All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Recent posts on Resilience

The Slow Path to Acceptance

By Susan Hooper on April 29, 2017 in Detours and Tangents
A swirl of negative thoughts had a firm grip on me, but time, perspective and the counsel of friends helped restore my peace of mind.

What's Better? Emotionally Intelligent or Mentally Strong

You can develop skills that help you build mental strength and develop emotional intelligence. And while they have some similarities, there's a big difference between the two.

Too Young to Be Old: Love, Learn, Work, and Play as You Age

By The Book Brigade on April 27, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Everyone has a “psychological portfolio,” and it’s especially important to update it as you age.

A Conversation With Dani Shapiro About Memory and Marriage

By Jennifer Haupt on April 26, 2017 in One True Thing
"I was aware that in attempting to tell the truth of our marriage I was at risk of exposing or betraying it. That was the high-wire act."

A Coincidence Involving the Recent U.S. Power Grid Failure

Like each of us, nations are composed of parts. When a coincidence happens to us, we have ways to understand its use. What about when coincidences happen to a nations?

Is Social Pain Real Pain? Rejection Hurts, For Real!

The same brain areas involved in processing physical pain such burning or hurt are also activated when a negative comment burns or when your feelings are hurt. Social pain is real
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

A Lament That Remains

There are many things you outgrow as a child but you don't outgrow the death of a parent.

How to Rebound From Constructive Criticism in 5 Minutes!

By Pamela D. Garcy Ph.D. on April 25, 2017 in Fearless You
Becoming thankful for constructive criticism will disarm your critic, and it will remind you to find something of value in the criticism!

Why Relying on GPS Does Your Brain No Favors

It's all too easy to let tech such as GPS do all your thinking for you, isn't it? But you might want to consider what invaluable mental resources you're losing in return.

ADHD and Self Compassion

What’s the impact of living life with ADHD, seeing exactly what ‘should’ be done and often not getting there anyway.

7 Stress Hacks You Can Use in the Next 5 Minutes

Science is helping us find new, simple and quick ways to de-stress by activating different brain networks and nervous system responses.Here are 7 new ways to manage your stress.

Hardiness and Grit

One might argue that any therapy has as an implicit objective to help the individual acquire the characteristics associated with hardiness.

Finding the Right Path for Each Individual, Making It Work

The Resilience Regiment speaks with AToN Center.
Klimkin CC0 Public Domain, Used with permission

The Benefits of Self-Pity

Sometimes we know best how to comfort ourselves.

Physician Health 101

It is estimated that a doctor a day dies by suicide in the United States. There is a lot we can do to fight this.

Why Do Millennials Get a Bad Rap?

Maybe it is just a failure of generativity.

Children in Polyamorous Families Part 2

Children in polyamorous families experience unique practical and emotional advantages but no unique disadvantages that are not present in other forms of blended families.

It Would've Been My Brother's 30th Birthday Today!

Have you lost a significant person in your life? Here, a psychologist shares her personal loss of her brother and the psychological strategies that you too can apply to your grief.

Spring Blues

Are you or someone you love having the Spring blues? Excellent and free resources are available to help you and your community.

Don Rickles, the Master Roaster, Dies at 90

By Izzy Kalman on April 16, 2017 in Resilience to Bullying
Don Rickles, one of the greatest roasters of all time, died last week. In today's culture, he could easily be considered a bully, but in reality he promotes the antidote.
Lee Mamola used with permssion; Kristin Meekhof

Boston Strong

Do you dream of running the boston marathon? A few adjustments may help you cross the finish line.

10 Best Tech Devices to Prevent Rape

By Susan Harrow on April 15, 2017 in The Body Blog
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center has estimated that one in five women will be raped at some time in their lives. This is terrifying statistic that should have women ...

How Common Is Childhood Mental Illness?

Think childhood mental illness is rare? Think again.

Spring Back to Life

I like fresh starts, and I’ll use whatever is around me to make them easier. We all reinvent our lives from time to time. If you've done it before you can do it again.

How I Learned About the Perils of Grit

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on April 13, 2017 in Curious?
Grit, the Scarlett Johannson of organizational cures, has problems. Neglected research points to the dark side of promoting and nurturing grit.
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Mottos I Live By

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on April 12, 2017 in Face It!
Perseverance with the help of three mottos.

The High Cost of Receptivity

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 11, 2017 in Ambigamy
Don't pretend that you're exceptionally ready to change your mind.

This Is the Price You'll Pay for Working for a Toxic Boss

No matter how much money you earn, working for a toxic boss isn't worth the price you'll be paying.

These 5 Life Skills Boost Well-Being as We Age, Study Finds

A new study identifies 5 life skills correlated with increased psychological, physical, and fiscal well-being. Notably, each of these life skills was found to be equally important.

Create a Meaningful Summer

Planning your summer vacation? How about a meaningful epic summer adventure instead? The steps you take before you take off can make all the difference.