What is Self-Esteem?

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are our best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Recent posts on Self-Esteem

Our Anger Crisis: Self-Respect and Getting Angry

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Ethics in Question
Martha Nussbaum thinks we don't need anger in order to have self-respect. But isn't the anger-free person weak?

New Study Finds the Average American Woman is Now Plus-Size

Although it is widely acknowledged that the standard sizing system is flawed, being designated as plus-size is nevertheless something of a damning fate for many women.

Three Keys to Healing Shame

To heal our shame, we need to be: truly seen, witnessed with compassion, and have our feelings and deepest truths believed.

Recovery Is a Process of Learning, Growth, and Healing

By Dan Mager MSW on September 19, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Recovery from addiction is the process of sustaining abstinence, and learning and practicing the awareness and skills necessary to live a whole, healthy, and healed life.

Detox Your Relationships

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on September 19, 2016 in The Truisms of Wellness
Toxic people can damage and leave long-lasting effects on others, so it's important to determine when it's time to either sever or mend the relationship.

Narcissism and the Myths That Just Won’t Die

By Jean M Twenge Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in The Narcissism Epidemic
Why I'm done with narcissism

4 Ways to Determine if You Have Self-Esteem Issues

If you struggle with self-esteem, you likely, repeatedly hit the same roadblocks within yourself and feel at a loss for improving your situation. There's a way out of this spiral.

Why You Keep Choosing Unhealthy Relationships

Take this "Relationship Test" and change your karma today!

Understanding Shame: Symptoms and Prevention

Shame is insidious, corrupting our self-knowledge, inhibiting our self-love. What are shame's consequences? What can we do to prevent it's toxic bite?

Say No to Discrimination Against Expectant and New Moms

Discrimination against expectant and new moms is on the rise. Time to stop it once and for all - and here are some ideas how.
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Self-Compassion in Eating Disorder Recovery

By Greta Gleissner LCSW on September 12, 2016 in Bottom's Up
Your eating disorder does not define you. Cultivating self-compassion will help you to understand your experience and find peace within yourself.

Why Do We Accept Harmful Shortcomings in Our Partners?

Why are some people so picky when it comes to superficial qualities in a partner, yet all too willing to put up with harmful or dangerous personality traits?

What Makes Self-Compassion Such a Hard Sell?

Finding self-compassion challenging? Understand why and how to meet the challenge.

A Great Way to Expand Your Capacity for Joy

Putting a stop to destructive behaviors such as jealousy and envy only brings a couple up to the neutral zone.

Do You Outsource Your Self-Esteem to Relationships?

It’s a sad reality that people who haven’t been loved adequately in childhood are often loved inadequately in adulthood. There's a way to break the pattern of inadequate loving.

The Opportunities of Aging

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on September 09, 2016 in Finally Out
We can either measure time or we can experience time. I don't know how much time I have left, but I intend to experience it rather than measure it.

Want Satisfaction? Do Not Use This Goal-Setting Strategy!

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on September 06, 2016 in Motivate!
Some planning strategies accelerate performance and almost guarantee goal attainment. Others are counterproductive and often derail achievement. Which ones do you use?

Dear Actor (or Artist), What You do is Invaluable

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on September 06, 2016 in Quite Queerly
Actors, and all artists, develop their own voices so as to inspire the voices of other people. And in that sense, one can practice their artistic craft in everything they do.

Happy New Year! (For Students, at Least)

By Amy Green M.A., C.C.C. on September 05, 2016 in Psy-curious
Along with the chillier weather and pumpkin spice lattes, September is a time of new beginnings for students. A few strategies can help keep the accompanying stress at bay.
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Dating: Whose Relationship Is It Anyway?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 05, 2016 in Fixing Families
It's all too easy when dating to fall into being too accommodating, too reactionary, and taking what you can get. How to break out and make the relationship your own.

The Overlooked Value of Early Recollections

By Arthur J. Clark Ed.D. on September 04, 2016 in Dawn of Memories
An Unknown Proposition: Early Childhood Recollections Serve an Essential Purpose in Life.
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Is Positive Psychology Burning You Out?

Why might positive psychology practitioners be burning out?

Beware of Narcissists Bearing Gifts

When a narcissist gives you a gift, they are really giving a gift to themselves.

The Roots of Shame

Do you sometimes think something is wrong with you? Do you know your own story and have compassion for your suffering? If not, shame may be limiting your healing.

Who Am I? Someone? Or Nobody?

By Tom Bunn L.C.S.W. on August 24, 2016 in Conquer Fear Of Flying
Celebrity is competitive. The outrageously competitive have no limits on what they do to get noticed. Winning often means being a bigger jerk than anyone else is willing to be.

Beyond Sobriety: Reclaiming Your Potential

By Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. on August 24, 2016 in A Shift of Mind
Can people move past the imprint of having been an addict? Does having to continue to see yourself through the snapshot of old behavior impede your personal growth?
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4 Myths About Mistakes (and How to Get Past Them)

Ever made a mistake? That's a GOOD thing.

It’s Better to Win Bronze

Measuring success by winning the Gold - or not.

Letter to Young Activists

This post is adapted from a talk recently given to young community organizers about self-care and well-being on the journey to a more compassionate and just society.

What Constitutes "Healthy Anger"?

Let it all hang out? Really?