The Effects of Age on Libido

A general cultural discomfort with sex among older persons has led to many myths about sexuality and age. Menopause is traditionally considered a leading factor in diminishing sex drive among women, due to the drop in estrogen levels. But it may just as likely spark a renewal of interest in sex among women.

Among men, age may present the advent of physical problems with erection and ejaculation, especially after age 50, but they are not necessarily accompanied by any diminution in desire.

Recent Posts on Low Sexual Desire

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Sex After 50 Can Be the Best of Your Life

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Older lovers can have great sex—by turning intercourse into "outercourse."

10 Myths About Love, Exploded

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Creating in Flow
These are some of my favorite things: the color blue, strawberries for dessert, and the emotion called love. But what exactly is love? Can you be in and out of it at the same time? Myths abound.

Sexual Connection at Any Stage

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
The bad news is that your sexual relationship ain’t what it used to be! The good news is it can be something more. Sometimes we confuse the ebb and flow of sexual attraction in long-term relationships with the worthiness of the relationship itself.

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Herbal Aphrodisiacs Excite More Than the Imagination

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Do traditional herbal aphrodisiacs work? Quite possibly yes.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

Your Kid Has a Mental Health Disorder?

I know it sounds corny, but Love helps. It does. Platonic or romantic or filial or parental or sibling love. Doesn’t matter, it’s all a healing balm. Spread it around generously. And wrap your wounded hearts in a gauze of generosity and forgiveness--for yourself, for each other, for the universe that dealt you a crappy hand.

The Stress-Sex Connection

Stress may be the single biggest culprit affecting intimacy and sex. Using mind-body techniques, sexual problems can be overcome more easily than you think.

Warning to Men: Erection Drugs Just Might KILL You

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 15, 2014 in All About Sex
The FDA calls erection drugs "safe." But a recent study shows that's misleading.

Is Sleep Apnea Related to the "Sperm Crisis"?

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on December 09, 2014 in Sleep Newzzz
What’s behind the widespread decrease in sperm quality? There’s not likely to be a single culprit, nor a simple answer. Results of a newly released study suggest an intriguing possibility: could the “sperm crisis” observed in the French study and others be at least partially the result of sleep apnea?

Synchronous and Asynchronous Sexual Experiences

When the couple embraces variable, flexible sexuality, which celebrates synchronous as well as asynchronous sexual experiences, they can enjoy a strong, resilient sexual desire.

Four Reasons Sex and Marijuana Don’t Mix

As marijuana’s social acceptability grows, it’s easy to forget that its use can come with some unwelcome side effects. A recently released National Institute on Drug Abuse summary of marijuana research, for example, confirmed that, yes, cannabis really can be addictive, it can impair brain development, and it has been linked to a variety of mental health issues.

The Marshmallow Test, “Willpower” and ADHD, Part 1

By Thomas E Brown Ph.D. on December 02, 2014 in The Mysteries of ADD
What made it possible for some preschoolers to wait longer for the bigger reward when others could not wait?

Pink Viagra: Sex for Pleasure, for Profit, or Both?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on November 24, 2014 in SexualityToday
Most sexual problems have more to do with a woman’s environment than her biology. But there are also many women with loving, sexy, considerate partners who lose all erotic interest and we have no idea why.

Sex Addiction as a Sex-Positive Concept

The sex addiction recovery movement not only complements the progress made toward a sex-positive culture, it reinforces it. Sharing and exploring not just our greatest sexual joys and discoveries, but our struggles and pain as well, is the path to an integrated and holistic model of sexuality.

Sex: The Gift That Keeps on Giving

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on November 13, 2014 in Divorce Busting
Some people believe that the decision to have sex is strictly a personal one. Being in the mood is a prerequisite. But are there other things to consider in committed relationships?

Effective Self-Help for Women With Low or No Sexual Desire

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 15, 2014 in All About Sex
Are you a woman who wants to re-discover low or lost libido? Then read this book.

Fast Company: Figuring Out Premature Ejaculation

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 01, 2014 in Insight Therapy
Premature ejaculation has been around a long time. But it is now better understood and treated than in the past.

Testosterone Replacement: New Male Vigor? Or Health Hazard?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 30, 2014 in All About Sex
Is testosterone supplementation a fountain of youth and sexual vigor for men?

Sex Without Intercourse: A Hot Option for Lovers of All Ages

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 15, 2014 in All About Sex
Contrary to what's shown in the movies and on TV, intercourse is not necessary for great sex.

Sexuality in the Cancer Patient

The cancer experience (including treatment and emotional aftermath) can and often alter the sex life of both the patient and partner. The two are not, however, mutually exclusive, depending on the specific cancer and the relationship of the partners.

Porn Habit – Indulgence or Addiction?

By Allison Conner Psy.D. on August 13, 2014 in Therapy in Mind
Pornography is so easily accessible, even to teens. How much is too much? When and where do we see a negative impact on our minds, our relationships, our society? What can be done about it? We are just starting to learn about the problems associated with compulsive porn use, and some interesting new findings have come out.

Premature Ejaculation? Self-Help Usually Cures It

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 12, 2014 in All About Sex
A recent study show that a booklet can teach two-thirds of men to last as long as they'd like.

Female Sexual Arousal: Why Viagra Doesn't Work on Women

Every single attempt at increasing female sexual desire through peripherally acting agents has been a colossal failure. Drug companies found that if a man is physically turned on, he will also become psychologically turned on. Women, however, require more than just physical stimulation.