All About Orgasms

Just in case you don't know: An orgasm is the peak of the sexual response cycle, experienced by males and females. This is a moment characterized by intense arousal and pleasure. During orgasm, involuntary muscle contractions and spasms may occur throughout the body. Orgasms keep us healthy, and maybe even wise.

Recent Posts on Orgasm

A Letter to Young Sexually Active Heterosexual Women

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on July 11, 2015 in Stress and Sex
This generation seems to be more misinformed than any other, likely because they get so much of their information from pornography. The most distorted information is about young heterosexual women’s sexuality. I hope that my letter can help to clear up some of these distortions.

The Joy of Mindful, Asynchronous Sex

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on June 24, 2015 in Stress and Sex
During asynchronous sex, the receiver can connect her body and mind in space and time—or in other words, she can cultivate the mindful focus that has been shown to increase orgasmic capacity

A Linguistic Sexual Revolution: Naming the Clitoris

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on June 14, 2015 in Stress and Sex
Let’s use language to shape our values around women’s orgasmic response. Let’s start naming the clitoris openly and proudly. Let’s use a nickname so frequently that it makes its way into online dictionaries. After all, calling the clitoris Tori, Doris, or Pepita is no stranger than calling the penis Tom, Dick, or Peter.

Come Again?

There is perhaps no larger mystery in the science of human reproduction than the role of the female orgasm. Evolutionary theories tend to argue that the female orgasm either aids in mate selection or is just a by-product of shared development with males. Where the orgasm is concerned, there might be more to the story.

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow (or not at all!) Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems that plague a couple’s sexual experience. Anxiety is the root cause of both problems. Solve these problems easily with two fun psychologically-oriented sex games.

Why We Should All Aspire to 'Good Enough' Sex

Sex does not equal intercourse and intercourse and orgasm is not a pass-fail sex test.

Seventy Percent: A Statistic to Enhance Your Sex Life

If more women and men knew this statistic, less women would be faking orgasm.

Why Do Women Have Orgasms?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 30, 2015 in All About Sex
Controversy surrounds the issue of why women evolved to have orgasms.

Does Size Matter for Women?

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on April 20, 2015 in How We Do It
Penis size has figured prominently in discussions of the evolution of human reproductive biology and mate choice. But, despite the lock-and-key relationship, relatively little attention has been given to female counterparts of the penis — the clitoris and vagina. So reliable information is scarce. Investigation of what is available yields some intriguing conclusions.

Meeting Your Conditions for Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Not having your conditions for good sex met is a frequent cause of failed erections and no orgasms.

In at the Sharp End

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in In Excess
Belonophilia refers to the deriving of sexual pleasure and arousal from pins or needles. Although media stories relating to ‘needle fetishes’ appear to be relatively rare, clinical and medical case studies in the academic literature are almost non-existent. So, what do we know psychologically about this apparently rare sexual fetish?

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

The Neurobiology of BDSM Sexual Practice

How can one experience pain, either the physical pain of a smack on the tush or the emotional pain of humiliation, as pleasurable? Aren’t pain and pleasure diametrically opposed? The answer, informed by neurobiology, is that the opposite of pleasure isn’t pain but ennui— a lack of interest in sensation and experience.

Making Saves

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 17, 2015 in In Excess
Extreme couponing is an activity that combines shopping skills with couponing in an attempt to save as much money as possible while accumulating the most groceries. Extreme couponers spend hours and hours on the internet or scouring scouring rubbish tips or supermarket car parks looking for coupons. But can it be addictive?

The Neuroscience of Female Orgasms

New hope for those who want more

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

6 Reasons that Women Fake It During Sex

A woman’s faking an orgasm during sex with a man appears to be a fairly common occurrence. New research reveals that these 6 reasons are behind women’s tendencies to be fake during their most intimate moments.

20 Random Facts About Dating, Sex, Breakups and Divorce

Twenty random facts about dating, sex, breakups and divorce.

Spiders: Oral Sex During Mating Saves Males' Lives

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on March 11, 2015 in Animal Emotions
Male Darwin's bark spiders have evolved a unique strategy for avoiding cannibalism during mating. They perform oral sex that seems to relax older females so that they are less likely to eat the males.

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Lack of Orgasms

Most women who haven’t had their first orgasm are incredibly hard on themselves. They feel ashamed, embarrassed, defeated, anxious, unwomanly, self-conscious, and alone. Learn how you can transform your relationship with orgasm.

4 Reasons You're Not Having Sex

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Living the Questions
Women want sex as much as men do, but sometimes life gets in the way.

Confronting the Poisonous Male-Female Power Struggle

Acknowledging that it is normal and healthy for sexuality to have different roles and meanings for each partner are important.

Sex Is a Team Sport—and There's No "I" in Team!

Women, men, and couples who accept that sexuality is a team sport involving more than intercourse are the ones who thrive.

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Herbal Aphrodisiacs Excite More Than the Imagination

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Do traditional herbal aphrodisiacs work? Quite possibly yes.

Women Who Don't Orgasm

Many women profess being satisfied in sexual, but orgasm-less relationships. What's going on behind this trend?

Women Want Short-Term Mates, Too?

All Men are Promiscuous, All Women are Monogamous? No.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

What Exactly Is Sexual Satisfaction?

Two recent studies inform us that sexual satisfaction consists of much more than pleasurable sensations.