All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of fulfillment outside of ourselves. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not all innate. Failed relationships happen, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance, you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Recent Posts on Relationships

The Science of Betrayal

A betrayal by someone you trust is one of the most challenging interpersonal situations you can face in life. Whether through infidelity or a failure to fulfill a promise, betrayal leads to a desire for revenge, particularly in some people. New neuroscience research suggests who’s most likely to be hurt by a betrayal and why.

10 Signs Your Co-Worker / Colleague is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance. At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic co-worker can be annoying and frustrating at best, and a serious threat to your career at worst. Here are ten signs that your colleague might be a narcissist...

What Women and Men Do with their Hands

A single behavior can have multiple meanings in different cultures and can get us in trouble! For instance, the ring gesture (the circle created by the thumb touching the index finger) with which Americans convey “Okay,” means “You are a zero” in France and Belgium.

16 Breaking up Tips and How Journaling Eases Heartbreak

Research tells us that writing about the positive aspects of the relationship has healing value.

Spinster is the New Black

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 25, 2015 in Living Single
Single people are having a moment. Articles are popping up everywhere about ways of living fully and joyfully outside of marriage and nuclear families. Suddenly, spinster is the new black. The question is, who gets to wear it?

The Problem With People-Pleasing

By Kristi Pikiewicz PhD on April 24, 2015 in Meaningful You
Do you bend over backwards to make everyone else happy? Then why are you so lonely? Here's why being a people pleaser is a losing long-term strategy.

Hate Small Talk? It’s a Skill Worth Learning

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on April 24, 2015 in Off the Couch
Do you hate small talk? You’re not alone, of course. Maybe you’re shy, or introverted, or maybe you’re bored by it. Or do you get irritated by the apparently endless and meaningless chatter? Here are 5 reasons to change your mind. And 5 techniques for getting better at it.

What Do We Love About Sports?

What makes sports so captivating?

5 Signs You’re Overdue for a Breakup

By Kira Asatryan on April 24, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Is your relationship past its expiration date? Learn the signs.

Twelve Tips for A Stronger, More Satisfying Relationship

You can get the love you want by using these twelve strategies.

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

How do you recover from one of the most painful life experiences?

How Well Do You Understand Your Emotions?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 24, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
How tuned in are you to your emotions?

Lust and Loyalty: When Sex and Love Don’t Mix

The difference between fantasy and hot-blooded betrayal.

Are Babies Contagious?

We commonly consider fertility outcomes to be idiosyncratic or accidental. But parenthood spreads through social networks, passing between siblings, friends, and co-workers. Why might the baby bug be so contagious and how do prospective parents catch it?

I Feel Your Pain: The Neuroscience of Empathy

Mirror neurons help us detect pain and emotion in others and evidence that empathy has biological roots.

7 Research-Based Reasons Internet Dating Doesn't Work

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on April 23, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Be wary of online chat Online dating is not a quick fix We make bad decisions in online dating

“Let’s Move In Together!” Famous Last Words?

Test-driving a relationship by moving in together before marriage seems like the cautious thing to do. But couples who live together prior to marriage are at higher risk for relationship troubles and divorce. Why do these relationships falter and how can you avoid possible negative effects of premarital cohabitation?

What Does the Dog's Gaze Do?

By Mark Derr on April 22, 2015 in Dog's Best Friend
Japanese researchers make a lofty claim for what staring into your dog's eyes does to you and your dog.

Revisiting “Be Here Now”

Being here now is a term that is often misunderstood. Rather that use spiritual practice to avoid feelings, what would it mean to embrace our feelings?

Love Is a Roller Coaster

Freefalling into love is most thrilling when we've made a climb.

Do You Have These 21 Essential Relationship Skills?

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on April 22, 2015 in In Practice
Try this quiz about your relationship skills.

Rocky Partnership? Here's How To Decide What To Do.

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 22, 2015 in Ambigamy
Compatibilities are easy. They're the free space on the bingo board of love. The incompatibilities will get you if you don't manage them well. Here's a quick but powerful test for inventorying the incompatibilities.

Happy Earth Day! Learn the Secret to Relationship Values!

By Kira Asatryan on April 22, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Is "having the same values" required to make a relationship work? What if you value the environment and he doesn't?

Why Regret May Not Always Be a Bad Thing (But Sometimes Is)

By Peg Streep on April 22, 2015 in Tech Support
Regret, paradoxically, can both make you unhappy and, sometimes, provide the boost you need to make better choices for yourself and increase your happiness. A look at how regret functions in different individual's lives.

Which Parent Do You Love More?

Parents are told not to favor one child in the family, but there are no rules that govern how children ought to feel about parents. One theory of family relationships can help provide perspective on this surprisingly under-researched area.

A Destination Divorce? Get Outta Town! No, Really

By Wendy Paris on April 21, 2015 in Splitopia
You don’t need to travel to get a divorce today, but purveyors of tropical divorce getaways insist you might reach a better agreement under the swaying palm trees of someplace else.

6 Reasons Nice People Hurt Your Feelings

Are your feelings easily hurt? These tips can take the sting out of the thoughtless things people can say.

Extinguishing Gender Roles, Igniting the Romance

When you think about it, being flexible in your role (gender or otherwise) is an obvious plus. It allows you and your partner to find middle ground by seeing things through a common lens.