What Is Self-Esteem?

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are our best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Recent posts on Self-Esteem

Are Narcissists Able to Tell the Truth About Themselves?

Because people high in narcissism seem so focused on their impressions, you'd think they lie in psychological testing. New research shows when narcissists are most likely to lie.

Creativity and Aging

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Life After 50
Does creativity involve taking risks?

On the Modern Self

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on August 19, 2017 in More Than Mortal
Writer Will Storr discusses his new book: Selfie.

The Unselfish Art of Prioritizing Yourself

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Maintaining a certain regard for ourselves, doing things we want to do, and engaging in self-care are fundamental to creating a good life for ourselves and the people we love.

When You Have Too Much Confidence, Expect This to Happen

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Motivate!
We are taught to believe in ourselves and strive to reach our goals despite any obstacles. But sometimes success and motivation derail when we think too highly of our abilities.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust, Part I

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

Should Your Employees Toughen Up or Soften Up?

Do you need your employees to toughen up? Might your organizational dollars and leadership efforts be better spent on helping your people to soften up instead?

An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on August 11, 2017 in Full Living
You have a voice inside your head narrating your life and actions. Is it kind and supportive? Unless you have made a conscious effort, it is likely mean and hateful.
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The Truth About Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Have you ever wondered, “Isn’t everybody a bit narcissistic?” Learn the difference between healthy self-esteem and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

When Words Can Kill

The power of words can traumatize and ultimately lead to suicide, or they positively lead to healing. Here's how.
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Why What I Admire In You Also Says Something About Me

The people we admire in our lives have much to teach us -- not just as role models to emulate but as outer reflections of good qualities that are already innate in us.

The Internet Is a Narcissist’s Paradise

Do you have narcissistic tendencies? How does the Interment affect you?

Maintain What’s Right in Your World

Polishing and sweeping can be good for your mind as well as your waistline.

How Childhood Emotional Trauma Impacts Adult Relationships

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on August 01, 2017 in Mindful Anger
There are many ways childhood emotional trauma continues to affect you even after you've grown up.

Just How Far Will a Narcissist Go to Hide Failure?

Experiencing failure is not an option for people high in narcissism. New research shows the lengths they'll go to so they can avoid confronting their weaknesses.

Managing Parental Anger

Take a deep breath or count to 10 and find positive words to send your message.

Why Is Recovering from a Breakup Easier for Some Women?

Wonder why you are still struggling to recover from a breakup that happened long ago? Three factors may explain why.
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6 Inner Resources You Didn't Know You Had

Character strengths come in many shapes and sizes. Lost strengths. Happiness strengths. How might you use each category of strengths to make the most of your life?

Who Am I and Why Am I Here?

How do we choose to live? How do we find meaning?

What Does Self-Actualization Really Mean?

Self-actualization, rather than being a mystical pursuit of personal grown and realization, is grounded in basic functional motives. Clear understanding helps us find ourselves.

Are You Happy With Your Character Resume?

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on July 26, 2017 in Think Well
A lot of people place excessive importance on material "success." They use money, things, and achievements as their metrics of choice. Here's why many of them are unhappy.
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Camp, Interrupted

Indeed, my season at camp had been interrupted halfway to the finish line. I was aggrieved.
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The No-Makeup Look Creates a Dilemma for Women

By Tara Well Ph.D. on July 25, 2017 in The Clarity
Research explains the pros and cons of going barefaced.

Four Ways to Determine a Relationship's Breakup Potential

Generally these four factors cause people to eventually break up, divorce, or stay miserably together.
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How to Avoid Sabotaging Your Relationship

Romantic relationships are bound to bring out our deepest insecurities which can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors. Here are some ways to avoid sabotaging a good relationship.

Perfectly Wrong: Why Perfection Can Destroy Your Motivation

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on July 21, 2017 in Motivate!
Perfection is elusive and fleeting, yet a coveted desire for many. There comes a time when striving for excellence results in obsession and anxiety leading to damaging behaviors.
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Writing as Self Development

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Life After 50
How does writing promote the self development?

Listening For Golf Balls

Why do patients tell doctors things that don't seem relevant? Who cares if they got hit by a golf ball 30 years ago? Patients do! Doctors should too. But they have to listen.

The Power of Your Internal Dialogue

Before willing and criticizing yourself to have confidence, start first by developing a new relationship with yourself. Here are four ways to start talking yourself to self-esteem.

The Danger of Secrecy: What Happens to Unanswered Questions?

A child raised in an environment of secrecy receives the unspoken message that the subject of adoption is taboo, and they will continue to have unanswered questions multiply.