All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

The Real Narrative of Life

Every story is unique. But the path always leads back to one’s Authentic Being. Love is the sustenance, and authenticity is the fountain of our aliveness.

♪ When You’re in Love With a Beautiful Woman… ♫

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
New research shows that we keep a closer eye on our love rivals if our partner is hotter than us.

What Makes Friends Become More Than Friends?

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in In Love and War
Want to turn a friendship into a romance? This simple strategy just might work.

What Melanoma Taught Me About Patient-Provider Relationships

An eye-opening experience as a medical professional is forced to evaluate the patient-provider relationship from the patient's perspective.

Business Connections Complicated by Irrelationship

Everyone knows that "history" causes problems in romantic relationships. It's equally true in business relationships, as this case so pointedly illustrates.

Fighting: Threat and Damage as Ineffective Communication

Winning is sharing. The biomental child development perspective says: “for you to win, your opposer also must win."

5 Ways to Finesse a Difficult End to Your Relationship

Endings present a psychological challenge unless they’re mutually negotiated. These 5 tips, based in part on a new group dynamics paper, provide some guidance for your goodbyes.

Criticism, Avoidance, and Negativity: How They Destroy Love

Tired of the toxic thoughts and fighting? Here is how to stop the toxic criticism, avoidance, and negativity.

Is Sexual Generosity a Virtue?

Generosity is very valuable for our well-being and health. Is this also true concerning sexual generosity? Should we aim to be more sexually generous?

“Date Someone Your Own Size”

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
Couples who vary in weight experience more prejudice, receive advice to not date in public, and are rated as less likable, according to new research from California.

Reconciling as Parents

Can divorced parents act like parents, not spurned lovers? These women found a way.

Dating a Man Who Is Separated but Not Yet Divorced?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 29, 2016 in Rediscovering Love
There are many factors that can affect these triangulated relationships and how they are combined can affect the outcome in different ways.

The Lesson I Learned About Living From Someone Dying

By Dan Pontefract on August 29, 2016 in Working on Purpose
Gord Downie of the Tragically Hip has terminal brain cancer but taught us all a lesson during his cross-Canada tour.

8 Traits of Toxic People

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on August 29, 2016 in In Flux
Sometime in your life you will come across a toxic person. You know, those people who seem to need your help and then proceed to take advantage of you through manipulation. Beware.

How Long Should You Wait for a Partner?

By Jen Kim on August 29, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
I’ve looked to science, asked relationship experts, talked to friends (both married and unmarried) for better answers. What I’ve found is that there isn’t one.

There's Hope After Heartbreak: 5 Things To Help You Heal

Five steps to heal and move on after heartbreak.

Labor Is Love

There are hidden blessings for at-home caretakers of Alzheimer's sufferers

Three Essential Trust Giving Don'ts

Knowing how, when and whom to trust gets complicated at times. Discover three easily avoided mistakes that will lower your workplace trust-risk while increasing your trust-skill.

A Marriage for the Kids’ Sake

Kids benefit when their parents co-parent well together (even if their parents are not married).

What Makes People Passive-Aggressive? 6 Possible Causes

Be on the lookout for these, before you’re blindsided!

Flexibility and Love: Reaching Children With Cartoons

What should children do with painful thoughts and feelings? Some modern cartoonists are giving our children research-based guidance that can compete with toxic cultural messages.

Haven’t Things Changed in Gender Relationships?

Often people assume that with close to four decades of women having entered the workforce, we’ve arrived. Haven’t we given enough attention to this gender problem at work?

Proclaiming Your Wabi-Sabi Is a Cathartic Antidote for Shame

By Christopher Bergland on August 27, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
You don't have to be a Zen Buddhist to embrace the power of "wabi-sabi." Publicly acknowledging your imperfections can make you immune to the isolation created by shame.

On a Carl Rogers Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 27, 2016 in How To Do Life
When are you defending yourself versus being defensive?

Disclosure Trumps Withholding Almost Every Time-Part 1

So many of us had negative experiences in our past revealing our feelings and needs. We have been shamed and blamed for feeling the way we do.

Is Your Relationship Beyond Repair?

By Rick Miller LICSW on August 26, 2016 in Unwrapped
Your relationship is a gift -- deserving of care, attention, protection.

Let's Face It, 'Vanilla Only' Sex Is Nonnormative

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in Standard Deviations
Recent research shows that people are much more kinky than we realize, which leads to a necessary but unlikely conclusion: "Vanilla only" sex, rather than kink, is nonnormative.

How to Argue the Right Way

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in Compassion Matters
The way we argue can dramatically affect our personal health and the health of our relationship. How can we resolve conflict in healthier ways that keep us close to our partner?

Do Strong Sexual Desires Universally Predict Cheating?

If you (or your partner) have a high sex drive, is there more risk of infidelity?