All About Parenting

Parenting is the ultimate long-term investment. Be prepared to put far more into it than you get out of it, at least for some time. Given the stresses of contemporary American culture, the happiness of couples plummets the minute they become parents. And it gets worse before it gets better. In the long run, however, it can be the most rewarding job of your life.

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear, parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It's especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world, parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, but the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable.

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By Kristi Pikiewicz Ph.D. on July 30, 2016 in Meaningful You
Muhammad Ali, not yours truly, possessed the qualifications to be my father's favorite son.

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Sometimes a car ride is the best way to connect with a teen.

What Do We Do When Abuse from the Past Rears its Ugly Head?

By Gregg McBride on July 30, 2016 in The Weight-ing Game
No matter how well we've survived horrors from our past, there are times that events can reappear and cause us to once again face what we thought we might never have to face again.

Could School Cause PTSD?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 30, 2016 in How To Do Life
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Parenting a Gay Child

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Four Ways to Help Your Kids Avoid Depression and Addiction

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Coping After Shootings: Self-Care Strategies for Families

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Should You Be a Stay-at-Home Dad?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 29, 2016 in How To Do Life
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Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants.

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"Pay Attention, Teach'"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 28, 2016 in How To Do Life
On communicating effectively with people with a different world view.

Behave!

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in Trouble in Mind
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Creating eBooks for Children - Let's Do It Together!

By Michael Hogan Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in In One Lifespan
Story books for children have a long history and are universally valued by children and parents. Digital stories for children offer new ways to share stories and advance literacy.

Handling Defiance: You're Not the Boss of Me!

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Two Homes, One Childhood

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Feathering the Empty Nest

By Ann Smith on July 25, 2016 in Healthy Connections
Couples who were able to maintain their connection through the child rearing years will have a smoother transition into empty nest years.
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Adolescence and Speed of Life

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Trump, Stress Reactivity, Trance, and Ethics

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on July 24, 2016 in Moral Landscapes
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From time to time I receive inspiring letters from people who have encountered my work and are kind enough to share their lives. Here is one such letter that brought me to tears.

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Am I Messing Up My Kid?

With all the advice out there it's easy to have unfair and unrealistic expectations for yourself and your children. Recognizing the good in what you do will ease the pressure.