All About Parenting

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear (best done in conversations around the dinner table), parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It is especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world, parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, and parenting in some ways has become a competitive sport.

But the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. There is such a thing as overparenting, and aiming for perfection in parenting might be a fool's mission. Too much parenting cripples children as they move into adulthood and renders them unable to cope with the merest setbacks. There is also such a thing as too-little parenting, and research establishes that lack of parental engagement often leads to poor behavioral outcomes in children, in part because it encourages the young to be too reliant on peer culture. Ironically, harsh or authoritarian styles of parenting can have the same effect.

Recent posts on Parenting

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust, Part I

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
2004 by Tomasz Sienicki

Do Smartphones Delay Sex and Dating?

Perhaps the correlation is not causal because a third variable, such as helicopter parenting, might be responsible for having a smartphone and delaying sex and romance.

How to Change Passive Aggressive Behavior

Is a passive aggressive person causing you to feel angry and exhausted? The skill of Benign Confrontation can help you make long-term changes to this destructive dynamic.

4 Questions to Not Ask Your Child About Returning to School

By Kyle D. Pruett M.D. on August 15, 2017 in Once Upon a Child
What you shouldn't ask your children as they ready themselves to return to school.

No, Team, No!

By Laurie Helgoe Ph.D. on August 15, 2017 in Introvert Power
He's young, healthy, and not into sports? How to stop seeing this as a problem.

Help Rejecting, Complaining Victims of Troublesome Spouses

How should you respond to a friend who is always complaining to you about their mate, but rejects any suggestion you make to them about how to handle their relationship?

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

Why Our Students Can’t Write

Here's part of the solution to a big problem in American education.

On This Father’s Day

By The Research Lab on August 15, 2017 in The Fundamentals
We need to take a hard look at child support policies. By Robert Crosnoe, Ph.D.

Teen Attitude, Teen Trouble

It’s hard to parent a teenager. It's even harder to be one. Here are ten attitudes and actions that can help make it easier for you, and might even make it easier for your kid.

How to Bounce Back from Epic Parenting Fails

Social media has changed the way we talk about parenting failures. And not necessarily for the better.

Does "Tough Love" Produce Better Working Dogs?

Puppies with overly attentive mothers have poorer problem-solving abilities and are less likely to succeed as service dogs.

Love and Fear in Parenting

Parenting is my greatest adventure, and it is often my greatest source of fear.

Teens and Texting: A Recipe for Disaster

Teens and texting... Is your child the next Michelle Carter?

Why Technology Makes it Hard to Raise Mentally Strong Kids

While our digital devices make many aspects of life easier, electronics makes it tougher than ever to raise resilient kids.

Race in America: Tips on Talking With Children About Racism

Current events depicting racism often spark the race conversation. How can you have the talk with your kid?

My Mother Has Disliked Me Since Childhood

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How To Deal With A Mother Who Is Full of Anger.

The Longest Ride Home

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in Social Lights
12 ways parents can cope with college move in

Bumper Stickers Can Facilitate Dynamic Social Interactions

By Christopher Bergland on August 13, 2017 in The Athlete's Way
The tragic events in Charlottesville have left many of us speechless. The only cogent response I have for my 9-year-old daughter is from a "Hate Has No Home Here" bumper sticker.

Who’s to Blame When a Child Dies in High-Conflict Divorce?

By Linda Esposito LCSW on August 11, 2017 in From Anxiety to Zen
Filicide is the most unimaginable crime perpetrated against children. The very act defies explanation, yet opening up the dialogue may be the only hope for the lives lost.

When the Church Harms Your Child

How do families survive clergy child sexual abuse?

Four Tools to Stress-Proof Your Parenting Brain

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on August 10, 2017 in Singletons
How to get the stress related to your children under control and keep sane and calm during the parenting journey
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No, Mr. President, a Wall Won’t Stop Opioid Overdose Deaths

How does increasing law enforcement to go after international drug cartels serve those who have an opioid abuse problem now? We can help addicts and reunite families, if we act.

Teen Therapy Without Parental Consent

Should adolescents be able to consent to initial mental health treatment without their parents? On this issue, state laws are all over the place.

It's Not My Fault. The Millennial Answer to Everything!

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on August 09, 2017 in Motivate!
When things go awry, parents and leaders often cast blame, yet fail to take accountability for their decisions. Knowing why we shirk responsibility can lead to better outcomes.
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Do You Get Hearing Loss Exhaustion?

By Shari Eberts on August 09, 2017 in Life With Hearing Loss
Does your hearing loss exhaust you? You are not alone.

One Parent Can Do Just as Good a Job as Two, Women Say

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 09, 2017 in Living Single
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How to Help Kids Manage Anger

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Essential Parenting Tasks for a Healthy College Transition

The transition to campus and adulthood brings high stress for students. Here are the steps you should take as a parent to support them through this transition.

Road and Sideline Rage

What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.