Guilt and its handmaiden, shame, can paralyze us––or catalyze us into action. Appropriate guilt can function as social glue, spurring one to make reparations for wrongs. Excessive rumination about one's failures, however, is a surefire recipe for resentment and depression.

Recent posts on Guilt

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

Apologizing as a Developmental Stage

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Life After 50
Why is it so hard to apologize?

Why the Guilt?

Are your eating habits giving you something to feel guilty about this holiday season?

Grief Lessons

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on November 23, 2017 in Creating in Flow
My husband of 34 years died recently. Unprepared for the reality of terrible loss, I learned how to grieve like everyone does: the hard way. Here are 12 lessons....

Six Tips for Handling Survivor Guilt

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on November 22, 2017 in How to Be Yourself
Is survivor guilt weighing you down? Learn the causes of it and what you can do to free yourself of the guilt.

Remorse and Gratitude

As journalist and author Mignon McLaughlin stated, “True remorse is never just regret over consequence; it is regret over motive.”
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An Unexpected Sight in the Rearview Mirror

By Lawrence D. Blum M.D. on November 12, 2017 in Beyond Freud
It is unusual, at age 75, to suddenly view more than 50 years of struggles in an entirely new light.

The Wandering Eye and the Green-Eyed Monster

By David Ludden Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Talking Apes
New research shows that when people fantasize about illicit affairs, they often project their guilty feelings onto their partner.

To Guilt or Not to Guilt, That Is the Question

By Yael Schonbrun Ph.D. on November 06, 2017 in Moderating
Do working parents have a guilt mandate?

Why We’re More Likely to Buy Frivolous Things on Our Mobile?

By Liraz Margalit Ph.D. on November 04, 2017 in Behind Online Behavior
When it comes to what we’re buying it also seems that the device really does matter.

Four Organizing "Sins" to Start Committing on Purpose

Computer science can improve our psychological health by absolving us from the guilt of being disorganized.

The Secret Suffering

If you are a parent of a sexual assault victim and not sure what to do, here are some ideas that could be helpful in your journey.

Feeling Like a Phony, an Imposter, and a Fake? You Can Stop.

It doesn't go away, but if you work at it, usually with a good therapist, feelings of being a fake come less often, pass more swiftly, and do less damage.
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Why Are Most of Us So Good at Deceiving Ourselves?

By Barb Cohen on October 08, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
Columbus, cognitive dissonance and autism shed light on our coping strategies.

When Forgiving Yourself Is the Hardest Kind of Forgiveness

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on October 02, 2017 in Mindful Anger
When it’s you who’s done the wronging, you might not believe you deserve forgiveness.

Feeling Guilty About Feeling Bad

You may have heard, "things could have been worse," or "that's what you get," after experiencing a trauma. Your feelings are always valid, no matter what others tell you.

Does Severe Remorse Require a Specialist?

There are few resources specifically for "accidental killers." Can people with severe or unusual emotional suffering get help from mainstream sources?

Embarrassment, Guilt, and Shame

Our possibilities for cooperating depend on respecting other people and courting their regard. Embarrassment, guilt, and shame keep us attentive to those concerns.

How to Email a Professor, or The Art of Kissing Pompous Butt

Do you want your professor to like you? Then you should probably play it safe and assume he/she is a jackass.

The Antidote to Grudgeholding

In July of 1984, Jennifer Thompson was a 22-year-old college student in Burlington, North Carolina, just about to graduate. She had a boyfriend, also a college student...

Fantasies of Other Lovers? Relax, Almost Everyone Has Them

By Michael Castleman M.A. on August 15, 2017 in All About Sex
While making love with your honey, do you have erotic fantasies of other lovers? If not, you're unusual.

How to Bounce Back from Epic Parenting Fails

Social media has changed the way we talk about parenting failures. And not necessarily for the better.

Criticizing a Saint Part 2

By Timothy Pytell Ph.D. on August 09, 2017 in On Authoritarian Therapy
Revisiting the decision not to interview Viktor Frankl.

Considerations on "The Big Sick"

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 05, 2017 in Life After 50
Does Kumail Nanjiani's relationship with his parents ring bells for you?

The Psychiatric Scapegoating of Michelle Carter

By on August 04, 2017 in Mental Illness as Metaphor
The woman convicted in the texting-suicide case is guilty of no crime.

Shoe Shaming in the Strictest School in Britain

By Peter Toohey Ph.D. on August 01, 2017 in Annals of the Emotions
Merchants’ Academy was called the strictest school in Britain, a tough label for a good school. But Merchants’ may not make it easy for itself by using shame to enforce behavior.

5 Ways Your Struggling Adult Child May Be Manipulating You

Is your unjustifiable, yet unshakable, guilt making you vulnerable to the manipulations of your adult older child?

Have Fun With Sexual Fantasies

By Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA on July 21, 2017 in Sex Matters
Sexual fantasies are private experiences, but sharing them with your partner can ramp up the passion and increase your intimacy.

The Cure for Self Loathing? Self-Forgiveness

Self-loathing can take its toll on a person, robbing the self of vitality and happiness. Self-forgiveness can restore that vitality and set you free from the bondage of your past.

How to Talk to a Vet

By Robert Dingman Ed.D. on July 18, 2017 in Mind Matters
So many veterans feel distance and alienation from their civilian compatriots because they conclude that we really don’t want to know or can’t understand how they feel.