Sexual Desire in Women

Sexual desire in females is both more complex and more fragile than it is in males—less tied to biology, more linked to psychology. It is generally more variable; related to how they feel about themselves, what is going on in their lives, to say nothing of a partner's lovemaking style.

But experts agree that, in general, sexual desire is lower among females than among males, so a drop in female desire for any reason may be more problematic in relationships.

Recent Posts on Low Sexual Desire

4 Signs That Your Relationship May Be Over

Deciding to end a relationship can be anguishing. Some suggestions for when it's time to pull to plug and when to slow down

Sex Pills for Women: Teasing the Hype From Hope

Talk about the new sex pill harkens back to century-old health debates.

Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on June 10, 2015 in Fighting Fear
"Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder", made more scientific by the abstinence-desire index (the ADI)

The FDA, the DSM, Gender Equality, and “Female Viagra”

By Christopher Lane Ph.D. on June 08, 2015 in Side Effects
Will the FDA succumb to lobbyists accusing it of gender bias?

Waiting For Pink Viagra

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on June 03, 2015 in SexualityToday
Can flibanserin (so-called Pink Viagra) really help restore women's sexual desire? There's only one way to find out. That's for the FDA to approve it, and for individual women to make informed decisions about whether to try it.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Pills

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on May 28, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Drugs

Tips and Tricks for Managing Erectile Dysfunction w/No Meds

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on May 28, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Erectile Issues Can Zap Your Self Confidence

Sex Drive? There's No Such Thing

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in Living Single
The notion of a sex drive is probably one of the most widely accepted ideas in popular culture and beyond. But there are scientific standards for what counts as a drive, and in her new book, "Come as You Are," Emily Nagoski argues that sex doesn't meet them.

When Your Partner Wants To Do It But You Don't

By Amy Muise PhD on April 28, 2015 in The Passion Paradox
In long-term relationships couples are bound to encounter times when one partner wants to have sex, but the other partner is not in the mood for sex at that time. New research examined how couples can navigate these situations of differing sexual interests with greater success.

Want a Better Sex Life? Take This 3-Minute Quiz!

By Kira Asatryan on April 21, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Assess the state of your sex-life in 3 minutes or less!

Sleep Is a Turn On

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in Sleep Newzzz
Sleep may have a significant role to play in the health and vitality of our sexual lives.

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

The Right Time For Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Bedtime sex is only one possibility. There are others, in case you forgot.

The NoFap Phenomenon

By David J Ley Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Women Who Stray
The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Sex After 50 Can Be the Best of Your Life

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Older lovers can have great sex—by turning intercourse into "outercourse."

Why We Can't Stay Focused During Sex, and Why It Matters

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on February 03, 2015 in Insight Therapy
We frequently think about sex when we’re not having it. But when we’re actually having sex, our thoughts often wander, undermining our sexual functioning and enjoyment.

Herbal Aphrodisiacs Excite More Than the Imagination

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Do traditional herbal aphrodisiacs work? Quite possibly yes.

Premature Ejaculation: Causes and 10 Tips for Treatment

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on January 15, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
While it was once thought to be only psychological, doctors now know premature ejaculation is more complicated.

Your Kid Has a Mental Health Disorder?

I know it sounds corny, but Love helps. It does. Platonic or romantic or filial or parental or sibling love. Doesn’t matter, it’s all a healing balm. Spread it around generously. And wrap your wounded hearts in a gauze of generosity and forgiveness--for yourself, for each other, for the universe that dealt you a crappy hand.

The Stress-Sex Connection

Stress may be the single biggest culprit affecting intimacy and sex. Using mind-body techniques, sexual problems can be overcome more easily than you think.

Warning to Men: Erection Drugs Just Might KILL You

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 15, 2014 in All About Sex
The FDA calls erection drugs "safe." But a recent study shows that's misleading.

Is Sleep Apnea Related to the "Sperm Crisis"?

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on December 09, 2014 in Sleep Newzzz
What’s behind the widespread decrease in sperm quality? There’s not likely to be a single culprit, nor a simple answer. Results of a newly released study suggest an intriguing possibility: could the “sperm crisis” observed in the French study and others be at least partially the result of sleep apnea?

Four Reasons Sex and Marijuana Don’t Mix

As marijuana’s social acceptability grows, it’s easy to forget that its use can come with some unwelcome side effects. A recently released National Institute on Drug Abuse summary of marijuana research, for example, confirmed that, yes, cannabis really can be addictive, it can impair brain development, and it has been linked to a variety of mental health issues.

The Marshmallow Test, “Willpower” and ADHD, Part 1

By Thomas E Brown Ph.D. on December 02, 2014 in The Mysteries of ADD
What made it possible for some preschoolers to wait longer for the bigger reward when others could not wait?

Pink Viagra: Sex for Pleasure, for Profit, or Both?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on November 24, 2014 in SexualityToday
Most sexual problems have more to do with a woman’s environment than her biology. But there are also many women with loving, sexy, considerate partners who lose all erotic interest and we have no idea why.

Sex Addiction as a Sex-Positive Concept

The sex addiction recovery movement not only complements the progress made toward a sex-positive culture, it reinforces it. Sharing and exploring not just our greatest sexual joys and discoveries, but our struggles and pain as well, is the path to an integrated and holistic model of sexuality.

Effective Self-Help for Women With Low or No Sexual Desire

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 15, 2014 in All About Sex
Are you a woman who wants to re-discover low or lost libido? Then read this book.

Fast Company: Figuring Out Premature Ejaculation

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 01, 2014 in Insight Therapy
Premature ejaculation has been around a long time. But it is now better understood and treated than in the past.

Testosterone Replacement: New Male Vigor? Or Health Hazard?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 30, 2014 in All About Sex
Is testosterone supplementation a fountain of youth and sexual vigor for men?