All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Recent posts on Resilience

How to Respond to Romantic Rejection With Grace

What we can learn from 'the Bachelorette' about handling rejection well.
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Why Change Is So Hard

Change is hard only if you think it's so.
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'True Grit' as a (Strangely) Therapeutic Movie

We expect coming of age films to show an adolescent protagonist grow up, but in the Coen Brother's quirky remake of 'True Grit,' true development is hidden at the end of the film.

7 Tricks for Turning Mega-Threats into Micro-Triumphs

How do you convert big fat ominous threats into bite-sized micro-triumphs? Here are a few suggestions, based on some of the best applications of psychological research.
Malerie Willens

Can Trauma Improve Our Psychological Health?

The impact of trauma is complex. Not all of it is bad, and sometimes it may even be good.

The Problem with Obstacles

I recently wanted to prescribe a medication called Prevacid for a patient. It's a proton pump inhibitor that shuts off acid production in the stomach.

Mom With Metastatic Cancer Talks About Resilience

From time to time I receive inspiring letters from people who have encountered my work and are kind enough to share their lives. Here is one such letter that brought me to tears.

International Positive Education Network (IPEN) Festival

Flip your lid, settle your glitter, stand on your head, use your red cape and green cape, use your soaring words, and be an orange frog! Every school should host a mini-festival!

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

Why Every Leader Should Understand Narrative Psychology

What does narrative psychology have to do with being an impactful leader? The answer might surprise you.

Sexual Freedom: Only Part of the Equation for LGBTQ Refugees

LGBTQ refugees continue to experience social isolation, perpetuating a sense of danger and persecution.

Micro-Triumphs

I expected last Friday to be one of those terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Instead, I had a series of micro-triumphs. Here’s what I learned, Alexander.
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Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Is grit over-rated? As Angela Duckworth's new book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance dominates the best-seller charts some interesting questions are starting to be asked.

An Interview with Tony Robbins

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 20, 2016 in How To Do Life
The famous self-improvement expert's advice on achieving success in career, weight loss, resiliency, and public speaking.

What's All the Anger About?

Taking that first step toward "healthy anger"

Acceptance and Transformation

Should left-handers demand that half the baseball diamond be reversed?

The Walking Traumatized: Is This Life in the 21st Century?

Is the 21st century the era of the Walking Traumatized. Ongoing acts of terrorism with 24/7 news and social media coverage would indicate that the answer is yes.

Seeing Double, First Sign of Trouble

By E E Smith on July 15, 2016 in Not Born Yesterday
I would like to relate a very personal story, one which may save others from the ordeal I am going through right now. It might even save someone's sight.

The Four Behaviors of Next-Level Leadership

What pushes people beyond functional mastery toward true leadership? These four behaviors explain what separates managers from leaders.
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5 Surprising Tips for Taking the Sting out of Rejection

Your worse rejection story is probably not as terrible as you think.

The Revealing Questions No One Is Asking About Single Life

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 14, 2016 in Living Single
Single life isn’t marriage minus the spouse. It is a whole different experience, meaningful in ways that are rarely acknowledged.

How to Fight Fairly on Facebook and Other Social Media

Is your Facebook aflame with hateful discussions? How can you stand up, say your piece, and shed some light without getting burned or adding to the chaos? Here are some guidelines.

The Poison Tendrils of Negative Emotions

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Don't Delay
A recent research summary argues that negative emotions poison every aspect of successful self-regulation. Understanding this process is key to understanding procrastination.

From 5K to Marathon

Want to run a marathon one day? I bet you can. Here’s how.

This Daily Habit Will Make You 25 Percent Happier

Research shows how this little change can make a big difference in your quality of life.

Want to Build Strength and Gain Muscle? Lift Lighter Weights

If you want to gain physical strength and build muscle—lifting lighter weights can be just as effective as lifting heavy weights, according to a new study.

Stop, Drop, and Panic

As someone that has always appeared calm on the outside, while internally choking on my panic on the inside, I knew that my story was just absurd enough.

My Daughter Won't Let Me Help Her With Her Breakup

Helping your daughter get over a breakup

5 Ways to Get What You Want, on Your Terms

Always getting what you want is tempting, but also unrealistic. With some grit and goal-setting, you can get close.

Dealing With Your Partner’s Explosive Anger

By Marty Babits on July 11, 2016 in The Middle Ground
Explosive anger creates turmoil and confusion. Here are four tips designed to help you sort through the negative and move towards healing and resilience.