All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

Health Benefits Unlikely Even from the Longest Marriages

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 22, 2017 in Living Single
New research looking at men and women of different ages who have been married for different lengths of time finds scant evidence that people who marry get healthier.

Coping With Your Partner’s Annoying Behaviors

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 22, 2017 in Talking Apes
If we’re mindful about the true source of the minor irritations in our life, we can more fully appreciate the good things our partner does for us each day.

Have Fun with Sexual Fantasies

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on July 21, 2017 in Sex Matters
Sexual fantasies are private experiences, but sharing them with your partner can ramp up the passion, and increase your intimacy.

Feeling Lost?: Part 1

The path of a committed relationship is challenging and rewarding. It helps to have a map of the terrain so that we can find our way.

Real Reasons for Sex Before Marriage

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in The Human Beast
More people today are sexually active before marriage than ever before. The true reasons are practical and have little to do with changing belief systems.

Husbands Watch Porn, Wives Despair—But Why?

By Marty Klein PhD on July 19, 2017 in Sexual Intelligence
When couples argue about porn, they're usually arguing about something else.

Facebook Infidelity: 10 Safeguards Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Clear Communication
Most Americans now consider this cheating. Do you? It's time to fight this marriage cancer. Here's how...

Bridging Relationship Distress

Is it possible to cut each other free from the conflict?

Relationship Satisfaction Entails Playing By the Rules

Alternative relationship types come under scientific scrutiny in a new study on monogamous, open, and polyamorous couples. As long as you play fair, it seems that anything goes.

The Challenges of Intimacy

By Neel Burton M.D. on July 18, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Why intimacy requires constant vigilance.

Pornography And Broken Relationships

People who view pornography are much more likely to experience a romantic relationship break up. We look at research data supporting this expectation and discuss pivotal factors.

The #1 Quality to Look for in a Romantic Partner

Professor and relationship expert shares the #1 quality to look for in a romantic partner and two tools you can use to figure out whether the person you're dating has it or not.
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What Helps People Live a Long and Satisfying Life?

By Lori Russell-Chapin Ph.D. on July 16, 2017 in Brain Waves
Strengthen your face-to-face relationships. It will add years to your life!

If Gandhi Was Your Marriage Therapist

Research has found that Gandhi's principles of fairness, peace, and principled protest can also change your love life.

What’s in It for Women? Vs. What’s in It for My Husband?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 14, 2017 in Living Single
A new study suggests that single women think differently than married women in a way that helps explain why they vote reliably for Democrats and married women do not.

Is Your Lover Also Your Friend?

Life is sweeter and you think more of yourself when you value your partner as a friend.

The Most Important Relationship Strength You Must Have

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 13, 2017 in Clear Communication
Though our natural inclination is not to do this, new research shows there's one behavior that can keep all of your human relationships happy.

Some Forms of Compassion Are More “Acceptable” Than Others

Everything is a matter of perception, including empathy and compassion.

Wedding Blues

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Complicated Love
The wedding of a loved one can be a joyous occasion or one filled with drama and emotional minefields. But there are ways you can cut the drama and increase the possibility of joy.

Seven Factors Comprising Resilience

We often feel like the vase in the kiln that we are being baked alive, angry at our predicament or angry at who we believe is victimizing us.

Fathers-and-Sons-in-Law: When Things Go Well

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on July 11, 2017 in Buddy System
What helps sons-in-law to be drawn to fathers-in-law?
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Survive Your Difficult Family By Being Calm

Much of what gets labeled as individual pathology in adults and children is really the playing out of family stresses and conflicts. Learn what you can do in this 8-part series.

Short Answers: Marry?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 10, 2017 in How To Do Life
Should you marry your current partner? Should you marry anyone?

Relationship Communication Tools

That we sometimes miscommunicate is normal, but most issues can be avoided and harmony restored by just following a few simple guidelines.
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The 3 Stages of Dating

Like marriages, dating too moves through stages. Here are the common dangers and challenges of this changing landscape. Knowing the terrain can help you navigate the process

How to Deal with Your Partner’s Jealousy

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 07, 2017 in Talking Apes
If your understand your own and your partner’s attachment style, you can effectively resolve the inevitable conflicts in your relationship.

Give Me a Sign: Recognizing Signals of Commitment

When searching for lasting love, it’s too easy to put hope in false signs of commitment. By thinking clearly about good signals of commitment, you can improve your odds.
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Five Behaviors to Avoid If Your Partner Wants Out

Is your partner considering divorce?

No Confessing Our Partner’s Sins

For so many of us, the tendency to think in judgmental terms and to see ourselves as a victim is strong.