All About Pornography

Pornography, more commonly referred to as porn, consists of sexually explicit material intended to sexually arouse. Today porn is viewable at the click of a button by anyone with an Internet connection, though also comes in the forms of literature, audio, magazines, etc. What effect has the ubiquity of porn had on us? Is it a harmless pastime or a pernicious addiction? A fun way to add spice to a couple's life, a relationship destroyer, or the potential for both? 

Recent Posts on Pornography

Depathologizing Sexual Eroticism

Discovering a partner’s surprising porn-viewing habits can be disturbing, but it can also be a gateway to greater understanding and compassion.

Simple Steps to Sex Addiction Recovery

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on February 01, 2016 Minority Report
What do you do if you're not ready for therapy but need "action steps" to help you with sex addiction recovery? These simple steps can get you down the right track...

Utah Declares War on Porn Epidemic

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 29, 2016 Women Who Stray
A Utah resolution continues the political efforts to blame society's sexual problems on the scapegoat of pornography.

An Unusual Response to a Sex Survey

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on January 29, 2016 As You Like It
From a man who likes having sex with women but is fascinated with penises, posts photos of his penis online daily, and is aroused by transgender porn and male genital torture.

Forensic Misuse of Sex Addiction

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 18, 2016 Women Who Stray
Despite sex addiction not being an accepted diagnosis, people keep trying to use it as a way to stay out of jail, keep their kids, or to hang onto their career.

Evidence Mounts: More Porn, LESS Sexual Assault

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 14, 2016 All About Sex
Several natural experiments show that as access to porn increases, rates of sexual assault DECLINE.

Defensiveness Hinders Recovery From Addiction

Commitment to recovery is undermined when defensiveness minimizes the impairment, make others responsible for it, or attacks solutions for failing to meet some arbitrary condition.

2015 Best and Worst Sex List

It was a wild year for sex! Here are 25 of the most intriguing, perplexing, and stunning sex stories this year.

The Sexual Call of the Holidays

By Mark Borigini M.D. on December 29, 2015 Overcoming Pain
Grindr, an app for gay men, had a 15% rise in activity on Thanksgiving and usually experiences a 30% to 50% increase on Dec. 25, according to an article on "Marketwatch.com."

Are Men More Sexual than Women?

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on December 28, 2015 The Human Beast
Marked differences between male and female sexuality was supported by solid evidence around the globe. Such distinctions are getting blurred in developed countries.

No Mabel, You DON'T Have to Compete With Porn Actresses

By Marty Klein PhD on December 22, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Comparing yourself to porn actresses--and feeling resentful? Here's an alternative.

Sex Survey of the Week

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on December 19, 2015 As You Like It
When I first started having sex, I wish I knew how clumsy and awkward it would be

My Advice to a Porn Director Whose Girlfriend Found Out

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 09, 2015 How To Do Life
She threatens, "Quit or I'm quitting you!" What should he do?

Preferences For Equality?

By Jesse Marczyk on December 07, 2015 Pop Psych
Recent research has claimed that humans have a preference for equality when punishing others. I happen to think that such a conclusion is overstated from the data on offer.

Sex Addiction is About Morality, Not Sex

By David J Ley Ph.D. on December 05, 2015 Women Who Stray
Study after study finds that sex addiction is about a moral conflict over sexuality, not about frequency of sex behaviors.

Masturbation or "Master"-bation

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on December 02, 2015 Minority Report
Clients in recovery from sex addiction invariably ask about masturbation. What is healthy or unhealthy? It can be very confusing, shaming, especially within Christian circles.

The Dirty Little (Sex) Secret of Therapy

By Marty Klein PhD on November 22, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Patients should be safe assuming that therapists understand sex as it actually is, don't believe discredited myths, and can discuss anything.

Why I Am No Longer a Sex-Addiction Therapist

Our evolving understanding of the complexities of human sexuality have revealed an increasing number of cracks in the foundational models of sex-addiction therapy.

Teen Sexting vs. Child Pornography

The simple truth is teen sexting is relatively common — a fact that really shouldn’t surprise anyone. I mean, weren’t we all teenagers once upon a time, with raging hormones and bad ideas and weird thoughts about what is and isn’t appropriate sexual behavior?

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Is Virtual Virtue a Virtue or a Vice?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 15, 2015 Ambigamy
If you're a little troubled by the lightweight gesture of simply Praying for Paris, Je suis Charlie, or just clicking to superimpose the French Flag on our Facebook pictures, you're tapping into an old concern, whether little gestures are empty or useful.

Is Texting or Sexting Cheating?

Sexting, texting and porn are subjects we typically shy away from but not dealing with it may come back to bite you.

Stop Criminalizing Teens for Sexting

By David J Ley Ph.D. on November 08, 2015 Women Who Stray
Teens will sext. They are technology natives, and have known texting and digital cameras their entire lives. Expecting them not to sext is like expecting them to masturbate without using their hands.

Sex Positive vs. Sex Negative

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on November 02, 2015 Minority Report
In therapeutic circles you might hear a therapist tell you they are "sex positive" as way to indicate their stance on treating issues related to sex. But what does this mean when it comes to issues related to clients with sexually compulsive behaviors? Are sex addiction therapists just prudish people against sexual fetishes and other behaviors?

Why Is Sex in Marriage Such a Big Deal?

The problem with sex today is that it's getting out of control

Sex Scandals, Dirty Laundry, and What It Says About Us

What does it say about a society when 37 million individuals are actively seeking an affair? Perhaps we have a bigger problem than we realize.

Are People More Interested in Sex Today Than Before?

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on September 30, 2015 As You Like It
Are you more interested in sex than your parents or grandparents were?

Having a Crush on Insects

By Jeffrey Lockwood Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 The Infested Mind
You’ve probably heard about people who have a sexual fetish for shoes, leather, or red hair. But what if a person is aroused by the crushing of a living being? Might there be an argument that the pleasure derived in this way is has fewer moral problems than the sensual satisfaction of eating meat?

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Women Who Stray
New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

DON’T Buy Erection Drugs on the Internet

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 01, 2015 All About Sex
A recent study finds that 77 percent of Internet “Viagra” is fake.