All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

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Jackson Pollock's Creation of Abstract Expressionism

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We're Raising a Generation of Wimpy Kids

The ultimate goal of parenting should be to work yourself out of a job. But studies show most young adults feel they lack the emotional skills they need to face life's challenges.
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9 Strategies to Manage a Personal Setback

By David Susman, Ph.D. on August 21, 2017 in The Recovery Coach
Challenged by a loss or disappointment? How you manage it makes all the difference.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

The Story of Adolescence

Sometimes it helps parents to remember that every teenager is acting out the same age-old story, just in her or his individual way.

Does Gut Microbiome Influence Mindset and Mental Toughness?

By Christopher Bergland on August 20, 2017 in The Athlete's Way
Harvard scientists have pinpointed specific gut microbiome linked to peak athletic performance. Someday soon, these findings could be used to benefit people from all walks of life.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

Are You Wired for Resilience?

If you knew you had the resilience to recover from almost any challenge or experience, what might you do differently? Would you finally start living the life you most want?
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A Sacred Circle

By Elizabeth Young on August 17, 2017 in Adaptations
Everyone took her neighbors' hands and the circle steadied and tightened: we created and held that sacred space.

The 1 Skill College Students Wish Their Parents Taught Them

We invest a lot of time in teaching young people to be academically prepared for the future, but we often overlook the skills they really need to succeed.

Why Do Stories of Change Inspire?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
A staple of self-help groups is that people who have been through addiction and alcoholism tell stories of their journey. Why are those stories inspiring?

Where Do You Really Stand in the Wake of Charlottesville?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Following the Charlottesville riots, reactions are disturbingly mixed. Here’s how to strengthen your thinking about the effects of racism.
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What We Leave Behind

By Elizabeth Young on August 16, 2017 in Adaptations
Women in a therapeutic writing group discover that adaptation includes grieving parts of themselves that they have to leave behind.
Ryan McGuire/Gratisography

The 50th First Day of School

By Elizabeth Young on August 16, 2017 in Adaptations
The start of the school year presents opportunities for the survival of the fittest. Hop on the bus to learn how.

What Are the Roots of Distress Among Refugees?

Research is changing the way we address the mental health needs of refugees.

Taking Care of Yourself and Others During Racial Trauma

By Mariel Buque M.A. on August 16, 2017 in Unpacking Race
Taking care of yourself and others during racial trauma: a guide for healing in the face of race-based turmoil.

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

Coal Miners and Resilience

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on August 15, 2017 in Nurturing Resilience
Making families and communities resilient when industries are in decline is possible but we have to give people the resources they need to build new lives.

How to Bounce Back from Epic Parenting Fails

Social media has changed the way we talk about parenting failures. And not necessarily for the better.

Dealing with Stress at School in an Age of Anxiety

By Daniel P. Keating Ph.D. on August 15, 2017 in Stressful Lives
A stress epidemic threatens students' learning and mental health. Understanding the sources can help teachers, leaders, and parents create a culture of reslience at school.

Does "Tough Love" Produce Better Working Dogs?

Puppies with overly attentive mothers have poorer problem-solving abilities and are less likely to succeed as service dogs.

How Can We Change the Rampant Disrespect in Our World?

Is disrespect wearing you down? Some ways to begin making a difference.

First Memories

Like a child who uses a blanket to self-soothe, a memory may be a psychological mechanism awakened at certain moments to protect us from hopelessness.

Why Technology Makes it Hard to Raise Mentally Strong Kids

While our digital devices make many aspects of life easier, electronics makes it tougher than ever to raise resilient kids.

Holding the "Both-And" in Times of Stress

Compassion, wisdom, and curiosity may just be able to help us avoid the well trodden path to polarization, them vs us, and the limits of right and wrong. We are more than all that!

Should Your Employees Toughen Up or Soften Up?

Do you need your employees to toughen up? Might your organizational dollars and leadership efforts be better spent on helping your people to soften up instead?

Diversity Includes Intellectual Diversity

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5 Ways to Turn Mistakes Into Valuable Life Lessons

You can gain a lot of wisdom from your mistakes. Here's how to learn the most from your blunders.

Making Friends With Fear

How would your life transform if you could overcome even your biggest fears? Through small, intentional steps, that transformation can begin now.
Edward Abramson, PhD

Yes, It IS Possible to Lose Weight

A recent study shows that weight loss is possible.