All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

I Miss My Mom

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 24, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to do if your mother is emotionally unstable.

Unselfish Singles: They Give More Time, Money, and Care

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 24, 2017 in Living Single
Studies based on tens of thousands of participants show that the stereotype of the self-centered single person is exactly wrong. Singles are more giving than married people.

What NOT to Do When You Discover Your Partner Is Cheating

Here are 5 ways to NOT react when you discover your partner is cheating on you.

Be Responsible For Your Relationships

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
We are 100 percent responsible for our relationships. We create them in our minds and hearts, and we have a hand in the twists and turns they take.

Have Politics Ruined 'Fifty Shades'?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 20, 2017 in SexualityToday
Christian Grey’s dominant tendencies worked as erotica during the Obama years. But many women may soon find egalitarianism and restraint looking better and better.

On Always Seeing Things Through the Victim Lens

For a woman to assume that any interaction with a man that feels uncomfortable or demeaning is sexist could be an inaccurate appraisal.

What Happens if You Love a Flirt?

Does flirting have a place in on-going relationships or should it be limited to relationship initiation?

Marriage as a Constraint

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 19, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Someone may explain a hesitancy to marry in terms of a particular partner. Often, however, there are are more general reasons.Some men and women see marriage as a constraint.

Navigating the Swamp of Politics in a Relationship

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on February 19, 2017 in In It Together
Do You and Your Partner Disagree About Politics? Ways to Cope With the Challenges

Marital Infidelity: Existential Uncertainty in Spades

By Susan Rako M.D. on February 18, 2017 in More Light
"How can I ever trust my husband/wife again?"

Time Together and Time Apart

Spending time with others helps to strengthen our identification as a couple and make us feel connected to the world. Just as important for a successful marriage is time together.

For Better or for Worse?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Talking Apes
It takes both partners working together to make marriage a heaven on earth—or a living hell.

Rethinking Love

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Face It!
Is love an emotion?

7 Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Lasting love is hard to come by - how do successful couples make their relationships work?

XO in XY

By Laura Betzig Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in The Political Animal
A small army of human geneticists is unfolding the history of human mating from our sex chromosomes.
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7 Ways to Express Your Love

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Are you feeling depressed? Have you run out of ideas on how to show someone you loved them? This article will offer you tips which will help you honor the love in your heart.

What To Get Your Ex For Valentine's Day

By Wendy Paris on February 14, 2017 in Splitopia
Valentine's Day is a chance to celebrate all the people in our lives—including our ex. 

Divorce in Middle Age

The dissolution of a marriage is usually a major life stressor. Yet, it's up to you whether your new life is aimed toward fulfillment and growth or one of regret and stagnation.

13 Ways To Put The Spark Back Into Your Relationship

Whether you have been together for a few months or several decades, here are some quick and easy tips to get that sparkle back!

Be My Valentine - And Save Our Democracy!

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on February 13, 2017 in Intentional Insights
Want to have a great Valentine's Day while defending our democracy? Here are a few research-based tips.

Recommitment Vows and Honeymoons Part 3

I know a creative, dynamic man named Ken. When he got married, he enjoyed his wedding day so much that he said to his wife, “We should do this every year!” And they have...

Can We Really Have a Happy Valentine's Day This Year?

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Worry Wise
Even in a crisis, even in an emergency, we work in shifts. Some of us always need to be on love duty. We need to put the oxygen masks on our relationships first.

3 Important Sex Questions

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on February 11, 2017 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
The Sex Quiz when looking for a life partner

Women Who Stay Single or Get Divorced Are Healthiest

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 11, 2017 in Living Single
Women 50+ who got married got fatter, drank more, and had higher blood pressure than when they were single. Women who divorced got healthier than they were when they were married.

Recommitment Vows and Honeymoons Part 2

More and more couples are writing their own vows rather than just repeating what the minister has them say. I believe this is an important trend.
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Recommitment Vows and Honeymoons Part 1

Every marriage has three components, mine, yours, and ours. This refers to the vows that underlie the foundation of the relationship

6 Essential Traits of Healthy Intimate Relationships

Healthy relationships require effort -- and that's a large part of what makes them so rewarding.

Men vs. Women Want Different Outcomes in Couples Therapy

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on February 07, 2017 in The New Resilience
Research shows the same kinds of conflicts around problem solving couples experience at home also affects what they look for in couples therapy.

The 3 Pathways to Empathy in Close Relationships

Most of us believe we're pretty good at reading the moods of our partners. New research shows how we can improve our pathways to empathy by separating truth from bias.

Constrained by Coupling: Your Friends Are Not Your Own

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 07, 2017 in Living Single
If you are coupled, it matters whether your partner likes your friends. What does that mean for the quality of single people’s friendships vs. coupled people’s?