All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires To Cheat

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on October 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We are often convinced that mistrust of our romantic partners is well-founded. Sometimes it is, but research suggests much suspicion is from our own projected forbidden desire.

Practicing Empathy in the Dating World: A Long Lost Skill

On the romance merry-go-round, many people will keep others in their lives until they find the next best thing while others may choose to "ghost" last night's date.

Secrets, Fear and Sexual Harassment

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 18, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How to handle sexual harassment.

What Is the Sexiest Emotion for Women to Display?

By Alec Beall, Ph.D. on October 18, 2017 in Aesthetics 101
Emotion research may provide happy women with yet another reason to smile.

Is Monogamy Still a Thing?

Sexual fidelity and emotional fidelity have typically held different meanings and values for romantic partners based on gender. Is this still true today?

How to Wield the Power of Vulnerability

Think about the last time you tried to have a conversation with someone who didn’t already agree with you. How well did it go?

12 Tips for Landing a Job at a Company You Admire

By Brad Waters on October 17, 2017 in Design Your Path
Online job applications not getting you a foot in the door of your favorite companies? Here are 12 tips for catching their attention.

3 Best and Worst Ways to Be a Friend When a Friend Needs You

A recent news article suggests that people need friends as well as lovers. When your friend’s relationship is in trouble, research shows what to do and not do as a confidant.

The Most Attractive (Invisible) Asset on a Date

If you set your device on the table on a date, beware: distraction signals disinterest. Instead, cultivate chemistry through the most significant silent compliment: your attention.

Bromance Over Romance, Say Men in New Study

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 17, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 30 heterosexual university men found that they valued their bromances more than their romances in every way except one.

Choosing a Romantic Partner

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on October 17, 2017 in In the Name of Love
It is mistaken to hold that keeping all romantic options open cannot be bad, as you can always select the best. There is a cost to this and too much of a good thing can be harmful.

Are You Confusing Comfort With Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on October 16, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the four pillars of meaning, why our culture has an obsession with happiness, and why happiness can’t be pursued.

How to Discuss Sex With Your Children

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 16, 2017 in All About Sex
Child and teen sex education resources contain misinformation and emphasize procreation over pleasure. Here's how to correct them.

100 Practices For Great Relationships

This list will assist you in identifying where your work is still required to become eligible for a great relationship.

Space Invaders

How a husband's retirement may not be something a non-working wife will cherish.

What Is Your Role in Your Relationship?

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on October 16, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Couples get into trouble when one person takes the role of a parent, and the other, the role of a child. Breaking down this dynamic can reveal how it's hurting our relationship.
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Teresa of Avila: Mystic, Visionary, or Flourishing Woman?

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on October 16, 2017 in What Matters Most?
Learn the top strengths of one of the most popular and influential saints, Teresa of Avila. How might this mystic inspire you to flourish?

5 Reasons Fear of Failure Sustains Toxic Love

There is far greater risk in holding onto unhappy relationships that do not meet an individual’s needs than there is in moving on. Five reasons fear of failure keeps people stuck.

Sometimes the Simple Sound of “Sorry” Stinks

"Sorry" can be a sorry excuse for an apology, especially in a text. Here's a better way.
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The Key to Forgiveness?

By Tim Cole Ph.D. on October 15, 2017 in Intimate Portrait
How easy is it to forgive a partner? The answer depends on how much you still believe that your partner cares and wants to do right by you.

The Science of Falling Out of Love

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on October 15, 2017 in Media Spotlight
New research explores the thorny question of how to cope after a failed relationship and what it can mean for long-term emotional health.

Sexual Harassment at Work: Why Bystanders Fail to Intervene

"If you see something say something" applies in the workplace to more than threat assessment. It should govern the way we approach identifying sexual harassment.

Three Ways to Spot a Sexual Harasser at Work

Do you have a sexual harasser in your workplace? Be attune for traits indicating narcissism, overperception of sexual interest, and objectification or dehumanization of women.

Time to Put Your Childhood Demons Behind You?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on October 15, 2017 in Fixing Families
Everyone has baggage from the past that haunts or handicaps them in some way. The 3 common sources and ways to finally put these demons to rest

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Look at the Big Picture

Daily events can derail a relationship all too easily. Remember the reasons why you came together, appreciate the glue that maintains your bonds, and understand what threatens.

How Lack of Sleep Affects Your Social Life

By David Ludden Ph.D. on October 15, 2017 in Talking Apes
Although the cognitive effects of sleep deprivation are widely known, few people pay much attention to the social side of sleep.

Sexual Harassment Victims Suffer in Silence: Here´s Why

Silence is not golden. Sexual harassment is an invisible epidemic that takes an emotional, physical, and financial toll on its victims--particularly in the workplace.

Is Harvey Weinstein Addicted to Love?

By Stanton Peele Ph.D. on October 14, 2017 in Addiction in Society
Harvey Weinstein sought a mother's love and admiration, combined with sexual devotion, in 20-year-olds, an addiction that doomed him.

Don’t Justify What You Want to Change

We justify resentment by citing evidence of unfairness and how badly other people behave. The more adrenaline we need for justification, the more subject to confirmation bias.

The Psychology of Romantic Love

By Neel Burton M.D. on October 14, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Could romantic love be little more than an ego defence?