Help Yourself

Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult: Many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent posts on Self-Help

Shaming Methods in Popular Psychology

Shaming methods can injure and are rarely sustainable.

Sharon Birkman on Self-insight and the Stress of Choice

Stuck in a career rut? A little disciplined self-insight may be the boost you need!

Spring Clean Your Space, Your Stuff and Your Life

Spring is the perfect time to clear out clutter, not just in your space but across your whole life.

Drawing a Picture of Health: An Art Therapy Guide

If you are currently being treated for cancer or are a survivor, try "drawing a picture of health" as part of your wellness plan. It's integrative medicine for mind and body.

Never Underestimate Your Partner’s Defenses, Here’s Why

All your psychological defenses exist to protect you from perceived ego threats. So any person menacing basic feelings of safety or security will compel you to react negatively.

Connecting Spaces

If you can't knock down any walls, but want an open floor plan, don't lose heart. Use color, scents, light, furniture, and a few design tricks to unite separate spaces.

Effective Communication During Relationship Conflict

By David Ludden Ph.D. on March 29, 2017 in Talking Apes
No communication style works in all cases. Instead, we need to tailor our approach to the specifics of the situation.

Don’t Get Talked Out of Being the Person You Really Are

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 29, 2017 in Living Single
What should you do if you find yourself wishing that you were living some other way?

All About Deepak

Are there ways to include mindfulness practices in our everyday lives?

To Reach Your Goals, Like What You Do

By Art Markman Ph.D. on March 28, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
One of the hardest tradeoffs for people to make is between what they desire to do in the short-term versus what they want for themselves in the long-term.

5 Tips for Feeling More Secure in Your Relationship

Is your partner needy and insecure, or is it you?

Soul Recovery

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 28, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
When the path is illuminated by loving awareness, even the most broken heart will find its way home.

Why Virtual Reality Could Be a Mental Health Gamechanger

We’re still a long way from from being able to provide timely treatment to everyone who needs it, but we could be on the brink of dramatic change thanks to VR.

What Do You Need?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on March 27, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
"Vitamin C" is. Daily life is full of opportunities to notice or create experiences of inner strength, a psychological resource. Take it into yourself, making it a part of you.
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What Colleges Don’t Tell You

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 27, 2017 in How To Do Life
There's much you should know before going or sending your child to college.

8 Empowering Ways to Stop Feeling Guilty

Do you feel guilty a lot more than you should? Do you think it's selfish to say "no"? Learn 8 powerful tools to get rid of unnecessary or unwanted guilt.
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How to Find Light in the Darkness

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on March 26, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Do you sometimes feel as if the darkness overpowers the light in your life? Here are some tips on bringing the light in.

Facts, Truths, Beliefs, Opinions, and "Alternative Facts"

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on March 25, 2017 in Think Well
In this time of "alternative facts," it's helpful to consider the difference among actual facts, truths, beliefs, preferences and opinions.

Why Resentment Lasts—and How to Defeat It

Resentment is a formidable foe. Are you willing to defeat it by trying these 5 approaches?

Seriality vs Synchronicity: Kammerer vs Jung

While synchronicity theory has primarily stayed with Jungian thought, his contemporary Paul Kammerer had some very different ideas.

Why Simple Advice is Often the Best Advice

By Gregg McBride on March 25, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
No matter how many times we replay past events or decisions in our heads, they are never going to be undone. So the sooner we swallow hard and move on, the better.

Are You Addicted to Your Sibling’s Addiction?

Help an addicted sibling by first saving yourself.

Stop Playing The Blame Game

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 24, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We tend to blame easily, at our peril. Blaming can take the place of thinking, and lead to vicious cycles. Understanding how blame works can help us make better choices.

Are you a Luck Maker or Breaker?

How lucky are you? And if not, why not?

8 Things Mentally Strong People Do to Gain Financial Freedom

These strategies can help you gain better control over your mind and your money.

How to Lead Yourself and Others to Success

How to Lead Yourself and Others to Success Tips to create an inspired, productive workplace
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Healing the Most Important Relationship In Your Life

If you had a choice, what would you rather be feeling right now?

Putting the Self Back in Self-Esteem

Don’t put your eggs in other people’s baskets.

Have You Got the "Too Busy" Blues?

Feelings of low mood and depression seem to be the norm these days, especially for women. Could it be that your too-busy life is largely to blame?