The Art of Happiness

Research on how to increase positive moods and capitalize on your strengths has proliferated in recent years, thanks to the positive psychology movement, and has shed light on ongoing insights into personality, mood, and cognition. Not everyone is born with a sunny disposition, but experts agree we can all learn how to bring more meaning and satisfaction into our lives.

Recent Posts on Happiness

Why Patience is Power

By Neel Burton M.D. on May 23, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Life is too short to wait, but it is not too short for patience.

Three Simple Steps to Heal Conflict and Strengthen Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on May 23, 2015 in Finding Love
This simple technique is designed to deepen all of your intimate relationships, including your relationship with yourself. Each of its three steps leads to a deeper state of authenticity, a gentle, skillful “overthrow” of the inner and outer voices which hold us back from deeper love.

How to See Yourself More Clearly

Writing can help you see yourself more clearly

Unhappy? Research Says a Small Smile Can Improve Your Mood

An attractive, well-dressed, and recently divorced client told me that she knew she was looking “old, fat and ugly. What man is going to be interested in me now?” she asked. I wondered about the discrepancy between how I saw her and how she saw herself.

Behaviours for Winners

Winning behaviours to help you get what you want and want what you get.

Do Older Married People Live More Happily Than Single Peers?

When marriage is enjoyed by two people later in life, it can be more rewarding and fulfilling than expected. By keeping in mind just a few tips, committed couples can improve their quality of life by exercising choices that are within their control.

The Joys of Self-Infliction

It is an illusion that people want to be happy, at least to judge by the way they behave.

Are You an Ethical Leader?

If you’re really honest with yourself for a moment how ethical are your leadership behaviors?

A Relationship Advisor Talks About How To Be Single

By Donna Flagg on May 21, 2015 in Honestly
A chat with Tamsen Fadal about her new guide to empowerment after a big life change such as a breakup or divorce.

3 Ways to Make Your Work More Meaningful

People who believe that their lives have meaning and purpose share a whole host of healthy benefits: they are happier, feel more in control over their lives, feel more engaged at work (and high engagement usually means less burnout), report less depression and anxiety and less workaholism.

What Keeps You From Being Unconditionally Self-Accepting?

The desire to become your personal best is normal—and it’s admirable. But wanting to become better than others, not so much . . . maybe not at all. For, so defined, this particular goal reflects an inflated, aggressive, and possibly domineering ego. If you genuinely see yourself as unique—for, after all, there’s never been anybody exactly like you, then . . .

Have You Ever Felt a “Call” to Do a Certain Kind of Work?

A call means no choice — or at least, great pain in making another choice.

Confessions of a Know-it-All

The feeling of knowing is an essential brain sensation, without which we would not likely strive to learn. And yet, the feeling of being right is not necessarily connected to actually being correct.

Why Do Positive Leaders Believe It Pays To Be Virtuous?

As a leader what virtues do you encourage in your team? Could a more virtuous approach be the competitive differentiator that enables your organization to flourish?

3 Reasons Why Intuition is a Sacred Gift

Give your intuition a chance and you'll give yourself the biggest gift of your life.

Do You Enjoy Paradox?

Leaders today describe the world as volatile, ambiguous, changing, and complex—a world full of disruption that demands resilience.

How Can We Get Relief With "Mad Men" Ending?

In Mad Men’s season six finale, Don Draper asks, “What is happiness?” He then answers, “It’s a moment before you need more happiness.” Substitute happiness for relief—or, perhaps, merely mistake relief for happiness, or satisfaction, or fulfillment—and you have yourself at the very eye of the hurricane of the whole irrelationship song-and-dance routine. Goodbye, Don.

Take Your Mental Health “Pill” Every Day!

A depressed client of mine once remarked—“I found out I need to take my signature strengths pill every day.” She was speaking of the research-based psychology intervention of “use 1 of your signature strengths in a new way each day.”

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

What emotional price do we pay for our lies? Here, I share nine lessons from Mad Men on how to stop your lies from destroying your happiness.

Can't Sit Still? You Are Not Alone

A friend laughed with relief when I told her how noisy my mind is when I step outside intending to sit and listen to birdsong. She thought she was the only one who could barely quiet her mind enough to sit still. I find that the fresh air, earth aromas, and the bird chorus are there for a moment or two and then all that I am trying to savor drops away.

Want to Keep Love Alive? Here’s How

Since May is Date Your Mate Month, here are a few ideas you might want to consider. Try some of these and add your own creative touches to the process of keeping romance alive! Taking time out of our busy lives to make sure that the intimate aspects of our relationship are thriving works wonders for the partnership and our lives as a whole.

The Hazard of Coasting in Your Partnership

We often coast in our important relationships rather than pay attention. Avoiding a slippery slope toward disconnection means being mindful of when we’re unwisely coasting.

Why Anticipatory Nostalgia Promotes Gratitude

By Jaime Kurtz Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Happy Trails
Think ahead—what might you miss as you embark on your summer travels?

A Crash Course on Happiness

Are you a "seeker"—someone who's always been interested in happiness? Have you wondered about what it would take to sustain happiness? Are you curious about the true and the fake determinants of happiness? If so, you may be in luck!

If You Could Change Your Past, Would You?

Perhaps then, what we should ask ourselves is not “If you could change your past, would you?” but “You can change your future. Will you?”

Staying Connected in Long-Term Relationships

In order to hold on to each other, you must first learn how to hold onto yourself.

The Power of Wisdom to Enact Social Change

Many believe that the rise of technology and the logical problem solving mindset can solve the world’s problems. But after years of creating technologies to help improve poverty, health, and education, Kentaro Toyama started to reach a different conclusion: Social change comes from the heart, mind, and will of people. Technologies are only as good as the wisdom of people.

How Do Positive Leaders Enable People To Thrive At Work?

Are your employees thriving at work? Do they show up each day with a spark of energy, passion and excitement about the learning and growth opportunities unfolding? And as a leader how do you keep this spark burning?

Mentoring: The Missing Link for Highly Sensitive Children

Ever wonder if your sensitive child needs a mentor?

Mental Subtraction: A Simple Trick to Boost Gratitude

Among the stories of tragedy following a plane crash in 2012, was a story of appreciation–a missed connection prevented one man from boarding that plane and when news of the crash aired he broke down, unable to believe how lucky he was. His wife told reporters she couldn't imagine life without him; but, for a few minutes, she had been forced to imagine the unimaginable.