What Is Personality Change?

We’ve all wished we could be someone else, whether it’s just polishing a few dull spots in our personality or fully rewriting the story of our lives, Jay Gatsby-style. If you're a procrastinator, you may have wished you could be more productive; if you're gloomy, you may have hoped you could be more optimistic; if you're shy, you may have longed to be the life of the party. Changing a core personality trait (such as introversion) is difficult, but you can change your behavior. It's never too late to do what you want to do, and with a little sweat and a little luck, you can break out of old patterns and be just who you want to be.

Recent posts on Personality Change

Winning Love

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on December 05, 2017 in In the Name of Love
Attempting to change the beloved and surrendering to the beloved are common practices. Although each has some value, neither is effective in guiding our romantic path.

Frazzled: High Anxiety and Low Frustration Tolerance

By Linda Esposito LCSW on November 28, 2017 in From Anxiety to Zen
Are you sick and tired of over-reacting to everything? Get curious about your behavioral patterns and get over your fly-off-the-handle ways.
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How to Help People with Challenging Behaviors

By David Susman, Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in The Recovery Coach
What to do when someone is acting strangely or aggressively? Here are some effective strategies.

Why We Might Feel Lonely Around Narcissism

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on November 13, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Experiencing an unstable sense of self is a challenging experience on many levels. Empathy in narcissism is shaped by sense of self, as researchers are exploring.

How to Stop Procrastinating on Self-Change

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on November 03, 2017 in Science and Sensibility
Overcome the hidden "yes-but" factor in procrastination. Gain confidence. Fulfill your dreams.

Somatic Psychiatry in the Spotlight

Somatic psychiatry has taken over psychiatry. The fundamental and incorrect premise of somatic psychiatry is that the source of psychiatric problems come from defects in the brain.

It Takes a Psychopath to Like Another Psychopath

As much as people are fascinated with the concept of psychopathy, the attraction is tinged with stigma. A recent study shows those who like psychopaths may share their traits.
(Band of Brothers, Sterling Farms Golf Course, Stamford CT., standing as one. Greg O’Brien is second from right.)

Standing as One in Support of Alzheimer's

By Greg O'Brien on October 30, 2017 in On Pluto
If there ever were a bipartisan issue to stand on today, it is for a cure for Alzheimer’s, to drive a knife through this demon. We are all at risk, but we are not alone.
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Not All Pessimists Are the Same

By Arthur J. Clark Ed.D. on October 28, 2017 in Dawn of Memories
Distinguishing Pessimistic Trends through Early Childhood Recollections
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The Psychologist and the Serial Killer

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on October 23, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
Former prison psychologist offers the raw data of his interviews with Ted Bundy and his associates before he was known to be a serial killer.

Cutting-Edge Research Shows That Love Is All Around Us

How can our precognitive abilities help tune us in to timeless love?

12 Things I Didn’t Expect to Happen As I Age

I’ve noticed some changes in my life as I age, and it’s been interesting to discover what a surprise each one is to me. Some things I’ve welcomed; others not so much.

Understanding Traumatic Brain Injury

By Jean Kim M.D. on September 27, 2017 in Culture Shrink
Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) is a complex condition with a gray middle zone of prognosis that remains poorly understood. Psychosocial supports are crucial to maximum recovery.

What Does It Mean to Have a Personality Disorder?

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on September 22, 2017 in I Hear You
Have you ever noticed a concerning trend in your relationships at work, with friends, and with family? Here's one way to think about what you might be bringing to the problem.

What Steals Our Sense of Humor?

By Anneli Rufus on September 22, 2017 in Stuck
What if we used to be funny, then stopped? Can we bring laughter back?

The Salvation of Psychiatry

By Robert Berezin M.D. on September 17, 2017 in The Theater of the Brain
Psychiatry should be grounded in that quest for truth. It has, however, lost its way.The Psychotherapy of Character is precisely this unified field theory for psychiatry

How Long Should Psychotherapy Last?

By Stephen Joseph Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in What Doesn't Kill Us
A good psychotherapist won’t try to push clients to go faster than they can. To do so can feel threatening and, paradoxically, lead a client to become more entrenched.

“Never Again!” The Psychological Fallout of Trauma

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
You're born with various survival programs (or defenses). Later, when you actually experience a serious threat, you acquire more defenses that can end up harming you.

Therapy for Borderline Personality: Why It Takes So Long

By David M. Allen M.D. on September 08, 2017 in A Matter of Personality
Understandable mistrust of the therapist, along with fear, shame and complex interactions with family members, make psychotherapy with BPD patients very complicated.

Keeping Your Job, Losing Your Identity

By Dawn R. Norris, Ph.D. on August 29, 2017 in The Next Step
What if others tell you that you’re not the employee you think you are?

Does a Person "Break Bad"?

Let's examine the premise of a smash hit entertainment series.
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I'm a Police Psychologist: What was I Doing at San Quentin?

By Ellen Kirschman Ph.D. on August 05, 2017 in Cop Doc
I work with cops. Spending a day with prisoners was a new experience.

What Is a Meaningful Life?

Many consider life not to be meaningful enough. But reasons they present for this view are often problematic.

Unpacking David Lynch's Twin Peaks, The Return

By Judith Eve Lipton M.D. on July 22, 2017 in Peace and War
David Lynch's extraordinary TV series carries a serious message. It may also be the most ingenious and creative video of all time.
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Writing as Self Development

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Life After 50
How does writing promote the self development?

Varieties of Truth?

We operate with different standards of truth that harden into fixed “positions.” We must subject those standards – our own as well as others’ – to scrutiny.

Old Selves and New

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on June 19, 2017 in I Hear You
Ever feel like one type of person in some relationships, and a completely different one in others? Here's how psychotherapy uses this phenomenon to bring about change and insight.

Early Childhood Memories: Endure or Drift Away?

How stable are early recollections, and why does it matter?

Status Update: Why Does Having Power Promote Promiscuity?

Why do powerful people often become scandalous headlines? Research supports a link between power and infidelity. Confidence increases perceived desirability and approach behavior.

Do You Feel Trapped By Your Social Roles?

By Roman Krznaric PhD on May 23, 2017 in How Should We Live?
The stories we tell ourselves about who we are can at times constrain us. So what should we do if we want to change the story and create a new narrative of who we want to be?