How do you find your perfect match? Your partner for life? And when you meet that someone, how do you know you've made the right choice? Perhaps you feel you're aiming too high, or maybe you're aiming too low. And talking about soul mates makes matters worse—besides, do soul mates even exist? Here are some articles to help you maneuver the mating game.

Recent Posts on Mating

Attraction & Infidelity: Can 'Eye Candy' Always Be Resisted?

When the Ashley Madison website, apparently promoting infidelity, was hacked revealing just how many people appear involved in relationship betrayal, the media appeared scandalised at the prevalence of infidelity - or at least the appetite for it. However psychologists have recently posed the opposite question - why is there in fact not more infidelity?

Making Sense of Common Sense

By Alain Samson Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in Consumed
How understanding the taken-for-granted can enrich behavioral science

Sorry, I Can’t Fix Your Clueless Husband

By Jared DeFife Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in The Shrink Tank
What can you do if your husband won't get marriage counseling? More than you think.

5 Signs You May Be Battling Relationship Burnout

By Kira Asatryan on August 25, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Does dating sound awful? Are you secretly dreading your next relationship? You may be battling relationship burnout. Learn the signs and how to overcome it.

New Psychology of Kissing Reveals Its True Purpose

The investigation challenges conventional views of why we kiss. The surprising results suggest there may be more going on beneath the surface, when it comes to kissing, than is commonly realised.

This Can Give You the Advantage in Online Dating

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Artistic and creative pursuits predict mating success Art, music or humour, are the modern day human equivalent to the peacock’s tail

Can You Really Sue Someone for Breaking Up With You?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on August 18, 2015 in So Sue Me
Surprisingly, the answer may be yes! It is a little-known fact, but some states still allow lawsuits for "breach of promise" or "breach of contract to marry." In these states, you can actually sue your ex for breaking up with you if, during your relationship, he or she promised to marry you.

Are Friends With Benefits as Satisfied as Married Couples?

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on August 17, 2015 in Strictly Casual
Casual sex is often vilified as lower quality, unsatisfying, and ultimately harmful to those who engage in it—especially if they’re women. But a new study suggests that at least one type of casual sex—friends-with-benefits relationships--is as sexually satisfying as the more romantic and long-term types of relationships.

Ugh! That's So Disgusting! Repulsion Predicts Your Sex Life

To have sex, we have to overcome strong feelings of disgust.

Touch and Go Relationships – Do they have to be Superficial?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 14, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
How can we rise above when new intimate relationships don’t pan out, and multiple failures take their toll on optimistic expectations.

Why do we owe sex and romance to viruses?

By Eyal Winter on August 14, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Why we owe sex and romance to viruses?

The Loveliness of Luscious Loins

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 in How We Do It
Studies of attractive features of women’s body shape have rarely considered the side view. This is needed to assess the importance of curvature of the loins and protrusion of the buttocks. Apparently, special adaptation of the lower spine in women to permit maintenance of the centre of gravity over the hips during pregnancy feeds into men’s assessment of attractiveness.

Logging on for Love

By Wendy Paris on August 11, 2015 in Splitopia
The Internet has fundamentally altered how we date but some things never change, such as the need to assess chemistry in person.

Does the Couple That Facebooks Together Stay Together?

By Catalina Toma Ph.D. on August 10, 2015 in Virtual You
Are the dating couples that constantly post about their relationship on Facebook more or less likely to break up?

How Do We Really Seek Partners?

Human reproductive strategies are shaped by evolution to shift as a function of environmental conditions. Same goes for wild garlic. We can learn a lot about ourselves from the world around us.

When Parents Date Someone New, What's Best for the Kids?

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on August 01, 2015 in Nurturing Resilience
Though parents are moving in and out of romantic relationships more often, there are things they can do to make these transitions easier for their children.

The Surprising Way Social Media Boosts Romantic Commitment

According to research, making things "Facebook Official" with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or lover could help create a lasting love. Find out how to post, share, update, and like your way to long-term relationship happiness.

When Love Goes Bad at the Office

When the breakup happens, people may take sides. Coalitions may form. Who’s the bad one who caused the breakup? This makes for high drama at the office.

6 Things Women Secretly Know About Relationships

We want to be your friend but if we’re sexually/erotically involved, we want to be acknowledged as more than your friend. If we’re living together, you shouldn’t say, “This is my housemate” or “This is my roommate.” If we’ve been a couple, openly and happily, for more than a few months, let’s figure out a way to present ourselves to the world as more than “just friends.”

Shortcut to Understanding Others

Speed Dating With Speed Testing

An Unexpected Chord

Disagreement don't need to poison relationships

The Psychology of Ghosting

By Jen Kim on July 29, 2015 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Ghosting occurs when the person you are dating suddenly disappears off the face of the planet. This can take the form of ignoring you, not responding to any attempts at communication and even pretending they legitimately don’t know you, even when you see them face-to-face. As the term suggests, they've vanished without a trace.

3 Reasons to Take a Break After a Breakup

By Wendy Paris on July 28, 2015 in Splitopia
We may think that divorce opens the door to a rousing round of nonstop dating, but many people find they need a break between marriage and getting back out there. Taking a break can bring real benefits.

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Social Instincts
Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.

10 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. How do you know when you’re dating a narcissist? Here are ten telltale signs...

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 10

By Eyal Winter on July 25, 2015 in Feeling Smart
On Sex, Procreation and Sperm Compitition: How do Human Beings Differ from Animals.

What Facial Features Do Men Really Find Attractive?

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 23, 2015 in Social Instincts
New science reveals a gender discrepancy in judgments of facial attractiveness.

New Relationships and Sex after 60, 70, and 80

What does intimacy look like after sixty and should you broach the subject with your older parents?

What Makes Romance So Romantic (and So Doomed)?

Once a relationship, however sweet, tender, and loving, has been domesticated. it can no longer be romantic. For some of the crucial things that make romance romantic—though they include feelings of amorousness and affection—also contain elements doomed to decay. So what is it about Romance that makes it so wondrous, yet ultimately so impossible to hold onto?

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?