Dealing with Mid-Life Crisis

Everything seems to happen at mid-life: The empty nest, menopause, affairs, and growing unhappiness with a job. It's no wonder you bought that red convertible. Interestingly, mid-life is more of an issue in some cultures than others. Western societies hold on to youth more tightly than others.

Recent Posts on Mid-Life Crisis

7 Ways to Create an Upward Spiral of Positive Emotions

This blog post offers seven ways that you can create an upward spiral of positive emotions and well-being.

Why Are So Many Middle-Aged White Americans Dying Young?

Why are so many middle-aged white Americans self-destructing?

How to Think Outside the Box

By Patty Chang Anker on October 31, 2015 Some Nerve
“Think outside the box” is advice you often hear. But what if you’re STUCK in a box, a routine, a view of yourself or how others view you?

The Boomers, the "Old-Old," and In-Between: Four New Takes

A sabbatical equals time to read - so I've been making up for lost time binge-reading all those books on aging I should have been reading. If you are behind like me, here are four suggestions that show the range of writing on successful aging (and how to get there).

Do You Lie About Your Age?

When I was a teenager I wanted to be thought of as older. Older girls seemed sophisticated, hip, and independent. Now that I am ACTUALLY older, it’s younger women who seem sophisticated, hip, and independent. Go figure.

Lost With Dementia

By Mario D Garrett PhD on September 14, 2015 iAge
What is the best strategy for finding people with dementia who get lost?

Good, Better and Best Advice for Life After 50

When you tell yourself that your best days are behind are, you pretty much guarantee that they are. Stop worrying about what will happen in ten years because life in ten years won’t be anything like what you’re imaging now.

Turning 50: Alison Bechdel’s Success and Mine

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on September 05, 2015 Full Living
Relative career success can lull us into complacency. As we live and work longer we benefit from seeing opportunities for new professional ventures. Age allows us to take on these new ventures with experience, skill and confidence.

How to Rebalance an Out-of-balanced Life

As many of us have learned from experience, knowing what you “should” do, or what you have been told you “need to do” isn’t always enough to get yourself back on track to what it is that you really want to do.

When the Creativity Researcher Goes Back to Being Creative

By James C Kaufman on August 17, 2015 And All That Jazz
For half of me, this is a dream come true. I’m revisiting my musical and reworking the script with my director Valeria and rewriting some songs with my composer Michael. The other half of me is feeling impostor syndrome for the first time since grad school – what the hell am I doing?

It’s Not Easy Being a Grown-Up

In many ways, as we get older life gets more complicated. When life throws you a painful curve it makes sense that the need for soothing dramatically increases. Being grown up doesn't mean that you’ve outgrown the right to get support!

Worried About a Midlife Crisis? Don't. There's No Such Thing

The midlife crisis is one of those urban legends that refuses to go away, no matter how much evidence question its universality. The latest evidence to refute the midlife crisis myth shows, yet again, that there are no massive personality upheavals when the decade marker strikes four-zero.

Nothing Says "Old Dude" Like Getting a Motorcycle

What is it with old dudes and motorcycles? Is it a last defiant statement that the real man hiding inside looks more like Steve McQueen in "The Great Escape" than Kevin James in "Paul Blart: Mall Cop?" Or is it the simple joy of having something powerful throbbing between your legs once again?

Finding Your Power Through Writing

The practice of writing, journaling in particular, can be a powerful tool to help you understand your passions and life purpose. Writing is a way to tap into your subconscious mind and learn about your true self. The transcendent feelings that comes in knowing this can be awe-inspiring and life-changing. The article also includes journaling prompts.

Getting Intentionally Lost Later in Life

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 Listen Up!
As we age, taking a Time Out can be crucial to vital involvement in our life. How to create a space where we can renew and rediscover ourselves?

7 Lessons From the History of Adulthood

Lessons from the past that illuminate the present.

Goddesses: What Are Their Origins and Roles?

A recent birthday celebration reminded me of the importances of goddesses in our lives. We are different goddesses depending upon where we are in the life cycle. Athena, for example, puts career first, Hera puts marriage first, Artemis is the goddess of the hunt and saves other women and Aphrodite is the sensual lover. The wise woman arrives later in life.

How to Free Yourself From Regret, for Good

Many people feel regrets about past decisions and paths they took in their live, and they often feel trapped by the long-term consequences. But there's a different way of understanding the regrets, by learning how you have been changed by them in ways you might not realize.

How to Spend the Time You Have Left

Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Are you living life to the full? Are you spending your time wisely?

Midlife: Adult's Prime

Why middle age truly is the prime of life.

Addicted to Busy: 4 Strategies to Ease the Guilt & Burnout

Keeping busy at all costs is the cultural status quo, but the drive to do more is impacting our families, our work, and our health. The result of being Addicted to Busy is not only a lack of time, but also exhaustion, anxiety, guilt, fear, social comparison, inauthenticity and physical illness.

Je Suis Charlie: Courage, Commitment and the Cost of Freedom

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on January 18, 2015 Evil Deeds
It is easy for Americans and French citizens to take our freedom for granted. But these violent attacks remind all of us that freedom is something precious and precarious, and that it takes great courage and commitment to affirm and maintain it. This is an existential truism not only for nations or cultures, but for patients in psychotherapy too.

What’s Your Vision of Retirement?

A new generation is redefining retirement

Why You and Your Siblings May Still Be Rivals

No matter how much siblings love each other, they’re bound to have their share of conflict, often over the attention of their parents. Whether you’re a sibling, or a parent of one, you know that sibling rivalry is real. Here are some insights to help you understand where it comes from and what the effects of parental favoritism can be over time.

Unearthing Ted Turner: "Last Stand" is a Fascinating Read

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on December 17, 2014 Animal Emotions
Todd Wilkinson's book about Ted Turner called "Last Stand: Ted Turner’s Quest to Save a Troubled Planet" tells it like it is. I really enjoyed Mr. Wilkinson’s book and was fortunate to do an interview with him about it and this fascinating and enigmatic man. There's tons of information between the covers of "Last Stand" that will be of great interest to a broad audience.

What Are the Best and Worst Times to Break Up?

The decision to end a relationship is never an easy one, and complicating the process is the question of when to make the break. Research on couples suggests that even those who break up at the “wrong” time may benefit from the support of family and friends.

Are Old People Really Happier?

By Robin Marantz Henig on December 06, 2014 Cusp
Just yesterday morning New York Times columnist David Brooks wrote a column about the U-shaped curve of happiness called "Why Elders Smile." It is currently #1 on the most-emailed list at the Times. He says old people "are spared some of the burden of thinking about the future." Um, why is this a good thing, exactly?

The Marshmallow Test, “Willpower” and ADHD, Part 1

What made it possible for some preschoolers to wait longer for the bigger reward when others could not wait?

The Memory of a Great Love

Like a parachute, a heart can open fully; a person can, even after a long fall out of love, survive.

Why We Judge Our Friends

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on November 29, 2014 Insight Is 20/20
You may want to believe you don't judge your best friend, but social judgments may be an inevitable part of human relationships.