What Is Self-Esteem?

Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. (It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism.) Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories. Here are our best insights on how to strike a balance between accurate self-knowledge and respect for who you are.

Recent posts on Self-Esteem

Deconstructing the Pumpkin Spice Latte Craze

September is here and that means one thing…Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte is Back! Have you ever wondered why this seems to be such a big deal to the general populace?
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Self-Critical? Time to Lighten Up on Yourself

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Self-criticism can erode your self-esteem, keep you constantly anxious, sap you of any of life's rewards. Time to calm those scolding voices.
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Getting to Where You Want to Go

Don't beat yourself up; instead follow these five steps to pull yourself up and get back to making important progress.

USA vs Norway: The One Night Stand

Are Americans more likely to have one night stands? A recent study suggests otherwise.
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Calming the Monkey Mind

By Diana Raab PhD on September 13, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Do you find that there's a voice inside of you that seems like negative self-talk? Is it hindering your creativity or affecting your success? It might be your monkey mind at work.

The Flight Attendant Said My Leg Was Going to Fall Off

Medical advice should make people feel better, but it's easy to make them feel worse, by only paying attention to what you say, not what they hear.

Are You Giving Yourself the Level of Self-Care You Deserve?

By Gregg McBride on September 09, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
When we care for something, it thrives. When we shun it, it withers. Therefore, isn't it time we stop mentally knocking ourselves down when we think of goals we haven't yet met?

A Psychology of Rescue

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on September 08, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
A nurse gave patients lethal injections so he could dazzle colleagues by bringing the victims back to life. He may have been driven by "heroic rescue," one of our core motives.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust III

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 08, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

Isn’t It Time? Having the Nerve to Acknowledge Our Strengths

By Rick Miller LICSW on September 07, 2017 in Unwrapped
To let yourself flourish in the full light, inside and out, is a gift to oneself and to the world!

How Internet Postings Are Emotionally Affecting Your Day

By Sue Scheff on September 07, 2017 in Shame Nation
In a recent YouGov study, over a quarter of adults admitted that reading negative online comments can ruin their day, while the majority say "likes" are not important to them.

De-Conditioning the Hungry Ghosts

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on September 05, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
To the degree that our basic needs are unmet, desire contracts and we become fixated on substitutes. But, no matter how we are caught, mindfulness and compassion can free us...
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The Therapist As Saint or Sinner

Therapists must learn how to handle the projections of their clients -- negative and positive -- with sensitivity and curiosity if they are to learn what is behind them.

3 Ways Your Childhood Shaped the Core Beliefs You Hold On To

The simple life lessons you learned in childhood influence the choices you make as an adult.

What the World Needs More: Social Interest

By Arthur J. Clark Ed.D. on September 04, 2017 in Dawn of Memories
The Most Human Way of Being and Early Recollections
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Are You Being "Gaslighted" by the Narcissist in Your Life?

Does your level of self-doubt and confusion rise when you are with your partner? This article gives you 7 questions to ask to help you determine if you are being "Gaslighted."
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Modern Love

By Elizabeth Young on September 01, 2017 in Adaptations
How much organizing should one woman do to go out to dinner and split the bill? 

Are You an Unhappy Achiever?

By Lance Dodes M.D. on August 31, 2017 in The Heart of Addiction
Who could possibly be unhappy about achieving? The problem is that, for some people, achievement leaves them feeling empty to the core.

Six Signs of Intimate Partner Harm

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on August 30, 2017 in Mind Games
Psychological abuse endangers women with “hidden injuries,” targeting her thoughts, feelings, and perceptions.

How to Spot a Cyber Bullying Victim Before It Is Too Late

When it comes to bullying behavior, toxic texting is the new fistfight at the bike racks. Yet unlike an after school sucker punch, online bullying can be deadly.

Students Who Defend Bullying Victims Become More Popular

Bullying is not a spectator sport - don't be a captivated audience. Intervention on behalf of victims can discourage bullies and save lives.

Laughter Can Be a Double-edged Sword

The social importance of laughter is that it’s a form of communication to others. It's effect can buoy spirits or deflate them. Be careful how you use it.

Beyond the Breath: The Promise and Perils of Compassion

Experiential techniques can deepen our mindfulness practice and help us get unstuck from painful patterns.
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"How's Your Sugar?"

By Elizabeth Young on August 29, 2017 in Adaptations
This was bad news.  Alice August, a girl in my fifth-grade class, had diabetes, and she was a mess. 

When Bullies Go Back to School: Spot Them, and Stop Them

Back to school is a time of excitement, or dread--depending on whether or not a child is being bullied. Spot and stop bullies from ruining another year for victims and families.

Raising an UnTrump

By Alfie Kohn on August 28, 2017 in The Homework Myth
Paradoxically, the Narcissist-in-Chief offers a useful framework for parenting since he's exactly the kind of person we hope our children will grow up not to resemble.

Do You Regret Sacrificing For Your Partner? Here's Why

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 26, 2017 in The New Resilience
Your level of self-esteem affects how good or bad you feel about sacrificing for your partner. But feeling supported increases your success and wellbeing outside the relationship.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust II

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

My Disability Is Not My Fault

By Anneli Rufus on August 24, 2017 in Stuck
When you blame yourself for everything, you stop seeing the details.

10 Signs You're a People-Pleaser

Being agreeable and cooperative is a good thing. But being subservient could backfire.