All About Introversion

If a crowded cocktail party feels like a holding cell to you, even as you gamely keep up your end of the chatter, chances are you're an introvert. Introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits. Their disposition is frequently misconstrued as shyness, social phobia or even avoidant personality disorder, but many introverts socialize easily; they just strongly prefer not to. In fact, the self-styled introvert can be more empathic and interpersonally connected than his or her outgoing counterparts. The line between introversion and lonely loners gets blurry, however, as some introverts do wish they could break out of their shell.

Recent Posts on Introversion

Emboldened by Email: Walking the Talk

Is email good for relationships or not? Does it foster connectedness? Does it allow for the confessional moment which face to face contact inhibits? OR does email (as well as its cousin, texting) provide a constant distraction from being present with one another?

Networking for People That Dislike It

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in How To Do Life
Guidance for introverts and for people who find networking anathema.

Is Introversion Interfering With Your Friendships?

By Sophia Dembling on March 18, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
You might not need a lot of friends and you might not need to see them often, but you do need friends. Introversion is no excuse--or reason--for letting friendships lapse.

Do Dog People and Cat People Differ in Terms of Dominance?

New data suggest that dog people and cat people are selecting their preferred pet because it complements their own personality.

The Interpersonal Consequences of Schizophrenia

This article is comprised of an argument that introversion, divergent thinking, and isolation, as qualities in the schizophrenic individual, may be causally related to the emergence of schizophrenia.

What's Your Online Dating IQ?

It’s becoming socially more acceptable to admit to finding a mate online, but there remain many misconceptions about online dating. Find out your online dating IQ with this 8-item quiz that separates myth from reality.

Why You May Be Stronger Than You Think

By Sophia Dembling on March 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
In his book "Deeper Dating," Ken Page suggests that embracing what you're most ashamed of opens you up to greater intimacy.

Sparkle Versus Glow—and What That Means For Your Love Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on March 14, 2015 in Finding Love
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.

An OCEAN Far Away: Big 5 Personality Factors in Star Wars

Which Star Wars characters characters are the most open to experience while others are set in their ways? Who's the most conscientious or lackadaisy? Who are the extraverts, who's most agreeable, and who's most neurotic? Help rate the characters in order to find out together.

Balancing Inhibition and Exhibition

By Gregg Levoy on March 03, 2015 in Passion!
The desire to keep your spark, your life-force, intact, will always have to contend with agents of decay and distraction. All the forces of resistance and inhibition, from within and without, that can rob you of your vitality if you let them. Here's how to referee that boxing match.

The case FOR social media, TV, phoning, and video games

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in How To Do Life
Why parents shouldn't worry so much about their kids' electronic recreation.

Why Even Introverts Need Community

By Sophia Dembling on February 18, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Friends and family are not enough; we all need to belong to a wider community, according to author Emily White.

There Is a New Paradigm for Psychiatry

The hope for a molecular-biochemical explanation for psychiatry is false. It is believed we are on the verge of proving that psychiatry is a brain disease, no different from cancer or diabetes. But there is a paradigm that fully illuminates psychiatry - the ‘Play of consciousness, which is consonant with biology, neuroscience, and evolutution.

Personality Traits of BDSM Practitioners: Another Look

A recent study provides some new insights into the personality traits of dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners. Dominant practitioners seem to be more calm and have a greater desire for control, while submissive ones may be more emotional and introverted. Some questions remain about how these findings compare to previous studies into this fascinating world.

Mass Shootings in America: Crisis and Opportunity

By Joe Pierre M.D. on February 12, 2015 in Psych Unseen
Why do some people commit mass murder? Is it violent entertainment, guns, mental illness... or something else that lurks inside all of us and is reflected in American culture?

Why Couples Need Other Couples

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on February 10, 2015 in Buddy System
Couples should consider spending Valentine's Day with another couple they both admire and respect. Seeing a spouse/partner happy in a couple's friendship can make that spouse/partner even more attractive.

Understanding PTSD, TBI, Suicide and Student Veteran Success

Research shows that the transition from the intensity of military life to a more independent civilian life can be overwhelming. Recognizing and understanding special symptoms supports the important objective of increasing the success of many veteran students on campus. It is important to share this information about the needs of student veterans.

Why Everyone Should Try Being Invisible

In The New York Times, Akiko Busch heralds the virtues of invisibility, contrasting with trends of increasing narcissism. I add my own personal perspective, drawing on Taoism as well as some of my favorite superheroes and comics.

Is Electronic Recreation So Bad?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
The case FOR TV, videogames, Facebook, etc.

Student Evaluations: Fudging the "Happy Sheets"

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on January 31, 2015 in A Sideways View
One way to see how good, or popular, a training or lecture course is, is to look at the evaluations of those who have been on the course. It is a form of customer satisfaction. These are becoming more important for the way courses are financed and therefore those who deliver them are eager to find ways to increase their positive ratings. What do the cynics suggest?

3 Things Being A Cat Person or Dog Person Reveals About You

By Peg Streep on January 19, 2015 in Tech Support
Does knowing whether someone prefers cats to dogs or dogs to cats give you insight into who they are? Should you be asking about pets when you choose a doctor or lawyer, or hire a realtor or a nanny? Here's what science knows.... and you should too.

Who Uses Their Head and Who Listens to Their Heart?

Whether a person identifies with their head or their heart can say a lot about their personality. Are people in their heads really smarter than those in their hearts? The head/heart distinction might reveal something about how personality and intelligence are related. Shifting a person's attention between the head or the heart might change the way they think and behave.

What Would Your Professors Say About You?

Dear students: Here are some questions you can ask yourselves about your behavior, along with possible thoughts instructors may have about them.

How Reading Can Change You in a Major Way

The myth that personality becomes set in stone early in life persists despite growing evidence that change is possible, and occurs throughout life. New research suggests a simple, and surprising way to jump start the process.

6 Things Introverts Bring to Any Relationship

By Sophia Dembling on January 06, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
It's easy for introverts to image they're invisible amidst the razzle-dazzle of extroverts. But we're not; we put out our own warm glow.

Let’s Redefine the Word “Introvert”

What does the word “introvert” mean to you? You can find various stripes of definitions, many of which are anchored by the work of Carl Jung, in the introvert literature that has become increasingly popular over the past 10+ years. Despite that, you can also find dictionary definitions with entirely different meanings—some of which further the stigma around introversion.

Why Our Negative First Impressions Are So Powerful

Introverts view extroverts as arrogant, overconfident, brash, and pushy, while extroverts see introverts as quiet, nerdy, insecure, and socially inept.

Keeping Your Balance: Surviving the Hectic Holiday Season

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on December 23, 2014 in Evil Deeds
Now that the holiday season is here, it's important to try to keep things in balance psychologically. Sure, this festive time of year is an extravert's dream: constant socializing, parties, travel, etc. On the other hand, it can be an introverted type's nightmare for exactly the same reasons.

5 Reasons You Don't Need to Be in the In Crowd

By Jen Kim on December 22, 2014 in Valley Girl With a Brain
As our mothers used to say – being popular and in the in crowd isn’t everything. In fact, science says that being cool isn’t actually cool either.

Why Breaking Up is So Hard to Do

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 21, 2014 in Love Doc
T’s the season to be jolly. Yet many of us are not exactly jolly; rather, many of us are feeling sad. Indeed, this may be the season for separating from an unsatisfactory relationship. The end of the year could well signal the end of a hurtful union.