All About Identity

"We contain multitudes," wrote Walt Whitman, referring not to the highly contested diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder but to the fact that we see ourselves radically differently in different contexts. Everyone struggles with that existential plum, "Who am I?" For people who are overly concerned with other people's impressions, or who feel a core aspect of themselves, such as gender or sexuality, is not being expressed, this struggle is acute.

Recent Posts on Identity

Faded Glory: What Can We Learn From the Formerly Famous?

Celebrities are exceptional individuals. Can we learn from how they cope when their glory fades?

Welcome To the Past (And Why It Matters)

By Susan Wise Bauer Ph.D. on February 10, 2016 Under the Sun
Think smart phones, the Internet, and Microsoft have changed us? Think again.

Why the Story You Tell Yourself Shapes Your Brand

By Nacie Pereira on February 09, 2016 Working Life
How are the stories you tell yourself impacting your brand's growth?

Virtual Sexualities Blog Anthology

Is there an app for that? Online environments have transformed possibilities for human interaction, and sexual identity and sexual expression are no exception.

The Synergistic Components of Schizophrenia

Psychotic ideation is bolstered by its characteristics of visceral experience, dissociation and lack of context. Rogerian theory and therapy might be a promising intervention.

Who Wipes Who? Life After Depends

By Eliezer Sobel on February 08, 2016 The 99th Monkey
Although I knew it wasn’t really the “right” thing to think, I was nevertheless secretly grateful to Alzheimer’s; it had allowed for the healing of my relationship with my mother.

Practicing the Art of Living

When we commit to love relationships we do not renounce our individual powers; we do not give ourselves away. Instead, we build those selves.

Why Some Breakups Are More Painful Than Others

Research suggests that maintaining a fluid self-concept, retaining a sense of separateness, and externalizing rejection may mitigate the devastating effects of breaking up.

Is "Retroprognosis" a Word?

By Kaja Perina on February 01, 2016 Brainstorm
The snapshot depicted two boys years before tragedy struck; as such it was a momentary portal to an alternate reality in which the Unabomber never came into being.

Religion Matters

Humans take religion seriously..but how well do they know the global religious landscape?

Barriers to Adoption for Same Sex Couples

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on February 01, 2016 Am I Right?
Children may suffer in families for many reasons but being raised by a gay individual or couple is not, in and of itself, one of them.

My World View, In Four Paragraphs

By Susan Hooper on January 29, 2016 Detours and Tangents
A college application asked my nephew to explain how his past had shaped his world view. As I looked at his answer, I wondered how I would respond to the same question.

When Pleasure Fantasies Cause Distress, What Can You Do?

By Meg Selig on January 21, 2016 Changepower
Blissful daydreams and fantasies can be fun and helpful...unless their dark side takes control.

Stuttering and the Power of Suggestion

By Katherine Preston on January 19, 2016 Out With It
Is a stutter really 'debilitating'? A look at how stereotypes affect us and what can we do to lessen their impact.

Shift Into Freedom: Lessons From A Master Of Mindfulness

By Mark Matousek on January 14, 2016 Ethical Wisdom
The master of mindfulness meditation talks about his new book, Shift Into Freedom, and how we can live awakened lives in the midst of everyday changes.

Slanted Eyes

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on January 14, 2016 Minority Report
“Chink!” “Where are you from?” “Do you eat dog?” “Why don’t you go back to where you came from?!” “You speak such good English!" This is part of the Asian-American experience.

The Hero Within

Most people have no idea that the stories inside our heads determine much of what we notice in the world or how we string our observations together to make meanings of them.

David Bowie, A Personal Remembrance

Words cannot adequately express what David Bowie meant to me, but here is my best attempt.

Self-Improvement as Cultural Illness

Have we slipped the social and cultural moorings that historically have connected people and guided their ventures into the world?

Overcoming BPD - 9 New Years Resolutions

By Blaise Aguirre M.D. on January 09, 2016 On the Borderline
In dealing with the 9 symptoms of BPD, a regular mindfulness practice can make a lasting impact. Here are specific practices to deal with the 9 symptom criteria.

Trauma Survivors at Risk for Future Abusive Relationships

When offenders are caregivers, children often blame themselves, and love and abuse can become interconnected.

A Million Ways to Say Hello

Some of the many rewards of cross-cultural encounters can come from our differences.

Hollywood Diversity Awakens!

Casting with diversity in mind is a gift for everyone.

Ritual Killing: In 2016, Resolve to Forego Mindless Rituals

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on January 02, 2016 Insight Therapy
Social rituals are useful, perhaps necessary, but their dark side should not be overlooked.

Deep Throat

Deep Throat was a flawed man. Can his story help us with our flawed lives?

2015: A Great Year for Gender and Sexual Minorities?

Has 2015 been a great year for gender and sexual minority equality? Three important questions to reflect on if we want equality in 2016.

The Psychology of Christmas Presents

Females are disproportionately active as Christmas gift givers, giving 84% of all gifts, and receiving only 61%...

I'm Not A Broken Toy Anymore!

By Amy Dresner on December 20, 2015 Coming Clean
Still in the "addict" bin even though you've been sober for years? I get it.

How Do You Answer the Question, “What Do You Do?”

In which I explore several issues with identity and career—in particular, why I'm so uncomfortable calling myself a writer.


Overcoming lack of self-worth and facing down fear of abandonment.