All About Orgasms

Just in case you don't know: An orgasm is the peak of the sexual response cycle, experienced by males and females. This is a moment characterized by intense arousal and pleasure. During orgasm, involuntary muscle contractions and spasms may occur throughout the body. Orgasms keep us healthy, and maybe even wise.

Recent Posts on Orgasm

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Lack of Orgasms

Most women who haven’t had their first orgasm are incredibly hard on themselves. They feel ashamed, embarrassed, defeated, anxious, unwomanly, self-conscious, and alone. Learn how you can transform your relationship with orgasm.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Four Reasons You're Not Having Sex

Women want sex as much as men do, but sometimes life gets in the way.

What 50 Shades of Grey Tells Us About Women

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Good Thinking
The phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Grey is telling something important about the female psyche.

Fifty Shades of Grey Review

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on February 13, 2015 in Sex Esteem
The long anticipated movie has finally hit the screens! Here are some thoughts coming from a Certified Sex Therapist.

Confronting the Poisonous Male-Female Power Struggle

Acknowledging that it is normal and healthy for sexuality to have different roles and meanings for each partner are important.

Sex Is a Team Sport—and There's No "I" in Team!

Women, men, and couples who accept that sexuality is a team sport involving more than intercourse are the ones who thrive.

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Herbal Aphrodisiacs Excite More Than the Imagination

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Do traditional herbal aphrodisiacs work? Quite possibly yes.

Women Who Don't Orgasm

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on January 28, 2015 in Sex Esteem
Many women profess being satisfied in sexual, but orgasm-less relationships. What's going on behind this trend?

Women Want Short-Term Mates, Too?

All Men are Promiscuous, All Women are Monogamous? No.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

What Exactly Is Sexual Satisfaction?

Two recent studies inform us that sexual satisfaction consists of much more than pleasurable sensations.

If Orgasms and Love Elude You, Blame Commitment and Oxytocin

By Rita Watson MPH on January 07, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
When one's social life consists of hook-ups, sexual pleasure is often fleeting and disappointing.

Resolution for a Better Sex Life in 1 Weekend, 3 Commitments

How many times have you wished for a better sex life? Resolve with these concrete suggestions to make in happen in the new year! Prioritize your intimate life, fine-tune what works and expand your sexual repertoire. Here’s your step-by-step instructions to recommit to and re”vamp” the bedroom!

Adult Toys: Both Women and Men Increasingly Love Them

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Thirty years ago, both men and women used to feel anxious about adult toys. Now both genders have embraced them.

Tinder, Accessibility and Geo-Locating Love

From the irrelationship perspective, showing up for love with an open heart and mind—giving ourselves and each other a chance to set ourselves aflame one swipe at a time—might very well be among the most essential strategies for pulling a fast one on the psychological defenses that we use to keep ourselves distant from those who threaten our hearts with real relationship.

10 Ways to Improve Any Relationship

Healthy relationships depend on your ability to communicate your thoughts, desires, needs and issues. The trick is how to express yourself amidst the sea of emotions that can quickly submerge efforts. Here's are some tips in getting you started...

Taste, Texture & Sex; Food's Sultry Senses for the Holidays

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on December 22, 2014 in Sex Esteem
How do you enhance the holiday season in your sensuality? The foods of the season are a place to slow down and become more mindful of the many senses involved in dining, much in the same way a sexual experience can be passionate when all erotic triggers are firing. This holiday season, savor both the foods and your erotic connections. Happy Holidays.

Warning to Men: Erection Drugs Just Might KILL You

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 15, 2014 in All About Sex
The FDA calls erection drugs "safe." But a recent study shows that's misleading.


By Robert J King Ph.D. on December 11, 2014 in Hive Mind
Sitting down to stand up to the government

Holiday Sex, Romance, and Gratitude Enhance Intimacy

By Rita Watson MPH on December 08, 2014 in With Love and Gratitude
Researchers tell us the mean occurrence rate for experiencing orgasm during sex. But only we know for certain just how we can influence intimacy by embracing gratitude.

Synchronous and Asynchronous Sexual Experiences

When the couple embraces variable, flexible sexuality, which celebrates synchronous as well as asynchronous sexual experiences, they can enjoy a strong, resilient sexual desire.

Are People in Open Relationships Happier?

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on December 01, 2014 in Strictly Casual
Many believe that people in open relationships are less healthy and happy than people in monogamous relationships. A new study adds to the evidence that it may in fact be the opposite.

Bonding (Physically) With Same-Sex Individuals

By Jesse Marczyk on November 30, 2014 in Pop Psych
A new papers suggests that homoerotic behavior functions to bond same-sex friends closer together. I remain skeptical.

Social Bonding and Addiction

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on November 24, 2014 in Science of Choice
The presence of strong social bonds in adulthood may decrease the vulnerability to drug abuse.

Hair Gripped

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on November 16, 2014 in In Excess
Trichophilia is a sexual paraphilia (sometimes called trichopathophilia, hirsutophilia, and/or hair fetishism) in which individuals derive sexual pleasure and arousal from human hair (most commonly head hair). But what do we know about it from a psychological perspective?

Oh "Hedy" Days of Youth!

By Robert J King Ph.D. on November 10, 2014 in Hive Mind
Hedy Lamarr: What can a screen goddess and inventor teach us about female orgasm?

Don’t Call Them “Rape Fantasies”

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 05, 2014 in Evolution of the Self
Study after study has revealed that one of women’s most popular erotic fantasies is being raped. Yet the fundamental dynamics of such fantasies has almost nothing to do with such a heinous act—which isn’t simply aggressive, but coercive, violent, and at times life-threatening. A woman’s feeling scared out of her mind is hardly conducive to sexual arousal...

8 Sex Tips for the Long Haul

Regular sex with your life partner is a picnic and a brass band. You don’t really need the fireworks, too.