What Is Personality Change?

We’ve all wished we could be someone else, whether it’s just polishing a few dull spots in our personality or fully rewriting the story of our lives, Jay Gatsby-style. If you're a procrastinator, you may have wished you could be more productive; if you're gloomy, you may have hoped you could be more optimistic; if you're shy, you may have longed to be the life of the party. Changing your core personality traits (e.g., introversion) is difficult. But what you can change is your behavior. It's never too late to do what you want to do, and with a little sweat and a little luck, you can break out of old patterns and be just who you want to be.

Recent Posts on Personality Change

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By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on January 03, 2016 Full Living
If you have been making the same resolutions year after year, read this.

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Sonia Lea: Sex, Love, and Honesty

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By Garth Sundem on December 02, 2015 Brain Trust
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By Kevin Bennett on November 16, 2015 Modern Minds
What happens when you lock a group of college males in the basement for a two-week experiment? Find out this week on DVD.

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By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 16, 2015 How To Do Life
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The Hundred Kinds of Silence

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on November 11, 2015 Listen Up!
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Why Try to Change Me Now?

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By Fredric Neuman M.D. on September 21, 2015 Fighting Fear
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Attractions That Go Sour: The Good & Bad of Complementarity

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 11, 2015 Fixing Families
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Can You Change Your Personality?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on September 07, 2015 Media Spotlight
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Is There Any Hope for Relationships With Narcissists?

By Peg Streep on September 01, 2015 Tech Support
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The Bundy Effect

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Bicycle Days

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 13, 2015 Talking Apes
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