The Truth About Narcissism

Narcissists cut a wide, swashbuckling figure through the world. At one end of the self-loving spectrum is the charismatic leader with an excess of charm, whose only vice may be his or her inflated amour-propre. At the far end of the spectrum reside individuals with narcissistic personality disorder, whose grandiosity soars to such heights that they are manipulative and easily angered, especially when they don't receive the attention they consider their birthright. Here's how to figure out whether the big talker in your office really believes his or her own hype.

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By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on October 09, 2016 in Think Well
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By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
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By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 25, 2016 in Fixing Families
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Can You Help a Narcissist Become Less Self-Absorbed?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 14, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
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By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 05, 2016 in Life After 50
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