Dealing with Mid-Life Crisis

Everything seems to happen at mid-life: The empty nest, menopause, affairs, and growing unhappiness with a job. It's no wonder you bought that red convertible. Interestingly, mid-life is more of an issue in some cultures than others. Western societies hold on to youth more tightly than others.

Recent Posts on Mid-Life Crisis

Goddesses: What Are Their Origins and Roles?

A recent birthday celebration reminded me of the importances of goddesses in our lives. We are different goddesses depending upon where we are in the life cycle. Athena, for example, puts career first, Hera puts marriage first, Artemis is the goddess of the hunt and saves other women and Aphrodite is the sensual lover. The wise woman arrives later in life.

Why Cuddling Is So Crucial

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 15, 2015 in All About Sex
As post-sex cuddling increases, so does sexual and relationship satisfaction.

Want To Be A Hero? Embrace Suffering and Sacrifice

The wisdom gleaned from theology and psychology reveals six ways that suffering and sacrifice are beneficial to human beings.

How to Free Yourself From Regret, for Good

Many people feel regrets about past decisions and paths they took in their live, and they often feel trapped by the long-term consequences. But there's a different way of understanding the regrets, by learning how you have been changed by them in ways you might not realize.

How to Spend the Time You Have Left

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in A Sideways View
Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Are you living life to the full? Are you spending your time wisely?

Jealous Mothers and Their Daughters: The Last Dirty Secret?

By Peg Streep on March 16, 2015 in Tech Support
Maternal envy, perhaps the biggest taboo of all, needs to be addressed and discussed, not just for the sake of daughters but for mothers as well.

Midlife: Adult's Prime

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 02, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Why middle age truly is the prime of life.

Addicted to Busy: 4 Strategies to Ease the Guilt & Burnout

Keeping busy at all costs is the cultural status quo, but the drive to do more is impacting our families, our work, and our health. The result of being Addicted to Busy is not only a lack of time, but also exhaustion, anxiety, guilt, fear, social comparison, inauthenticity and physical illness.

4 Ways to Keep Your Cool, No Matter What

With these four simple steps we can become emotionally resilient, gracefully and calmly handling every situation that comes our way.

The Tug-of-War Between Passion and Security

By Gregg Levoy on February 17, 2015 in Passion!
In the contest between passion and security, security tends to win, but passion doesn't keep quiet about it. Here's how to manage the conflict between them.

The Wisdom of Confucius: 6 Sayings for Modern Times

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on February 05, 2015 in The Web of Violence
Confucius was one of the first great thinkers. He identified many eternal values that can still inspire us today.

Sexual Connection at Any Stage

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
The bad news is that your sexual relationship ain’t what it used to be! The good news is it can be something more. Sometimes we confuse the ebb and flow of sexual attraction in long-term relationships with the worthiness of the relationship itself.

I May Be Past My Peak But I’m Not Over the Hill

By David F. Swink on February 04, 2015 in Threat Management
There are many benefits and risks of extreme sports. When are you too old to do them?

Je Suis Charlie: Courage, Commitment and the Cost of Freedom

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on January 18, 2015 in Evil Deeds
It is easy for Americans and French citizens to take our freedom for granted. But these violent attacks remind all of us that freedom is something precious and precarious, and that it takes great courage and commitment to affirm and maintain it. This is an existential truism not only for nations or cultures, but for patients in psychotherapy too.

What’s Your Vision of Retirement?

A new generation is redefining retirement

Why You and Your Siblings May Still Be Rivals

No matter how much siblings love each other, they’re bound to have their share of conflict, often over the attention of their parents. Whether you’re a sibling, or a parent of one, you know that sibling rivalry is real. Here are some insights to help you understand where it comes from and what the effects of parental favoritism can be over time.

Unearthing Ted Turner: "Last Stand" is a Fascinating Read

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on December 17, 2014 in Animal Emotions
Todd Wilkinson's book about Ted Turner called "Last Stand: Ted Turner’s Quest to Save a Troubled Planet" tells it like it is. I really enjoyed Mr. Wilkinson’s book and was fortunate to do an interview with him about it and this fascinating and enigmatic man. There's tons of information between the covers of "Last Stand" that will be of great interest to a broad audience.

What One Thing Do You Want to Change about Your Life?

Change is, as they say, an inevitable fact of life. However, it’s not always so easy to make those changes that you most desire. By adopting the mindset of the "agile innovator,” however, those changes might be easier to tackle than you think.

What Are the Best and Worst Times to Break Up?

The decision to end a relationship is never an easy one, and complicating the process is the question of when to make the break. Research on couples suggests that even those who break up at the “wrong” time may benefit from the support of family and friends.

Are Old People Really Happier?

By Robin Marantz Henig on December 06, 2014 in Cusp
Just yesterday morning New York Times columnist David Brooks wrote a column about the U-shaped curve of happiness called "Why Elders Smile." It is currently #1 on the most-emailed list at the Times. He says old people "are spared some of the burden of thinking about the future." Um, why is this a good thing, exactly?

The Marshmallow Test, “Willpower” and ADHD, Part 1

By Thomas E Brown Ph.D. on December 02, 2014 in The Mysteries of ADD
What made it possible for some preschoolers to wait longer for the bigger reward when others could not wait?

The Memory of a Great Love

Like a parachute, a heart can open fully; a person can, even after a long fall out of love, survive.

Why We Judge Our Friends

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on November 29, 2014 in Insight Is 20/20
You may want to believe you don't judge your best friend, but social judgments may be an inevitable part of human relationships.

Could You Ever Stay in a Loveless Marriage? Some Are Trying.

There's now a way that unhappy couples with kids can stay and go at the same time.

Your Teen’s Brain On Weed: Is It Safe?

By Karen L. Schiltz Ph.D. on November 19, 2014 in Beyond the Label
Ever since Colorado legalized recreational cannabis use ten months ago, parents have been asking me if it is really safe for their teen. They remember weekends of smoking during college and think that it is harmless. On the other hand, teenagers to young adults have assumed that such use is normal and perfectly o.k. However, recent research suggests otherwise.

The Problem of Desire

By Neel Burton M.D. on November 06, 2014 in Hide and Seek
The psychology and philosophy of desire.

Breaking up Schizophrenia?

The road ahead may well be tough. Nature’s easiest secrets were discovered long ago. But we will never get there if we insist on studying schizophrenia as though it were a homogeneous entity.

This Is NOT Your Brain on Drugs

By Sean X. Luo M.D., Ph.D. on November 02, 2014 in Hooked on Patterns
Popular coverage of neuroimaging of substance abuse is often woefully unsophisticated: this is your brain, this is your brain on drugs. This creates completely false impressions of how these studies are done, what they really say and what they really mean. This practice really needs to stop.

The Root Cause of Stress in Kids

By Tim Elmore on October 30, 2014 in Artificial Maturity
Know why so many kids are stressed out and “failing to launch” into adulthood?

Doing a Phd.

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on October 26, 2014 in A Sideways View
Do you want to be called Dr? What does doing a PhD really involve? Will you ever get your investment back? How are the examined and what are the key features in passing?