Help Yourself

Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult: Many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent posts on Self-Help

The Awakening Body

By The Book Brigade on July 21, 2017 in The Author Speaks
The more we live in a hyperintense world directed by the left brain, the more cut off we feel from the true source of well being. Somatic awareness is a necessary corrective.

Feeling Lost?: Part 1

The path of a committed relationship is challenging and rewarding. It helps to have a map of the terrain so that we can find our way.

There Is a Cure for Self-loathing: Self-forgiveness

Self-loathing can take its toll on a person, robbing the self of vitality and happiness. Self-forgiveness can restore that vitality and set you free from the bondage of your past.

Change Is Your Natural State of Being

There is a difference between making change and allowing change. Humans are habitual beings who do not like to feel forced into new patterns and behaviors.

How to Handle a Toxic Divorce

Most divorces begin with hurt. A toxic divorce is a completely different scenario.

10 Sibling Regrets Nobody Needs to Carry

Not every adult sibship is going to easily morph into friendship, but there are some ways to begin that transition.
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Food Educates Every Part of You

Food trains every part of you—especially the ones you don't think about.

How and Why You Compromise Your Integrity

Your most important possession is your integrity. It’s your trustworthiness, word of honor. Yet at some point you’ve certainly violated this most “sacred” part of yourself. Why?
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Five Things to Look For in a Life Coach

By John Kim, LMFT on July 18, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
Or if you're a life coach, five traits to possess.

The Power of Wakeup Calls

By Gregg Levoy on July 18, 2017 in Passion!
The purpose of wakeup calls is to awaken you to something you're ignoring. Here's how to make the most of them.

“Dr. Google,” Friend or Foe?

Here are a few of experiences I’ve had with Dr. Google, first as friend, then as foe. I hope they serve as a guide to using Google wisely. It’s not easy to do, that’s for sure.

Give a Successful Speech Every Time

By Peter Bregman on July 17, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the best way to organize your speech, how to grab (and keep) your audience’s attention, and what to say in your conclusion to really ensure follow-through.

In Kindness Will I Speak

In due season will I speak, not out of season. In truth will I speak, not in falsehood...
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Speak Up!

Consider these six keys to confident presenting as you work to lower your anxiety around public speaking. Try and put the focus on your audience.
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How to Develop a Successful Personal Recovery Plan

Taking action without planning is a sure recipe for disappointment.

What Helps You Carry Your Load?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on July 17, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
How you feel and function is based on your load, personal vulnerabilities, and resources. If your load or vulnerabilities increase, so must your resources.

7 Ways to Say “No” if You're Introverted or Shy

Often there’s a fear of rejection or a desire to avoid confrontation.

"Cholesterolphobia" and Eggs: What Do We Know?

There are green eggs (and ham), golden eggs from that golden goose, and Faberge eggs from Czarist Russia, but what about cholesterol-laden whole eggs and cardiovascular disease?

Who’da Thunk It?

Turn negative emotions off at the tap.
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How to Create a Life of Integrity

Bringing integrity into your life means having your outer self fully represent your inner self. This is not a matter of character but one of intention.

Wisdom Made as Simple as Possible, No Simpler

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 14, 2017 in Ambigamy
The Golden Rule and other "Always do X" rules are one-sided half-truths posing as whole truths. Learn to see through them for greater wisdom and peace of mind.

The Power of Your Internal Dialogue

Before willing and criticizing yourself to have confidence, start first by developing a new relationship with yourself. Here are four ways to start talking yourself to self-esteem.

Six Ways To Approach Childhood Emotional Trauma

Recovery from trauma and growing beyond it can seem challenging and even impossible. Here are some potentially useful tools to begin to take the first steps.

How to Cope with a Sudden Loss of Confidence

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on July 13, 2017 in In Practice
Straightforward tips for dealing with fluctuating self-esteem.

Is Deception in the Eye of the Beholder, or the Deceiver?

Can you tell a liar by looking? Possibly—if you are looking at their eyes. Research reveals the eyes are one of the best indicators of deception.

Craving More Meaningful Trips?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Creating in Flow
Guest blogger and constant traveler Steven Barber reviews an unusual travel guide, one that helps you figure yourself out in order to plan and take better trips.
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Nine Truths About Losing Balance You Won't Read in Books

By Carol Svec on July 12, 2017 in Balance
I thought I knew everything about balance…until I temporarily lost it. These notes from that time are a window into the world of someone struggling with vestibular problems.
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Please Stop Telling People to "Let Go" of Their Loss

Perhaps, it is time to stop telling the bereaved to "let go" of their loss.

Short Answers: Getting Unstuck

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in How To Do Life
Getting expert fast, re-engaging, preventing procrastination.

Yes, You Can’t!—Why You Should Affirm Your Limitations

This title may seem unduly pessimistic—or downright perverse. But as a cautionary note, there are times when your dreams or lofty ideals must bow to inescapable reality.