All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. You can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Recent Posts on Relationships

The Procrastinator

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 13, 2016 How To Do Life
A short-short story based on my procrastinating clients.

Fall in Love with You This Valentine's Day

Do you love, honor, and respect yourself? Unconditionally?

"Master Thieves" Author Talks Gratitude and Art

Have museum neighbors felt the loss of the art treasures -- gifts of gratitude -- they have not seen in 25 years? Would they tolerate the theft of a World Series trophy?

Are You Dating Your Mom or Dad?

By Jean Kim M.D. on February 12, 2016 Culture Shrink
People often don't realize how strongly the relationship to their first love, their parent, affects their future romantic relationships.

5 Ways People Self-Sabotoge in Romance

Consider that there may be deeper forces operating between you and your partners--here are 5 common ways people self-sabotage in romance.

Red and Valentine’s Day

Science should inform the colors you choose for Valentine's Day.

Top 7 Gifts Given to Lovers

The psychology of gift giving is complex. These over-the-top gifts were meant to show love and affection.

Eating Disorders and Romantic Relationships

How to help when your partner is struggling with an eating disorder.

Are Holidays Only for the Happy?

By Laurie Helgoe Ph.D. on February 12, 2016 Introvert Power
Does the "Happy" wish associated with holidays leave you feeling excluded? You are not alone.

Dolphin Parenting: A Cure for Tiger Moms and Jellyfish Dads

By Shimi Kang M.D. on February 11, 2016 The Dolphin Way
Why dolphin parenting is the answer for 2016!

Valentine’s Day, Love, and the Broken Soul

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on February 11, 2016 Obesely Speaking
Even if you are lucky enough to find "true love" – do you know where to get the app for it?

Love, Selfishness, and Self-Interest

By William Irwin Ph.D. on February 11, 2016 It’s Your Choice
Does one really love the other person, or does one just love the feeling of being in love? Are we doomed to solitude? Or can we build a bridge between the self and other?

How Deep is Your Love?

Do you feel like you’re not enough? Is your Valentine’s Day doomed to be dismal? It doesn't have to. Find out what it means to right with yourself.

Teens and Sex

Afraid to discuss "the birds and the bees" with your teen? Here are a few tips.

Thriving, Cognitive Complexity, Bee Wisdom—and You

By Carol S. Pearson Ph.D. on February 11, 2016 The Hero Within
To thrive in today’s world, it is critical to be able to track emerging cultural stories that empower rather than limit you.

How Your Unconscious Mind Is Keeping You Single

Many people are consciously and happily single. But if you are interesting in finding a mate, consider these unconscious factors which may be affecting your status.

Your Brain in Love

By Joe Pierre M.D. on February 11, 2016 Psych Unseen
What does neuroimaging tell us about romantic love?

Valentine's Day—Love's Amateur Night

Valentine’s Day provides an opportunity to test the waters and see what it might be like if we allowed the intimacy and vulnerability of our partnership to happen every day.

Is the Love You Take Always Equal to the Love You Make?

Are equality and reciprocity essential to romantic relations, as is commonly assumed? The surprising answer is negative: they are not necessary, not always, and not every kind.

Loneliness Has an Antidote and You’ll Never Guess What It Is

By Kira Asatryan on February 10, 2016 The Art of Closeness
Make more friends? Nope. Improve social skills? Nope. The secret to overcoming loneliness is something you’ve never heard of.

Just Get Over it and Move On!

Are you a survivor of childhood sexual abuse or in a relationship with someone who is? Why are sentences like "Just get over it" the wrong thing to say?

Little Treasure, Little Sun, Little Mouse

Idiosyncratic communication among couples is associated with relationship satisfaction.

"I Don't Like My Wife"

If you want to know what's going on, ask in such a way that is likely to get you an honest answer.

Sex in Marriage

Do men and women have different sexual agendas?

Exercise for the ADHD Body and Mind

How does exercise help adults with ADHD?

Do Separate Bedrooms Signal Marriage Problems?

A couple’s sex life can improve when they have found a sleeping arrangement that allows good quality sleep for both of them.

8 Expectations It's Good to Have in Relationships

Feeling shy about asking for what you need? You're entitled to the basics. Find out what they are, and ask with confidence.

20 Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with Best Friends

Spending Valentine's Day with your best friend may be a lot more fun than trying to stage the "perfect" romantic evening with a date.

Four Great Relationship Hacks

By Karl Pillemer Ph.D. on February 10, 2016 Lessons for Loving
Feel like your relationship is going stale? Here's some advice for people who've been through the relationship doldrums.

6 Seductive Body Language Channels

What does seduction really look like?