All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not all innate. Failed relationships happen, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Why You Shouldn’t Overthink Your Relationship

A common piece of advice when you’re trying to make an important decision is to generate a pros and cons list. You think “Should I break up with my boyfriend”, and then you generate a list of your guy’s faults and assets. It turns out this strategy is remarkably ineffective in illuminating your true feelings about your partner. But why?

20 Signs Your Partner Is Controlling

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
The stereotype of a controlling partner is one who is physically intimidating and threatening. Sometimes, the signs are much more subtle-- but the danger is just as real.

5 Things to Do Today to Save Your Relationship

Because the only person we can control or change in a relationship is ourselves, it’s almost always worth it to do what we can to develop ourselves before we throw in the towel with our partner. Here are five things that can help any couple reignite their feelings of love.

Are You Tired of Being Judged?

We are being bombarded with implicit and explicit judgments in our professional and personal lives. Does constant evaluation take a toll on our psychological well-being?

Age Difference and Love

People raise eyebrows at couples who are far apart in terms of age. Anything over ten years apart is subject to question. The real truth is that there are so many other things that matter more when it comes to long-lasting love than how old the two of you are.

Good Management is Sustainable Management

By Victor Lipman on June 01, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
When I was in the corporate world, we had a saying about a certain kind of manager: “He got results, but he left a trail of bodies in his wake.” His (or her) methods were unsound, unsustainable. What are characteristics of sustainable management?

Rebound and Revenge Sex: New Insights Challenge Old Myths

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Myth: To get over breakups, people quickly jump into bed with new lovers, often strangers. Truth: Recent research shows that this is more the exception than the rule.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Rainbow weddings and "Mr. & Mr." or "Mrs. & Mrs." events are a growing phenomenon -- but keeping the relationship strong is equally challenging regardless of the gender identity of the couple!

I-candy: Evidence That You’re A-OK

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Ambigamy
Your ability to stay committed in any relationship depends on how much self-affirming I-candy you expect and how much you can tolerate its absence.

Why a Wife Bonus Won’t Buy You Security

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on June 01, 2015 in The Puzzle of Love
A new book explores the culture of the wealthy who use wife bonuses. Money aside, this may do more to undermine than to support a successful relationship.

Can May-December Romances Work?

How To Handle Feelings Toward An Older Man

Economic Disparity and the Unfaithful Spouse

By Rebecca Coffey on June 01, 2015 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
Do men who feel "pink washed" by their wives' earning power try to reclaim their masculinity by catting around?

Why Am I Lonely?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 01, 2015 in Open Gently
Anxiety can be the root of loneliness, not lack of social skills.

"Sorry, Honey, I Wasn't Listening. What Did You Say?"

Your partner might say, “I don’t mean to interrupt your discussion of my lack of affection, but look at this right away! Isn’t it the Goodyear blimp? Wow. Amazing. Now what were you talking about?”

What Is Sufism?

Sufism is not the Islam of fundamentalists - quite the reverse! It is a search for the truth of divine love through direct personal experience of God. Sufi practices have much in common with those of other world faith traditions, their efficacy backed up by modern neuro-scientific research.

Dealing With Commitment Issues And Noncommittal Lovers

Why do so many partners seem to prefer casual dating and friends-with-benefits, rather than deeper commitments and marriage? What can you do if you feel stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere? Learn about the research on commitment in romantic relationships—and find out what you can do to get him (or her) to commit!

Irrelation(Friend)ship

Irrelationship does not just have to do with romance, but friendship too. Do you get into a fix with friends sometimes? Do you recognize in friendships troublesome relational—irrelational—dynamics that are tanking opportunities for genuine emotional connection? Do you regret friendships which have failed and wish that you'd been able to hang onto those folks? Read on...

Happiness With Life 9: Making Friends With Death

Death can be your friend or your enemy. If you fear your death, you will create for yourself anguish and dread. If you embrace it as something you are inevitably moving toward, you use it to spur yourself to exult in each day as if it were your last.

How to Get Unstuck After Divorce

Does your divorce recovery need a boost?

A Child is Being Beaten—Ever or Never?

Hannah Arendt (1906-1975) made famous the stark phrase “the banality of evil.” This complex idea connotes colossal destructiveness done by men of less than colossal character. The everyday pervasiveness of senseless cruelty---humankind’s inhumanity toward itself---makes it clear that the inclination of destructiveness is real. Effective parenting is primary prevention.

Social Media Cannot Fix 'Being Alone'...Nor Should It

Being alone is not the same as loneliness, and it could be good for you.

Trust Your Gut If You Think He's Lying

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 30, 2015 in Open Gently
Fleeting expressions can indicate hidden emotions, and you can learn to see them.

Mommy Cliques: 7 Ways to Beat Being Outside the 'In' Group

When my son was a toddler I signed him up for a “gymnastics” group, hoping not only to use up some of his energy, but to find some friends for myself. Instead, I found that there was an "in" group of moms and kids -- and we were definitely on the outside. I felt like a third grader again. If you've ever been in this situation, you'll like these psychologically savvy ideas.

CROSSING THE BOUNDARIES

Should a woman act or become submissive because a man uses power gestures? Does he cue her to be acquiescent with his expansive, powerful, dominating behaviors?

What's The Most Important Decision You’ve Ever Made?

Life is full of choices and although we may not ponder each decision we make, some can turn out to have surprisingly important effects on our happiness. Use this 10-item quiz to take stock of the ones you’ve made and ask yourself which have had the greatest impact on the direction your life has taken.

Healing Anxiety Naturally

The original and best remedy for fear is a safe relationship: intimacy is the mother of all anxiety tonics.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 4

By Eyal Winter on May 30, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Jealousy, cheating and evolution

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

In the idyllic state of romantic love, you typically attempt to secure the object of your passion by putting their wants and needs ahead of your own. It’s as though you’re saying to yourself: “So I can make you mine, I’ll make fulfilling your desires more important than my own.” But that relational stance yet includes a crucial contingency clause. . . .

Is Technoference Wrecking Your Love Life?

Confronting technoference in your relationship: The risks involved in developing an addictive relationship with technology and encouragement to take steps to become less compulsive.

Why We Love To See Conspiracies

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 28, 2015 in Open Gently
People who believe in conspiracies may hold contradictory ideas about the same event.