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Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult though—many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to various degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

The Unseen Human Being: Reflective Gear Saves Lives

As we approach the shortest days of the year, it’s important to remember to wear reflective gear anytime you are walking, jogging, or cycling on public roadways after dark.

Authentic Leadership Rediscovered

By Bill George on November 30, 2015 What Is Your True North?
Authenticity is discussed commonly around leadership. But, what does it actually mean? In this article, Bill George, author of Discover Your True North, discusses what authenticity means for leaders.

Understanding Dreams About Inner and Outer Criticism

Creatures with sharp eyes and red pens watch our thoughts, feelings, and actions and invariably conclude we have erred or that we are simply unworthy. Exploring our dreams, we can study their habits and learn how to deal with them. Here are 3 dreams that illuminate the dynamics of inner and outer criticism.

Turn Change Into Opportunity

Change is going to happen. It’s a fact of life - don't resist it. Capitalize on opportunities by understanding your responses and making good choices in managing it. Here are 7 steps to prepare for the next big change!

Ridding Happiness Comtaminants 4: Catastrophizing Depression

No one is exempt from hardships and hassles. It is when we catastrophize about these vicissitudes that we create depression. Learn how not to do this and lead a depression-free life.

Are You Holding Onto Feeling Wronged?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 30, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Appreciate the value of forgiveness. Ask yourself: what does my grievance, my resentment, cost me? What does it cost others I care about? What would it be like to lay those burdens down?

Do You Know Your Derailment Factors? Part Two

By Megan Dalla-Camina on November 30, 2015 Real Women
For career success you must know what you could derail you. Find out here.

Objective Leaders: Rethink The Way They Think

Are your mental models serving you? How can you rethink the way you think for greater effectiveness!

The Six Cs of Recovery

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on November 27, 2015 A Family Affair
Courage, compassion, and community can help loved ones overcome co-dependency.

Understanding OCD

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on November 27, 2015 Think Well
Here's some information that will help you to better understand the crippling anxiety disorder of OCD, how to best treat it, and why the treatment works.

Self Awareness

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 A Sideways View
Much of counselling and coaching, as well as education and therapy is about increasing self awareness. It is argued that self awareness and understanding is essential for happiness, health and well being. So how do you acquire it or increase it?

If It Ain’t One Thing

By Mark Borigini M.D. on November 26, 2015 Overcoming Pain
The results of a Kaiser Family Foundation poll was made public a couple of days ago, and it shows that 27 percent of Americans report that they either have been addicted to prescription painkillers, or have a family member or close friend who has dealt with this issue.

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

By Thomas Hills Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 Statistical Life
Mindfulness can be about a personal and experimental exploration of reality that is not about saving yourself, but rather experiencing your self. Realizing that the "explanation for you" is not only the finger your mind constantly points at itself, but something undefinably larger and more personal at the same time.

Flying the Coop: The Importance of Adventure

By Gregg Levoy on November 25, 2015 Passion!
There's an inverse relationship between adventure and depression in our lives. Too little of one can lead to too much of the other. Here's a cautionary tale that captures it.

Another Frantic Holiday Season?

Is the holiday season wearing you down? How to find more flow and less stress.

Stay In or Go Out? A Bigger Question Than You Might Think

Life often requires us to choose between the familiar and the unknown, and no one wants to look back with regret. How much security is enough, and what might it be costing you?

4 New and Helpful Insights on Gratitude

Gratitude is easy to apply and brings nice benefits. If you relate to gratitude practice then you'll want to see these 4 new findings. If you don't relate to gratitude, check out what you can prioritize instead.

A Quick and Easy Guide to Surviving the Holidays

No matter how functional your family is you are guaranteed to be disappointed by the holidays in some way, and also to disappoint. But you can get ahead of all this with my help; forewarned is forearmed. Here are some easy do's and dont's to help you navigate through the Helliday minefields and to even possibly have a good time.

4 Psychological Smartphone Apps Designed to Benefit Behavior

Too little sleep, too much stress, anxiety over getting the kids to school on time, and a fear of flying are common issues that are addressed by these smartphone or tablet apps.

5 Resolutions for Enhancing Intimate Relationships

Finding true love is seldom easy, but maintaining it for the long-term can be challenging, too. Here are 5 resolutions that may up your odds in keeping the romance alive.

6 Tips for Avoiding Family Drama

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The holidays are upon us—and every year, family tensions can cause more indigestion than that lumpy gravy. Here are six concrete steps to take in preparation for holiday drama, to help you banish stress and increase your enjoyment of the day.

What Do Others Give You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Say Thanks - it's a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of a wonderful truth - that we are all joined in a web of innumerable acts of giving.

More Indispensables for Those With Chronic Pain and Illness

My "comfort food" is a cup of decaf coffee with cocoa powder, stevia, and coconut milk in it. (I admit, it’s really a pretend decaf mocha.) Does this sound truly awful to you? That’s why comfort food is a personal indispensable!

5 Things They Don't Tell You About Grief

Worried you aren't grieving the "right" way? There are some parts of the grief process that people don't like to talk about.

Politics, Money, and Religion: Happy Holidays

Are you stressed about spending the holidays with family? A simple strategy for dealing with 'those' relatives can help.

Imagination in Action: Interview With Shaun McNiff

Imagination in action is about accepting the struggles, mistakes and failures and realizing that they are all part of the challenging process of personal transformation. Put down that coloring book and give yourself the gift of spontaneous, authentic, creative expression.

How Gratitude Leads to a Happier Life

Gratitude has been shown to have many benefits in terms of our health, happiness, satisfaction with life and the way we relate to others. It goes hand in hand with mindfulness in its focus on the present and appreciating what we have now, rather than wanting more and more. Learn research-based strategies to be more grateful.

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on November 22, 2015 Fixing Families
Stuck making a decision? Six tips on what to do when you don't know what to do.

7 Tips to Create Healthy Boundaries with Others

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on November 21, 2015 In Flux
Healthy boundaries help you form and maintain healthy relationships. Knowing what you need, what personal space is yours helps to to prevent unwanted overtures and violations of what you consider personally sacred.

Self Help Books that Work

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 21, 2015 Open Gently
Some self-help books really work; others are bunk.