What Is Infidelity?

Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. That promise can take many forms, from marriage vows sanctified by the state to privately uttered verbal agreements between lovers. As unthinkable as the notion of breaking such bonds may be, infidelity is common. And when it does happen, it raises thorny and painful questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Can you and should you forgive and move on?

Recent posts on Infidelity

Difficult Sexual Negotiations

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on April 20, 2017 in Sex Matters
Big sexual differences can derail your entire relationship, but they don’t have to.

Why Do Men Cheat on Women They Love?

Hey guys! Cheating is not the only option.

Broken Hearts and Deal Breakers: Reasons Why People Divorce

People who have divorced give a variety of reasons why, and mostly believe their ex should have done more.

5 Essential Steps to Save Your Relationship

It is natural to feel anxious and sad if your partner stops fully reciprocating your love. But playing games to regain the power could have a disastrous outcome.

Simple Steps to Porn/Sex Addiction Recovery

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on April 03, 2017 in Minority Report
What do you do if you're not ready for therapy but need "action steps" to help you with sex addiction recovery? This recovery "packet of information" can be a great start...

What's the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 16, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Shame and guilt often go hand in hand, which is why they are readily confused.

Can I Trust Him? The Psychology and Philosophy of Trust

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 07, 2017 in Hide and Seek
What is trust, when does it pertain, and can it ever be absolute?

After Cheating: Restoring Relationship Trust

After so many lies and secrets, can trust ever be restored?

How to Spot a Cheater Before You Get Involved

How to spot a cheater before you get involved in a relationship with him/her. Plus, how to find a partner who is more likely to remain faithful.

What Can Scarlett Johansson Teach Us About Monogamy?

Recently, Scarlett Johansson said that monogamy is too much work, it's not natural, and it's not for her. What can those of us who want to be monogamous learn from her?

Internet Pain Relief

By Mark Borigini M.D. on February 28, 2017 in Overcoming Pain
Let’s hear it for the laying on of the latest operating system.

What Not to Do When You Discover Your Partner Is Cheating

Here are 5 ways to NOT react when you discover your partner is cheating on you.

Marital Infidelity: Existential Uncertainty in Spades

By Susan Rako M.D. on February 18, 2017 in More Light
"How can I ever trust my husband/wife again?"

Why Gaslighters Accuse You of Gaslighting

Gaslighters frequently accuse their victims of manipulating, cheating, and being addicted. Why do gaslighters do this, and why does this tactic work so well?
freestocks.org, used with permission

Men Understanding Women Understanding Men

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on February 10, 2017 in Talking About Men
Many romantic relationships flounder on minor misunderstandings, which can often escalate into full-scale crises. What can be done to diminish such misunderstandings?

The Little Things That Will Make or Break Your Relationship

Paying attention to the small things can make a big difference in your relationship. Here's why.

The 4 Most Common Myths About Men and Sex

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in Dating and Mating
Do men and women really differ in their sexual desires? Many of our beliefs about men and sex are surprisingly tenuous.

Are Thoughts of Your Ex's Past Lovers Still Haunting You?

Why is it so painful to think about your ex's sexual encounters, when you won them back in the end? Read along for five possible reasons that your heart is still aching.

Good Divorce Advice: Resist the Urge to Compare

By Wendy Paris on January 17, 2017 in Splitopia
It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path.

This Surprising Activity May Raise the Risk of Cheating

There is, in fact, a dark side to traveling abroad.

8 Reasons Why Your Partner Is Having or Had An Affair

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on January 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
8 ways to understand the betrayal of infidelity

Screw Monogamy? Not So Fast.

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on January 02, 2017 in Divorce Busting
Has monogamy outlived its usefulness as an institution?

The Misleading “Sexual Addiction” Label

The term “sexual addiction” carries misconceptions that can lead client and therapist down the wrong road

Recovering From Infidelity Part 4

The 40 repair steps one committed couple used for success.

Why Do Women Put Up With Infidelity?

By Sheila Kohler on January 01, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
What we can we learn about infidelity from "Jackie."
www.123rf.com/arekmalang

Can You Ever Affair-Proof a Relationship?

When we hold our partner responsible for taking away our loneliness and making us happy, she will be likely to feel turned off by our efforts to coerce attention from her.

Recovery From Infidelity Part 3

In the investigation that Simon and Davey embarked upon, they looked into the contributing factors that led to their infidelities.

How to Tell Others You're Getting Divorced

By Wendy Paris on December 27, 2016 in Splitopia
Perfect your "divorce elevator speech" with these five tips.

Recovery From Infidelity Part 2

This is the story of Simon and Davey, a story of broken trust due to affairs on both their parts.