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Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult: Many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent posts on Self-Help

A Six Stage Tool To Stop Self-Pressuring

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on November 24, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Easier said than done, learning to self-govern to achieve goals by easing up on oneself rather than cracking the whip takes hard work and concerted effort, when faster fixes fail.

A Holiday Recipe for Better Focus

Turkeys. Stuffing. Pie. Is the hustle and bustle of the holidays getting to you? Get the Attitude of Gratitude--it goes a long way towards helping you focus!
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Surrendering to Gratitude

By Diana Raab PhD on November 22, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Are you feeling overwhelmed by all the downer things happening in the news?This week is a good time to consider and write about all you have to be thankful for. There's plenty!
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Six Tips for Handling Survivor Guilt

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on November 22, 2017 in How to Be Yourself
Is survivor guilt weighing you down? Learn the causes of it and what you can do to free yourself of the guilt.
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Five "Thank Yous" to Say Each Day

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on November 22, 2017 in What Matters Most?
Want to transform the stress of your holidays? Want to boost your well-being? Practice this list of five gratitudes and you'll be on your way.

Three Signs You Are Winning at Life

By Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in The New You
Looking to get a great job, earn more money, or buy a new house or car? You're likely on the wrong track.

Can a 4-Step Self-Help Therapy Technique End Upset Feelings?

Therapists use this technique to help their clients gain insight and feel better. Can it also relieve upset feelings if you use it as a self-help technique?

The Seven C's of Thanksgiving

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Feeling nervous about an upcoming family gathering? The seven C's of Thanksgiving can help you prepare you, body, mind, and spirit for any family dynamics that come your way.

Be Home

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
The responsive and reactive modes of living are the foundation of human nature. We have no choice about the vital aims they serve. Our only choice is which mode we’re in.
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You Can’t Make Someone “Care”

Five things you can do if you find yourself in a relationship where you think you can to make your partner care but they don’t respond.

Remorse and Gratitude

As journalist and author Mignon McLaughlin stated, “True remorse is never just regret over consequence; it is regret over motive.”

How to Weather Life’s Emotional Times

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Making Change
Strong emotions can leave you feeling helplessly tossed about. Before giving up all hope of grounding yourself, try this counter-intuitive approach: accept and observe them.
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37 Questions to Help You Clarify Your Callings

By Gregg Levoy on November 20, 2017 in Passion!
Without questioning there’s no discovery. Here are 37 questions that can help you discover your callings.

Frozen: What Do We Know about Cryolipolysis?

By Sylvia R. Karasu M.D. on November 20, 2017 in The Gravity of Weight
There is a relatively new cosmetic "lunch-time" procedure for removing unwanted fat bulges. Are you a candidate? What is cryolipolysis?
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Will I Be Good Enough for the Holidays?

Eight tips for dealing with criticism from narcissistic families.

What Makes Someone Incredibly Successful?

By Peter Bregman on November 20, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the five essential qualities of an Extremer, how to tell if you’ve found the career you’re best suited for, and a practice to overcome your fear of failure.
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When This Moment Is Enough

By Allison Carmen on November 20, 2017 in The Gift of Maybe
When you allow this moment to be enough, it doesn’t mean you stop working on what you want your life to be, it just means you are opening your heart to a more joyful life right now
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Discovering Meaning Through "The Village"

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on November 20, 2017 in The Meaningful Life
Do you feel a sense of connection and belonging in your neighborhood and work community?

Are Fears Of Self-Compassion Holding You Back?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on November 20, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Research suggests that fears of self-compassion can get in the way of growth. Developing compassion can help to facilitate change. Read a comprehensive overview here.
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The Other Side of Impossible

Where do you turn when the medical field doesn't have the answers?
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Relationship Trouble? Go Bold, Not Timid

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on November 19, 2017 in Fixing Families
When problems flare in your relationship, it's easy to try and lay low, calm the waters. But this is an opportunity to step up, get things on the table, stop going on autopilot.

How to Spot the Stalker: When Casual Dating is Dangerous

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 18, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
How many dates does it take to form a relationship? Stalkers might say one — or none. The distorted lens of unrequited love can be delusional and dangerous.

10 Things to Be Thankful For

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on November 18, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Thanksgiving is a very special holiday. Embrace those around you and your ability to give thanks with the people you love.

Six Elements Of Self-Care In Adults With Childhood Trauma

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on November 18, 2017 in ExperiMentations
From childhood to our relationship with ourselves, carrying a negative or empty sense of self makes it learning self-love seem like an impossible bootstrap. Yet it can happen...

The Paradox of Relationship Commitment: Who Holds the Power?

When a relationship starts to go stale, here are some ideas for ramping it back up to speed.

New Diet Ideas From the Artificial Sweeteners Controversy

Intriguing findings and new ideas reviewing 10 years of medical literature and research

Pure Solitude, Away From Devices, Is Calming: New Research

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Living Single
Four new studies show that pure solitude, away from electronic devices, is calming. They also help explain when time alone is and is not experienced as sad, lonely, or boring.

Jack Daly on Living by Design

By Isaac Lidsky on November 16, 2017 in Mastering Your Reality
To get there, you must understand where “there” is, and plan your route.

Expressing the Inner Voice May Bring Benefits

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in Talking About Trauma
Research reveals more about the promise of positive self-talk.

Calling Out Sick From Work? Why You May Want to Unplug Too

By Sue Scheff on November 16, 2017 in Shame Nation
A new survey explains how almost half of employees are caught in lies on social media when they call out sick and some are finding themselves on the unemployment line.