All About Marriage

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Of course, over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

Recent posts on Marriage

"Will You Marry Me?"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 31, 2016 in How To Do Life
A look inward at that moment of truth.

How to Survive Divorce

It may be wedding season, but getting over a divorce is a year-round thing.

Why So Many Young Adults Are Living With Their Parents

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 26, 2016 in Living Single
For the first time ever, more young adults are living with their parents than with a spouse or partner. One of the most interesting reasons for this is rarely mentioned.

Creating Super-People

A future Utopia of Supermen and Superwomen as envisioned by early 20th century supporters of eugenics: What would it look like? Could making a better world be so simple?

On Being Your Own Houseguest

How to use your personal reactions as a couple’s therapist

Attachment Love and the Disempowerment of Women

Because attachment is linked to scripts of heterosexuality, monogamy and constrained female desire, it is far more likely than romantic love to lead to oppression of women.

Six Ways to Make Couples Therapy Work for You

Are you thinking about going to couples therapy? Avoid these common pitfalls for the best results.

The Marriage Narrative: Will We Look Back in Shame?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2016 in Living Single
Social scientists and journalists are perpetuating a misleading narrative about the superiority of people who get married. Years from now, will we look back in shame?

The Radicalism of Romantic Love

Does romantic love as a cultural ideal serve to legitimize traditional oppressive relationship structures and mediate the degradation, disempowerment and oppression of women?

The Hypochondriac

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 21, 2016 in How To Do Life
Exploring issues of marriage, loyalty, and end-of-life.

Monogamy Is Not "Natural" For Human Beings

By E E Smith on May 20, 2016 in Not Born Yesterday
If the idea of mating for life went out with the so-called sexual revolution of the 1960's, and books like Open Marriage, why has monogamy become a hot button issue, so to speak?

At the Gates of Commitment, Leave Illusions Behind

The biggest mistake we make in love is assuming that our partners' experience is the same as ours and that events and behaviors mean the same to them as they do to us.

How Will a Baby Affect Your Relationship?

Some couples survive the transition to parenthood better than others. Here's what the research says about first-time parents.

Is Hillary an Enabler?

Standing by your man — is it an act of weakness?

7 Ways to Tell if Your Relationship Is Just Right for You

Relationships are complicated, but some signs suggest they're headed in the right (or wrong!) direction.

More About Sex

Do men and women have different agendas when it comes to sex?

6 Lies That Can Ruin a Relationship

When there's so much relationship advice in the world, how do you know which to follow?

Will Your Relationship Last? Let's Fight About It and See!

Fighting is bad for marriage, right? Wrong. Fighting is inevitable. However, how you and your partner fight strongly predicts whether your relationship will thrive or fail.

Am I Heading for a Bad Marriage? My Spouse Is So Annoying

If only my spouse would change...Or is that a mistaken path to follow?

Generational Boundaries

Generational boundaries are there to insure parents stay in their role of protector and provider so children can grow and learn and never need to be the parent.

13 Things You Must Know if You Are Divorcing a Narcissist

By Peg Streep on May 11, 2016 in Tech Support
Divorce is hard enough under any circumstances, especially if there are children in the mix, but divorcing a narcissist can be hell on earth. Here's what you should prepare for.

Should You Expect More From Your Relationship, or Less?

We all have expectations for our romantic relationships. But should we be raising or lowering those expectations? The answer may depend on your relationship skills.

When Will You Meet "The One"?

There are more ways than ever to find a mate, and higher expectations than ever for what we seek and think we need. For most people, this is a recipe for misery.

The #1 Surprising Rule for Making Your Stepfamily Work

If you want your marriage and stepfamily to grow stronger, consider this rule to be your spiritual practice.

Thanking Others Is Actually Good for YOU, Research Confirms

If you've ever asked yourself, "Why should I say thank you when no one says thank you to me?" here are a few good reasons.

25 Things to Know About Your Partner Before You Tie the Knot

“If I knew that about him (or her) before we got married, I wouldn’t have been so quick to go ahead with the wedding".

5 Reasons to Treat Dating Like an Internship

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on May 06, 2016 in Full Living
Take full advantage of the exploratory, temporary nature of dating.

How Does Forgiving Someone Affect Their Behavior?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on May 04, 2016 in Ulterior Motives
Forgiveness is a statement that the particular bad behavior will not affect the relationship going forward. How does this affect the behavior of the person forgiven?
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Feeling Entitled to a Little Gratitude This Mother’s Day?

Here’s an icky confession: Since becoming a mother, I have dreaded Mother’s Day.