All About Parenting

Parenting is the ultimate long-term investment. Be prepared to put far more into it than you get out of it, at least for some time. Given the stresses of contemporary American culture, the happiness of couples plummets the minute they become parents. And it gets worse before it gets better. In the long run, however, it can be the most rewarding job of your life.

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear, parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It's especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world, parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, but the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable.

Recent posts on Parenting

How to Get the Deepest Rest of All

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in Feeling It
Many of us are tired or burned out, here's how to restore ourselves for good.

Guilt: In This Case, You're Not Responsible!

Are straight parents able to change the sexual orientation of their LGBT kids? Should they feel guilty if they can't?

The Real Narrative of Life

Every story is unique. But the path always leads back to one’s Authentic Being. Love is the sustenance, and authenticity is the fountain of our aliveness.

Dealing With Difficult Teachers

Strategies to put in place before requesting a teacher change.

On an Albert Bandura Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 31, 2016 in How To Do Life
How work can enhance family life.

On Closing the "Word Gap"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in How To Do Life
The 30-million word-gap "cure:" A confusion of correlation with causation?

Remember Your Best Teacher? One 82-Year-Old Does

As students head back to school this year, Bill, an 82-year-old widower, grieves the loss of his wife. What do the two have in common? Teachers.

Reconciling as Parents

Can divorced parents act like parents, not spurned lovers? These women found a way.

Why Are There Mommy Wars but No Daddy Wars?

By Amy Tuteur M.D. on August 29, 2016 in Push Back
Is this really about what's best for children? Is this really about "the science"? Or is this yet another, albeit thoroughly modern, way to control women?

Primary Affects

We have been exploring how our earliest, innate feelings work – Distress, Anger, Fear, Shame, and Dissmell. This month we look at Enjoyment, Shame, Disgust, and Dissmell.

How Parents Prolong the "Terrible Twos" Into Adolescence

Mental health professionals label as mental disorders child misbehavior that is created by certain parenting practices that have increased in incidence over the last few decades.

Testosterone Plummets With Fatherhood... Maybe

Dads beware: Does fatherhood impact your hormones?

Yes, Overprotective Parenting Harms Kids

By Nathan H. Lents, Ph.D. on August 28, 2016 in Beastly Behavior
Overprotective parenting may cause more than just stunted psychological development; it may actually be bad for children's health.

Helping Kids Succeed—Minus the Stress

The secret of high-achievers is NOT tutoring or AP classes

A Is for Aunt

By Susan Hooper on August 28, 2016 in Detours and Tangents
Since 2003, I have lived four miles away from my two nephews. During that time, they grew from boys to young men—and they transformed my life.

Dear Parent, Call Me With Any Concerns About Your Student

By Marcia Morris M.D. on August 28, 2016 in College Wellness
At a time of increasing distress among college students, I want more parents to collaborate in their child’s psychiatric care.

A Marriage for the Kids’ Sake

Kids benefit when their parents co-parent well together (even if their parents are not married).

Response to the School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying Lie

Juxtaposing the emergence of bullying as a contemporary social problem against the emergence of domestic violence as a social problem during the 60s and 70s is instructive.

Every Stereotype of Single People, Debunked by Science

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in Living Single
Stereotypes of single people are not true. Some negative perceptions of single people are as true – or even more true – of married people as they are of single people.

How Schools (Sometimes) Fail Our Children

By Maureen D Healy on August 26, 2016 in Creative Development
Can your child's school improve in certain areas?

Clear Evidence: Spanking Harms Kids

A large body of research definitively shows that spanking has negative consequences for kids.

Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

What if you could create that deep loving connection as your (almost) constant way of being with your child? It would be like giving yourself a magic wand.

The "School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying" Lie

By Izzy Kalman on August 25, 2016 in Resilience to Bullying
When children like Daniel Fitzpatrick commit suicide because of bullying, parents accuse the schools of having done nothing. They're usually wrong.

Serious Learning Happens at Summer Camp - Without Technology

For those ending a summer at camp, the transition back to home, school and screen time can be infused with lessons from June, July and August.

Easing a Child’s Summer to School Transition

School is right around the corner but your child is still sleeping until noon and moving in slow motion. Here are some suggestions to help get them ready for the new year.

Divorce an Unreliable Predictor of Aggressiveness

Even amongst a small fraction of children, severe aggression is rare.

Safety First Before You Pokémon Go Out Into the World

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in Screen Time
Interest in Pokémon Go has waned a bit in the US, but it is still very much active in other parts of the world, as evidenced by the recent stampede in Taiwan.

Professional Misunderstanding of Parental Alienation

Until professionals attain an in-depth understanding of the actual dynamics of parental alienation, cases of severe alienation will continue to be discounted.

My Mother Won't Listen to Me

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your mom won't talk to you
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How Am I Doing?

Most women never completely outgrow the need for approval from their mothers.