What Is Infidelity?

Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. That promise can take many forms, from marriage vows sanctified by the state to privately uttered verbal agreements between lovers. As unthinkable as the notion of breaking such bonds may be, infidelity is common. And when it does happen, it raises thorny and painful questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Can you and should you forgive and move on?

Recent posts on Infidelity

Facebook Infidelity: 10 Safeguards Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 18, 2017 in Clear Communication
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Why Women Have Affairs

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Love, Digitally
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Coming to Terms with Infidelity: Men Versus Women

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Twins With Two Daddies

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in How We Do It
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Is Your Partner Facebook Cheating?

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Are You at Risk for an Emotional Online Affair?

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How to Recover From an Online Emotional Affair

Recovery from an online affair requires disabling more than an Internet connection. To rebuild relational trust, a straying partner must disable online emotional connections.

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Freedom in Forgiveness

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 13, 2017 in Clear Communication
Forgive and move forward.

Three Nonverbal Behaviors That May Damage Your Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 12, 2017 in Clear Communication
Are you potentially asking for an extramarital affair without even knowing it?
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Attitudes Toward Infidelity

Research has shown that those who have been cheated on are more likely to view a variety of behaviors as cheating, perhaps because they fear the past will repeat itself.

Why Some Couples Can Stay Together Even After Infidelity

Surviving an affair involves active strategies of recovery. One of the most powerful is a faithful partner actively demonstrating forgiveness through acts of grace and kindness.

Match Made in Heaven:Couples Who Pray Together Stay Together

Praying with and for your partner may increase relational commitment and satisfaction and decrease chances of straying.

Should You Tell Your Partner You Cheated?

Will telling the truth help or hurt your relationship?

Status Update: Why Does Having Power Promote Promiscuity?

Why do powerful people often become scandalous headlines? Research supports a link between power and infidelity. Confidence increases perceived desirability and approach behavior.

An Eye for a Wandering Eye: Avoiding Promiscuous Partners

Does your partner enjoy meeting new people? Does he or she work the room at business events? Interaction dynamics reveal whether your partner is pursuing business or pleasure.

Internet Infidelity: Today's Blind-Spot Threat to Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on June 01, 2017 in Clear Communication
Has your marriage or someone's marriage you know been devastated by Internet infidelity? Here's some tips with how to guard yours against going down that slippery slope.

He Cheated on You: What Can You Learn?

OK ladies, getting cheated on hurts. A lot. Whether it happens once or repeatedly, the sense of intimate betrayal and the inevitable loss of relationship trust is devastating.

3 Questions You Should Be Asking Yourself After His Affair

Learn how to avoid common mistakes after discovering your spouse's sexual betrayal.

Is Monogamy Really the Key to Happiness?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 28, 2017 in Talking Apes
The common wisdom is that open relationships are less satisfying and more prone to jealousy than conventional matrimony. But the data say otherwise.

Who Is Most Likely to Cheat on Their Partner?

Being able to figure out how faithful your partner will be would seem to be a worthwhile goal. New research suggests a pretty simple, “skin-deep” method.

Difficult Sexual Negotiations

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on April 20, 2017 in Sex Matters
Big sexual differences can derail your entire relationship, but they don’t have to.

13 Reasons Why Men Cheat

Hey guys! Cheating is not the only option.

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People who have divorced give a variety of reasons why, and mostly believe their ex should have done more.

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By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on April 03, 2017 in Minority Report
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