All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

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Are you afraid of your relationship suffering due to poor communication? The strategies in this blog post will go a long way to address relationship communication troubles!

Reasons People Cohabit, and Why Testing Is the Worst Reason

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Mastering the Art of Negotiation-Part 1

When we each know ourselves well, and develop negotiation skills to lobby for have our needs met, we thrive.

Online Dating: Quit Bragging

Research on why modesty is best for the online dater.
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How to Talk About Sex

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Does Your Partner Know the Real You?

Your tendency to self-enhance can ruin your shot at long-term love.

How Couples Misunderstand Each Other

A heart-breaking experience of counseling couples is seeing good people suffer due to the entirely avoidable illusion of sameness.

I Cannot Do It All

By Colleen Long Psy.D. on July 19, 2016 in The Happiness Rx
Dr. Colleen Long is a psychologist and a mom who has come to the conclusion that one simply cannot have it all

When It Comes to Marriage, Is All Conflict Bad?

Are you worried that your marriage is in trouble because you are fighting with your spouse? In fact, some conflict can actually be good, and avoiding conflict can be even worse.

The Paradox of "Tasteful" Gold Digging

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on July 18, 2016 in So Sue Me
Find out why the most unethical forms of gold digging are also the most likely to evade penalty.

The Roots of Marital Conflicts

If you want to change the way you act and feel, you have to change the way you think

Empathy Makes All the Difference-Part 2

When we cultivate empathy, the part of us that tends to be judgmental diminishes and other people immediately sense the shift in our attitude.
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Would More Sex Really Make You and Your Partner Happier?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 14, 2016 in All About Sex
Sex makes most people happy, but a sudden jump in frequency may cause problems.
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Breaking Out of the Make-Up-Break-Up Cycle

Are you in a toxic romantic cycle of constantly breaking up, then making up? This might help!

Cluttering is a Relationship Issue

There's no doubt that cluttering can be a form of passive aggressive behavior. When a person has difficulty expressing anger directly, they act out their anger by cluttering.

Does Jealousy Help or Hurt Your Relationship?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Talking Apes
An expression of jealousy can either increase or decrease your partner’s relationship satisfaction, depending on the circumstances.

Vetting the Veep: Image Enhancement or Instrument of Attack

Presidential running mate selection involves a courtship designed to facilitate a marriage of convenience—where the Vice President-to-be has several very important roles.

“She Has No Money; She’ll Come Crawling Back.” NOT!

When financially trapped, it is harder to break free from an abuser’s domination. The Massachusetts Rural Domestic and Sexual Violence Project offers access to some solutions.

How to Become A More Empathic (and Less Defensive) Partner

Tension can quickly dissolve when we are sincerely willing try to empathize with the truth of our partner's feelings and perceptions.

Marital Conflicts and Strengths-Based Resolutions

Fighting with your partner? Maybe you are not considering their signature strengths? Here are some tips to resolve the conflict.

To Make Marriage Better, Should We Expect Less?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on July 05, 2016 in Insight Therapy
The philosopher Alain de Botton has a theory about the malaise of modern marriage and how to fix it. He may be missing the target on both counts.
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She Said, He Said, She Said

In which a male and female psychologist on opposite sides of the planet attempt to draw closer in understanding what makes it so hard for marriages to stay alive.

Why Do We Glorify Marriage When Record Numbers Are Single?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 03, 2016 in Living Single
Americans now spend more years of their adult lives unmarried than married. The number of singles is growing around the world. So why do we still glorify marriage?

Making Room for It All: Part 2

It’s easier said than done to accept our partner the way they are if we haven’t done our own work to know ourselves well.

10 Ways to Avoid Emotional Fireworks

When someone gets their knickers in a twist and blows up, how do you handle it? If your current way of dealing with emotional fireworks isn’t working, here are ten tips to help you

6 Talks Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage

By Peg Streep on July 01, 2016 in Tech Support
You and your partner should tackle these six important topics before you tie the knot.

The Orgasm Talk

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on July 01, 2016 in As You Like It
Getting beyond the overly simplistic questions like "Was it okay for you?"
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4 Ways to Breathe New Life into a Stale Relationship

When relationships start to get a bit too routine and boring, it's time to spice them up. Follow these four steps to get things moving.
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For More Sex in Marriage...Think About It

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