All About Self-Control

Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom, thanks to our large prefrontal cortices. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, we can evaluate alternative actions, and we can refrain from doing things we'll regret. We can also take advantage of these innately human abilities by developing wisdom and willpower.

Recent Posts on Self-Control

Why Old Habits Die Hard?

Many of our decisions are made on the basis of emotional and unconscious processes.

Taking Control of Your Anger

5 key steps to help be more thoughtful when you feel angry. Decide whether you want to react in an angry way and whether that response will best serve you.

The Story Behind Marie Kondo

By Barry Yourgrau on January 26, 2016 Mess
Not everyone in Japan is so smitten....

Risks of Boredom through the Adolescent Stages

Passing boredom is a dissatisfying part of adolescent life that can beget constructive changes. When boredom is protracted, however, seeking relief can result in harmful choices

Creeping Moralism

If you lack in self-control, you are probably an immoral person. This claim has recently been made in the starkest possible terms by prominent social psychologists. Let’s not

Should Step-Parents be Allowed to Discipline?

Parenting experts agree that both parents need to be firmly in charge in blended families.

Want Your Child to Start Listening To You? Stop Doing This!

The best way to discipline your child may surprise you!

Is Portion Control Really the Key to Dieting Success?

By Gregg McBride on January 23, 2016 The Weight-ing Game
Can there really such a thing as eating too many steamed green beans? In my experience (as someone who has taken off over 250 pounds and kept it off for a decade)... Absolutely.

Changing Habits

The meaning of our lives rises from what we focus on most consistently.

A Mind of One’s Own?

Julian Jaynes once made the strange claim that our ancestors did not evolve conscious minds until 600 BCE. But are we conscious at all? To find out, let's talk about Love.

Does Mindfulness Enhance Critical Thinking?

By Michael Hogan Ph.D. on January 21, 2016 In One Lifespan
While traditional writings on mindfulness propose that clarity of thinking can be cultivated through the practice of mindfulness, currently scientific evidence is lacking.

7 Ways Productive People Stay Focused

A few simple changes can help you get more done in less time.

5 Important Influences Of Emotional Mimicry

Our emotions and moods are affected by the emotional states of the other people we interact with.

Toy Guns

By Bernard L. De Koven on January 20, 2016 On Having Fun
The stuff of kids play is reality. Safe in the fiction of the game, kids can deal with the truth of their world.

The Sounds of Rudeness

Rudeness is sadly becoming the acceptable way of communicating, because models of incivility are loudly displayed in politics, the media, the trolling blogosphere, and conversation

Overcoming BPD: 9 New Years Resolutions

By Blaise Aguirre M.D. on January 16, 2016 On the Borderline
In dealing with the 9 symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, a regular mindfulness practice can make a lasting impact. Here is a specific practice.

So Stressed Out: What's The Best Skill For Reducing Anxiety?

By Lori Russell-Chapin Ph.D. on January 15, 2016 Brain Waves
Feeling frazzled and stressed? Practice this skill correctly and feel better.

Why Saving Goals Don’t Always Help Consumers

Research shows goals to save money can backfire, unless they are used carefully by savers.

Your Brain Can Be Trained to Self-Regulate Negative Thinking

New research shows that mindfulness training can improve your ability to self-regulate emotions and reduce negative thinking.

Does Slowing Down Enhance Self Control?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on January 07, 2016 Ulterior Motives
People are often told to slow down in order to avoid impulsive behavior, but does that really work?

What Part of You Got Lost between Age 18 and Today?

Bravado and confidence are second nature to most teens, but what happens as we grow older?

The Revenge Myth

Revenge is appealing. Someone hurts us and we're convinced that revenge will make us feel whole again. Just thinking about revenge can trigger positive emotions.

Don't Say These 5 Things Before Somebody Leaves

You'll be recalled with more affection, respect and warmth if you're remembered with a cheering smile and not with sobs, snivels and the dry-heaves.

5 Steps to Turning Your New Year's Resolutions into Reality

By Jaime L. Kurtz Ph.D. on January 02, 2016 Happy Trails
Worried that your resolutions are just empty promises?

My Resolution for 2016: Cut the (Wireless) Internet Cord

Like many people, I spend far too much time online, much of it truly wasting time, and it affects my work and play even when offline. So, guess what my 2016 resolution is?

Performance Accountability: A New Parenting Model for 2016

Performance accountability for children, what it is, and specifically how to use this high-value tool is just and compassionate parenting. This article outlines the steps.

Why New Year's Resolutions Often Produce the Opposite Effect

...one of the pioneers in the field of ironic mental control is quoted as arguing that the secret of making successful New Year's Resolutions is to keep them affirmative

You Snore, You Lose

By Elaine Reese Ph.D. on December 31, 2015 Tell Me a Story
Does your child snore? Learn more about how snoring can affect your child's success in school.

Sober New Beginnings and Dry January

There’s pressure to get into the holiday spirit from all corners and there is often unspoken social pressure and friendly encouragement to overindulge in food and drink.

New Year Resolutions

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on December 29, 2015 A Sideways View
It is the time for life change. What are you going to do? Or from past experience is it your resolve never to make new year resolutions?