All About Masturbation

Even infants, as they learn to explore their bodies, have been known to pleasure seek through masturbation. Over time we learn to stimulate ourselves to reach sexual satisfaction. Read on to learn the latest thinking as well as how common it really is.

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Young men are finding new ways to reach out to each other and older generations for advice and mentorship.

Big Love

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 09, 2015 in In Excess
Macrophilia appears to be an increasingly popular sexual paraphilia in which individuals derive sexual arousal from a fascination with giants and/or a sexual fantasy involving giants. But what do we know about it from a psychological perspective?

In at the Sharp End

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in In Excess
Belonophilia refers to the deriving of sexual pleasure and arousal from pins or needles. Although media stories relating to ‘needle fetishes’ appear to be relatively rare, clinical and medical case studies in the academic literature are almost non-existent. So, what do we know psychologically about this apparently rare sexual fetish?

How to Explore Your Sexual Boundaries With Your Partner

One of the best ways to prevent boredom and breathe new life into the bedroom is to explore your sexual boundaries together. Most couples don’t explicitly communicate their boundaries with each other, so a lot of couples don’t actually know where they stand on the behaviors and fantasies they feel comfortable experimenting with.

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

Do Sex Surveys Pose Any Risk of Harm to Participants?

Surveying college students about their sex lives is often presumed to pose risks to participants, such as psychological distress. However, research finds that sex surveys appear to hold no more potential for harm than general psychological tests.

How does Love Affect Happiness?

Unlike marriage, love seems to increase happiness significantly. This was the conclusion of a seventy-year long longitudinal study of two socially different groups.

42 Signs that You are a Narcissist

Discover your degree of self-centeredness with these 42 signs indicating narcissism.

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Lack of Orgasms

Most women who haven’t had their first orgasm are incredibly hard on themselves. They feel ashamed, embarrassed, defeated, anxious, unwomanly, self-conscious, and alone. Learn how you can transform your relationship with orgasm.

Is Sadomasochism a Uniquely Human Form of Sexuality?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Animals and Us
From an evolutionary point of view, the enjoyment of pain would seem to be maladaptive. Is there an animal analog of finding sexual satisfaction in being whipped, poked with needles, or having hot wax dripped on your skin?

Stars In Their Eyes

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in In Excess
Celebriphilia has been defined as “an intense desire to have a romantic relationship with a celebrity” and shares many similarities with celebrity stalking. It is also a completely modern, man-made phenomenon. But what do we know about celebriphilia?

Chronic Fatigue in the Context of the History of Medicine

In the way that lives were once ruined with such toxic diagnoses as ovarian hysteria, lives today are ruined by CFS.

How Big are Psychological Sex Differences?

By David P Schmitt Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Sexual Personalities
Are Men and Women Psychologically Different?

Childhood Trauma and Masturbation

Often when a child undergoes abuse or trauma there are not sufficient outlets for all the rage, despair and grief that results from the betrayal. Masturbation is one of the most accessible and available forms of numbing out, because you rely only on your own body to produce the intoxicating chemicals that soothe the pain.

When Sex Isn’t About Pleasure

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Sexual compulsivity is treatable. That may be one of the most important sentences you will ever hear. If it’s threatening your personal and professional life, there is an alternative.

Expanding on Penis Size

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on February 04, 2015 in How We Do It
Correlation between erect and flaccid penis lengths is a statistical artifact. On average, extension through erection is the same in all men. The “plunger hypothesis”, that human penis shape is adapted to remove semen from rival males, is shown to be far-fetched. But stretched length of the penis may have a connection with the size ratio between index and ring fingers.

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Talking About Sex Addiction

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on January 28, 2015 in Minority Report
Questions such as "Do you believe in sex addiction?" or "Is porn/masturbation ok?" are simplistic questions to challenging clinical issues. Instead, these questions need to be reframed from another vantage point.

Women Who Don't Orgasm

Many women profess being satisfied in sexual, but orgasm-less relationships. What's going on behind this trend?

Talking To Children About Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on January 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Children need accurate sex information from their parents or other loving adults in their life.

Libido & Conversing: What Transsexuals Can Teach Heteros

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 18, 2015 in All About Sex
How much do you desire sex and conversation? Transsexuals show us that sex hormones play a big role in both of these needs.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

My 16-Year-Old Has Sex Dreams About Me

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on January 07, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when son is attracted to mom

Sexually Dominant Women and the Men who Desire Them, Part II

By Stephen J Betchen D.S.W. on November 18, 2014 in Magnetic Partners
Sexually dominant women and the men who need them

Sex Addiction as a Sex-Positive Concept

The sex addiction recovery movement not only complements the progress made toward a sex-positive culture, it reinforces it. Sharing and exploring not just our greatest sexual joys and discoveries, but our struggles and pain as well, is the path to an integrated and holistic model of sexuality.

Stay Monogamous Using Polyamorous Principles

Polyamory isn't for everyone. But that doesn't mean there aren't useful and widely applicable guiding principles that make polyamory and consensual non-monogamy successful. Integrating consensual non-monogamy principles into monogamous relationships offers the potential for some of the benefits of non-monogamy to be integrated into the lives of many.

Porn and Sex Addiction: Getting Back in Control

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on November 05, 2014 in Save Your Sex Life
Porn and Sex Addiction is quite a popular buzz term these days.

The New Monogamy Challenge

Once upon a time, in the pre-Internet days of yore, monogamy in marriage was a given, and sexual infidelity was very definitely frowned upon. Nowadays, however, in our highly digitally sexualized, divorce-accepting world, infidelity is no longer such a big deal culturally.