All About Parenting

Parenting is the ultimate long-term investment. Be prepared to put far more into it than you get out of it, at least for some time. Given the stresses of contemporary American culture, the happiness of couples plummets the minute they become parents. And it gets worse before it gets better. In the long run, it is the most rewarding job of your life.

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear, parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It's especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, but the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. 

Recent Posts on Parenting

Another Mass Shooting

Yesterday the nation was shocked by another mass murder. How can parents talk with their children about these events? Here are some tips for parents as a guide to help kids deal with exposure to violent events.

Why Are Today’s College Students So Emotionally Fragile?

Brain research reveals why controlling parents stunt their children's growth.

What We Like About Stories

By Jamie Zibulsky Ph.D. on August 26, 2015 in Book Smart
Two of the characteristics of stories that are most important to us as readers or audience members may seem contradictory: we like surprises, but we also like predictability. Children also value these same elements in books, even from a young age.

Reducing Our Children's Stress During The School Year

By Allison Carmen on August 26, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
As our children are heading back to school, they may already appear a little more stressed. Within weeks of school starting, our children can become irritable, sleep less and you may notice things getting out of whack with family life at home. Here are six tips you can use to help reduce your child's stress so they can feel more balanced and get their work done.

Mathematical Woes

For many youth math can be a fearful and an intimidating subject. Unfortunately, the struggle with math can occur at an early age, and unless it's appropriately addressed the fear can travel well into adulthood.

My Daughter Steals And Lies

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 25, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
How To Manage Defiant Daughter

Making New Friends at School

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on August 25, 2015 in Once Upon a Child
One friend can’t be expected to match a child’s friendship needs at all levels, so they may have one friend that is mostly companionship, another for intimacy and another for silly games. So that’s the nature side of making new friends; what of the nurture side?

The Life-Changing Magic of Helping Kids Get Organized

By Wendy Paris on August 25, 2015 in Splitopia
Co-parenting in two homes can increase chaos. Help your kids develop organizational skills that will help them now and in the future.

Why America Can’t Read

Advanced research in cognitive science including brain scan science is demonstrating that explicit spelling instruction may be the missing link to reading success in America where sixty-five percent of fourth graders read below proficiency levels.

They Probably Don't Want to Hear It

Don’t people get it? There are others who really do want to hear constantly about how your grandson, at the age of five, is a nationally ranked golfer, but I don’t. Actually, there are only three to five people who do: They are your spouse, your unbelievably wonderful grandchild’s parents, and the other grandparents. And that is it!

Parenting an Alienated Child

Parenting an alienated child is a labor of love

Eat Right

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Good nutrition is a key part of maintaining your energy as a parent. Eating healthy helps parents stay good-humored and patient with children, even when the oatmeal starts flying. With this in mind, here is your daily Mother Nurture recipe, designed specifically with a parent's nutritional needs in mind. It's got just seven ingredients. This recipe is good for anyone.

What Does It Take to Succeed in Life?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in Media Spotlight
A new paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology describes one of the most comprehensive studies to date looking at the effects of family background, personality, and intelligence on later success. By studying 81,000 participants over an eleven-year period, researchers found that the American Dream is still alive and well. More or less.

When Should Your Young Athlete Specialize?

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in The Power of Prime
This question torments every parent who wants to support their children’s efforts as they pursue their own personal greatness in a sport. If you want your kids to stay healthy, stay motivated, and perform better, the experts and the research say that multisport participation is the way to go. But the messages from our culture tell parents something very different.

When Parents and Adolescent Get Stuck in a Hard Place

One trap for parents and teenager when in a hard place with each other is to think hard thoughts and feel hard feelings. By doing so, matters get worse. To make them better it helps to violate negative predictions and disempower feelings from influencing decisions.

