All About Introversion

If a crowded cocktail party feels like a holding cell to you, even as you gamely keep up your end of the chatter, chances are you're an introvert. Introverts are drained by social encounters and energized by solitary, often creative pursuits. Their disposition is frequently misconstrued as shyness, social phobia or even avoidant personality disorder, but many introverts socialize easily; they just strongly prefer not to. In fact, the self-styled introvert can be more empathic and interpersonally connected than his or her outgoing counterparts. The line between introversion and lonely loners gets blurry, however, as some introverts do wish they could break out of their shell.

Recent Posts on Introversion

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By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 18, 2015 in How To Do Life
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By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
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By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in How To Do Life
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Feeling Lonely Sometimes….

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By Sophia Dembling on April 27, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
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By Sophia Dembling on April 22, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
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By Sophia Dembling on April 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
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By Elizabeth Wagele on April 07, 2015 in The Career Within You
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The Attractiveness of Personality Traits

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By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in How To Do Life
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Is Introversion Interfering With Your Friendships?

By Sophia Dembling on March 18, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
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By Sophia Dembling on March 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
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