All About Pornography

Pornography, more commonly referred to as porn, consists of sexually explicit material intended to sexually arouse. Today porn is viewable at the click of a button by anyone with an Internet connection, though also comes in the forms of literature, audio, magazines, etc. What effect has the ubiquity of porn had on us? Is it a harmless pastime or a pernicious addiction? A fun way to add spice to a couple's life, a relationship destroyer, or the potential for both? 

Recent Posts on Pornography

Are People More Interested in Sex Today Than Before?

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on September 30, 2015 As You Like It
Are you more interested in sex than your parents or grandparents were?

Having a Crush on Insects

By Jeffrey Lockwood Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 The Infested Mind
You’ve probably heard about people who have a sexual fetish for shoes, leather, or red hair. But what if a person is aroused by the crushing of a living being? Might there be an argument that the pleasure derived in this way is has fewer moral problems than the sensual satisfaction of eating meat?

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Women Who Stray
New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

DON’T Buy Erection Drugs on the Internet

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 01, 2015 All About Sex
A recent study finds that 77 percent of Internet “Viagra” is fake.

Josh Duggar, Porn Addict?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on August 20, 2015 Women Who Stray
Embattled Christian reality television star Josh Duggar has blamed porn addiction and a battle with Satan for the latest sex scandal, as he is revealed in the Ashley Madison data dump.

Could Online Pornography Be A Silent Yet Exploding Epidemic?

Online pornography may be an emerging epidemic. Perhaps we need to treat the internet like any other possible addictive substance. Then we can be more thoughtful and intentional in being sure that online pornography doesn’t take hold of us and our youth.

Your Lady Says You’re Cheating, You Say No Way! Who’s Right?

After more than two decades as a psychotherapist specializing in human sexuality and intimacy, I’ve heard just about every excuse imaginable related to infidelity, especially from the men I have seen.

Female Genital Cosmetic Surgery - The Next Big Thing?

Women who choose to have this surgery don't appear as hapless victims of consumer culture, to the surgeons, but as thoughtful, assertive, autonomous women making positive choices to improve their lives. However... offering procedures alleged to improve self-esteem can prey on the insecurities of vulnerable women who suffer genital anxiety...

A Letter to Young Sexually Active Heterosexual Men

Young heterosexual men are under a lot of false pressure due to porn images. Let's clear up some of these distortions so young men can have a more fulfilling sex life.

Love, Sex, and Pornography

Liz sat on the far end of the couch and smiled weakly.”I love Adam and I want to make him happy.” “Uh huh…” I said. Liz continued. “I feel I’m falling short of my goal. I would do next to anything to please Adam. But there are some things I’m not so sure about.”

A Letter to Young Sexually Active Heterosexual Women

This generation seems to be more misinformed than any other, likely because they get so much of their information from pornography. The most distorted information is about young heterosexual women’s sexuality. I hope that my letter can help to clear up some of these distortions.

Examining Arousal and Homophobia

By Jesse Marczyk on July 03, 2015 Pop Psych
In honor of the supreme court verdict legalizing same-sex marriages, let's discuss why homophobia does not imply that one is actually a latent homosexual

Bisexuality, Not Addiction

Men who struggle with bisexual attractions are often called sex addicts. Unfortunately, this label doesn't help, and often perpetuates homophobia and religious bias against homosexuality.

Eleven Facts About Sex I Wish Judges & Lawyers Understood

The justice system requires knowledgeable judges and lawyers. When it comes to sex, most aren't.

To View or Not to View? That Is the Question

75% of men and 41% of women have viewed and/or downloaded pornography in their lifetime. In the United States more than 60 million people are dealing with issues involving excessive porn use. But is all porn bad for you? Is there also a case for porn improving your psychological well being?

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Banned by YouTube!

Most young men and many women get their sex-ed from porn. So we need to let young women know that anal sex is not something they have to do if they don’t want to, but not according to YouTube.

Everything Ends Up as Pornography

Internet access to pornography is negatively reshaping dating relationships Millennials have with each other.

Another Guy Who Isn't a Sex Addict

"Sex addiction" is a very poor way to understand people.

The Eyes Reveal our Sexual Orientation

Can the eyes reveal sexual arousal?

Understanding Transgender Reality

In February, at the annual International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) symposium, I was honored to hear Ryan Sallans, an international speaker, transgender man and author of the book Second Son, speak.

How to Explore Your Sexual Boundaries With Your Partner

One of the best ways to prevent boredom and breathe new life into the bedroom is to explore your sexual boundaries together. Most couples don’t explicitly communicate their boundaries with each other, so a lot of couples don’t actually know where they stand on the behaviors and fantasies they feel comfortable experimenting with.

Making Saves

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 17, 2015 In Excess
Extreme couponing is an activity that combines shopping skills with couponing in an attempt to save as much money as possible while accumulating the most groceries. Extreme couponers spend hours and hours on the internet or scouring scouring rubbish tips or supermarket car parks looking for coupons. But can it be addictive?

Recent Changes in Sexuality

Women are increasingly comfortable with porn use--as are many others—given that porn viewing has become increasingly prevalent via the web. As a result, not only are women watching more porn, their comfort in so doing creates an increasing willingness to say so in a survey.

Fifty Shades: Glamorizing Abuse or Harmless Escapism?

The Fifty Shades Trilogy has provoked controversy because the story revolves around an abusive relationship. A group of researchers has argued that the books may harm women by glamorizing abuse. However, the authors' findings are inconsistent with their claims. Whether the books have a harmful influence or are simply titillating fantasy remains to be demonstrated.

The Scientific Case for Owning Up to Your Porn Use

Many people believe that porn use should be hidden from a relationship partner. However, a new study suggests that when women think their partners are honest about their porn use, they tend to be happier with their relationships.

Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors

By The Book Brigade on March 03, 2015 The Author Speaks
The millions of teens and adults who engage in self-destructive behavior do so because they never learned more constructive ways of soothing themselves in moments of distress. Many have engaged in such behaviors for so long that they can't envision a way out. But it's possible to replace self-destructive acts with kinder means of coping.

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Mothers, Daughters and Food

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on February 25, 2015 A Million Meals
It seems especially cruel and strange that mothers often pass down a legacy of self-hatred, guilt and shame to the very children for whom they would otherwise lay down their own lives.

Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.