All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. 

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What Sexual Harrassment Does to All of Us

By Elizabeth Young on December 10, 2017 in Adaptations
That’s a weird sentence, so I’m going to repeat it for emphasis.  I am privileged: I have never been threatened, assaulted, or raped. 

Why the Resentment?

Has your family gotten used to you doing the lions’ share of the work over the holidays? 3 suggestions for navigating your resentment.

Two Ways to Spot When a Suitor Is Becoming a Stalker

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 10, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
When it comes to attention, there can be too much of a good thing. When focus becomes fixation, it is time to end a relationship that has crossed the line.

Give Your Spouse the Gift of a Parenting Marriage This Year

By changing the focus of your relationship, you may actually be able to keep the family together as one unit in a happy healthy way.

How to Deal With Irrational Family Members Over the Holidays

By Dr. Gleb Tsipursky on December 10, 2017 in Intentional Insights
Want peaceful and productive engagements with irrational family members over the holidays in 5 steps? You can't skip this article!

Ten Tips for Preventing Infidelity

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on December 10, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Preventing infidelity isn't something you have to worry about as long as you and your partner stay communicative about your desires, your dreams and your devotion.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

Should You Tell A Friend That You Don't Like Her Partner?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to consider before telling your friend that you don't like her partner.

Why Not Alpha?

Does your dog bite, snarl or snap at you, despite your most devoted love and affection? Are you worried you may have an “alpha” dog?

The Many, Mini, Ways to Show You Care

It doesn't take a grand gesture to show someone that you care. With a "micro" act of kindness, according to new research, the payoff can be surprisingly high for both of you.

Love, Trust, and Sexual Infidelity

By Eyal Winter Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in Feeling Smart
Can a medication based on oxytocin treat sexual infidelity?

How President Trump’s Lies Are Different from Other People's

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in Living Single
I thought Trump would be more self-serving in his lies than most other people. He was. But that wasn’t what stood out most about his ways of lying.

Rethinking Authenticity

Being authentic does not mean standing alone; it means making worthy judgments about the people one chooses to stand with.

The Cure for an Imperfect Childhood

Some of us got off to a rough start in life, and for many of us, our childhood was missing the kinds of experiences that every child needs in order to thrive.

Why You Talk about Your Relationship with Friends

It's not what we say, it's why we say it.

Loneliness Is a Killer. Why Don't We Talk About It?

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on December 08, 2017 in Finally Out
We don't talk about loneliness because of a stigma: It feels like a failure in one of life's fundamental domains. But it is essential for our health that we talk about it.

A Game-Changer for Difficult Holiday Dinner Conversations

Dreading spending the holidays with relatives whose politics you can't stand? Doing this one thing is a game-changer.

My Parents Cheated. Does That Mean I Will Cheat?

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on December 08, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Infidelity is of constant interest, especially during the holidays when intimacy reigns. New research sheds light on how our parents' behavior affects our relationship decisions.

Toxic Tagging: Be Careful What You Post About Your Friends

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Avoid posting too much information about your connections; not everyone is comfortable sharing personal information online.

5 Ways Group Therapy Empowers You in Relationships

Want more out of your relationships? Group therapy can help.
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Romantic Love, Casual Sex, and Human Ecology

Do harsh environments foster short-term mating, and rich ones long-term commitment? Environmental effects on reproductive strategies are more complicated than one might think.

Are We Allowing Social Media to Dictate Our Happiness?

“A fixation with connecting with 'friends' online comes with the risk of disconnection with friends waiting for you to be present in the offline world.”

5 Things Psychopaths and Narcissists Do in Conversation

By Kaja Perina on December 07, 2017 in Brainstorm
He was betrayed by a wife who took everything. He's on retainer with the NSA. Whatever the disclosure, it comes before he even knows whether or not you are trustworthy.

You Don't Have to Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

Our fantasy of the perfect family holiday can drive us to do more, more, more – but more of what we didn't need to begin with can't fill those deep longings. There's a better way.

Men Want to Be Wanted Too

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on December 07, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Magazine articles abound about wooing women, very few about wooing your men. Yet men need the same declarations of being admired and desired.

Self-Blame or Self-Inquiry?

While self-blame is something to avoid, a self-inquiry into what they might have done to contribute to an unfortunate circumstance might prove extremely helpful.
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It's Better Going With the Dogs

By Matthew J. Edlund M.D. on December 07, 2017 in The Power of Rest
The many advantages of humanity's best friend.
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Five Reasons You Get Angry

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 07, 2017 in Fixing Families
Trouble managing your anger? Here are five common causes and their solutions.

How to Be a Secure Base of Attachment for the Holidays

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Does the thought of the family holiday gathering stress you out? Attachment theory can teach you to be a "secure base," lower everyone's anxiety, and enjoy your family and friends.

Couples Therapy: Does It Really Work?

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in In It Together
Are you wondering if couples counseling will work for you and your partner?