All About Introversion

If a crowded cocktail party feels like a holding cell to you, even as you gamely keep up your end of the chatter, chances are you're an introvert. Introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits. Their disposition is frequently misconstrued as shyness, social phobia or even avoidant personality disorder, but many introverts socialize easily; they just strongly prefer not to. In fact, the self-styled introvert can be more empathic and interpersonally connected than his or her outgoing counterparts. The line between introversion and lonely loners gets blurry, however, as some introverts do wish they could break out of their shell.

Recent Posts on Introversion

Success in New Situations: Five Key Skills

Ever find yourself reluctant to meet new people and join new groups? Get better at these five fundamental newcomer skills and you’ll be more willing to put yourself out there and take advantage of life’s opportunities.

Attention Extroverts! Leave Me Alone!

By Steve Albrecht DBA on September 29, 2015 The Act of Violence
Being an Introvert in an Extrovert's world can be exhausting. Some rules between the two can help.

Who Says Extroverts Make Better Leaders? Part 2

In the first part of this interview, Andy Johnson, author of Introvert Revolution: Leading Authentically in a World That Says You Can’t, discusses misconceptions and biases surrounding introvert leadership. In this second part, he offers tools, tips, and more insights to help introvert leaders thrive in an extrovert*-centric world.

5 Essential Tips for Introvert-Extrovert Couples

By Sophia Dembling on September 03, 2015 The Introvert's Corner
"Because introversion" is not the end of the discussion.

Who Says Extroverts Make Better Leaders? Part 1

Introverts, take the lead! So urges Andy Johnson, the introvert, leader, executive coach, and licensed counselor who wrote Introvert Revolution. Johnson is leading the charge to eradicate the bias against introvert leadership. In this first installment of a two-part series, he sheds light on the plight of the introvert leader.

Shy, Sensitive, Introverted…and Narcissistic?

The Shy/Covert Narcissistic personality is overcome with worry, ineffective functioning, unfulfilled expectations, and hypersensitivity to stress.

How Introverts and Extroverts Can Make Professional Magic

Introverts and extroverts can achieve extraordinary results when they learn how to work together, according to author Jennifer Kahnweiler.

Does Where You Live Make You Who You Are?

By Colin Ellard Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 Mind Wandering
Recent research shows interesting connections between your physical surroundings and your personality. Mountainous states show higher rates of introversion than flat ones. We don't know yet how much your surroundings might shape such personality variables, but there's little doubt that where you live has an impact on your happiness and life satisfaction.

How Pursuing a Quest Can Bring Purpose to Your Life

Author Chris Guillebeau, on the value of adventure and the power of quests can bring greater meaning into life.

Desperate: The Hidden World of Introvert Narcissists

Narcissism is often associated with its many external manifestations. At the same time, psychiatrist Glen Gabbard suggests that some narcissists belong to a subtype that are much more introvert oriented. Here is a comparison of introvert versus extrovert narcissists...

Alone in a Crowd: There's Something Special About It

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 Living Single
In a compelling section of New York Magazine, New Yorkers describe what's so appealing about being alone in the city, whether at the movies or on the subway or in restaurants or just about anywhere else. It is a refreshing change from all the angst about loneliness.

Why Your Life Story Matters and Why You Need to Tell It Now

What narrative have you constructed from the events of your life? And do you know that this is the single most important question you can ask yourself?

Poor Social Judgment and Schizophrenia

This article examines the qualities of alienation, introversion and divergent thinking that may typify the individual with schizophrenia. These characteristics can synergistically contribute to poor social judgment as seen in the behavior and choices of that individual. In fact, they may form a triad and a pattern as seen persons with schizophrenia generally.

"You Have Today to Do What Matters Most"

Susan Cain interviews author, Tom Rath, on his secrets to living wisely, staying healthy, fighting anxiety, and his life as a proud introvert.

7 Reasons You May Not Get What You Need

If you have trouble expressing your needs it's not necessarily because you're an introvert, but some introverted behaviors might contribute to the problem.

Who’s an Example of Introverted Leadership?

Bestselling author Susan Cain provides a stunning example of introverted leadership--and it's not Gandhi or Rosa Parks.

Stuck in Mute: How Do You Cope?

Why do words fail some of us most of the time?

Readers Ask Susan Cain: What Inspired “Quiet”?

Susan Cain answers a reader's question about the spark that began "Quiet," the bestselling book.

Completely Alone

A huge proportion of Americans want to have at least some time when they are completely alone, away from everyone else. But what about the small minority? Are there really people who want no time at all to be completely on their own?

Taking Action Against Burnout: First Steps

After consulting a couple of life and career coaches, I'm starting the work of loving my work again.

How to Learn to Love Networking

We all want to connect at a deep level. The only question is, how do you find the magical portal to the deep stuff?

Ways to Push Past Creative Burnout

How to reignite passion when the flame has burned out? Talking to life/career coaches about burnout.

Igniting a Renaissance

How can parents best bring out their child’s gifts? How can we help the gifted child who is more introverted? How can we spur a renaissance in gifted education? How can we persuade the public to care about helping our most talented kids reach their full potential?

Stories of Seclusion: Freddie the Falafel Fella

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 18, 2015 How To Do Life
One of the myriad ways an introvert can find their way in the world.

Stories of Seclusion: A Person Became Reclusive As She Aged

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 06, 2015 How To Do Life
An installment in a series on people who spend much time alone.

Stories of Seclusion:Too Often Burned, She Becomes Reclusive

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 How To Do Life
After many unhappy relationships, she chooses a largely solitary existence.

When an Introvert's Brain Stops Producing

When your identity is all tied up in your fertile mind, a creative slump can feel like the end of the world.

Tame Your Sabotaging Self-Talk, Part 2

In this second part of my interview with Arnie Kozak, Ph.D., mindfulness expert and author of The Awakened Introvert, he refutes common myths about meditation (e.g., restless minds can’t meditate; a practice of non-attachment results in a zombie-like, passionless life). He also offers helpful tips to engage your “monkey mind” (that internal noise!).

3 Lessons Everyone Should Learn From Introverts

By Jen Kim on June 01, 2015 Valley Girl With a Brain
Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, everyone can benefit from being quiet and thoughtful.