All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not all innate. Failed relationships happen, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Recent Posts on Relationships

How to Parent Kids Who Simply Don't Get Along

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 25, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
If you have kids who simply don't get along, focus on separating them and encouraging solo play. It's a lot harder to parent kids who don't get along than those who have the usual sibling spats, so don't add stress to your life by telling yourself they should get along better. Parents already deal with enough 'shoulds.'

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Today both men and women worry about short-changing their children because of their both working, and their own parents often feed their guilt. The result is an epidemic of over- and under-parenting in which the needs of the children take precedence over the need of the parents, leading to out of control children who have trouble becoming responsible adutls.

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow (or not at all!) Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems that plague a couple’s sexual experience. Anxiety is the root cause of both problems. Solve these problems easily with two fun psychologically-oriented sex games.

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2015 in Living Single
A much-publicized study claimed that single mothers are at risk for poor health. Here's a less credulous analysis, starting with the fact that in many countries, there is no difference whatsoever between the health of the single and married mothers, and continuing with the actual factors that make a difference.

Heartbreak

In virtue of our human finitude, heartbreak is built into our caring engagement in the world.

Three Simple Steps to Heal Conflict and Strengthen Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on May 23, 2015 in Finding Love
This simple technique is designed to deepen all of your intimate relationships, including your relationship with yourself. Each of its three steps leads to a deeper state of authenticity, a gentle, skillful “overthrow” of the inner and outer voices which hold us back from deeper love.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences Session 3

By Eyal Winter on May 23, 2015 in Feeling Smart
(1) expression of love (2) sex without commitment (3) health concerns.

The Sad Case of The Duggars

How The Duggars Situation Contributed To Sex Abuse

Jennifer Aniston: How Long Is Too Long?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in Shrink Wrap
Indefinitely engaged?

What Really Motivates Kids

What really motivates kids (and adults for that matter)? Not rewards. Not punishments. Not even intrinsic motivation! My goodness -- what's left?

Premarital Sex Rises with Economies

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in The Human Beast
I have been analyzing Pew data on acceptance of premarital sex around the globe to see whether it fits in with the ecology of modern life. Is acceptance of premarital sex higher in developed countries? What about the risks of pregnancy, and disease? What about female participation in the workforce?

Do Older Married People Live More Happily Than Single Peers?

When marriage is enjoyed by two people later in life, it can be more rewarding and fulfilling than expected. By keeping in mind just a few tips, committed couples can improve their quality of life by exercising choices that are within their control.

A Relationship Advisor Talks About How To Be Single

By Donna Flagg on May 21, 2015 in Honestly
A chat with Tamsen Fadal about her new guide to empowerment after a big life change such as a breakup or divorce.

What Keeps You From Being Unconditionally Self-Accepting?

The desire to become your personal best is normal—and it’s admirable. But wanting to become better than others, not so much . . . maybe not at all. For, so defined, this particular goal reflects an inflated, aggressive, and possibly domineering ego. If you genuinely see yourself as unique—for, after all, there’s never been anybody exactly like you, then . . .

The Psychology of Plagiarism: Is Cheating the New Normal?

By Peg Streep on May 21, 2015 in Tech Support
Have we become a nation of cheaters, so focused on getting what we want that we don't care what means we use?

How to Avoid Thinking of Oneself as a Victim?

By Sheila Kohler on May 21, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
When my older sister was killed by her husband after a history of battering, I was in a rage. I sat down and wrote a novel in three months. I wrote out of anger and the sense that my sister had been a victim, an innocent, martyred woman, the mother of six small children, whose husband had killed her by driving a car off the road on a dry night no other car in sight.

How to Know if You’re Stuck in Your Grief Post-Divorce

Learn 7 tools that can help you get through your divorce grief and push through to the other side

Eight Tips For Curious Amateur Psychologists (Like Me)

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Ambigamy
"Don't psychologize or psychoanalyze me!" What's behind that ban and what can people interested in psychology do about it.

The Art and Heart of Writing a Letter

By Brad Waters on May 20, 2015 in Design Your Path
Handwritten letters to a pen pal can create special lifelong bonds.

How Can We Get Relief With "Mad Men" Ending?

In Mad Men’s season six finale, Don Draper asks, “What is happiness?” He then answers, “It’s a moment before you need more happiness.” Substitute happiness for relief—or, perhaps, merely mistake relief for happiness, or satisfaction, or fulfillment—and you have yourself at the very eye of the hurricane of the whole irrelationship song-and-dance routine. Goodbye, Don.

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

What emotional price do we pay for our lies? Here, I share nine lessons from Mad Men on how to stop your lies from destroying your happiness.

A Simple Way to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
The most common forms of miscommunication that lead to heated arguments are also the ones we least expect.

Irrelationship Is Not Codependency

Codependency may sometimes dovetail with irrelationship to the point that they’re not easily distinguishable. They may sometimes seem like kissing cousins, but at the level of purpose and of points of origin, they’re decidedly not identical twins.

What Is “Medical Food” for ADHD?

What is “Medical Food” for ADHD? Do Omega Fatty Acids Play a Role in ADHD Symptoms?

Synchronicity Can Signal Love Moments or Breakthroughs

Creating the environment that allows for you to aware of how synchronicity and its cousin, serendipity, can enrich your life.

Red Flags of Potentially Toxic Relationships

While most of us know at some level that a relationship has turned toxic, we may have a hard time admitting that we have made a poor choice in placing our trust in another.

Want to Keep Love Alive? Here’s How

Since May is Date Your Mate Month, here are a few ideas you might want to consider. Try some of these and add your own creative touches to the process of keeping romance alive! Taking time out of our busy lives to make sure that the intimate aspects of our relationship are thriving works wonders for the partnership and our lives as a whole.

The Hazard of Coasting in Your Partnership

We often coast in our important relationships rather than pay attention. Avoiding a slippery slope toward disconnection means being mindful of when we’re unwisely coasting.

4 Ways to Deal with Obnoxious People

Most of us can recall a situation in which someone behaved obnoxiously, offending you or the people with you in the room. Whether that target is you or someone else, these 5 strategies will help you smooth out an otherwise rough situation.

Staying Connected in Long-Term Relationships

In order to hold on to each other, you must first learn how to hold onto yourself.