How do you find your perfect match? Your partner for life? And when you meet that someone, how do you know you've made the right choice? Perhaps you feel you're aiming too high, or maybe you're aiming too low. And talking about soul mates makes matters worse—besides, do soul mates even exist? Here are some articles to help you maneuver the mating game.

Recent Posts on Mating

How Facebook Can Increase Romantic Relationship Commitment

According to research, making things "Facebook Official" with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or lover could help create a lasting love. Find out how to post, share, update, and like your way to long-term relationship happiness.

When Love Goes Bad at the Office

When the breakup happens, people may take sides. Coalitions may form. Who’s the bad one who caused the breakup? This makes for high drama at the office.

6 Things Women Secretly Know About Relationships

We want to be your friend but if we’re sexually/erotically involved, we want to be acknowledged as more than your friend. If we’re living together, you shouldn’t say, “This is my housemate” or “This is my roommate.” If we’ve been a couple, openly and happily, for more than a few months, let’s figure out a way to present ourselves to the world as more than “just friends.”

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An Unexpected Chord

Disagreement don't need to poison relationships

The Psychology of Ghosting

By Jen Kim on July 29, 2015 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Ghosting occurs when the person you are dating suddenly disappears off the face of the planet. This can take the form of ignoring you, not responding to any attempts at communication and even pretending they legitimately don’t know you, even when you see them face-to-face. As the term suggests, they've vanished without a trace.

To Date or Not to Date

By Wendy Paris on July 28, 2015 in Splitopia
We may think that divorce opens the door to a rousing round of nonstop dating, but many people find they need a break between marriage and getting back out there. Taking a break can bring real benefits.

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Social Instincts
Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.

10 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. How do you know when you’re dating a narcissist? Here are ten telltale signs...

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 10

By Eyal Winter on July 25, 2015 in Feeling Smart
On Sex, Procreation and Sperm Compitition: How do Human Beings Differ from Animals.

What Facial Features Do Men Really Find Attractive?

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 23, 2015 in Social Instincts
New science reveals a gender discrepancy in judgments of facial attractiveness.

New Relationships and Sex after 60, 70, and 80

What does intimacy look like after sixty and should you broach the subject with your older parents?

What Makes Romance So Romantic (and So Doomed)?

Once a relationship, however sweet, tender, and loving, has been domesticated. it can no longer be romantic. For some of the crucial things that make romance romantic—though they include feelings of amorousness and affection—also contain elements doomed to decay. So what is it about Romance that makes it so wondrous, yet ultimately so impossible to hold onto?

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?

Could Women Be as Violent as Men?

The Data Doctor answers a question about gender patterns in domestic violence and whether women could really be as violent as men.I also briefly comment on the Hoffman report regarding APA collusion in waterboarding and other torture post 9/11.

When Dating, Confidence Will Get You Far (But Only So Far)

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 14, 2015 in Social Instincts
Implications for you, and your online dating profile.

Let's Start a Community of Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 09, 2015 in Living Single
Many single people (and singles activists) want to be in touch with other single people who like their single lives. Reporters are often looking for singles to interview. Professionals working with singles want enlightened resources. Let's create a community of single people that's not about dating.

Finding Romance in Middle-age

Being single in middle age is complicated. Working long days, staying in touch with grown children, managing medical and financial complexities . . . how do people summon the energy to manage break-ups and pursue romance?

Of Crime, Criminality, and Nature

By Joe Nedelec Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Nature of Crime
Thieving primates, invading chimpanzees, alcoholic monkeys, and insect rape are a few examples of the criminality evident in nature discussed in this post. To further lay the foundation for a biosocial viewpoint of crime and criminality, this post examines how human criminal behavior has numerous analogues in the wild.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

Finding a Life Partner, Part Two

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Media Spotlight
While David Buss points out that we all come from a long line of ancestors who have been fairly successful in the mating game which, in theory, means that we are all equipped to succeed ourselves, Menelaos Apostolou isn’t so optimistic. The rules under which we live in modern society are very different from what our ancestors took for granted.

Is Everyone on Match.com Looking for a Match?

By Marty Klein PhD on June 29, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
Many people use dating sites to window shop. Their mates, however, may not be amused.

Can Subliminal Messages Create Feelings of Love and Lust?

Can a sexy picture in the background or a well-chosen romantic word, trigger automatic feelings of love and desire? Could the right situation or association make you seem more attractive, sexy, or alluring to a potential lover? See what the research has to say here...

Nice Guys Really Do Finish Last

A new study shows that being over-confident may not make you more desirable, but can still help you get the girl.

Cupid at the Office

Many of us would like to think that our personal and professional lives are separate. Our work life seems to be a parallel universe filled with coworkers and casual relationships with acquaintances.

Finding a Life Partner, Part One

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Can evolutionary psychology help explain why it seems so hard to have a successful intimate relationship? A new article published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences investigates the enigma of human mating choices and the evolutionary forces shaping us today.

Dad Max

By Robert J King Ph.D. on June 21, 2015 in Hive Mind
Mad Max and the battle of the sexes.

What Turns Guys On? Understanding Male Sexual Desire

Unsurprisingly, a large body of research (and a good bit of common sense) supports the idea that male and female sexual arousal are very different.

When Friends Become Lovers (and Why They Often Don't)

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 16, 2015 in Social Instincts
The surprising new science behind one of love’s gray areas: the “friend zone.”

Hooking It Up

Mobile apps like Tinder and The Grade not only make hooking up easier, but they also provide far more equal opportunity.