All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Toxic Friend or Just the Product of a Toxic Environment?

Sometimes non-toxic friends display toxic relationship behaviors.
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How to Deal with Difficult People in Your Life

When it comes to dealing with difficult people, you have to be the one to set boundaries, express yourself, and continue to speak up about what’s okay and not okay for you.

The Rules of Disengagement

Even though No Contact is hard after a breakup, it's a necessary step to healing.

What Does Prayer Do? What Does Love Do?

The two aspects of human consciousness that must be experienced and their psychological significance personally understood if one is to become psychically whole.

How Does A Narcissist Think?

Here is how narcissistic behavior is dangerous and harmful to others.

The Best Preparation for Marriage

Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created.

Why Do You Find Someone Attractive?

Researchers have spent years studying the attraction process. Want to learn some of what they know? I summarize some findings here.

Forget Co-Parenting With A Narcissist, Round 2

Establishing peace of mind and parenting rules, despite a toxic ex is possible. Here are five additional tips.

Who Is Having Threesome Sex?

Psychologists ask young adults whether they would be up for a spot of multi-partner sex. Let’s see what they found out.

To Find The Right Person, Be The Right Person

To find the right person, you need to BE the right person. Healthy people are attracted to those who lead exciting, interesting lives. Cultivate that life and become that person.

When Is the Best Time to Have Sex?

Misinformation about sex is just about as pernicious as no information about sex. Both are worse than having lots of information about sex.

Narrative Expressive Journaling Could Help Your Vagus Nerve

A new study found that "narrative expressive journaling" (in which you create a storyline with self-distancing) reduces stress better than extremely emotional "expressive writing."

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Cheerleading

You can cheerlead for a loved one with encouragement, logistical, or material support. In showing love by expressing priorities, you helping them respect and love themselves.

Why Do Unhappy Couples Stay Together?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 21, 2017 in Talking Apes
Future expectations are a better predictor of whether a relationship will last than are current levels of satisfaction.

When You're Not Sure Therapy and Self-Help Is Working

Sometimes we are not sure the hard work on ourselves is paying off. It's important to trust the process.

The 5 Worst Email Mistakes and the 5 Best Ways to Avoid Them

Email can be dangerous territory, which can make or break your personal and work life. New research on email etiquette shows how important its proper use can be.

“Do You Take This…”

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 20, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about the decision to marry.

The Choices We Make Create History, So Choose Wisely

One of the infinite number of choices we make is how we deal with conflicts and disputes.
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The Power of Curiosity Part 2

Why is it so hard for us to listen to others with opposing points of view?

Will You Be Less Depressed If You Get Married? Two Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 19, 2017 in Living Single
When single people marry, do they get less depressed? Are married people less depressed than people who are cohabiting or dating or single with no romantic partner?

Negotiating with Your Teenager

Your child is not your enemy. You have to be willing to negotiate and prepare your own thoughts and reasons for why you say what you do and to share those reasons with your child.

Ethics and Trust at Work

Avoiding wrongdoing isn't the same as doing what's right when it comes to building trust at work. Neither is quiet compliance.

Reclaiming Human Dignity

Have you experienced religiously-based abuse or violence? This post explores the ideological basis for Judeo-Christian patterns of aggression.

Do You Trust Your Partner?

Trust is one of the keystones of any relationship—without it two people cannot be comfortable with each other and the relationship lacks stability.

Face-to-Face Connectedness, Oxytocin, and Your Vagus Nerve

A new study reports that oxytocin "love hormone" levels surge during a romantic crisis. These findings reaffirm a link between the vagus nerve and our need to "tend-and-befriend."

Why Do We Roast the Ones We Love?

By Jesse Marczyk Ph.D. on May 18, 2017 in Pop Psych
Why do are insults between friends cordial, but insults between stranger not?

When Do Friends Matter Most?

By Lydia Denworth on May 18, 2017 in Brain Waves
Having friends is strongly associated with health and longevity, but scientists are only starting to ask when the effects of social relationships emerge and how long they last.

5 Tools to Heal Your Ability to Love Unconditionally

Before we can experience unconditional love from outside, or give it to our children, we need to give it to ourselves.