8 Simple Truths About Raising Happy, Successful Kids

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on August 24, 2015 in All Grown Up
Parenting doesn't have to be “mysterious” or “complicated." As I’ve found through my work as a psychologist, coach, and family law attorney, supporting families over the past 28 years — raising awesome kids comes down to some “simple truths.” Live these “simple truths” as consistently as you can, and you — and your kids — are likely to be on the right track.

Pursue an Artistic Career? Advice for You and Parents

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 23, 2015 in How To Do Life
Careers as writer, actor, artist, musician are seductive but when are they worth the risk?

Growing Confident: Parenting to Shatter Boundaries

If we are not willing to be vulnerable – to feel just a little bit unsafe – we will never bump into our boundaries hard enough to shatter them.

Thank You For Not Sharing

By Nick Luxmoore on August 22, 2015 in Young People Up Close
Young people have to learn that there are degrees of privacy, that not sharing is normal.

"Like" Me: Why Girls Need More Breaks from Social Media

As a parent you are probably thinking that this constant pressure to be “Liked” sounds like an exhausting way to live. Who can relax when everything you say and do is analyzed, photographed, posted for an audience, and evaluated? To feel you have to be on at all times,and if you go for too long without checking your phone or computer, life might leave you behind?

Five Steps to Improved Parenting

This single father is raising two stellar teenagers on his own using a technique he calls "The 4 C's". No small feat for any parent, much less one who suffers from service-related post-traumatic stress due to 3 tours in the Middle East. We can all learn from what he has to share.

4 Things Pixar's Inside Out Can Teach Parents About Emotions

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on August 21, 2015 in Worry Wise
Every time we see tears in our children's eyes our inner control panel goes through the same process —we want to body dive sadness and get it off our kids — fast. I would say that this lesson to not fear our children's sadness is the one that we have to relearn just about every time we see tears. I don't want my kids to be sad.

Helping Kids Thrive in Middle School and High School

Early adolescence is a time of vulnerability and possibility, and whether they realize it or not, young people need their parents as much as they did as toddlers. Kids are moving toward independence, but parents still have an enormous role making sure they are safe, and increasing their chances of creating happily productive adult lives for themselves. Here are 10 ideas.

Should You Divorce Your Mother?

By Peg Streep on August 20, 2015 in Tech Support
Some personal choices make us profoundly uncomfortable, and chief among them is the decision to end contact with a parent. Should we be tolerant and understanding instead? Taking an informed look....

Early Reading Adventures

By Jamie Zibulsky Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in Book Smart
The last time I posted – slightly over a year ago – I was beginning a quiet summer and looking forward to a chance to catch up on my own fiction reading. Less than six weeks later, my husband and I were lucky enough to adopt a newborn baby boy, and my journey as a book smart parent began. I’ve had an incredibly fun year “practicing what I preach” with Henry.

Connecting With Your Children in a Disconnected Culture

While parents are more kid-focused than ever, it seems ironic that today’s children say they feel disconnected from their parents and wish their parents would spend more time really listening to them. It is also ironic that in a culture in which we are constantly connected via technology, families have become ever more disconnected...

When You Feel Bad About Your C-Section

It's very common for women to feel mixed, even contradictory, emotions after having an unplanned c-section. The following three suggestions may help you process your emotions, move forward in your recovery, and enjoy your new baby with greater peace of mind.

The Importance of Sex While Raising The Special Needs Child

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on August 19, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Sex & Raising The Special Needs Child

Make It a Happy Start to School: Our Top 10 Secrets

Here are some ideas for parents who want to ease their child’s return to the classroom. There are thoughts on planning ahead, paying close attention, nurturing creativity, being reassuring, making real-world connections, encouraging exploration, supporting good work habits, making time for play, finding a healthy balance, and advocating as needed.

Conservative Feminism

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in Rabble Rouser
If you want to be accepted by mainstream, contemporary feminism, you must identify as pro-choice, reject the reality of innate or biologically based gender differences or the concept of human nature, condemn traditional relationships and family dynamics, and subscribe to specific avenues for achieving gender equality and justice.