All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Toxic People

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on September 24, 2016 in In Flux
Several people weighed in on 8 Common Traits of Toxic People. Here are some of their thoughts, and mine, that will hopefully help shed more light on the subject.

Social Skills 101: Test and Improve Your Niceness Quotient

Social skills are such a key part of life that most of us rarely give them conscious thought. New research will provide a tool for you to do a reality check on yours.

Why I Wish I Could Be a Narcissist

Simply put, life might be easier as a narcissist.

Myth: I’m Too Old to Find Love

Everyone dreams of finding sweet love.

Marrow: A Love Story: Sitting Down With Elizabeth Lesser

By Mark Matousek on September 23, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
Author Elizabeth Lesser, talks about her new book, Marrow: A Love Story. It's a sister's tale of becoming a donor and what it taught her about the meaning of love.

How to Make Things Better by Making Them Worse

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Think Well
While it's counter intuitive, sometimes to make things better we first have to make them worse. Here's how to understand and use the power of paradox to solve many problems.

When Food = Love, Saying "No" Can Be Tough

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on September 23, 2016 in Cravings
Whether it's a box of candy or a second helping of your grandma's famous lasagna, sometime you have to (carefully) refuse.

Transitioning From Lovers to Partners

Marriages change over time. Partners go from passionate to more companionate.

5 Common Ways Money Issues Wreck Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are some frequent ways that money damages partnerships.

The Power of Grief

Grief is a powerful healer. Instead of running from it, we need to embrace it so it can do it job.

On Becoming an Orphan

By Madelon Sprengnether on September 23, 2016 in Minding Memory
My older brother and one remaining sibling died suddenly last spring. He was just shy of his seventy-seventh birthday, so you might think I was prepared. I wasn’t.
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3 Ways to Improve Wellbeing at Work

The word ‘wellbeing’ is increasingly being thrown around workplaces today.

The Secret to Great First Impressions

By Keith Rollag Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Being Good at Being New
Struggle with networking? Here is a simple but powerful approach to make your more confident and successful.

What Does Trust "Look Like" at Work?

Engaged people do great work. Who wouldn't want that as a leader? But are you making enough trust currency to enable these behaviors? Take this quiz to find out.

Are Men Attracted to Clever Women?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
The claim that men are intimidated by clever women has been backed by the results of a new study of speed-dating by Polish economists.

Changing Someone's Mind

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in How To Do Life
Tips I'm only moderately confident in...but they're the best I can come up with.

My Advice for Brad and Angelina (And the Rest of Us)

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
We all know how to have a destructive divorce. Just be the same two people you were when you were married. Having a civil divorce is much harder. Here's how.

The Formula!

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Ambigamy
Here's the real secret, passed down through generations of tyrants and self-proclaimed infallible know-it-alls.

Is Your Partner Annoying the Crap Out of You?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Petty annoyances are inevitable in any partnership, but you needn’t drive each other insane. Here are 5 approaches that can help you get off the train to Crazytown.

Passionate Surrender

Fear of passionate surrender is rooted in an underdeveloped sense of self. Passionate surrender is a joyous function of a fully realized adult brain.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

Small Bits of Bravery to Accomplish Anything

By Susan Harrow on September 21, 2016 in The Body Blog
Bravery comes in many forms. What if you can do one brave act a day, no matter how small to build your bravery?

Why It Feels So Good When Your Ex Gets Dumped

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Dating and Mating
Why does it feel so good when you find out that your ex has been dumped by his or her latest lover?
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How Can I Be a Better Friend?

By Sophia Dembling on September 20, 2016 in The Introvert's Corner
An introvert worries about how to be a good friend to friends who matter.

Record Numbers Are Single and Writing Their Own Life Scripts

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Living Single
More Americans than ever before are unmarried – and most of them have never been married. They may also be more diverse than ever in the ways they live and the people they love.

How Do Relationships Survive Long Distance?

What makes a long-distance relationship work?

World Psychosynthesis Day

The synthesis of the psyche is an invitation, and in these difficult days, a mandate, towards creating inner and outer peace. Psychosynthesis offers a path towards that.

“You’re SO Controlling!”

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

8 Ways to Overcome a Blow to Your Ego

It’s tough to lose at something that matters to you, whether a race with hundreds of strangers or a bet with your best friend. These 8 tips will help you bounce back from defeat.

Is It Too Late to Say Balti?

By Vyv Evans Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Language in the Mind
What is the nature of punning? Musical puns in TV adverts provide an unexpected venue to explore the linguistics of humor.