Understanding Loneliness

What makes us happiest in life? Some people may point to fabulous fame and fortune. Yet hands down, surveys show that friends and family are the real prize. Even though our need to connect is innate, some of us always go home alone. You could have people around you throughout the day or even be in a lifelong marriage, and still experience a deep, pervasive loneliness. Unsurprisingly, isolation can have a serious detrimental effect on one's mental and physical health.

Recent posts on Loneliness

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By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in The New Resilience
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By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on July 05, 2016 in Insight Therapy
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Loneliness Across the Lifespan

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 08, 2016 in Media Spotlight
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By Deborah Carr Ph.D. on June 04, 2016 in Bouncing Back
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By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 27, 2016 in Ambigamy
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By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 10, 2016 in Ambigamy
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