All About Parenting

Parenting is the ultimate long-term investment. Be prepared to put far more into it than you get out of it, at least for some time. Given the stresses of contemporary American culture, the happiness of couples plummets the minute they become parents. And it gets worse before it gets better. In the long run, it is the most rewarding job of your life.

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear, parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It's especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, but the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. 

Recent posts on Parenting

Five Qualities Every College Graduate Needs To Cultivate

It's time to focus as much on college seniors and graduates as we do on first year students and retention.

What You Need to Know If Your Child or Teen Has OCD

Children and teens with OCD must learn to tolerate and overcome their own emotional distress.

New Brain Maps Capture Parenting Behavior in Vivid Snapshots

A revolutionary neuroimaging technique was introduced this week. The new brain maps create vivid snapshots that illustrate how various "parental regions" of the brain operate.

Kids Are What You Eat: Grab a Whisk & An App

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on May 28, 2016 in Screen Time
Families are searching for healthy meals that require minimal prep time. They may benefit from the following recommendations to adjust “attitudes” related to food.

As My Kids Graduate, I Do Too

My kids have graduated high school, which means I've been handed a pink slip for the best job I've ever had.

Home Schooling Your Nearly-Grown Child

Does your high schooler dread going to school every day? There is an alternative, but it's a gut-wrenching decision...

When You and Your Child Are Stuck in a Bad Pattern

But children (and adults!) naturally rebel against force, so you can't actually control anyone except yourself. That's why change needs to start with us.

Learning to Relate

Learning how to relate is extremely complex—more so when, very early in life, a child’s parents aren’t effective caregivers.

Why So Many Young Adults Are Living With Their Parents

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 26, 2016 in Living Single
For the first time ever, more young adults are living with their parents than with a spouse or partner. One of the most interesting reasons for this is rarely mentioned.

When Should Kids Start Kindergarten?

Is it better for kids to delay kindergarten a year? Find out what the evidence says.

The Infant “Crying It Out” Debate: Chapter 615

A new Australian study looks at two different infant sleep interventions and whether they work or cause damage.

Parental Alienation and the Bystander Effect

"Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act."

Can You See Yourself as Good Only by Seeing Yourself as Bad?

All children need—and desperately—to establish a secure bond with their caretakers. After all, absent such a vital connection, how can they not feel anxious and apprehensive?

Using Design Psychology to Feel at Home in Divorce

By Wendy Paris on May 24, 2016 in Splitopia
Using colors and images that remind you of your positive past can help you feel more at home, after divorce, and support your vision of your future life.
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5 Top Parenting Challenges and How to Deal with Them

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on May 24, 2016 in Singletons
Tweaking how you respond to tantrums or aggression, whining or back talk can put an end to power struggles and create loving, lasting bonds with your children.

Attachment Love and the Disempowerment of Women

Because attachment is linked to scripts of heterosexuality, monogamy and constrained female desire, it is far more likely than romantic love to lead to oppression of women.

Why Are More Young Girls Killing Themselves?

Suicide rates have tripled among 10 to 14 year old girls during the last 15 years. What is going on? Several possible factors underlie this disturbing trend.

Beyond Bikini Madness: Parents, Daughters, and Swimsuits

Its swimsuit season and sexy bikinis are all the rage for young girls. Not sure about saying "no"? Here's help for deciding what choices are right for your family.

ADHD Is Overdiagnosed, Here's Proof

By Allen J Frances M.D. on May 23, 2016 in Saving Normal
Being the youngest kid in the class puts you at great risk for inappropriate ADHD diagnosis and treatment. We should let kids outgrow immaturity, not treat it with a pill.

Pomp and Uncertain Circumstances

Your baby is graduating...are you ready?

Are You a Breast or Are You a Mother?

Who needs a mother, a living, breathing human being, with wants and needs of her own, when we can have a milk-producing breast instead?

Modern Lives are Weird!

By Richard Bailey Ph.D. on May 23, 2016 in Smart Moves
Inactivity is the new normal, and there is a serious price to be paid for this change. For the first time in recorded history, children have a shorter lifespan than their parents.

The Marriage Narrative: Will We Look Back in Shame?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2016 in Living Single
Social scientists and journalists are perpetuating a misleading narrative about the superiority of people who get married. Years from now, will we look back in shame?

Lessons for Millennials

The best advice you ever heard ... for millennials!

Helping Children Become Nurturers

Caring for others is a central mandate for adults as parents, caregivers to the elderly or helpers for those with disabilities. Can children grow into nurturers?

3 Mistakes Parents Make by NOT Considering Boarding School

When your kid's in danger, you may have to take drastic steps. Boarding school can be a new beginning.

Parenting From Behind Bars

By Darby Saxbe Ph.D. on May 20, 2016 in Home Base
A staggering number of children have parents in prison - and they're six times more likely to end up in jail themselves. How can we help?

The Myth of Multitasking

Do you and your children multitask your way through the day? Here's why it might not be the best strategy for your family.

Monogamy Is Not "Natural" For Human Beings

By E E Smith on May 20, 2016 in Not Born Yesterday
If the idea of mating for life went out with the so-called sexual revolution of the 1960's, and books like Open Marriage, why has monogamy become a hot button issue, so to speak?