All About Self-Control

Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom, thanks to our large prefrontal cortices. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, we can evaluate alternative actions, and we can refrain from doing things we'll regret. We can also take advantage of these innately human abilities by developing wisdom and willpower.

Recent Posts on Self-Control

The 30-Day Money C-H-O-I-C-E Challenge

By Michael F. Kay on October 01, 2015 Financial Life Focus
Ever looked at your stack of bills and wonder how the heck you're going to get these paid? How did that feel? Rotten, right? Of course it did. No wants to live with the weight of debt—to carry that hopeless frustration deep into their bones.

How to Practice Mindfulness – 5 Tips No One Has Told You

Mindfulness is a paradox. It’s the easiest thing in the world and the hardest thing in the world. But, you can cultivate your mindfulness. Here are 5 tips to find success with your mindfulness practice, whether you are new to mindfulness or someone who has been experiencing some hiccups in your practice.

Bilateral Drawing: Self-Regulation for Trauma Reparation

Current trauma research indicates that bilateral stimulation in the form of eye movement desensitization (EMDR) and similar methods are effective for many individuals. But is there a more creative way to engage cross-hemisphere activity for reparation and recovery?

Dealing With Anger on the Job

Keeping your cool and letting things go may be essential on the job

The Simple Trick to Increasing Your Willpower

Want to increase your willpower? A new study reveals how one small change can make a big difference.

Your Fitbit Is Ruining Your Relationship With Your Body

By Nicole Avena Ph.D. on September 28, 2015 Food Junkie
Why obsessively tracking your health isn't so healthy after all

Kids, Screens and Play: Solutions to a Common Problem

By Kenneth Barish Ph.D. on September 28, 2015 Pride and Joy
Recent research on kids and screens is alarming. Almost everyone now agrees that parents should establish rules and limits with regard to the amount of time kids spend in front of screens. It matters, however, how we do this.

Why Control Won’t Bring You Happiness

By Emily T. Troscianko on September 28, 2015 A Hunger Artist
The process of successful recovery can be split into three phases: deciding and beginning to eat more and get better; continuing to eat more and get better physically and psychologically; and allowing recovery to flow into the life beyond it. Each bears a distinct relationship to the idea of control.

Overcoming Two of Parenting's Greatest Challenges

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on September 25, 2015 Compassion Matters
Although, as parents, we recognize the importance and seriousness of our task, many of us still wonder just how much effect we are going to have on how our child will turn out. Here are some tips we can all take that will help us raise emotionally healthy and happy children.

Overcoming Intimate Relationship Dynamics

You cannot be happy in love without being compassionate and kind.

What Does "Behavioral Undercontrol" Mean?

Examining the link between behavioral undercontrol and substance use disorder.

5 Reasons Why Poverty Reduces Self-Control

Bad choices can certainly be a factor in poverty. But just because someone makes bad choices doesn’t mean they lack virtue or have no self-control.

Is Addiction a Habit or a Choice?

By Adi Jaffe Ph.D. on September 22, 2015 All About Addiction
It's an age-old debate: Are addicts failing to exercise control or have they fallen victim to a disease that has taken over their brain and rendered them powerless? The answer is neither and both, so pay close attention...

The Obese and the Impulsive

By Mark Borigini M.D. on September 21, 2015 Overcoming Pain
It is important to identify early risk factors for adolescent weight gain that could potentially be targeted in future weight gain prevention programs, as pediatric obesity and weight gain are risk factors for adult obesity and associated complications.

Maintaining Self-Control With a Superior

Are you struggling with a disrespectful supervisor? These tips can help you.

How Boredom Can Afflict the End of Adolescence

When it comes to leading a more independent path through life at the end of adolescence, finding a working interest to like and taking an active interest in work one doesn't like can both be hard to do.

What Is Mindfulness Worth Anyway?

By Dennis Tirch Ph.D on September 18, 2015 Practice Compassion
What is the real purpose of mindfulness? Is it worth the time? Can we see in the dark?

3 Ways In Which Saving Money Can Help You Lose Weight

Most of us are good at controlling our actions in one domain but fail in others. In this article, I will explain reasons why self-restraint success is domain-specific for many of us and suggest three ways in which we can transfer our success in one area to other areas.

Promoting Flow

By Sandeep Gautam on September 15, 2015 The Fundamental Four
Self-regulatory focus of promotion and prevention lead to different associated emotions like joy-sadness and anxiety-contentment. An effort is made to link the same with the concept of flow as espoused by Mihaly.

Do Tennis Champions Reveal the Secret to Mental Toughness?

The study from Middle Tennessee State University also found that the coaches rating of their tennis players' mental toughness bore no relationship to the athletes' own assessment. The coaches seemed to be basing their assessment of mental toughness of their players on their general results and rankings — yet this may be misleading.

The Sports Ethic

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on September 11, 2015 A Sideways View
What are the unique beliefs and values of those in competitive sport?

Can You Really Catch Madness From Your Cat?

By Guy P. Harrison on September 08, 2015 About Thinking
Billions of human brains are infected with a bizarre cat parasite that seems to influence our personality and behavior. Could they be altering the course of human history as well?

“Friss Die Haelfte!”

After 35+ years of specialization in eating control, in 2013 I designed a small clinical program, which oversees weight control, exercise and emotional management for post-menopausal women with double diagnoses. I called the program Lean On Me, because the double entrendre connotes the power of group interaction to help with what seems impossible, as well as the optimal li

The Dynamic That's Poison for Any Couple

If the body decides that you have an addiction, the mind decides that you have an emotional need.

Getting to the Root of Hidden Anger

Hidden anger can manifest itself in any number of ways, many of which may surprise you. Below are behaviors that may serve as welcome warning signs that anger is hiding in plain sight.

3 Ways to Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on September 01, 2015 Mindful Anger
Are you tired of having the exact same argument with your partner? These three steps can shed a lot of light of your situation.

Physical Punishment—and Violence

Physical punishment is damaging to the mental health of children and the societies in which we live. There are alternatives that build on children's ability to integrate feelings, language, and cognition.

The #1 Parenting Tip to Change Rebellious Teens

Teens need calm, firm discipline in order to thrive during adolescence. Learn how to be his success ambassador.

Feeling Phone-verwhelmed?

Enjoy specific steps that you can take to create a healthier, more balanced relationship with your phone — and all forms of technology, for that matter.

Entitled Teens: 3 Causes, 3 Solutions

Entitled teens feel they can do what they want and get away with it. Unfortunately to their own detriment often do. Three causes and their antidotes for reining in runaway teens