Everything seems to happen at mid-life: The empty nest, menopause, affairs, and growing unhappiness with a job. It's no wonder you bought that red convertible. Interestingly, mid-life is more of an issue in some cultures than others. Western societies hold on to youth more tightly than others.
A sabbatical equals time to read - so I've been making up for lost time binge-reading all those books on aging I should have been reading. If you are behind like me, here are four suggestions that show the range of writing on successful aging (and how to get there).
When I was a teenager I wanted to be thought of as older. Older girls seemed sophisticated, hip, and independent. Now that I am ACTUALLY older, it’s younger women who seem sophisticated, hip, and independent. Go figure.
When you tell yourself that your best days are behind are, you pretty much guarantee that they are. Stop worrying about what will happen in ten years because life in ten years won’t be anything like what you’re imaging now.
Relative career success can lull us into complacency. As we live and work longer we benefit from seeing opportunities for new professional ventures. Age allows us to take on these new ventures with experience, skill and confidence.
As many of us have learned from experience, knowing what you “should” do, or what you have been told you “need to do” isn’t always enough to get yourself back on track to what it is that you really want to do.
For half of me, this is a dream come true. I’m revisiting my musical and reworking the script with my director Valeria and rewriting some songs with my composer Michael. The other half of me is feeling impostor syndrome for the first time since grad school – what the hell am I doing?
In many ways, as we get older life gets more complicated. When life throws you a painful curve it makes sense that the need for soothing dramatically increases. Being grown up doesn't mean that you’ve outgrown the right to get support!
The midlife crisis is one of those urban legends that refuses to go away, no matter how much evidence question its universality. The latest evidence to refute the midlife crisis myth shows, yet again, that there are no massive personality upheavals when the decade marker strikes four-zero.
What is it with old dudes and motorcycles? Is it a last defiant statement that the real man hiding inside looks more like Steve McQueen in "The Great Escape" than Kevin James in "Paul Blart: Mall Cop?" Or is it the simple joy of having something powerful throbbing between your legs once again?
The practice of writing, journaling in particular, can be a powerful tool to help you understand your passions and life purpose. Writing is a way to tap into your subconscious mind and learn about your true self. The transcendent feelings that comes in knowing this can be awe-inspiring and life-changing. The article also includes journaling prompts.
A recent birthday celebration reminded me of the importances of goddesses in our lives. We are different goddesses depending upon where we are in the life cycle. Athena, for example, puts career first, Hera puts marriage first, Artemis is the goddess of the hunt and saves other women and Aphrodite is the sensual lover. The wise woman arrives later in life.
Many people feel regrets about past decisions and paths they took in their live, and they often feel trapped by the long-term consequences. But there's a different way of understanding the regrets, by learning how you have been changed by them in ways you might not realize.