All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.

Recent posts on Resilience

This Is What Happens When Helicopter Kids Grow Up

Helicopter parents give their kids competitive advantages during childhood. But, their kids are likely to experience some long-term consequences in adulthood.
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Happy at Work

By Ruth C. White Ph.D. on February 19, 2018 in Culture in Mind
According to several recent Gallup polls, most Americans are unhappy at work. But it doesn't have to be this way.

What Can You Do for Adolescents Exposed to Traumatic Events?

Trauma & Grief-Focused Group Therapy may provide adolescents a shared outlet for healing.

Did Your Partner Disappoint You This Valentine’s Day?

When your partner disappoints you or hurts your feelings, how can you respond so that it doesn't negatively affect your relationship?

Three Simple Ways to Enhance Mental Health Resilience

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on February 15, 2018 in Talking About Men
Research indicates that resilience is not a fixed attribute, but can be cultivated through simple self-initiated activities.

Stress and Your Diet: Can Certain Foods Affect Your Mood?

Can you blame your anger on the onions you just ate for lunch?

Talking to Kids About Shootings

By Elaine Shpungin Ph.D. on February 15, 2018 in Peacemeal
Help kids deal with tragedy through four suggestions for empowerment and support.

7 Major Signs Your Life Is On Track

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 15, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Life is challenging, but adversity does not mean that we are unhappy or lost. Knowing the ingredients can help us course-correct, and hold steady when things are going well.

Overlooking the Fundamentals of the Classroom Experience

By Iben Sandahl on February 15, 2018 in The Danish Way
If we don’t start to acknowledge the necessity of human connectedness our children will lose sight of the importance of meaningful relationships.

The Death of Empathy

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on February 14, 2018 in Am I Right?
So much bad news makes wears on our capacity for empathy.

Beating the Odds

What if you come from a crazy family?

A Valentine's Day Love Story: Husbands and Dads

By John-Manuel Andriote on February 13, 2018 in Stonewall Strong
Fighting for the equal right to legal marriage was hard. It was nearly as hard to fight the internalized stereotypes to become parents. Along the way, they found their resilience.

Feeling Knocked Down? How to Get Back Up

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in Making Change
When, instead of moving down the sidewalk with some bounce in your step, you are stuck on the ground with lead in your ass, it’s time to develop greater resilience.

Falling in Love With Your Authentic Self

By Tara Well Ph.D. on February 12, 2018 in The Clarity
Do you struggle to reveal your authentic self in relationships? Here's a surprising remedy.

Staying in Control Can Help You Live Longer

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 12, 2018 in Media Spotlight
While exposure to trauma is something that everyone faces sooner or later (and often more than once), the key to survival often rests on how much control people feel they have.

How to Use the 'Batman Effect' to Teach Kids Perseverance

Whether you're trying to get your child to do chores, or you want him to finish his math homework, the 'Batman Effect' will help him get it done.

My Short List for Creating a Happy Relationship

Here's my list of nine simple things that give any relationship the best chance of happiness.

15 Signs of High Sensitivity in Relationships

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on February 11, 2018 in Communication Success
Are you highly sensitive in relationships? Do you know someone in your personal or professional relationship who may be highly sensitive?
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Defeating Depression, Evading Anxiety

By Elizabeth Young on February 11, 2018 in Adaptations
He died suddenly, and the trauma of finding him dead hit me pretty hard.

Facebook's Changes Could Be Bad for Your Mental Health

Facebook is making some changes in 2018 and studies show the changes to user's news feeds could be bad for their psychological well-being.

Our Thoughts Determine Our Relational Power

By Jennifer A. Samp Ph.D. on February 09, 2018 in Conflict Matters
How we think about our commitment to a relationship, and what we think about a partner's commitment, can define a power dynamic that may or may not truly exist.

“That Decision Wasn’t Made There”

By Scott M. Stanley Ph.D. on February 09, 2018 in Sliding vs. Deciding
When it comes to commitment, timing may not be everything but it's a lot of the things. This insight from a sports commentator of Super Bowl XII is not just about football.

How to Dredge Up Some Gratitude After Life Slams You

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on February 09, 2018 in Creating in Flow
What if it's NOT "all good"? You can learn to restructure your thinking and experience small amounts of gratitude on even the darkest days. Consider these strategies.

How Agile Are You?

Are you experiencing change fatigue? Learn the secrets of what mentally agile people do to keep from getting swallowed by the chaos of today.

Death Cleaning: Embracing the Art of Döstädning

What exactly is döstädning? Think of it is as cleaning house and letting go of the things that no longer need to be carried.

Failing Forward

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 07, 2018 in Decisions Teens Make
One of the great things about sports is the imparting of important life lessons. And many of those lessons relate directly to one’s character.

Retirement as Meaningful

Seven older adults retire every minute! Positive expectations about retirement may contribute to longevity.

Positive Psychology: Across the Political Spectrum

Some critics of psychology complain about a lack of political diversity in the field; not so for positive psychology.

Helping Young Gay/Bi Men of Color to Stay HIV-Negative

By John-Manuel Andriote on February 06, 2018 in Stonewall Strong
If nothing changes, the CDC projects that 50 percent of African-American, and 25 percent of Hispanic/Latino, gay and bisexual men will become infected with HIV in their lifetime.

Eric Clapton on Healing From Trauma

"It ain't about what I want, it's about what I can give."