All About Identity

"We contain multitudes," wrote Walt Whitman, referring not to the highly contested diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder but to the fact that we see ourselves radically differently in different contexts. Everyone struggles with that existential plum, "Who am I?" For people who are overly concerned with other people's impressions, or who feel a core aspect of themselves, such as gender or sexuality, is not being expressed, this struggle is acute.

Recent posts on Identity

Who Am I? Someone? Or Nobody?

By Tom Bunn L.C.S.W. on August 24, 2016 in Conquer Fear Of Flying
Celebrity is competitive. The outrageously competitive have no limits on what they do to get noticed. Winning often means being a bigger jerk than anyone else is willing to be.

3 Ways to Be More Authentic in Your Intimate Relationships

Feeling that you can be authentic in your relationships is certainly one of the keys to fulfillment. New research gives you the tools to test how well you measure up.

Firebird Redux

The human spirit is imbued with an individual and social resilience worth celebrating.
Twitter [CC BY 4.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Stephanie: Bisexual Orientation, Lesbian Identity

Stephanie looks back at her process of recognizing her attraction to women. Lesbian novels, a gay pride march, sex and a relationship helped.

Treating Road Rage: A Free-Range Approach

How a hawaiian shirt, the music of Gabby Pahinui, and a lump of coconut-scented surf wax helped cure a case of road rage

Looking for Work? 9 Things You Need to Know and Do

Remember: there are a lot of jobs out there, just like there are a lot of apartments or potential true loves. You only need one. (You might want more, but you only need one.)

The Fragility of the Extreme Narcissist

For an extremely fragile narcissist, being told he screwed up makes him feel so badly that he can’t even entertain the fact that he may have made a mistake.

Letter to Young Activists

This post is adapted from a talk recently given to young community organizers about self-care and well-being on the journey to a more compassionate and just society.

Allies, Actors, and Activists

4 ways coalition work is more effective and less obnoxious than ally theater

How to Raise Your Kids With High—and Healthy—Self-Esteem

This post is about what, as a parent, you do to ensure that your children grow up with a more positive self-image than you yourself may have had when you were young.

Gender Identity Is in the Brain. What Does This Tell Us?

Has the surge in our knowledge of the brain told us anything useful about the basis for gender identity? If it did, how would we use it?

The Truman Show Delusion

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 in In Excess
Watching reality television shows do not cause psychotic or delusional episodes. However, those with underlying illnesses (e.g., schizophrenia) may develop a Truman Show Delusion.

Finding Fulfillment

By Jennifer Hamady on August 08, 2016 in Finding Your Voice
Fulfillment and success aren't the result of reaching certain goals. They come from the mindset you have on the journey.

The Invisible Sexuality

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on August 06, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
Bisexuals face a unique problem—their orientation is not believed by either hetero- or homosexuals. For bisexual women, "it's just a phase." For men, "they're really gay."
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The Secrets of Wild Women

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on August 04, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
In this year of the first female presidential candidate ever, we should never underestimate the power of women in everything from politics to creativity.

Should I Call Myself Unemployed?

By Dawn R. Norris, Ph.D. on August 01, 2016 in The Next Step
Do you avoid calling yourself unemployed? That may be for good reason...

The Romantic Relationship Challenges of Bisexual Individuals

Bisexual men and women often enter treatment to focus on relationship concerns only to learn that providers don't know how to help them improve in this area.

What You Need to Know to Prepare for a Healthy Relationship

To find the right person, you need to be the right person. That starts with developing a positive singletude and your own life.

Forecasting November

Does new research into how we think of others suggest a Trump bump or Clinton defeat?

Parenting a Gay Child

Can't accept your child's sexual orientation? Tips from those who've been there!

Border Psychology

By Molly S. Castelloe Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in The Me in We
Border psychology and the diffusion of U.S. identity.
True Grit movie poster

'True Grit' as a (Strangely) Therapeutic Movie

We expect coming of age films to show an adolescent protagonist grow up, but in the Coen Brother's quirky remake of 'True Grit,' true development is hidden at the end of the film.

Can Possession Be a Good Thing?

Possession is common in many spiritual traditions – is that a good or a bad thing?

10 Models of Our Self

By Anthony Synnott Ph.D. on July 21, 2016 in Rethinking Men
“Know thyself” advised the oracle at Delphi. “Show thyself” is the motto of today. Do we truly know ourselves?

Know Thyself

Knowing ourselves is no easy task.

10 Questions on Bilingualism

Can adults learn to speak a foreign language without an accent? How does bilingualism affect children's development? Do bilinguals feel different in different languages?

How to Prevent Violence

Identify powerlessness, rejection, humiliation, injustice, unimportance, insignificance and nothing to lose by dying before they combine together in violence.

Identity Can Change Even After Death

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on July 17, 2016 in Good Mourning
Identity is not fixed at death—some times new information or values can change the way an individual is perceived even long after their death. This can deeply affect grief.

#What Lives Matter?

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on July 16, 2016 in Minority Report
By now you've seen the war of words between #Black Lives Matter and #All Lives Matter. So what's wrong with saying, "All lives matter"?