How do you find your perfect match? Your partner for life? And when you meet that someone, how do you know you've made the right choice? Perhaps you feel you're aiming too high, or maybe you're aiming too low. And talking about soul mates makes matters worse—besides, do soul mates even exist? Here are some articles to help you maneuver the mating game.

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Of Crime, Criminality, and Nature

By Joe Nedelec Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Nature of Crime
Thieving primates, invading chimpanzees, alcoholic monkeys, and insect rape are a few examples of the criminality evident in nature discussed in this post. To further lay the foundation for a biosocial viewpoint of crime and criminality, this post examines how human criminal behavior has numerous analogues in the wild.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

Finding a Life Partner, Part Two

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Media Spotlight
While David Buss points out that we all come from a long line of ancestors who have been fairly successful in the mating game which, in theory, means that we are all equipped to succeed ourselves, Menelaos Apostolou isn’t so optimistic. The rules under which we live in modern society are very different from what our ancestors took for granted.

Is Everyone on Match.com Looking for a Match?

By Marty Klein PhD on June 29, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
Many people use dating sites to window shop. Their mates, however, may not be amused.

Can Subliminal Messages Create Feelings of Love and Lust?

Can a sexy picture in the background or a well-chosen romantic word, trigger automatic feelings of love and desire? Could the right situation or association make you seem more attractive, sexy, or alluring to a potential lover? See what the research has to say here...

Nice Guys Really Do Finish Last

A new study shows that being over-confident may not make you more desirable, but can still help you get the girl.

Cupid at the Office

Many of us would like to think that our personal and professional lives are separate. Our work life seems to be a parallel universe filled with coworkers and casual relationships with acquaintances.

Finding a Life Partner, Part One

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Can evolutionary psychology help explain why it seems so hard to have a successful intimate relationship? A new article published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences investigates the enigma of human mating choices and the evolutionary forces shaping us today.

Dad Max

By Robert J King Ph.D. on June 21, 2015 in Hive Mind
Mad Max and the battle of the sexes.

What Turns Guys On? Understanding Male Sexual Desire

Unsurprisingly, a large body of research (and a good bit of common sense) supports the idea that male and female sexual arousal are very different.

When Friends Become Lovers (and Why They Often Don't)

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 16, 2015 in The Sports Mind
The surprising new science behind one of love’s gray areas: the “friend zone.”

Hooking It Up

Mobile apps like Tinder and The Grade not only make hooking up easier, but they also provide far more equal opportunity.

Ethical Issues in Dating

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on June 07, 2015 in Fighting Fear
A description of what expectations one may have in dating, and what obligations one takes on.

The Ratio of Love

The sex ratio influences men's mating and parenting effort. In a mating market, more men can mean more stable relationships and child-rearing. Yet this may be surprising when we also imagine men's lives in male-dominated social niches, like frontier mining towns, where plenty of gambling, prostitution and gun-toting can prevail.

Come Again?

There is perhaps no larger mystery in the science of human reproduction than the role of the female orgasm. Evolutionary theories tend to argue that the female orgasm either aids in mate selection or is just a by-product of shared development with males. Where the orgasm is concerned, there might be more to the story.

To Chet (Son of Tom) Hanks: No Innocent Racial Slurs

No one can talk their way out of the intended group-division and hierarchy pushed by the language bigotry of racial slurs. That because the social psychology of it is that language-bigotry of any group slur is intended to push an “us versus them” way of thinking, feeling and behaving.

Miscarriages: Conception Without Birth

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on June 02, 2015 in How We Do It
Miscarriage is a rarely discussed, almost taboo topic. Couples hit by pregnancy loss are usually unprepared and left alone to cope with grief and imagined guilt. Popular belief has it that miscarriage affects only 5% of pregnancies, but 15-20% are reported. Far greater losses occur before pregnancy is clinically recognizable, and only 25% of conceptions lead to birth.

Rebound and Revenge Sex: The Truth Behind the Myths

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Myth: To get over breakups, people quickly jump into bed with new lovers, often strangers. Truth: Recent research shows that this is more the exception than the rule.

Can May-December Romances Work?

How To Handle Feelings Toward An Older Man

3 Reasons Why We Don't Commit to Relationships

Why do so many partners seem to prefer casual dating and friends-with-benefits, rather than deeper commitments and marriage? What can you do if you feel stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere? Learn about the research on commitment in romantic relationships—and find out what you can do to get him (or her) to commit!

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

In the idyllic state of romantic love, you typically attempt to secure the object of your passion by putting their wants and needs ahead of your own. It’s as though you’re saying to yourself: “So I can make you mine, I’ll make fulfilling your desires more important than my own.” But that relational stance yet includes a crucial contingency clause. . . .

After a Decade of Dating, I Found A Keeper

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 28, 2015 in Open Gently
The most important clue is how you fight.

How to Talk to a Single Person

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Living Single
Some people seem to have a hard time conversing with single people. All they can think of to ask is whether the single person is seeing someone. Even worse, researchers can be just as flummoxed. A survey claiming to be "the most comprehensive" about single life asked only about 1 question of 128 that was not about becoming unsingle. Here's how to talk to a single person.

Dating and Mating in an Online World

Internet dating can create anxiety for some people. And there is nothing wrong with trying to meet someone the old-fashioned way. It just takes a lot longer usually. If going online is uncomfortable for you, then perhaps you could be introduced to someone through a friend or meet someone by getting out in your community. There still are singles dances and get-togethers. Ju

The Key To Relationship Success…And Failure

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in Ambigamy
Today's most popular advice on successful marriage: Don't show criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. But this has couples criticizing each other for showing these traits, and defending against that accusation. The solution lies deeper than banishing these "four horsemen of the apocalypse."

A Crash Course on Gender Differences Session 3

By Eyal Winter on May 23, 2015 in Feeling Smart
(1) expression of love (2) sex without commitment (3) health concerns.

13 Ways to Keep Love Alive

Since May is Date Your Mate Month, here are a few ideas you might want to consider. Try some of these and add your own creative touches to the process of keeping romance alive! Taking time out of our busy lives to make sure that the intimate aspects of our relationship are thriving works wonders for the partnership and our lives as a whole.

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Can Women be as Violent as Men?

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 14, 2015 in The Human Beast
Gender equality is making strides in most occupations, including violent ones such as the military and police. If violent crime is a “job,” as Woody Allen referred to bank robbery in Take the Money and Run, can we expect to see gender equality there also?

Oxytocin — The Multitasking Love Hormone

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on May 12, 2015 in How We Do It
Oxytocin is widely known because hospitals routinely use it to trigger and support birth. The hormone also triggers milk ejection during breastfeeding. But it is also involved elsewhere, including bonding. Oxytocin has significant effects on brain function as well as on the reproductive organs. But it has very ancient origins, so what was its initial function?