All About Introversion

If a crowded cocktail party feels like a holding cell to you, even as you gamely keep up your end of the chatter, chances are you're an introvert. Introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits. Their disposition is frequently misconstrued as shyness, social phobia or even avoidant personality disorder, but many introverts socialize easily; they just strongly prefer not to. In fact, the self-styled introvert can be more empathic and interpersonally connected than his or her outgoing counterparts. The line between introversion and lonely loners gets blurry, however, as some introverts do wish they could break out of their shell.

Recent Posts on Introversion

How Not to Be Boring: Advice for Teen Introverts

By Sophia Dembling on April 22, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Teens crave and seem to admire risk taking. What can introverted teens do to scratch that itch?

Being a Book Lover

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on April 20, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Being a heavy reader is far less common than it used to be. European surveys suggest that leisure reading has dropped significantly in favour of watching television, for example. Still, books can have a powerful influence on readers. A new research study shows there are far more benefits to reading than you might think.

10 Tips to Change From Reactive to Proactive in Situations

All of us encounter experiences in life when we may be temporally overwhelmed by a negative emotion, be it anger, pressure, nervousness, despair, or confusion. In these situations, how we choose to “master the moment” can make the difference between proactive versus reactive, and confidence versus insecurity. Here are ten ways to be less reactive in difficult situations...

What Your Facebook Use Reveals About Your Personality

Research shows the way you interact on social media says a lot about your personality and your self-esteem.

Outgrowing Jealousy

Obsessive thinking is inevitably inaccurate.

7 Online Dating Tips for Introverts

By Sophia Dembling on April 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Online dating can be great for introverts, but it's easy to get overwhelmed and discouraged. A few tips to help master the learning curve.

When Introverts and Extroverts Attract

If your love interest is your polar opposite, here are a few things you should know about introversion and extroversion.

10 Great Ways to Get to Know New People Without Awkwardness

Icebreakers are a traditional way to overcome the original awkwardness that many people feel when they first form a group. Whether it’s with a class, a set of co-workers, or a volunteer committee, a little psychology will go a long way toward building group cohesion and identity.

What’s Hiding Under Pollyanna’s Smile?

By Elizabeth Wagele on April 07, 2015 in The Career Within You
Some Enneagram types value appearing positive more than others do. Many of us 5-Observers challenge the prevailing opinion or look at the negative side while searching for more information. Many introverts and some 5s, 4-Romantics, 8-Asserters and counter-phobic 6-Questioners dislike overly-optimistic language as it seems automatic and insincere.

Do We Necessarily Need to Be Social Animals?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
An internal debate on how social to be, in and outside of work.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship with a Sexual Narcissist

Sexual narcissism can be defined as a grandiose sense of one’s sexual prowess which, in the mind of the sexual narcissist, entitles him or her to engage in acts of emotional and physical manipulation at the partner’s expense. How do you know when your partner may be a sexual narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Facebook Friends and Attraction

People who spend excessive time on Facebook are often seen as more introverted.

The Attractiveness of Personality Traits

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on April 02, 2015 in A Sideways View
Some traits are more attractive than others. But there are downsides to all extreme scorers. Is there a downside to being a sociable extravert or a highly agreeable person?

What "Fifty Shades of Grey" Got Wrong About BDSM

By Michael Castleman M.A. on April 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Contrary to the portrayal of Christian Grey in "Fifty Shades of Grey," BDSM aficionados are psychologically normal and healthy.

5 Signs That Seeking Help May Benefit You

People often get stressed, have problems with others, or have problems coping with life. Yet many don't seek professional help. Here are some ideas about when therapy may benefit you or your family.

Emboldened by Email: Walking the Talk

Is email good for relationships or not? Does it foster connectedness? Does it allow for the confessional moment which face to face contact inhibits? OR does email (as well as its cousin, texting) provide a constant distraction from being present with one another?

Networking for People That Dislike It

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in How To Do Life
Guidance for introverts and for people who find networking anathema.

Is Introversion Interfering With Your Friendships?

By Sophia Dembling on March 18, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
You might not need a lot of friends and you might not need to see them often, but you do need friends. Introversion is no excuse--or reason--for letting friendships lapse.

Do Dog People and Cat People Differ in Terms of Dominance?

New data suggest that dog people and cat people are selecting their preferred pet because it complements their own personality.

The Interpersonal Consequences of Schizophrenia

This article is comprised of an argument that introversion, divergent thinking, and isolation, as qualities in the schizophrenic individual, may be causally related to the emergence of schizophrenia.

What Do You Really Know About Online Dating?

It’s becoming socially more acceptable to admit to finding a mate online, but there remain many misconceptions about online dating. Find out your online dating IQ with this 8-item quiz that separates myth from reality.

Why You May Be Stronger Than You Think

By Sophia Dembling on March 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
In his book "Deeper Dating," Ken Page suggests that embracing what you're most ashamed of opens you up to greater intimacy.

Sparkle Versus Glow—and What That Means For Your Love Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on March 14, 2015 in Finding Love
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.

An OCEAN Far Away: Big 5 Personality Factors in Star Wars

Which Star Wars characters characters are the most open to experience while others are set in their ways? Who's the most conscientious or lackadaisy? Who are the extraverts, who's most agreeable, and who's most neurotic? Help rate the characters in order to find out together.

Balancing Inhibition and Exhibition

By Gregg Levoy on March 03, 2015 in Passion!
The desire to keep your spark, your life-force, intact, will always have to contend with agents of decay and distraction. All the forces of resistance and inhibition, from within and without, that can rob you of your vitality if you let them. Here's how to referee that boxing match.

The case FOR social media, TV, phoning, and video games

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in How To Do Life
Why parents shouldn't worry so much about their kids' electronic recreation.

Why Even Introverts Need Community

By Sophia Dembling on February 18, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Friends and family are not enough; we all need to belong to a wider community, according to author Emily White.

There Is a New Paradigm for Psychiatry

The hope for a molecular-biochemical explanation for psychiatry is false. It is believed we are on the verge of proving that psychiatry is a brain disease, no different from cancer or diabetes. But there is a paradigm that fully illuminates psychiatry - the ‘Play of consciousness, which is consonant with biology, neuroscience, and evolutution.

Personality Traits of BDSM Practitioners: Another Look

A recent study provides some new insights into the personality traits of dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners. Dominant practitioners seem to be more calm and have a greater desire for control, while submissive ones may be more emotional and introverted. Some questions remain about how these findings compare to previous studies into this fascinating world.

Mass Shootings in America: Crisis and Opportunity

By Joe Pierre M.D. on February 12, 2015 in Psych Unseen
Why do some people commit mass murder? Is it violent entertainment, guns, mental illness... or something else that lurks inside all of us and is reflected in American culture?