All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. 

Recent posts on Relationships

Tina Alexis Allen: Untangling Identity and Sexual Abuse

By Jennifer Haupt on February 19, 2018 in One True Thing
What I once labeled "a relationship" with my teacher was really sexual abuse.

You Have to Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else 

By John Kim, LMFT on February 19, 2018 in The Angry Therapist
You don't have to love yourself to love someone else.
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6 Pathways to Mental Health You Probably Don’t Know

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on February 19, 2018 in What Matters Most?
Want to get familiar with 6 pathways to psychological happiness? Hear the stories and tips of 6 people, as well as the latest research, to help you find your way!

Your Partner Cheated, Now What?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on February 19, 2018 in Friendship 2.0
In infidelity's aftermath, you may feel like your world has been shattered. As you take a breath, here are some steps to help you cope and find a path forward.

Cycles of Intimacy

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on February 19, 2018 in Complicated Love
Has your ardor cooled? Do you yearn for a bit of emotional space? Cycles of distance and intimacy are common in relationships, but too many couples panic. Don't be among them!
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Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Our mother is how we know ourselves and our world. With a narcissistic mother, we never feel good enough and like her bond with unavailable or abusive partners.

5 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

By Peg Streep on February 19, 2018 in Tech Support
In retrospect, it's often easy to see why a relationship or marriage failed. But there are signs along the way that experts know and you should too...

What Will It Take to End the Epidemic of Bullying and Hate?

By Sue Scheff on February 19, 2018 in Shame Nation
We are bombarded with headlines of youth bullying and cyberbullying almost on a daily basis. New book outlines how we can can combat cruelty both online and off.

When Is Porn Use a Problem?

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 19, 2018 in ExperiMentations
How do relationship and sexual satisfaction affect couples' use of pornography? New research provides guidance for when porn use is likely to become detrimental.

Lessons from Love and Loss

By Frances Kuffel on February 18, 2018 in What Fat Women Want
As we crammed the protesting dervish into her crate for our flight back to New York, my brother said, “You know, you don’t have to keep her. Not every dog is right for everybody.”

Love and Contempt

Contempt is the ultimate in self-fulfilling prophesy. That’s because contemptuous attributions eliminate all chance of improvement.

The Psychology of Expectations

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on February 17, 2018 in Cui Bono
"What's wrong with expecting people to do what is right? Don't I have a right to feel resentful when they don't?" Find out what is wrong with that kind of thinking.

Anorexics and Bulimics Anonymous: Does It Make Sense?

By Emily T. Troscianko on February 17, 2018 in A Hunger Artist
I analyse the ABA literature to explore whether or not the translation from alcohol addiction to eating disorders results in coherent and constructive principles and practices.

"My Child is an Addict" -- How to Talk and be Heard

Communicating with kids is not always easy. When adult children are battling addiction, it might feel impossible to speak to them in a way that gets through to them.

Love and Toddler Brain Coping Mechanisms

Most of the time, toddlers can get away with blame, denial, and avoidance because they’re so darn cute. When adults do it, we’re not so cute.

The Best Way to Handle Your Partner’s Silent Treatment

Having your partner ignore you intentionally never feels very good. New research on relationships suggests what silence means, and how to cope when you’re the target.

11 Reasons Women Have Difficulty with Orgasm, and What Helps

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 17, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Up to half of women report difficulty with orgasm. Research identifies barriers to sexual pleasure, and provides guidance on how to enjoy intimate experiences more fully.

Intimate Partner Texting - Evaluate Your Relationship

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 16, 2018 in Rediscovering Love
Texting has become the most prominent form of instant communication. These 7 criteria will help evaluate if it is helping or hindering your relationship.

Did Your Partner Disappoint You This Valentine’s Day?

When your partner disappoints you or hurts your feelings, how can you respond so that it doesn't negatively affect your relationship?

Relationship Misconceptions

There are many common misconceptions about romantic relationships. This article presents and dispels some pervasive, yet inaccurate beliefs.

What Every Student Knows: Memorable Teachers Change Lives

You don't have to fall in love with the teacher. You could fall in love with the subject and become the teacher.

How to Spot Covert Abusers

By Craig Malkin Ph.D. on February 16, 2018 in Romance Redux
Covert abuse is very real. And some personalities are more apt to perpetrate it.

Physicians’ Humility

Humility can be so important to a patient’s treatment and recovery that academic physicians believe it should be part of medical students’ education.

Can You Change Someone Else by Changing Yourself?

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on February 16, 2018 in In Practice
Cognitive therapy tips applied to relationship problems.

Life-Changing Moments

It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment...

2018: The Year of the Dog, The Year of Living Doggedly

Some psychology and biology of the dog-human bond, and thoughts on the Year of the Dog.

Men, Women, and Sex Problems Throughout the Lifespan

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2018 in All About Sex
Throughout the lifespan, men and women tend to develop their most daunting sex problems at different time, often making couples feel out of synch.

A Valentine's Musing

By Melissa Kirk on February 15, 2018 in Test Case
So today, can those of us who can see beyond the media and retail hype of this day use the ubiquitous heart symbols to remember to appreciate and generate love of all kinds?
Courtesy of Alex Pattakos and Elaine Dundon

Meaningful Life Lessons I Learned From My Dog

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on February 15, 2018 in The Meaningful Life
How our pets provide us with a source of meaning.