All About Orgasms

Just in case you don't know: An orgasm is the peak of the sexual response cycle, experienced by males and females. This is a moment characterized by intense arousal and pleasure. During orgasm, involuntary muscle contractions and spasms may occur throughout the body. Orgasms keep us healthy, and maybe even wise.

Recent Posts on Orgasm

Meeting Your Conditions for Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Not having your conditions for good sex met is a frequent cause of failed erections and no orgasms.

In at the Sharp End

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in In Excess
Belonophilia refers to the deriving of sexual pleasure and arousal from pins or needles. Although media stories relating to ‘needle fetishes’ appear to be relatively rare, clinical and medical case studies in the academic literature are almost non-existent. So, what do we know psychologically about this apparently rare sexual fetish?

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

The Neurobiology of BDSM Sexual Practice

How can one experience pain, either the physical pain of a smack on the tush or the emotional pain of humiliation, as pleasurable? Aren’t pain and pleasure diametrically opposed? The answer, informed by neurobiology, is that the opposite of pleasure isn’t pain but ennui— a lack of interest in sensation and experience.

Making Saves

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 17, 2015 in In Excess
Extreme couponing is an activity that combines shopping skills with couponing in an attempt to save as much money as possible while accumulating the most groceries. Extreme couponers spend hours and hours on the internet or scouring scouring rubbish tips or supermarket car parks looking for coupons. But can it be addictive?

The Neuroscience of Female Orgasms

New hope for those who want more

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

6 Reasons that Women Fake It During Sex

A woman’s faking an orgasm during sex with a man appears to be a fairly common occurrence. New research reveals that these 6 reasons are behind women’s tendencies to be fake during their most intimate moments.

20 Random Facts About Dating, Sex, Breakups and Divorce

Twenty random facts about dating, sex, breakups and divorce.

Spiders: Oral Sex During Mating Saves Males' Lives

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on March 11, 2015 in Animal Emotions
Male Darwin's bark spiders have evolved a unique strategy for avoiding cannibalism during mating. They perform oral sex that seems to relax older females so that they are less likely to eat the males.

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Lack of Orgasms

Most women who haven’t had their first orgasm are incredibly hard on themselves. They feel ashamed, embarrassed, defeated, anxious, unwomanly, self-conscious, and alone. Learn how you can transform your relationship with orgasm.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

4 Reasons You're Not Having Sex

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Living the Questions
Women want sex as much as men do, but sometimes life gets in the way.

What 50 Shades of Grey Tells Us About Women

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Good Thinking
The phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Grey is telling something important about the female psyche.

Fifty Shades of Grey Review

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on February 13, 2015 in Sex Esteem
The long anticipated movie has finally hit the screens! Here are some thoughts coming from a Certified Sex Therapist.

Confronting the Poisonous Male-Female Power Struggle

Acknowledging that it is normal and healthy for sexuality to have different roles and meanings for each partner are important.

Sex Is a Team Sport—and There's No "I" in Team!

Women, men, and couples who accept that sexuality is a team sport involving more than intercourse are the ones who thrive.

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Herbal Aphrodisiacs Excite More Than the Imagination

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Do traditional herbal aphrodisiacs work? Quite possibly yes.

Women Who Don't Orgasm

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on January 28, 2015 in Sex Esteem
Many women profess being satisfied in sexual, but orgasm-less relationships. What's going on behind this trend?

Women Want Short-Term Mates, Too?

All Men are Promiscuous, All Women are Monogamous? No.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

What Exactly Is Sexual Satisfaction?

Two recent studies inform us that sexual satisfaction consists of much more than pleasurable sensations.

If Orgasms and Love Elude You, Blame Commitment and Oxytocin

By Rita Watson MPH on January 07, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
When one's social life consists of hook-ups, sexual pleasure is often fleeting and disappointing.

Resolution for a Better Sex Life in 1 Weekend, 3 Commitments

How many times have you wished for a better sex life? Resolve with these concrete suggestions to make in happen in the new year! Prioritize your intimate life, fine-tune what works and expand your sexual repertoire. Here’s your step-by-step instructions to recommit to and re”vamp” the bedroom!

Adult Toys: Both Women and Men Increasingly Love Them

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Thirty years ago, both men and women used to feel anxious about adult toys. Now both genders have embraced them.

Tinder, Accessibility and Geo-Locating Love

From the irrelationship perspective, showing up for love with an open heart and mind—giving ourselves and each other a chance to set ourselves aflame one swipe at a time—might very well be among the most essential strategies for pulling a fast one on the psychological defenses that we use to keep ourselves distant from those who threaten our hearts with real relationship.

10 Ways to Improve Any Relationship

Healthy relationships depend on your ability to communicate your thoughts, desires, needs and issues. The trick is how to express yourself amidst the sea of emotions that can quickly submerge efforts. Here's are some tips in getting you started...

Taste, Texture & Sex; Food's Sultry Senses for the Holidays

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on December 22, 2014 in Sex Esteem
How do you enhance the holiday season in your sensuality? The foods of the season are a place to slow down and become more mindful of the many senses involved in dining, much in the same way a sexual experience can be passionate when all erotic triggers are firing. This holiday season, savor both the foods and your erotic connections. Happy Holidays.