All About Pornography

Pornography, more commonly referred to as porn, consists of sexually explicit material intended to sexually arouse. Today porn is viewable at the click of a button by anyone with an Internet connection, though also comes in the forms of literature, audio, magazines, etc. What effect has the ubiquity of porn had on us? Is it a harmless pastime or a pernicious addiction? A fun way to add spice to a couple's life, a relationship destroyer, or the potential for both? 

Recent Posts on Pornography

The Dirty Little (Sex) Secret of Therapy

By Marty Klein PhD on November 22, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Patients should be safe assuming that therapists understand sex as it actually is, don't believe discredited myths, and can discuss anything.

Why I Am No Longer a Sex-Addiction Therapist

Our evolving understanding of the complexities of human sexuality have revealed an increasing number of cracks in the foundational models of sex-addiction therapy.

Teen Sexting vs. Child Pornography

The simple truth is teen sexting is relatively common — a fact that really shouldn’t surprise anyone. I mean, weren’t we all teenagers once upon a time, with raging hormones and bad ideas and weird thoughts about what is and isn’t appropriate sexual behavior?

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Is Virtual Virtue a Virtue or a Vice?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 15, 2015 Ambigamy
If you're a little troubled by the lightweight gesture of simply Praying for Paris, Je suis Charlie, or just clicking to superimpose the French Flag on our Facebook pictures, you're tapping into an old concern, whether little gestures are empty or useful.

Is Texting or Sexting Cheating?

Sexting, texting and porn are subjects we typically shy away from but not dealing with it may come back to bite you.

Stop Criminalizing Teens for Sexting

By David J Ley Ph.D. on November 08, 2015 Women Who Stray
Teens will sext. They are technology natives, and have known texting and digital cameras their entire lives. Expecting them not to sext is like expecting them to masturbate without using their hands.

Sex Positive vs. Sex Negative

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on November 02, 2015 Minority Report
In therapeutic circles you might hear a therapist tell you they are "sex positive" as way to indicate their stance on treating issues related to sex. But what does this mean when it comes to issues related to clients with sexually compulsive behaviors? Are sex addiction therapists just prudish people against sexual fetishes and other behaviors?

Why Is Sex in Marriage Such a Big Deal?

The problem with sex today is that it's getting out of control

Sex Scandals, Dirty Laundry, and What It Says About Us

What does it say about a society when 37 million individuals are actively seeking an affair? Perhaps we have a bigger problem than we realize.

Are People More Interested in Sex Today Than Before?

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on September 30, 2015 As You Like It
Are you more interested in sex than your parents or grandparents were?

Having a Crush on Insects

By Jeffrey Lockwood Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 The Infested Mind
You’ve probably heard about people who have a sexual fetish for shoes, leather, or red hair. But what if a person is aroused by the crushing of a living being? Might there be an argument that the pleasure derived in this way is has fewer moral problems than the sensual satisfaction of eating meat?

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Women Who Stray
New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

DON’T Buy Erection Drugs on the Internet

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 01, 2015 All About Sex
A recent study finds that 77 percent of Internet “Viagra” is fake.

Josh Duggar, Porn Addict?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on August 20, 2015 Women Who Stray
Embattled Christian reality television star Josh Duggar has blamed porn addiction and a battle with Satan for the latest sex scandal, as he is revealed in the Ashley Madison data dump.

Could Online Pornography Be A Silent Yet Exploding Epidemic?

Online pornography may be an emerging epidemic. Perhaps we need to treat the internet like any other possible addictive substance. Then we can be more thoughtful and intentional in being sure that online pornography doesn’t take hold of us and our youth.

3 Common Excuses for Cheating (and Why They're Bogus)

After more than two decades as a psychotherapist specializing in human sexuality and intimacy, I’ve heard just about every excuse imaginable related to infidelity, especially from the men I have seen.

Female Genital Cosmetic Surgery - The Next Big Thing?

Women who choose to have this surgery don't appear as hapless victims of consumer culture, to the surgeons, but as thoughtful, assertive, autonomous women making positive choices to improve their lives. However... offering procedures alleged to improve self-esteem can prey on the insecurities of vulnerable women who suffer genital anxiety...

A Letter to Young Sexually Active Heterosexual Men

Young heterosexual men are under a lot of false pressure due to porn images. Let's clear up some of these distortions so young men can have a more fulfilling sex life.

Love, Sex, and Pornography

Liz sat on the far end of the couch and smiled weakly.”I love Adam and I want to make him happy.” “Uh huh…” I said. Liz continued. “I feel I’m falling short of my goal. I would do next to anything to please Adam. But there are some things I’m not so sure about.”

A Letter to Young Sexually Active Heterosexual Women

This generation seems to be more misinformed than any other, likely because they get so much of their information from pornography. The most distorted information is about young heterosexual women’s sexuality. I hope that my letter can help to clear up some of these distortions.

Examining Arousal and Homophobia

By Jesse Marczyk on July 03, 2015 Pop Psych
In honor of the supreme court verdict legalizing same-sex marriages, let's discuss why homophobia does not imply that one is actually a latent homosexual

Bisexuality, Not Addiction

Men who struggle with bisexual attractions are often called sex addicts. Unfortunately, this label doesn't help, and often perpetuates homophobia and religious bias against homosexuality.

Eleven Facts About Sex I Wish Judges & Lawyers Understood

The justice system requires knowledgeable judges and lawyers. When it comes to sex, most aren't.

To View or Not to View? That Is the Question

75% of men and 41% of women have viewed and/or downloaded pornography in their lifetime. In the United States more than 60 million people are dealing with issues involving excessive porn use. But is all porn bad for you? Is there also a case for porn improving your psychological well being?

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Banned by YouTube!

Most young men and many women get their sex-ed from porn. So we need to let young women know that anal sex is not something they have to do if they don’t want to, but not according to YouTube.

Everything Ends Up as Pornography

Internet access to pornography is negatively reshaping dating relationships Millennials have with each other.

Another Guy Who Isn't a Sex Addict

"Sex addiction" is a very poor way to understand people.

The Eyes Reveal our Sexual Orientation

Can the eyes reveal sexual arousal?