All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

The Loneliness Epidemic & What We Can Do About It

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in Feeling It
Our need to feel special is creating a loneliness crisis. Here's what we can do!

How To Keep Disagreements From Becoming Fights

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Ambigamy
Supreening: Posturing or preening like you're the supreme judge deciding who's right – you or your opposition.

The Art of Choosing a Romantic Partner (Part Two)

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Why do we choose the romantic partners that we do? And what shapes the choices we make? New research provides some interesting insights into partner selection.

Relaxing the Over-Controller

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
How do we shift from the identity of a controlling, wanting, fearing self into a compassionate witness that can see what is going on and knows how to rest and just be?

Making Romance Last, Part 2

Novelty is characterized by newness, freshness, unconventionality, unfamiliarity, difference, imaginative, creativity, and innovation.

The Badass Personalities of People Who Like Being Alone

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Living Single
What are the personality characteristics of people who like spending time alone? What about people who are unafraid to be single? Four studies offer an affirming profile.

Now What? How to Talk with Your Millennial Kids about Love

Young adults want their parents to talk with them about the complexities of romantic relationships. The "Marriage 101" professor shares some questions to help you get started.

Not All Smiles Project the Same Image

Custom make your smiles to ensure you send the right message.

Splitting Your Ex Makes Breakup Recovery That Much Harder

Splitting is the mental magician trick of remembering your ex as only good and impedes breakup recovery. Here are five things to know about splitting to help you move on.
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Why Complainers Need Your Compassion

The freedom to complain is part of a healthy society. Here's how best to respond to your own, or someone else's, occasional complaining.

The 5 Defense Mechanisms that Can Sabotage Your Relationship

Defense mechanisms are a common way to manage anxiety, but they can get in the way of your close relationships. New research shows how to make your defense mechanisms work for you.
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Why We Should Be Having More Meaningful Conversations

Meaningful conversation is linked to happiness? Introverts got it right.

Some Tips for Staying Married

Suggestions from a long-married guy for keeping your marriage going beyond those first few crazy-in-love passionate years (or months).
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Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive?

Passive-aggressive try to block whatever it is you want. You feel their unspoken anger. Learn the signs and what you can do.

Parents, Your Millennial Wants to Talk with You about Love

A new report from Harvard indicates that millennials long to talk with their parents about romantic relationships. Here's how to get your intergenerational love dialog started.

I Am a Teen and Have Feelings Toward a Teacher

How to deal with feelings toward a teacher.

Broken Heart Syndrome: New Research and Tips on Recovery

Stress cardiomyopathy, which primarily affects women, has not been considered life-threatening. But new research shows that it can have long term physical effects.

The Relationship Benefits of Going “Facebook Official”

On Facebook, one of the secrets of relational success is publicly disclosing relational status. This digital promise ring reflects stronger, more committed relationships.

Old Selves and New

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on June 19, 2017 in I Hear You
Ever feel like one type of person in some relationships, and a completely different one in others? Here's how psychotherapy uses this phenomenon to bring about change and insight.
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Five Ways Your Partner Can Help You Stay Cheerful

With conversation and compromise, you and your partner can avoid BIS—Bitchy Introvert Syndrome.

First Date

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in In It Together
Are you missing the important signs of a match on first dates? Here are some characteristics of a healthy, happy match.

What Is Leadership Presence and How Can It Be Developed?

By Peter Bregman on June 19, 2017 in How We Work
What is leadership presence and how can it be developed? Lisa also turns the tables and interviews me for my take on my best insights on how to develop leadership presence.

Making Romance Last: Part 1

Enlarging our comfort zone is good for us as individuals and terrific for us as a couple. Our life becomes more interesting and creative.

Getting Over a Grudge: The Case of Taylor and Katy

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Wrong or right, does it matter?

What Happens When Partners Fight Chronic Pain Together?

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in Think, Act, Be
When one partner battles chronic pain, both partners suffer. A new treatment program offers hope—and lessons that can strengthen any relationship.

My Relationship Ended. Now What?

None of us are taught how to grieve "right." After a breakup, it's important to give grief its due so we can heal, move on, and open up to love again.

Reflections on a Father's Day Mystery and Its Impact

Why did he run away from the orphanage at 14 and hop freight trains across Canada? What led him to settle into a life that sought security but harbored unfulfilled dreams?
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Dangerous Things Kids Do

Adolescents seek out novelty and excitement as they explore their sense of identity, which leaves them vulnerable to dangerous trends and people.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Pitching In

In a situation requiring an extra hand, pitching in offers ways to show love.

Breakthrough or Breakup

A breakdown is a usually unexpected interruption in a relationship that leaves one or both people feeling, upset, angry, disappointed, hurt, or in some way incomplete.