All About Self-Control

Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom, thanks to our large prefrontal cortices. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, we can evaluate alternative actions, and we can refrain from doing things we'll regret. We can also take advantage of these innately human abilities by developing wisdom and willpower.

Recent Posts on Self-Control

Physical Punishment—and Violence

Physical punishment is damaging to the mental health of children and the societies in which we live. There are alternatives that build on children's ability to integrate feelings, language, and cognition.

The #1 Parenting Tip to Change Rebellious Teens

By Linda Esposito LCSW on August 31, 2015 in From Anxiety to Zen
Teens need calm, firm discipline in order to thrive during adolescence. Learn how to be his success ambassador.

Feeling Phone-verwhelmed?

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on August 30, 2015 in All Grown Up
Enjoy specific steps that you can take to create a healthier, more balanced relationship with your phone — and all forms of technology, for that matter.

Entitled Teens: 3 Causes, 3 Solutions

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 29, 2015 in Fixing Families
Entitled teens feel they can do what they want and get away with it. Unfortunately to their own detriment often do. Three causes and their antidotes for reining in runaway teens

Attraction & Infidelity: Can 'Eye Candy' Always Be Resisted?

When the Ashley Madison website, apparently promoting infidelity, was hacked revealing just how many people appear involved in relationship betrayal, the media appeared scandalised at the prevalence of infidelity - or at least the appetite for it. However psychologists have recently posed the opposite question - why is there in fact not more infidelity?

We need a folksy free will

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in One Among Many
Andrew Monroe, who is an expert on moral psychology and folk beliefs about free will responds to an earlier post on 'Free Will Depletion.'

Frosh Week and Dangerous Drinking: What Can Parents Do?

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in Nurturing Resilience
While we know young people are likely to drink during frosh week, the real danger is that they could be dramatically under-estimating the amount of alcohol they're consuming. Here are some suggestions for parents who want to prevent their kids from developing a drinking problem.

Remembering Blackouts: An Interview with Sarah Hepola

By Anna David on August 27, 2015 in After Party Chat
In the first of a two-part interview, the author shares her thoughts on how alcoholism isn’t always a burning building but a "wrecking ball from inside."

Practice Waiting

By Karyn Hall Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in Pieces of Mind
So many times life is lived at a fast pace. Practice slowing down daily decisions and reactions to make more effective decisions and not act impulsively when you are emotionally overwhelmed.

Want Your Relationship to Work? Give Up Yelling

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on August 21, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
By giving up yelling, you are giving a gift to those around you, and you are giving a gift to yourself, because yelling actually sends uncomfortable feelings throughout your brain and body. Now you can relax and enjoy your days, knowing that you have removed this destructive habit.

Free Will Depletion

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on August 20, 2015 in One Among Many
After tortured administration of surgery and double-blind medicinalization, free will remains clinically dead. Here's another dyslogy.

Why Male and Female Psychopaths Get More Sex

One theory is that male and female psychopaths end up hypersexual through different routes via contrasts in personality - it's the antisocial aspect in men, but instead the impulsive thrill seeking in women.

Nine Steps to Turn Your Money "Shoulds" Into Action

By Michael F. Kay on August 20, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
When was the last time you rocked a “should”? As in, "I should replace that burned out light bulb." "I should exercise more often and eat better."

What Are the Five Mistakes That Wealthy People Rarely Make?

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in Motivate!
How do you compare to the psychologically rich?

Could Online Pornography Be A Silent Yet Exploding Epidemic?

Online pornography may be an emerging epidemic. Perhaps we need to treat the internet like any other possible addictive substance. Then we can be more thoughtful and intentional in being sure that online pornography doesn’t take hold of us and our youth.

So I’m Addicted to Exercise. Who Cares?

By Anna David on August 18, 2015 in After Party Chat
I'm a sober addict who exercises. Regularly. More specifically, obsessively. If this is a problem, I'm holding onto it.

Oreo Thins Paradox – Why People Pay More For Less

The new Oreo Thins is out. And it is priced at 42% premium compared to regular Oreo cookies. Why are consumers often willing to pay more for less?

Are You a Quitter? Time to Bulk Up Your Willpower

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 14, 2015 in Fixing Families
The antidote to being a quitter is recognizing where you get stuck and learning to override these emotions. Tips for developing perseverance.

What the 9 Top Food Cravings Say About Your Emotions

By Deanna Minich on August 13, 2015 in Food and Spirit
Ice cream, crunchy/crispy foods, caffeine, starches, salty, spicy, pastries and chocolate; some or all can be the focus of emotional overeating.

How to Start Breaking Your Worst Habit Today

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on August 12, 2015 in Science and Sensibility
Twelve techniques (maybe more) for breaking problem habits including one you’ve never tried before.

Get Into Your Money Groove

By Michael F. Kay on August 12, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
We each have something that is uniquely our thing. It might be hitting a golf ball, working in a laboratory, counseling people, building furniture or flower arranging.

Making Good Choices

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on August 10, 2015 in In Control
Good choices are decisions that keep you heading in the direction you want to go.

3 Steps to Keeping Your Cool (and Saving Your Relationships)

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on August 04, 2015 in Mindful Anger
By identifying what provokes you, learning to recognize when anger is on its way, and restraining yourself from impulsively responding to every perceived threat, you can save your relationships from destructive reactions.

The Curious Connection Between Distraction and Impulsivity

By David DiSalvo on August 01, 2015 in Neuronarrative
Science is steadily uncovering a link between handicapped working memory resources and handicapped impulse control, with all its unfortunate shortcomings.

The Archeology of Misbehavior

Archeology is the study of human activity in the past. The archeology of misbehavior is studying current behavior to uncover hidden sources. The “ruins” of misdeeds are built upon personality architecture and cultural landscapes.

Improving Self-Control by Enhancing Working Memory

Successful self-control involves the active maintenance of goals and goal-relevant information in working memory.

No Regrets

By Ira Hyman Ph.D. on July 24, 2015 in Mental Mishaps
What regrets do you have? Although I’ve heard that we should live with “No Regrets,” I suspect we all have a list of regrets. Regrets invade our thoughts, occupy our minds, and keep us thinking about the things we wish we had done differently. But there may be ways to barricade your mind and stop ruminating about your regrets.

5 Things We Know for Sure About Raising Great Kids

Research has been following children from babyhood to adulthood for decades, so we actually know what works to raise great kids. Here are the five most important things.

There Must Be a Good Reason

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 22, 2015 in On Having Fun
A game to play with yourself before you start hating people.

Why "Making Learning Fun" Fails

What happens if we teach children that learning is supposed to be fun?