What Is Self-Esteem?

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are our best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Recent posts on Self-Esteem

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust VII

Couples therapy teaches that there are at least six people in an intimate relationship.

5 Reasons Fear of Failure Sustains Toxic Love

There is far greater risk in holding onto unhappy relationships that do not meet an individual’s needs than there is in moving on. Five reasons fear of failure keeps people stuck.

Childhood ADHD and Poor Self-Esteem

Does your child with ADHD constantly put himself down? ADHD, anxiety, and negativity commonly go together. As parents, we have to figure out how to battle negative self-talk.

Time to Put Your Childhood Demons Behind You?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on October 15, 2017 in Fixing Families
Everyone has baggage from the past that haunts or handicaps them in some way. The 3 common sources and ways to finally put these demons to rest.

Sexual Harassment Victims Suffer in Silence: Here´s Why

Silence is not golden. Sexual harassment is an invisible epidemic that takes an emotional, physical, and financial toll on its victims--particularly in the workplace.

Choose Joy for Your Child

What does compassion for yourself and your child look like?

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust VI: The Break: Independence

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
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Shutting Down Body Shaming

New steps are being taken to change false, unrealistic body ideals portrayed in the media.

Towards a Reinvigoration of Our Pluralistic System

By Leon Hoffman M.D. on October 10, 2017 in Beyond Freud
How can we promote the value of a pluralistic system with checks and balances? Economic revitalization is not enough.

Why You Should Come Out For National Coming Out Day 10/11

By John-Manuel Andriote on October 10, 2017 in Stonewall Strong
Coming out as gay is personal and political. It's also a powerful boost for your health.

How Helping Others Can Relieve Anxiety and Depression

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on October 10, 2017 in Think, Act, Be
A new study shows that thinking of others' well-being may be more beneficial than trying to boost our self-image.

The Role of Anger in Depression

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on October 09, 2017 in Compassion Matters
The more we can take our own side and resist the tendency to turn our anger on ourselves, the more we can challenge our depression.
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Why Are Most of Us So Good at Deceiving Ourselves?

By Barb Cohen on October 08, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
Columbus, cognitive dissonance and autism shed light on our coping strategies.

Knowing Just Enough to Be Dangerous

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in Intentional Insights
Can too much confidence be a bad thing?

The Numbers Don't Lie

By John-Manuel Andriote on October 04, 2017 in Stonewall Strong
Think all gay men are drug-addled, sex-crazed, risk-taking hedonists? Think again this LGBT History Month.

How Do We Value Time?

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on October 04, 2017 in Jacob's Staff
A revolution is coming! Tech is not only disrupting traditional industries, it is fundamentally changing the basis of our economy and the value of being human.

Big Shot

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 04, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
A wealthy gambler uses an arsenal and a casino hotel to kill 58 concert-goers and himself, wounding hundreds. His actions can help us understand what it means to be human.

The Good Leader

By Carrie Barron M.D. on October 02, 2017 in The Creativity Cure
What makes a good leader? Understanding why you may have a subpar feeing about work.
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Vlog: Build Self-esteem in Your Young Athletes

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in The Power of Prime
Sports are a venue in which children are exposed to experiences and challenges that can foster healthy and resilient self-esteem.
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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

Here are the things that you need to know to help your children when your co-parent has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Here are the two most healing words in the English language--and why.
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Overcoming the Need to Please

Care too much about what other people think of you? Why you need to stop now.

The Global Epidemic of Online Hate: This Is Us?

By Sue Scheff on October 01, 2017 in Shame Nation
New survey shares the rise of online incivility. Most Americans blame social media and the internet. Tips to take this shame nation to a civil nation online.

Claiming Our Own 'Resistance' for LGBT History Month

By John-Manuel Andriote on September 30, 2017 in Stonewall Strong
If we only see the tragedies of our history, we miss the heroism--especially our own.

Can You Be Vulnerable in Love?

Many partner up for the long term, and even marry and have families together, and yet all along the relationship misses one important quality — intimacy.

5 Habits of Successful Daters

Why is it that some people can date with ease and authenticity while others feel awkward and inhibited? Here are 5 habits of successful daters.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust V: Siblings: Adoration&Abuse

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood

Timeouts: Good for Adults, but Not for Kids

Most adults know they shouldn’t hit, shame, yell at, or ridicule kids. Timeouts are just as bad. Here's why timeouts are good only for adults, with 13 ideas for what to do instead.

6 Terms that Summarize Generation Z’s Mindset

By Tim Elmore on September 28, 2017 in Artificial Maturity
Struggling to understand and connect with today's kids and young adults? These six terms will help you learn how to best lead them, given their mindset and circumstances.

How Is Rewriting History the Goal of All Therapy?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 27, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
It’s common to talk about what therapy can do for you. But before therapy is able to eliminate disturbing personal and relational problems, it needs first to undo what caused them.