Help Yourself

Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult: Many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent posts on Self-Help

Are You Obsessing Over Your Ex?

If your ex recently broke up with you, you may have OCD-like symptoms. The good news: standard self-help techniques for OCD may be able to speed up your recovery from the breakup.

Those Who Make Your Checklist Often Don’t Make It

It’s the one that contains all the characteristics of the partner of your dreams, the one with whom you know you’ll experience happiness forever after.

Love Handles

How we “handle”, or better yet, help a significant other overcome negative experiences and behaviors can pave the way for more positive present and future sexual encounters.
Judith Orloff

Beware of the Go-For-the-Jugular Vampire

By Judith Orloff M.D. on October 20, 2016 in Emotional Freedom
This vampire is one of the most malevolent of bloodsuckers, this person is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. Learn how to protect yourself.

Why Should You Build Some Nostalgia Into Your Life?

Nostalgia can make your life better.

There's Only One Way to Love: Bravely

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Loving Bravely
How do you reconcile the romanticized images of love portrayed in the media with the lived experiences of being in an intimate relationship? Let self-awareness be your guide.

You Have Power Over Your Brain Chemistry

Your brain has an operating system inherited from earlier animals. It rewards you with "happy chemicals" when you step toward meeting needs and alarms you with "unhappy chemicals.

Can You Come Home to Yourself?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
Meditation is the quintessential training of attention. Getting better control of your attention is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.

Couples, Go Ahead—Enter Each Other’s “Hurt Museum”

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again . . . and again?
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How to Handle Observing a Narcissist – 5 Survival Techniques

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on October 19, 2016 in What Matters Most?
When you know you will be around a narcissist, or observing one in action, what can you do? How can you take care of yourself and grow in the process? Check out these 5 strategies.


Committing to a relationship requires whatever it takes to establish a secure base and resolve any problems that threaten the security, safety, and well-being of the relationship.

In Search of Cracks

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
The first step in expanding hope is to recognize cracks of opportunity.

How to Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

Don't let your mind limit your potential. Train your brain to think differently.

Coloring Books Can Help Adults During Tough Times

By Elizabeth Wagele on October 18, 2016 in The Career Within You
For my 7-Adventurer friend, coloring within an outlined structure helped her feel more organized. Coloring can also calm feelings of distress and helplessness.

Do You Know When to Confront Your Doctor?

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
Knowing what to say to your doctor can save your life.

How An Ancient Philosophy Can Help Us Defeat Perfectionism

By Ryan Holiday on October 18, 2016 in The Obstacle Is the Way
Don’t excuse yourself from trying to achieve your goal because the conditions aren't right. There are plenty of small steps that will help move you forward.

Want to Better Yourself? Start Here

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Making Change
Goals are easy to set, but can feel near impossible to meet. Learn to use self-awareness to harness your inner power to change.

What Can Secrets and Confessions Reveal?

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on October 17, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
Most of us have secrets and/or confessions to reveal. Sharing with a therapist, friend, or a journal can be cathartic. Choosing the right recipient of the secret is important.

A Mindfulness-Based Approach to Healing From Loss

By Dan Mager MSW on October 17, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Ironically, allowing oneself to feel the pain of loss takes considerably less energy than running from or trying to suppress it.

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

How to Navigate a Toxic Relationship

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on October 17, 2016 in The Truisms of Wellness
Navigating toxic relationships is a process that requires help from supportive friends, family and professionals. These tips can help you chart your course and build better bonds.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Helping Older Adolescents Evaluate a Love Relationship

The great source of instruction about conducting caring relationships is experience; however, parental guidance can help sort that experience out.

13 Ways to Find More Meaning

By Megan Dalla-Camina on October 16, 2016 in Real Women
Are you one of the many people going through the motions when it comes to your career and struggling to find your purpose? Here are 13 simple ways to find more meaning.

7 Steps That Can Help Anyone Start to Meditate. Even You.

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in Think, Act, Be
If you've wanted to start meditating and weren't sure where to begin, use this guide to get started.

To Be Awakened

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in How To Do Life
Some of my clients', colleagues', friends', and my changed opinions.

How a Narcissist Can Derail You

Narcissism can derail families, relationships, work environments, and social and political institutions.

Six Expressions of Love

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in In It Together
Do you and your partner have different ideas about how to express love? "Not feeling loved" is a major underlying cause of separation, so this is a conversation worth having.
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Getting What You Want

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on October 13, 2016 in In Control
We are all wanters. Every one of us wants lots of different things all day, every day.

What Would You Discover in the "Happiness Museum"?

By Meg Selig on October 13, 2016 in Changepower
What if there were a "Happiness Museum?" Here is what you might find inside--all based on the latest studies about positive emotion and happiness. Get happy here!

This Could Be the Biggest Threat to Your Relationship

It's often referred to as "the invisible addiction."