies.

Benefits of the Indoor Plant

Add a potted plant to your world!

Life-Changing Moments

It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment...
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Facing the Pain of Child Abuse

It can be difficult to allow yourself to experience the pain of childhood abuse but having self-compassion can help.
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Meaningful Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on February 15, 2018 in The Meaningful Life
How our pets provide us with a source of meaning.

When You Forgive, Do You Need Love and Courage?

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on February 15, 2018 in The Forgiving Life
When you forgive, do you see its highest expression as love? Do you see the need for courage to accompany forgiveness? How can you balance these issues of love and courage?

7 Major Signs Your Life Is On Track

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 15, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Life is challenging, but adversity does not mean that we are unhappy or lost. Knowing the ingredients can help us course-correct, and hold steady when things are going well.

Four Guidelines to Making Critical Decisions

By Tim Elmore on February 15, 2018 in Artificial Maturity
Are you constantly faced with making critical decisions? These four guidelines can help you effectively make them.
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The Secret of Platonic Relationships

By Diana Raab PhD on February 14, 2018 in The Empowerment Diary
Platonic love is a special emotional and spiritual relationship between two people and is different than romantic love, but can be even more powerful and long-lasting.

What Makes Us Think Such Negative Things About Ourselves?

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on February 14, 2018 in Think, Act, Be
Tired of always beating up on yourself? Identify the core beliefs that drive self-loathing, and work toward making friends with yourself starting today.
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How Is Your Anger Best Seen as Retaliation?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 14, 2018 in Evolution of the Self
Basically, all the perceived affronts that make you mad start, unconsciously, with your self-image taking a hit—reviving the ancient, overblown fear that you’re not good enough.

R & Deism: An Atheist's Religious Children's Story

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 14, 2018 in Ambigamy
Many people take religion so seriously that it throws their judgment off. Here's a children's story to cultivate serious spiritual play.

Speaking Out on Fertility

Uncovering the reasons why so many stay silent about fertility and the benefits of discussing your reproductive health.

The First Step to Take When You’re Having a Rough Day

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 13, 2018 in Turning Straw Into Gold
I was taking a rough day and making it worse by turning myself into a victim, as if the world were conspiring against me. So I asked myself what I could do to make things better.

Rethinking Therapy

By Shainna Ali Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in A Modern Mentality
Three TED Talks you need to watch if you're thinking about starting therapy.

The Truth Shall Set You Free...

By Russell Grieger Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in Happiness on Purpose
Panic attacks are painful, scary and unnecessary. In this blog, find out the cause and cure of all panic attacks.

Changing the Narrative (Part 2)

By John Sean Doyle on February 13, 2018 in Luminous Things
We never know when we are going to affect someone in big and meaningful ways—for the better, or for the worse. As such, keep putting the good stuff out there, again and again.

Feeling Knocked Down? How to Get Back Up

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in Making Change
When, instead of moving down the sidewalk with some bounce in your step, you are stuck on the ground with lead in your ass, it’s time to develop greater resilience.

5 Overarching Principles for Coping with Negative Emotions

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in In Practice
Learning how to respond to psychological distress can help you move on.

The Hidden Third Wheel That’s Messing Up Your Relationship

Relationships are hard enough without the hidden toxic third wheel that's messing with your relationship. Here's how to kick it out once and for all.

Six Psychological Reasons Decluttering Feels So Good

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on February 12, 2018 in In Practice
If you've ever wondered why people get a buzz from decluttering, here's why.

Dealing with a Difficult Boss

Have a difficult boss? If you are considering quitting your job just to get away, realize that there are other options.

Love in the Time of Perfectionism

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 12, 2018 in ExperiMentations
New research examines our attitudes and decisions regarding three different kinds of perfectionism and romantic relationships.

Celebrate Your Love

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 11, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
Most of us know that Valentine’s was created not by some mystical event or act of Congress but by a greeting card company.

15 Signs of High Sensitivity in Relationships

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on February 11, 2018 in Communication Success
Are you highly sensitive in relationships? Do you know someone in your personal or professional relationship who may be highly sensitive?

How Can I Be Me While You’re Being You?

Just about all lovers go through a stage of high emotional reactivity that threatens to destroy their relationship.