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Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. Lasting change is difficult though—many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But even the oldest of habits and character traits can be altered to various degrees, as it's never too late to change; with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

87-YearOld Mom Fried By Electronics

By Susan B. Winston LMFT on August 01, 2015 in Shift Happens
When you are in your 80's and the world suddenly becomes an electronic mess, how do you function? I may tease my Mom, but she's getting the hang of it at age 87. If only she could figure out the cell phone we would be golden.

Life’s Endings and How We Make Sense out of Them

When something important in your life comes to an end, whether your career or your relationship, the process may be more difficult to cope with than you might realize. Ultimately, it’s your identity, and the sense you make of that ending, which will determine how you emerge from life’s transition points.

The Procrastination Fallacy of Working Better Under Pressure

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on August 01, 2015 in Science and Sensibility
Are you tired of feeling pressured and rushed? Try a simple two-step solution.

Brain's Response to Meditation

With meditation, you have the opportunity to become aware of what causes you stress and condition yourself to react differently. You can learn to let go of negative thoughts, events or interactions.

Art Therapy: It’s Not Just an Art Project

Are there circumstances where art itself is the proverbial therapist? This is a question that continues to rankle the profession called “art therapist” as well as those who are trying to establish a clearly defined scope of practice for the field.

What Can Anger Do for Me?

How to use anger wisely and keep yourself safe.

Henry David Thoreau: “Simplify, Simplify”

We’re probably not going to do what Henry David Thoreau did and live at a lake to make our lives simple. But we could move in that direction.

7 Ways to Deal With a Chronic Complainer

The chronic complainer. Nothing's ever good enough for them. They love to focus on problems and ignore solutions. This person might be a customer, an employee, a student, a co-worker, a child, or a spouse. On some days, it seems like it's everyone all at once. How can you effectively deal with these people without resorting to violence or sedatives? Here's the plan:

The Value of Sadness

We tend to pass on the message that sadness is bad and should be avoided. Yet, research has shown that sadness can be an adaptive emotion with real benefits. Sadness can make us feel more vital and centered within ourselves. So, why is it that we are so afraid to feel sad?

What's Your Joy?

We might be happier if we spend more time thinking of our joys rather than our miseries. Writing about our joy is one way to bring about healing and establishing a sense of harmony in our lives. It can be a way to tap into our subconscious mind. In addition to writing, sometimes trying to do something different as a way to break routine.

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Try Hitting the Weight Room

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research shows that physically stronger men have higher self-esteem.

4 Healthy Mind Games to Play With Yourself

Our minds are incredibly malleable, and are influenced by the world around us. We can also choose to consciously influence our minds through thoughtful “mind-games” that ultimately can change our lives for the better.

Why Your View of the Future Can Make You Depressed

Most people assume that if you're depressed, that colors your view of your future. New research turns that thinking on its head, showing that, for many, if your view of your future is negative to begin with, that can actually make you depressed. The flip side is that a positive view of your future stimulates greater mental health.

The Problem With Wanting

Wanting make us unhappy. The more desires we have, the less satisfied we are with what already have. How can we stop wanting things we don't really need?

Are You Fully Charged? 5 Ways to Energize Your Work & Life

A survey of 10,000 people revealed that only 11% responded "yes" when asked, "Did you have a great deal of energy yesterday?"

Developing Time Management Skills

When life gets busy, things pile up. Time management is not about having all of those things done; it’s about having enough time for what matters most to you. By managing your time in a more efficient way, not only will you the right things done, but you’ll also have enough time to relax, de-stress and breathe more freely.

Feeling Good? What Makes Good Feelings Flow?

How much good feeling have you been experiencing? Would you like more? Check out these 5 factors.

The "2-minute Miracle"?

Even very short amounts of time engaged in expressive writing are healing. Both psychological and physical benefits have been found. Here are a few tips if you want to get the benefits of expressive writing for yourself.

Is the Taboo Against “Blaming Victims” Over?

By Izzy Kalman on July 27, 2015 in Resilience to Bullying
The politically correct anti-bullying academic anti-bullying field has been shunning approaches to bullying that focus on teaching victims how to solve their problems because they don't want to be accused of "blaming victims." Researchers, discovering that the bully-focused approach doesn't work, may finally be ignoring the taboo against blaming victims.

Break Out of Your Boredom

People can feel imprisoned by their boredom. They are stuck in feeling restless and unmotivated with no hope of finding freedom. But there is a way out. Much like any prison break, your way out is to begin by tunneling down.

Seeing the Person Within the Persona

Irrelationship is about a lot of things: a co-created and shared defense, compulsive caregiving, Performing and Audiencing, suffering and feeling trapped and helpless. It is also about hiding out in a routine, a song-and-dance routine. That routine is like a mask that protects the self from observation—it is a persona-in-action (an enacted disguise).

Cheating Yourself? I Hear the Advice, I Do What I Want

Real behaviour change is not about willpower, or stages of change, but about satisfying wants and dealing with needs along the way.......it is about coherence at all levels of the person......

10 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. How do you know when you’re dating a narcissist? Here are ten telltale signs...

An Invaluable Lesson From Elders

Although suffering in life is inevitable, we can mitigate it.

How to Escape a Master Manipulator

The best way to handle the manipulative people in our lives is to become less manipulatable. We are only as easily manipulated as we choose to be – manipulators make us feel good when we bend to their needs.

The Problem with a Trust-But-Verify Approach

As a leader, do you know when to use a "trust, but verify" approach at work, and when not to? Are you making a common mistake about trust? Find out; plus explore five practices effective leaders use to build trust.

Breaking The Bystander Effect in Sports Concussions

By Harry Kerasidis M.D. on July 24, 2015 in Brain Trauma
We witness concussions frequently, yet from the sidelines and stands, we may gasp or cringe. But we definitely won't do or say anything, right? It's the dreaded "Bystander Effect," that has people stunned still when someone yells, "call 911!" However, I propose every youth sports team in the US empower a "Concussion Coordinator" to solve this problem.

Happify With Your Strengths!

Interested in the science of character strengths? Get tons of interesting research and information all in one image!

In Marriage, It's Compassion or Resentment

Marriages die a slow death from too little compassion. Most marriages end in a whimper, not a bang.

It's a Step, Not a Stop, on your Journey

Savor every single step of the journey for what it is . . . . a step, not your final "stop."