All About Identity

"We contain multitudes," wrote Walt Whitman, referring not to the highly contested diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder but to the fact that we see ourselves radically differently in different contexts. Everyone struggles with that existential plum, "Who am I?" For people who are overly concerned with other people's impressions, or who feel a core aspect of themselves, such as gender or sexuality, is not being expressed, this struggle is acute.

Recent posts on Identity

Knowing Oneself Is Easier Said Than Done

By Graham Collier on February 21, 2017 in The Consciousness Question
There is no guarantee you will ever completely know just who and why you are.

Geert Hofstede: A Conversation About Culture

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Between Cultures
Decades after his pioneering research, Hofstede shares his insights on culture’s role in our lives.

No Mom, You Can't Read Your Daughter's Diary (or Texts)

By Nancy Darling Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Thinking About Kids
Your gut tells you that it's wrong to snoop in someone's diary or texts. But why? Twenty years of research backs up your gut. But also tells us when it might be okay.

A Life-Pivoting Change of Identity

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in Ambigamy
Hunger for pride can become dangerously addictive. Abandoning pride and being proud no matter what, don't solve it. Instead, change what you're proud of.

Risks and Unspoken Promises of Intimacy

Are you ready to flex your world to accommodate the needs of another? That's what is necessary for healthy intimate relationships.

The Privilege of Not Understanding Privilege

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on February 13, 2017 in Feeling Our Way
I don’t want rich people to apologize for being born with money; I just want them to act like they know they didn’t earn it.

Five Things You Should Know About Gender Trends on Campus

By Marcia Morris M.D. on February 12, 2017 in College Wellness
College aged adults are redefining what it means to be a man or a woman.

How to Befriend Yourself

By Robert Firestone Ph.D. on February 10, 2017 in The Human Experience
People can utilize their personal power and actively contribute to their own growth and development, in essence becoming their own ally.

Welcoming Refugees and Immigrants Is Good for the U.S.

When the U.S. welcomes refugees regardless of religion, race, or ethnicity, we reap important social and economic rewards.

What Your ZIP Code Says About You

By David Ludden Ph.D. on February 09, 2017 in Talking Apes
Where you lives tells a lot about what kind of person you are.

The Burden of Memory (part 2)

If most of our memories are false, how can we decide who we are?

Is American Individualism Bad for the Environment?

The ecological crisis can be beat if Americans join the fight for environmental justice. But in the process we would have to transform the culture of American individualism.

Race: The Reality of the Imagined

Ideas of race, inflamed by ideology, are remnants of a bygone age. It is time to defuse them and to communicate about the real issues that confront us all.

Boys Will Be Boys—Even If Raised Believed to Be Girls

Boys born seeming to be girls and socialised as such revert to male after puberty in ~90% of cases, providing an acid test of nature versus nurture.

Acceptance: What Does It Mean?

Do you accept or tolerate your LGBT child? Lean the difference so you can resolve the conflict.

Paranoia: From Parenting to Politics

By Molly S. Castelloe Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Me in We
How paranoia in American parenting fuels paranoia in politics.

Terror, Love, and Brainwashing

By The Book Brigade on February 02, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Cults and brainwashing are more common than you might think. The best defense is educating children about the dangers of manipulative people and the techniques they use.
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Split: Horror with a Side of Split Personality

By Jeremy Clyman Psy.D. on February 01, 2017 in Reel Therapy
Read on to learn how the split personality phenomenon can be considered at the unhealthy end of the identity spectrum.

What Would You Say to Your 16-Year-Old Self?

If you were writing a letter to your 16-year-old self, what would you say? What lessons have you learned in life that you might share with a much younger version of yourself?

The Beautiful Cart of Burdens

Do you act for others not out of genuine concern, but out of a need to act a certain way in order to maintain relationships?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Choosing

Conscious awareness of choices we make, our motivation, and processes we use can enhance trust, stability and longevity in a close relationship. Consequences of decisions matter.
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Between Friends: Sexuality in Women's Friendships

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 26, 2017 in Off the Couch
A young female client once asked me,“If I like to look at other women does it mean I’m gay? Or bi?” What is the answer to that question?
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Twins: Individual Identities and Common Bonds

By Nancy L. Segal Ph.D. on January 26, 2017 in Twofold
Does a close twin relationship take away from individual identity?

How Culture Wires Our Brains

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on January 26, 2017 in Between Cultures
Cultural neuroscience research is shedding light on how culture affects our neural activity and the way we represent the self in our brains.

Bullying, Identity, and the "Escape from Freedom"

“If humanity cannot live with the dangers and responsibilities inherent in freedom, it will probably turn to authoritarianism.” Erich Fromm, 1941.

FoMO? No, DoMO! "The Desire of Missing Out" Debuts

Millennial lexicon touts the fear of missing out (FoMO) but neglects DoMO.

Help! I Think My Kid is Gay

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on January 17, 2017 in Social Lights
Support for parents and youth

The Psychology Of Professional Purpose: Follow Your Calling

By Caroline Beaton on January 16, 2017 in The Gen-Y Guide
Three ways to make your job a calling—without even changing occupations.

Is ‘Gaydar’ Really a Thing?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on January 16, 2017 in Talking Apes
People can be surprisingly accurate at judging others’ sexual orientation from nonverbal cues, but only because ‘gaydar’ works just like other social intuitions.

Is There a Millennial Personality Type?

What do we know about the psychology of millennials? Empirical and clinical evidence may offer the keys to unlocking the mystery.