All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not all innate. Failed relationships happen, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Recent Posts on Relationships

What makes Online Friendships Work?

Can online "friendships with strangers" be as meaningful as face-to-face friendships can be?

Love on the Rebound

A rebound is not necessarily a bad thing so long as you are honest with yourself and others.

How to Answer the Number One Question People Always Ask

What do you think is the most common question you ever get asked? Hint: It’s one you usually answer without any thought. You may not realize it, but your responses to conversation openers may actually be conversation enders.

You Can't Stop the Pain Unless You Know What Hurts

Learning to observe ourselves and others is a key to healthy and happy relationships.

The Motherhood Constellation

Does motherhood change how a woman views the world?

Do you Try Too Hard?

Trying too hard: the kiss of death for relationships

When I Couldn't Say Goodbye

It was shocking to feel so typical.

What Drives Your Happiness With Work?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on October 09, 2015 Ulterior Motives
As a college student, I spent a lot of time thinking about what my work life would be like. I watched the adults in my life and saw that not everyone loved the work they did. Many of them were glad that they could provide for their families, but did not head to work in the morning excited to do their jobs.

Why "Twilight" is Worse Than Just a Bad Book

Why is "Twilight" scary? As a romantic fantasy, it's a damaging one; for a trashy book, it's a lousy one; and as an for escape for a young woman who's longing to break out of her everyday confinements, it's a trap.

Love And Manipulation

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 08, 2015 Ambigamy
Understanding how affirmations work will help hone your ability to discriminate between genuine and manipulative flattery.

The Problem of Phubbing

A recent study has shown that people who attend to their cell phones in the presence of their partner – or do what researchers call “phubbing” are less satisfied in their relationships. So, what should you do if you’re being phubbed? Or if you’re the phubber?

You're Not My Real Mother (Part 1)

What if the person closest to you suddenly felt like a different person? Individuals suffering from Capgras delusions believe that a loved one has been replaced by an imposter. Here's why.

Could a Social Network Motivate You to Exercise More?

Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania Annenberg School of Communication have identified a new way to use social networks to motivate people to adopt healthier behaviors and exercise more.

A Trip to the Moon on Gossamer Wings

Why does love sometimes blind people to obvious risks? Master manipulators thrive when we show ourselves to be naive and reckless. When it comes to romance, don't be a rube.

Venus and Iris

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 08, 2015 How To Do Life
A children's story but not really. How much should we sacrifice for love? And are there different expectations for men and for women?

Why Some Women Perceive Anger in Other Women’s Faces

New research shows that women tend to attribute more hostility to other women's faces than is actually present. The notion of “resting bitch face”, the tendency for a woman’s neutral face expression to appear angry or annoyed, has been catching on in the media. These studies suggest that whether women detect resting bitch face may be due to competition with other women.

I Like You Because Your Girlfriend Is Hot

By Ryan Anderson on October 07, 2015 The Mating Game
Why is it that people with attractive partners are so romantically desirable? Science has an answer

Jonny Hawkins Explains Why Mental Illness is a Family Affair

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on October 07, 2015 Brick by Brick
Johnny Hawkins of the band Nothing More shares his family's story of mental illness and how he is working to raise awareness for mental health.

Leslie Pietrzyk: Grief and Condolences

By Jennifer Haupt on October 07, 2015 One True Thing
After my husband died I needed help but didn't know how to ask. A funeral is many things, including that giant to-do list, but repairing a shattered life is pretty much only one thing: hard work. The paradox is that no one else can do it for you, yet you can’t do it alone.

Why Are So Many Parents Limited in Loving Their Children?

In my observation of families, I have noted countless examples of well-meaning parents engaging in behavior that is insensitive, mis-attuned, or harmful to their children, while earnestly believing that they love them and have their best interests at heart. There are several reasons why it’s often difficult for parents to love their children.

Courage in Relationships: Conquering Vulnerability and Fear

It’s a profound—and paradoxical—truth that courage isn’t really courage at all unless there’s some fear attached to it. Without a moment’s hesitation before taking on something felt as hazardous, the act would exemplify not so much courage as foolhardiness or mindless impulsivity. As Mark Twain put it: “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear—not absence of fear."

Why We Love to Be Scared

By Margee Kerr Ph.D. on October 07, 2015 Why We Scream
Wonder why chills run down your spine (in a good way) at the first sign of fall? Here's why.

A Performance Review... for Your Marriage?

What's the secret to marital bliss? Maybe an occasional performance review.

The 6 Worst Relationship Habits and How to Overcome Them

We typically think of habits as bothersome behaviors that affect us as individuals. However, there are habits that couples develop which can be just as bothersome, if not more so. By keeping us from getting the most we can out of our closest bonds with others, they can stand in between us and true relationship happiness.

Why Do Brain Injuries Look Like ADHD?

What you should know about the similarities and differences between brain injury and ADHD.

Do You Feel Like a Failure? 4 Things You Should Do

By Peg Streep on October 06, 2015 Tech Support
Taking a close look at why some people recover from failure, and others don't, and what you can do to help yourself.

Textual Relations

In Reclaiming Conversation, Sherry Turkle reprises her concerns about the downside of technology on family life, romantic relationships, friendships, education, work, and the public square. By "reclaiming conversation," she maintains that we can restore our capacity for self-reflection, empathy and genuine intimacy. But it won't be easy.

The Golden Rule in Love Relationships

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on October 05, 2015 The Puzzle of Love
Practicing the Golden Rule can transform a relationship. Couples who treat each other as they would like to be treated create a bedrock of security that will serve them well.

Criticizing Personal Autonomy

The free person is not the angry loner, willfully standing apart from those who would sap his energies. Nor is she the enthusiastic manager of others, who directs and controls their behaviors - and reaps the satisfactions of her manipulations. Free people are those who recognize the legitimacy of other people’s participation in their own lives

Friend or Foe?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Being friendly can make you feel confident and happy, have a positive take on other people, and move toward the world instead of backing away from it.