All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Three Tips for Staying Heart Healthy

Hint: Positive emotions can be extremely beneficial.

7 Ways to Truly Say You're Sorry

By Jen Kim on September 21, 2017 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Having trouble with apologies? You're not alone.

Communicating Mindfully in Relationships

Do you need to work on communication in your relationships? Try setting a relationship intention to communicate more mindfully with your partner.

When Online Friendships Cause Distress

It’s not uncommon for people to establish friendships with individuals who “show up” in online and virtual settings, but are these friendships "real" friendships?

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

Adoptees and Lying: Why Your Child Might Be Telling Lies

By Carrie Goldman on September 20, 2017 in Modern Day Parenting
Are you struggling to understand why your adoptee frequently lies? Learn how to empathize and respond.

Do Romantic Relationships Imply a Loss of Self? Should They?

A recent column by David Brooks raises the false dichotomy between individuality and sociality.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust IV: Emotional Triangles

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

How Many Americans Want to Be Single? Results of 5 Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Living Single
How many unmarried Americans want to be married? 5 studies suggest answers, but it will take a revolution to know for sure.

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Still Love Yourself

"I am leaving you for me. Whether I am incomplete or you are incomplete is irrelevant. Relationships can only be built with two wholes..."

Feeling Lonely? You May Be Damaging Your Health

Loneliness has been linked to inflammation and even higher mortality rates. Find out if you have an unhealthy level of loneliness and what you should do about it.

The Creepy Appeal of the Bad Guy Narrator

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Creating in Flow
When the bad guy pops into your head and demands a novel, what can you do? That's easy. You write from the point of view of a narcissist.

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles can affect our partner selection, the way in which we relate to our significant other, and the behaviors we display during the course of our relationship.

Why Do We Love the View From High Above?

By Andrea Bartz on September 19, 2017 in The Wandering Mind
The weird psychological reason you'll take an elevator to the 102nd floor.

10 Things I’ve Learned About Love in the Last 10 Years

By John Kim, LMFT on September 19, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
10 Love Lessons From A Therapist

Longing for More

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
What do you really want in life? Applying theory and research on the German concept of Sehnsucht may help you to better understand your quest and live well.

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.

16 Fun Games to Play with Toddlers & Preschoolers in the Car

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Car rides can be meaningful ways to engage with toddlers and young children. They can help strengthen a playful bond and grow children's vocabulary and skills.

Who’s Cleaning the House?

It’s not just physical labor. It’s about expectations, perceptions of fairness, and various emotions.

My Mother Tries to Control My College Life

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 18, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
I need help dealing with my controlling mother.
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The Key to Healthier Relationships

How partners can help one another change their attachment styles and deepen their relationship.

How Can Leaders Find Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on September 18, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the SHARP model for a happier life, an easy way to beat procrastination, and the number-one factor in predicting well-being.
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The Shadow in a Selfie

By Elizabeth Young on September 18, 2017 in Adaptations
Silence was the main means of communication about the deep, sharp tensions that sliced the fabric of family life.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

What Turns a Man On? For Some, It's Feeling Desired

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on September 18, 2017 in SexualityToday
A man whose deepest need is to feel desired may be analogous to one who gets excited by wearing women’s clothing. Best to just chalk it up to sexual diversity and accept it.

Choice in Consensual Non-Monogamy

How consent, personal responsibility, and mutual reliance enable polyamorous people to construct designer relationships.

Hooked on Disappointment

By Megha Pulianda, M.S., LPC-I on September 17, 2017 in The In-Between
Daring to break an unhealthy relationship cycle takes hard work and courage, but it can lead to a future of genuine love.

Deconstructing the Pumpkin Spice Latte Craze

September is here and that means one thing…Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte is Back! Have you ever wondered why this seems to be such a big deal to the general populace?

BIG FUN

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 17, 2017 in On Having Fun
There's a certain kind of fun we call "Big Fun." It's something massive, usually, demonstrably fun, alluring, freeing, even.

I Should Never Have Trusted Him (or Her)

If you have been deceived for years, you may have this same reaction. But should you?