All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Recent posts on Resilience

Coming Home from War and Metallica’s “Confusion”

By William Irwin Ph.D. on December 04, 2016 in Plato on Pop
Though mercifully few of us have PTSD or have done a tour of duty in a combat zone, we have all been scarred. Life is a return from battle.
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Finding Gratitude in Mistakes

By Julie K. Hersh on December 03, 2016 in Struck By Living
Are you having trouble coping with the holiday family get togethers? This might help.

Get Cozy!

By Jaime L. Kurtz Ph.D. on December 02, 2016 in Happy Trails
Winter doesn't have to be something we grimly endure. Learn to love it!

Overprotective Parenting and Symbolic Rejection

The problem with helicoptering is that, like being physically absent as a parent, being hyper-present can harm children.

Failure to Launch Syndrome

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on November 30, 2016 in Healing and Growing
There are many "causes," but one real reason stands out to explain today's epidemic of young adults who remain stuck in life.

Gratitude and Mindfulness at Times of Uncertainty

Everybody’s doing -- or trying to do it. Some people are meditating. Others are chronicling their moments of gratitude. It can sometimes seem a little too good to be true.

Searching for Equilibrium

By Susan Hooper on November 29, 2016 in Detours and Tangents
I moved to a new home just before the presidential election. Both events knocked me off kilter, and I am still trying to regain my balance.

Art Therapy and Fear: Acknowledging the Dread

When fear is the dominant narrative, a few creative practices may help. Here are some recommendations for assisting those most vulnerable to trauma at this critical time.

How to Remain Optimistic Through Change

Are you feeling overwhelmed with the change that's happening in your world? Use optimism to transform your overwhelm into confidence.

How to Get Past Fears, Setbacks and Failures

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in Making Change
It’s easy to be self-critical and feel demoralized in response to fears, setbacks, and failures. But you can choose a different path of feeling stronger and achieving your goals.

Not Trusting the Happy

One reader asks if it is possible to be happy as a secondary in a polyamorous relationship. Dr Eli says go for it -- with two cautions.

A Hopeful Right Turn in Treating Addictions

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on November 26, 2016 in Listen Up!
Tired of the unhelpful stigma and shaming surrounding addiction treatment? Here's a different approach.

Further Thoughts About Abuse Causing Criminality

A further look at the conventional wisdom

How Sexual Rejection Affects Men in Relationships

By Sarah Hunter Murray Ph.D. on November 23, 2016 in Myths of Desire
If you think men don't hurt when their sexual advances are rejected, this new research will surprise you.

Addiction, Recovery, and Loss

By Dan Mager MSW on November 23, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Loss is a natural part of the process of recovery that is generally under recognized and inadequately addressed by addiction treatment programs and professionals.
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What's Your Political Mindset?

By Tara Well Ph.D. on November 23, 2016 in The Clarity
Need a change in political outlook? A few mindset tips can help.

Grit and How to Grow It

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Are Colleges Really Overreacting?

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on November 22, 2016 in More Than Mortal
Many colleges are not overreacting to post-election concerns. They are simply making sure students are aware of and have access to important mental health services.

Don’t Be Grateful on Thanksgiving

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on November 21, 2016 in What Matters Most?
This list will either be your survival guide for the holidays or a way to enhance your already-good relationships.

Suffer From Anxiety Disorder? New Research That Yoga Helps!

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on November 21, 2016 in The New Resilience
Psychotherapy and medication are typical treatments for anxiety disorder. But new research is showing other ways you can help diminish your symptoms, and are worth trying.

7 Simple Ways to Become a More Grateful Person

Gratitude is one of the most underutilized superpowers of all time. These activities will help you become more grateful.

Batman & Brain Injury

By E. Paul Zehr Ph.D. on November 20, 2016 in Black Belt Brain
How much concussion exposure does big screen Batman actually have?

The Key to Calming Down and Finding Peace

The things that help you deal with crises—or just plain stress—may take you by surprise.

New Findings on Emotions in Borderline Personality Disorder

Being rejected is particularly painful for people with borderline personality disorder as shown by new research on emotional regulation and its relation to rejection sensitivity.

Even in Tough Times, You Can Find New Ways to Be Better Off

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 17, 2016 in Living Single
Author Courtney E. Martin answers questions about her thoughtful and inspiring new book, "The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream."

Failure to Launch Now Threatens the U.S. Economy

By David F Lancy Ph.D. on November 17, 2016 in Benign Neglect
The failure to launch syndrome begins in infancy.

Quadriplegic: How Does Sex Work?

Tiff's injury left her paralyzed in her legs, hands, and triceps. How does sex work under these conditions? Tiff explains.

Pessimism May Exacerbate Your Risk for No. 1 Cause of Death

By Christopher Bergland on November 17, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
Being pessimistic is linked to a greater risk of death from heart disease, according to a new study. What can you do to combat pessimism? I offer a few simple suggestions.

Keeping Your Cool, Post-Election

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 16, 2016 in Open Gently
Calming yourself for the holidays, post election.

Why Trump Won and What Psychology Says We Can Do About It

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 15, 2016 in Ambigamy
Drop the moral outrage. It's not working. They're not doing politics or morality, they're pretending to be infallible and invincible, and it's working – for now. Try this instead.