All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Navigating Difficult People and Opinions During the Holidays

We are living in highly polarized, traumatized and mistrustful times. Here's how you can avoid turning Thanksgiving into Thanksblaming.

Reducing Host-Guest Tensions: How To Be A Good Houseguest

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Presence of Mind
Will you be a houseguest this holiday season? These houseguest guidelines will increase the odds of a successful visit unmarked by host-guest tensions.

Is a Bad Boy Good for You? The Case of Carmen Electra

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Are "bad boys" the trouble?

Ten Reasons Why Your Grown Kids Hate You

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Between the Lines
Wonder why you and your grown kids can't get along? Here are ten reasons, just in time for Thanksgiving dinner!

The Paradox of Relationship Commitment: Who Holds the Power?

When a relationship starts to go stale, here are some ideas for ramping it back up to speed.

The Parents of "Stranger Things"

By Mariana Plata on November 17, 2017 in The Gen Y Psy
What does Netflix's "Stranger Things" get right about parenthood? Exploring the psychology behind the hit series.

College Students and Thanksgiving Break

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Social Lights
Tips for enjoying the holidays with your adult children.

Why Is It Important to Have Personal Boundaries?

Boundaries are our guidelines for what you will and won’t accept in a relationship. They show people how to treat you and what to expect from you.
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Suicide Grievers Talk About Family and Friends

By Elizabeth Young on November 17, 2017 in Adaptations
“Does anyone else feel worried about the safety of a family member?”

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child?

By Asa Don Brown Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in Towards Recovery
Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation.
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Tis The Season

If you aren't looking forward to this holiday season, you aren't alone.

Testamentary Restraints on Marriage

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on November 16, 2017 in So Sue Me
Many parents have a lot to say about their children's love interests and relationship decisions. Some parents want to have the last word, even after they die.

Nonviolence in the Face of Hatred

By Miki Kashtan Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in Acquired Spontaneity
The practice of nonviolence begins precisely when our actions, words, or thoughts are not aligning with our commitment. Because our capacity often lags behind our commitment.

Lidia Yuknavitch's Love Letter to Fellow Misfits

By Jennifer Haupt on November 16, 2017 in One True Thing
Some of us manage to invent bodies, voices, and lives worth living even though we don’t fit in to the normative socius.

Are More Men “Marrying Up” Today?

Literature is filled with stories of economically disadvantaged women looking to find a mate who was financially able to provide for her; do men do this more often now?

Sexual Variety

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on November 16, 2017 in The Human Beast
There is an astonishing amount of variation in sexual behavior around the globe and over time. Many of these differences can be explained as adaptive responses to the environment.
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The Absent Presence for Suicide Grievers

By Elizabeth Young on November 16, 2017 in Adaptations
“I feel closer to them all,” Carla says.  “And I feel so sad to know they are gone from us.”

Why Random Acts of Kindness Matter to Your Wellbeing

Don't underestimate the value of being kind to others. One act of small kindness can release an enormous chain of positive events.

On Your Own

By Barbara Klein Ph.D., Ed.D. on November 16, 2017 in Twin Dilemmas
Does twin loneliness come to an end?

Psychologist vs. Psychiatrist With Wonder Woman in Between

A psychologist helped build up the comic book industry. In the 1950s, a psychiatrist wrecked it. Both saw comics' powerful potential, whether to improve society or destroy it.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust X: Breaking the Silence

I know of no relationship that improved without conversation.

Estrangement and the Holidays

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Complicated Love
Has estrangement from a parent or adult child led to holiday blues? The holidays bring opportunities to reconnect or to begin healing.

How to Neutralize Your Partner’s Defenses

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
Unlike courtship, once couples enter into a presumably lasting commitment, they both—however unconsciously—focus more on what they never really liked about each other.

The Nine Ingredients of Great Sex

By Michael Castleman M.A. on November 15, 2017 in All About Sex
It's not that difficult to enjoy great sex. Just incorporate these nine elements into lovemaking.

What Do You Bring to the Dating Table?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
Read now for the the 5 questions to ask yourself.

Really Getting Real! Part 2

What follows is an example of what such a self- characterization can sound like when it is delivered at the beginning of a relationship with the intention...

Is Your Sexuality Harmonious or Obsessive?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on November 15, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Research suggests that distinguishing between harmonious and obsessive passion is a useful psychological re-frame and associated with different outcomes.
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One Question That May Determine Whether Your Love Will Last

The one question that may determine whether your love will last

Stars Who Sexually Harass and Fans Who Love and Hate Them

How do we deal with it when someone we love does something we hate?

Emotion Rules When There is Depression

Negative thinking styles have more power than positive ways of thinking when you're depressed. Try MAP or move, ask, play.