All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Recent posts on Resilience

You Have Power Over Your Brain Chemistry

Your brain has an operating system inherited from earlier animals. It rewards you with "happy chemicals" when you step toward meeting needs and alarms you with "unhappy chemicals.

I'm Free. I Just Do What I Want, Say What I Want

In long-term romantic relationships you need to compromise. But how much compromise is too much?

Sexual Assault Stories Flood the Internet—Now the Next Step

By Marty Babits on October 19, 2016 in The Middle Ground
Many thousands of women are giving voice to painful experiences of traumatic assault. Many are mobilized now for more intensive healing. Find out how they can follow through.

In Search of Cracks

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
The first step in expanding hope is to recognize cracks of opportunity.

How to Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

Don't let your mind limit your potential. Train your brain to think differently.

3 Ways to Give Your Kids a 1980’s Halloween to Remember

By Kristen Lee Ed.D., LICSW on October 18, 2016 in Reset 24/7
Is the hype of Halloween wearing you out already? Take a time travel back to the Halloween's of yesteryear, before the age of Pinterest and lactose intolerance.

A Mindfulness-Based Approach to Healing From Loss

By Dan Mager MSW on October 17, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Ironically, allowing oneself to feel the pain of loss takes considerably less energy than running from or trying to suppress it.

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

Can ‘Death Doulas’ Shield You From Bullying Around Funerals?

INTERVIEWER: Tell me more about how you interrupt bullying tactics—how you prevent folks from being harassed or made to feel incompetent throughout this difficult process

The Power of Dance to Work with Trauma

In this article, Life, Death and Transformation: Keep Moving, three Turkish therapists learn how to use dance to express the affirmation of life in the face of death-

Sensitive Topics: Not All That Sensitive

By Jesse Marczyk Ph.D. on October 15, 2016 in Pop Psych
Giving people surveys about histories of victimization and sexual behavior do not appear to trigger them anymore than standard, minimal-risk questions.

Reflections on Veteran Suicide, Veteran Resilience and Tribe

Trauma may not be the that thing catalyzes despair but rather the combination of trauma with gaping attachment wounds that service members feel when they separate from their tribe.

The Hidden Victims of Workplace Bullying: Family Members

Be proactive in ways to protect your family from the reach of the workplace bully.

How to Stop Violence in America

There is a solution to stop the violence in America. A solution that is far more central than controlling religious radicalization and gun access. It's all about fear.

5 Ways to Stay Mentally Strong During Campaign Season

Research shows the election is taking a toll on many Americans this year. Here's how to stay mentally strong regardless of whom you plan to vote for.

Giving Voice to Grief in a Novel Way

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on October 09, 2016 in Creating in Flow
A doctor imagines cloning his lost son to keep him alive in the minds of his debut novel's readers. This Q&A with the author explains the why and the how.

The Wounded Healer Psychotherapist

There is a myth, which contains some truth, that psychotherapists are emotionally disturbed people, which is what attracts them to the work they do.

Why You Need to Be a Success at Failure

By Atalanta Beaumont on October 07, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
Failure: Your inbuilt learning curve.

Just Say No

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on October 07, 2016 in Life After 50
Are you afraid to say "no"? Do you often feel angry because you are spending time with people you don't like? Are you wasting time doing favors for people who don't matter to you?

The Secret to Feeling Less Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on October 06, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Feeling annoyed is normal and common, but you can lessen this painful dynamic in your relationship. Here are 5 secret powers that can reduce how annoyed you feel with your partner.

Dealing With Financial Woes During Life Transitions

By Michael F. Kay on October 06, 2016 in Financial Life Focus
Dealing with financial issues during periods of significant change can be nearly difficult, if not impossible.

Are You Mentally Strong?

Answering these 27 questions will help you gain insight into how mentally strong you really are.

Why Do We Panic in Emergencies?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on October 05, 2016 in Media Spotlight
In virtually every disaster, there is always the risk of mass panic which can often cause more casualties than the disaster itself. Can new research help prevent this?

Developmental Equity: Path to Student Success?

Educational equity is important, especially for youth impacted by race, cultural, and economic barriers. But is developmental equity more critical to success?

A Tough Guy

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 04, 2016 in How To Do Life
A real-life story offering contraintuitive lessons about resilience.

How to Avoid Attending Someone Else's Pity Party

Refusing to participate could be the kindest, most compassionate thing you could do.

Childhood Sex Abuse: The Long, Hard Road to Sexual Healing

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 03, 2016 in All About Sex
Myth: Child sex abuse ruins victims for life. Truth: Recovery is painful and may take years, but survivors CAN build fulfilling lives and loving, nurturing sexual relationships.

4 Ways In Which Optimism Helps Entrepreneurs Succeed

Creative, novel ideas, a bias to act, persistence, & bouncing back from failure are all contributors.
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Goals Are Not What You Think!

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on October 02, 2016 in In Control
Goals are always about the outcome or result of particular behaviours, not about the actions that bring those results into being.

4 Ways to Stop Putting Your Joy on Hold

By Susan Biali M.D. on September 30, 2016 in Prescriptions for Life
Do you complain a lot about your life, or frequently wish that it could be different? Shift your perspective and discover how to enjoy your life now, no matter what's going on.