All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Mastering The Art of Negotiation-Part 1

When we each know ourselves well, and develop negotiation skills to lobby for have our needs met, we thrive.
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New Research on Online Dating: The Surprising Key to Success

A science-backed strategy you just may want to try!

The New Science of Empathic Accuracy Could Transform Society

Contrary to popular belief, new research shows that the ability to interpret other people's emotions accurately requires more cerebral thinking and less intuition.

Who is That Big, Green Judging Machine?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on July 23, 2016 in Wander Woman
Judging and criticizing can be exhausting. So why does your brain thrive on hurling insults? Learn why and what you can do to gain peace of mind and better relationships.

How to Say What You Mean without Sounding Like You're Mean

In a time when opinions are key to almost any dialogue between people, you may wonder- what’s the best way to express yours? This simple approach will help you find your voice.
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Packing Heat: Writing about Sex

Writing a sex scene is like playing jazz: you shut down lose self-censorship.

The Surprising Things You’ve Never Wanted to Know about Love

We think of love as an entirely positive emotion, but there are some surprising downsides to being in love.
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Is Your School Helping or Hurting Your Child’s Literacy?

Reading is key to success. Five common teaching practices that don't work; and six ways to support kids in acquiring a love of reading that encourages learning across the lifespan.

The Dance of Relationship

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on July 22, 2016 in In Flux
Relationships are often compared to dancing. When partners are on the same page the dance looks easy and effortless. But what about a partner who constantly steps on your toes?

Taylor Swift: Is It Okay to Get Over the Old With the New?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on July 22, 2016 in Shrink Wrap
Does Taylor Swift move too swiftly?
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How to Talk About Sex

Having trouble talking about sex with your partner? Some tips for starting the conversation.

Can You Teach Someone to Love Their Job?

Confucius advised: “Choose a job you love and you will never work a day in your life.” Steve Jobs agreed, counseling: “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.”
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The Best Thing to Do Before Handling a Problem

What is one easy thing you can do before walking into a difficult situation?

Help Me: A Psychotherapist’s Tried-and-True Techniques

By The Book Brigade on July 21, 2016 in The Author Speaks
Those who strive for perfection rather than excellence often end up with self-condemnation. Yet they often justify their self-defeating beliefs with “personal propaganda."

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

5 Reasons We Tell People More Than We Should

There are many reasons why oversharers insist on telling you more than you want to hear.

How to Make Political Conversations More Productive

Being able to talk together constructively is a small but mighty consolation in these troubling times.
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Will the "Marriage Shift" Happen to You?

Your tendency to self-enhance can ruin your shot at long-term love.

I'm a Teen Mom With Mother Problems

How to deal with a controlling mother

Fear Keeps Depression in Place

Fear of success is sometimes a bigger obstacle than fear of failure.

How Couples Misunderstand Each Other

A heart-breaking experience of counseling couples is seeing good people suffer due to the entirely avoidable illusion of sameness.

4 Keys To Leaving A Bad Relationship

By Craig Malkin Ph.D. on July 20, 2016 in Romance Redux
So you’ve decided to leave a bad relationship, but something keeps pulling you back. Here are 4 strategies to leave for good.

Emotional Support Animals: The Therapist's Dilemma

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on July 19, 2016 in Animals and Us
Should therapists provide letters that will allow their clients to bring dogs on airplanes and have access to no-pets housing?

Can Pokémon Go Reduce Loneliness?

Pokémon Go has had a dramatic rise in popularity. Can this game impact players positively, including reducing feelings of loneliness? It is quite possible!

Tidying Up Craze: Toss Clutter, Forgive People

Tidying up seems to be a new craze. While it might be helpful to eliminate toxic people in your life, be certain to look inward and embrace forgiveness.

Is Honesty the Best Policy in the Bedroom?

Research on close relationships supports common lore which regard it as wise for you to be honest with your partner. Should this honesty extend to your sexual past as well?

The Role of 'One-Sided Sex' in Relationships

Peace-inducing sex is one-sided sex intended to maintain industrial peace within one’s relationship. Is it beneficial? Yes and no.

The Disunited States of America and the Bystander Effect

By Sean Cort on July 18, 2016 in The Power of Perspective
Our nation is actually a 'nation-family' and we are suffering from an illness that could prove fatal.

When It Comes to Marriage, Is All Conflict Bad?

Are you worried that your marriage is in trouble because you are fighting with your spouse? In fact, some conflict can actually be good, and avoiding conflict can be even worse.

The Paradox of "Tasteful" Gold Digging

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on July 18, 2016 in So Sue Me
Find out why the most unethical forms of gold digging are also the most likely to evade penalty.