All About Self-Control

Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom, thanks to our large prefrontal cortex. It is the ability to subdue our impulses in order to achieve longer-term goals. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, evaluate alternative actions, and, often enough, avoid doing things we'll later regret. The ability to exert self-control is typically called willpower. It is what allows us to direct our attention, and it underlies all kinds of achievement. There is significant debate in science as to whether or not willpower is a finite resource. Studies demonstrate that exercising willpower makes heavy demands on mental energy, notably on reserves of glucose, the brain's preferred fuel, creating ego depletion. It's one reason we're more apt to reach for that chocolate chip cookie when we're feeling stressed than when we're feeling on top of the world. Recently, scientists have failed to replicate some of the studies underlying the concept of ego depletion, and more research is underway.

Recent Posts on Self-Control

The Mindful Pause: How to Help Others

The very popular and short exercise called "the mindful pause" integrates character strengths & mindfulness. This post delves into its use by practitioners. Learn several examples.

3 Reasons Why America Is Starting to Lose God

Both personal religiousness and spirituality are showing signs of decline in the United States. Here’s why.

The Little-Known Downsides of Mindfulness Practice

Recent research uncovers some potentially serious pitfalls.

This Is Your Brain On Poverty

By Darby Saxbe Ph.D. on April 26, 2016 Home Base
How does poverty affect the development of the adolescent brain?

Strength Versus Structure

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on April 26, 2016 Don't Delay
Strength is important. We may even say it’s essential, but it’s not sufficient. It’s structure and routine that will save us when the going gets tough.

Is Being a Control Freak Ruining Your Happiness?

Being overly controlling of others is neither good for your happiness nor for your success. Here's how you can overcome this self-defeating tendency.

Marijuana and Weight: A Plant With Virtues to Be Discovered?

Many people have experienced the “munchies,” those extraordinarily powerful feelings of hunger after using marijuana. Surprisingly, marijuana has paradoxical effects on weight.

Do You Know How to Be Practical?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 25, 2016 How To Do Life
A self-assessment inventory that may help you decide if and how you want to be more practical.

Who Can Win the Game of Thrones?

PBS BrainCraft segment looks at psychological issues in HBO's Game of Thrones, particularly the role that self-control might play in determining which character can "win" the game.

The Mind’s News Station

Our ego acts a lot like the news.

"All Muslims Are Terrorists!"

By Izzy Kalman on April 19, 2016 Resilience to Bullying
News about terrorism has fostered Islamophobic bullying. Here is simple advice, consistent with Islamic teachings, on how Muslims can cope with Islamophobic bullying.

Mindfulness Is Control

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on April 18, 2016 In Control
If you want to live a more mindful life or any kind of life at all, do what you can to understand the process of control.

Neurobiology of Self-Control in Dogs

By Gregory S. Berns on April 17, 2016 plus2sd
A new study in dogs trained for MRI shows the part of the brain necessary for impulse control.

I Wanted to Write About Attention Span Because....

Is it true that we live in a much busier and information-saturated world, or is that just a convenient myth?

A Badge, a Bible...and an Over-Valued Idea

A state trooper is fired for preaching to motorists. Was it the devil—or was it perhaps psychology—that made him do it?

The Passage of Time Across the Life Span

By Marc Wittmann Ph.D. on April 11, 2016 Sense of Time
Research has confirmed that subjective time passes increasingly faster as we grow older. A study now shows that the ability of 'emotion regulation' can slow down subjective time.

Three Proven Ways To Help Children and Teens Behave Better

If you are tired of fruitless power struggles with your child or teen, read this...

Clinical and Counseling Psych: Time to End the Distinction

The distinction between clinical and counseling psychology made sense historically, but it is now time to retire it and join around an identity of Health Service Psychology.

Should Obesity Really Be Classified As A Disease?

By Gregg McBride on April 09, 2016 The Weight-ing Game
No matter how the medical community classifies our national (and individual) obesity issues, let’s not forget that that the real cure still comes from inside ourselves.

Make America Kind Again

We must let respect and kindness be organizing and centering principles for all that we do and say. Perhaps this is the only way to make America kind and great again.

Are You an Optimist or a Pessimist?

Did you know that optimists are healthier, have happier relationships, get less depressed, are more successful, make more money, and are healthier than pessimists?

Expressive Arts Therapy and Self-Regulation

Expressive arts therapies can enhance self-regulation in individuals of all ages who are experiencing distress; the secret is sensory-based attunement.

Gaming to Death

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 30, 2016 In Excess
Over the past 18 months, there have been a number of gaming-related deaths. But what is it that makes gaming so compulsive and addictive?

Psychoanalysis as Core Training

When a person has a strong core, you’ll see it in how they live their lives: with more patience, tolerance, self-control, courage, creativity, openness, and love.

There’s No Such Thing as (Real) Self-Sabotage

When we talk about self-sabotage, we fool ourselves into thinking that some people purposefully disrupt their success in life. But that's just not true.

I Was Just Thinking In My Head

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on March 21, 2016 Don't Delay
“I was just thinking in my head.” Have you heard anyone say that? I have, quite often. Not limiting ourselves to our own heads can help reduce procrastination.

Technology and Addiction Recovery

Can digital devices help you stay sober?

Non-Offending Pedophiles Suffer From Isolation

Anonymous, online peer support is often the only resource available for non-offenders.

Are You 'Addicted' to Chaos?

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 17, 2016 In Excess
The term 'chaos addiction' has been used repeatedly in populist articles but has not been studied empirically. But is it just another term for workaholism or something different?

Play Life More Beautifully: A Meeting With Seymour Bernstein

By Mark Matousek on March 08, 2016 Ethical Wisdom
In a new book and documentary, Seymour Bernstein, the legendary pianist and teacher, explains why music is a metaphor for life, and how each us can locate his essential passion