All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

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Quick and Dirty Tips

How to Amp Up Your Empathy

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on December 09, 2016 in How to Be Yourself
The benefits of having empathetic skills are unparalleled; it's the next best thing to telekinesis! But, how do you improve these vital skills?

3 Steps to Breaking Up With Someone

By John Kim, LMFT on December 09, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
How to break up with someone.

How Important is Sex? Part 1

Keeping sexual passion alive and healthy is critical to sustaining an enduring and fulfilling partnership.

The First Thing to Do After an Agonizing Breakup

This is the single best way to accelerate the healing process after a break up or divorce.

Stop Obsessing or Fixating With a Fast Cognitive Technique

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on December 08, 2016 in Insight Is 20/20
One cognitive technique takes only a minute or two to do, and it can reroute your mood and thinking instantly. Why stay stuck in a bad mood or fixated on something negative?
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Loss of a Child

Eight ways to help a grieving parent.

Should You Use Affection as a Reward for Your Partner?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research investigates how making your affection contingent on your partner’s good behavior can be beneficial… or can backfire.

A Better Term Than Extremism

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Ambigamy
"Radical" and "extremist" are vague and relative terms. The better term is absolutist and it applies to any and all beliefs.

How to Improve Your Sex Life After Having Kids

By Erica Reischer Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in What Great Parents Do
Recent research has promising news for parents who wish their sex life were more like it was before kids.

Don't Confuse Filing With Closure in a Divorce

By Wendy Paris on December 08, 2016 in Splitopia
Rushing to make it legal can actually slow down your divorce and make closure harder.

Sexual Fantasy as a Form of Play

By Alexandra Katehakis MFT on December 08, 2016 in Sex, Lies & Trauma
How do you distinguish between which fantasies deepen sexual expression with healthy play, and which ones prey on others by repeating old traumas?

Don’t Forget the Holiday Gift for Your Romantic Relationship

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Dating and Mating
This holiday season, don't forget the most important gift of all, your romantic relationship.

When It's Time to Forgive

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on December 08, 2016 in Am I Right?
You've been hurt—maybe you shouldn't forgive.

Talking to Your BFF About Your Relationship Troubles

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
If you need to talk to someone, I highly recommend that you choose someone who can see the whole relationship, not just your side of it.

How to Make Yourself Infinitely More Attractive

By John Kim, LMFT on December 08, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
Make yourself more attractive.

What to Say When Someone Asks About Your Holiday Plans

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in The Friendship Doctor
Idealized holidays like Christmas have a way of making those with non-traditional families, very small families, or no families feel very sorry for themselves.

8 Ways for Parents To Build More Joy in 15 Minutes or Less

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Joyful Parenting
Research suggests that 15-minute bursts of focused time can help parents build more joy, strengthen their relationships, and recharge their batteries.

Do You Have the "Right" Amount of Ex-Partners?

By Ryan Anderson on December 08, 2016 in The Mating Game
A recent study has found some surprising results regarding an individual's sexual history. Neither men nor women want with either too much or too little sexual experience.

Pain, Sleep, and Affection

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on December 07, 2016 in Adventures in Dating
Do you think you get as much affection as you'd like? New research examines that perception, along with pain and sleep.

My Mother Has No Boundaries

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 07, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
How mothers and daughters can treat each other respectfully.

The 5-Question Holiday Relationship Test

Gain some insight into your relationship over the holidays by asking yourself these questions.

How Lawyers and Psychologists Are Helping Immigrant Children

By Rita Watson MPH on December 07, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
Immigrant children need a place to call home. But to find "home" requires pro bono lawyers, mental health professionals, sensitive school-based programs, and caring volunteers.

"I Wish I Stopped Trying to 'Fix' Myself 20 Years Ago"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 07, 2016 in How To Do Life
Reclusive Jaime Baird candidly describes himself and his life.

How to Really Be There When Your Partner Is Hurting

When the person you love most has experienced something deeply painful and traumatic, it can be difficult to know how to respond.

To Groom or Not to Groom?

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on December 06, 2016 in Cravings
A new study says trimming your pubic area can increase your risk of STIs.

Empathy Can Lead to Profound Insights

As empathy wanes, so does critical thinking, and both concepts are essential to a democracy.

How Important Is It to Build a Positive Disability Identity?

How can we encourage a positive disability identity? Here are some suggestions.
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When Introversion Is Just the Easy Answer

By Sophia Dembling on December 06, 2016 in The Introvert's Corner
Introversion can be an easy scapegoat for relationship problems, but claiming introversion is only the beginning of the discussion.

Not All Marriages Are Equal at Protecting Longevity

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 06, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Arguments for the health and survival benefits of being married have their limitations. The quality of the marriage and the impact of its loss are critical.

Caring for Others

5 steps you can use to move away from negative frustration into more positive actions and attention. Walk away and reject negativity to become kinder and more empathetic naturally.