All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Should You Friend Your Grown Kids on Facebook?

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in Between the Lines
Facebook has upended the culture, disrupted the boundary between public and private, and changed how generations communicate with and relate to each other.

Emotional Connection

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in In It Together
What is the most effective way to keep your relationship joyful? Learn how to stay connected.

The Truth Behind Breaking Up: It All Comes Down to 16 Steps

Break ups...a matter of a familiar script?

Touching Co-workers

By David F. Swink on September 22, 2017 in Threat Management
Touch can show support or appreciation or it can be used to intimidate or frighten. It is one of the least understood means of communication. Does it belong at work?

What Does It Mean to Have a Personality Disorder?

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on September 22, 2017 in I Hear You
Have you ever noticed a concerning trend in your relationships at work, with friends, and with family? Here's one way to think about what you might be bringing to the problem.

Immigrant Muslim Couples and Domestic Violence

By Lisa Aronson Fontes Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in Invisible Chains
Non-Muslims are often uncertain how to help Muslim victims of intimate partner violence. Parveen Ali, Ph.D., advocates for greater understanding and activism to keep women safe.

Trusting What Disabled People Say

By Katherine Hawley Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in Trust
Why is it sometimes hard to accept what disabled people tell us about their lives, their values, and their experiences?

How Group Therapy Can Empty Your Basket of Troubles

Unsatisfied with individual therapy? Here's how a group can help.

Weight Loss, Dating, and Relationships

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on September 21, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Does the stigma against obesity even apply to people who have successfully lost weight? New research provides a look at how this kind of stigma can affect mating choices.

Size Matters

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on September 21, 2017 in Social Lights
Advice for teaching large classes.
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How to Bring Someone to Their Senses

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on September 21, 2017 in In Control
There is not a stick strong enough nor a carrot juicy enough to deposit a “sense” in someone else’s mind if it does not fit with their views and their life.

Violence Comes in Many Forms

he dictionary defines violence as “injurious physical force, action or treatment intended to inflict harm.” The most important word in this definition is “intended"...

Three Tips for Staying Heart Healthy

Hint: Positive emotions can be good for your body.

7 Ways to Truly Say You're Sorry

By Jen Kim on September 21, 2017 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Having trouble with apologies? You're not alone.

Communicating Mindfully in Relationships

Do you need to work on communication in your relationships? Try setting a relationship intention to communicate more mindfully with your partner.

When Online Friendships Cause Distress

It’s not uncommon for people to establish friendships with individuals who “show up” in online and virtual settings, but are these friendships "real" friendships?

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

Adoptees and Lying: Why Your Child Might Be Telling Lies

By Carrie Goldman on September 20, 2017 in Modern Day Parenting
Are you struggling to understand why your adoptee frequently lies? Learn how to empathize and respond.

Do Romantic Relationships Imply a Loss of Self? Should They?

A recent column by David Brooks raises the false dichotomy between individuality and sociality.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust IV: Emotional Triangles

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

How Many Americans Want to Be Single? Results of 5 Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Living Single
How many unmarried Americans want to be married? 5 studies suggest answers, but it will take a revolution to know for sure.

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Still Love Yourself

"I am leaving you for me. Whether I am incomplete or you are incomplete is irrelevant. Relationships can only be built with two wholes..."

Feeling Lonely? You May Be Damaging Your Health

Loneliness has been linked to inflammation and even higher mortality rates. Find out if you have an unhealthy level of loneliness and what you should do about it.

The Creepy Appeal of the Bad Guy Narrator

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Creating in Flow
When the bad guy pops into your head and demands a novel, what can you do? That's easy. You write from the point of view of a narcissist.

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles can affect our partner selection, the way in which we relate to our significant other, and the behaviors we display during the course of our relationship.

Why Do We Love the View From High Above?

By Andrea Bartz on September 19, 2017 in The Wandering Mind
The weird psychological reason you'll take an elevator to the 102nd floor.

10 Things I’ve Learned About Love in the Last 10 Years

By John Kim, LMFT on September 19, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
10 Love Lessons From A Therapist

Longing for More

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
What do you really want in life? Applying theory and research on the German concept of Sehnsucht may help you to better understand your quest and live well.

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.

16 Fun Games to Play with Toddlers & Preschoolers in the Car

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Car rides can be meaningful ways to engage with toddlers and young children. They can help strengthen a playful bond and grow children's vocabulary and skills.