All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

Who Has the Best Sex?

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on October 28, 2016 in Cravings
It takes more than attraction and consent to have a mutually satisfying sexual relationship.

12 Ways to Sabotage Your Relationship

Here are 12 common missteps that can trip you up along the path to relationship satisfaction when you lose sight of the importance of your partner.​

Are Ghosts Haunting Your Marriage?

By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D. on October 28, 2016 in Suffer the Children
When a couple comes to therapy for marital issues, there are often more than the three of us sitting in my office.

Happy Childhood, Happy Marriage

By Temma Ehrenfeld on October 27, 2016 in Open Gently
Happy childhoods are a big advantage, but we all can learn the skills that preserve relationships and health.

Managing Your Expectations About Marriage

Having realistic expectations about our marriage will result in less dissatisfaction.

I Am Caught Between My Daughter And Her Stepmother

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 25, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What To Do When Your Wife Dislikes Your Child
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Managing Interpersonal Energy

Once you acknowledge your interpersonal energy, be mindful of how to manage it!

Myth of the Perfect Partner

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex because Jordan had come on too strong, too directly, without setting a context for love-making.
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Open or Closed Sexual Relationships?

What do we know about consensual non-monogamous relationships? This study is a first step.

How Much Money Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?

Economics and psychological perspectives provide us with different spending values in response to this common question.

Matt and Lisa’s Wedding Ceremony

It’s much safer and more convenient to fall in love with your phone.

My Mother's First Love at Age 93, by Caroline Leavitt

By Jennifer Haupt on October 20, 2016 in One True Thing
My mother begins to talk about love differently. It’s no longer the thing that ruins lives, that traps you. Instead, it’s this wonderful secret she wants to share with everyone.

Couples, Go Ahead—Enter Each Other’s “Hurt Museum”

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again . . . and again?

Harsh Views of Singles: Stereotypes or Accurate Perceptions?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in Living Single
Are harsh judgments of single people unfair stereotypes or accurate perceptions? Four kinds of studies all provide the same answer.

Good Communication Alone Doesn't Improve Relationships

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in The New Resilience
Research finds that good communication results from a positive relationship that's been built on a solid foundation.

The Decline of Trust

By Robert L. Leahy Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Anxiety Files
In almost all areas of our lives trust has declined—and it has been on the decline for decades.

Why Your Mother-in-Law Doesn’t Like You

Feeling at odds with your in-laws? Find out the reasons behind their dislike and get some tips to ease this common conflict.

Are Political Differences Straining Your Relationships?

Do's and don'ts for dialogue lest political differences wreck your relationships.

When the Perks of Love Interfere With Love

It is sometimes the case that the gifts of love become more important (and are certainly more safe from the risks and anxieties of love) than love itself.

Want to Have a Better Marriage? Here's How

Books and blogs are filled with tips to strengthen your marriage. You don’t need this advice.

Six Expressions of Love

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in In It Together
Do you and your partner have different ideas about how to express love? "Not feeling loved" is a major underlying cause of separation, so this is a conversation worth having.

Donald Trump Is Not the Lone "Grabber"

By Rupert W Nacoste Ph.D. on October 13, 2016 in A Quiet Revolution
Painful for me, I encounter the social reality of sexual assaults in the personal stories young women trust me with in their papers at the end of my social psychology course.

Five Tech-Steps to a Meaningful Relationship

If you’re searching for love and a long-term relationship, locating the right partner can be tough. It’s just incredibly difficult to find a great match.

Gray Divorce: Why Some Grandparents Are Calling It Quits

Would you stay in a stale marriage if you are going to live into your 80s or 90s? Gray divorce is here to stay.

7 Essential Keys to a Successful Relationship

Through my work, I have had the satisfaction of seeing positive outcomes when two people work hard at relationship self-improvement.

Four Types of Commitment in Polyamorous Relationships

This blog looks at four ways polyamorists express their commitments to each other verbally, with fluid bonding, via Google calendar, and with ceremonies.

The Best Reason to Never Rock the Boat with Your Partner

Beware! When you change one thing, there is no guarantee where it will stop.

Post Traumatic Growth

Those of us who struggle with trauma, find that rising to the challenge reveals our hidden abilities that were formerly untapped.

The Transgender Bathroom Controversy

The debate over transgender rights is becoming as contentious as the debate over marriage equality. But why is it that this issue, like same-sex marriage, has created such a furor?

Working Too Hard or Too Little in Your Marriage?

Is your spouse overworking you?