Guilt and its handmaiden, shame, can paralyze us––or catalyze us into action. Appropriate guilt can function as social glue, spurring one to make reparations for wrongs. Excessive rumination about one's failures, however, is a surefire recipe for resentment and depression.

Recent posts on Guilt

Government Criminalizes Sexual Fantasy

Erotic age role-play between adults is incredibly common. Unfortunately, prosecutors and juries think it's sick and dangerous.

Keeping Patients Safe

Have you given enough thought to what's necessary to stay safe during a planned or emergency hospital visit?
Tamarcus Brown

When Guilt Keeps You From Setting Boundaries

When you set appropriate boundaries and stop taking on other people's responsibilities, they're left with no choice but to complete their own tasks, resolve their own problems ...
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Guilt and Grief: Placing a Loved One in a Nursing Facility

10 ways to cope with one of the hardest decisions.
Darlene Lancer

Are You Being Manipulated?

Manipulation is veiled influence or hostility that may seem benign, friendly, or flattering. It can be hard to detect and know how to respond, unless you can spot the signs.
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Guilty, With an Explanation

The increasing use of neuroscience in behalf of criminal defendants with "defective" brains raises a perennial question: how do we define responsibility and free will?

How Can We Help a Person to Overcome Chronic Guilt?

By Susan Rako M.D. on April 17, 2017 in More Light
When your patient is suffering from chronic guilt, could it be that something else is really at issue?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Accepting Responsibility

Accepting your role in creating and confronting a challenge helps build trust and appreciation of individual motivations. It permits effective teamwork in your love relationship.
K. Ramsland

Killer's Remorse

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on April 15, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
A recent interview with Steven Dean Gordon raises the issue of whether a serial killer can feel genuine remorse.

Forgiving Yourself

Through self-forgiveness there is psychological and, perhaps even more profoundly, spiritual growth.

The "Guilty Dog" Look and Other Borrowed Signals

The guilty dog look and the human handshake have similar roots in the evolution of animal communication.

On Raising an Honest Child

How do we teach our kids to be honest, even if it means admitting to breaking the rules? Research on children's lying behavior might be able to provide us with some helpful hints.

My Baby’s Birthmark Was My Fault

For doctors, lasers are interesting. Patients who blame themselves for what the lasers will be used for are not.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Recognizing Mistakes

We can hurt our loved one when we fail to keep our word, lie, cause harm or havoc, are hurtful, and sometimes just fail to think. Acknowledging our miss-steps shows love.
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No One Lives in the Past

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on March 31, 2017 in In Control
We’re not living in the past, we’re sorting in the present.

Why Your Mistakes Matter Less Than You Think

By Emily T. Troscianko on March 29, 2017 in A Hunger Artist
You lose something valuable. You kick yourself for it. Why do you never congratulate yourself when you don’t lose things? Just how confused are we about the mistakes we make?

8 Empowering Ways to Stop Feeling Guilty

Do you feel guilty a lot more than you should? Do you think it's selfish to say "no"? Learn 8 powerful tools to get rid of unnecessary or unwanted guilt.

Guilt Me Not

Stop the guilt talk in your head.

What's the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 16, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Shame and guilt often go hand in hand, which is why they are readily confused.

If Only

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on March 09, 2017 in Good Mourning
Guilt can take many forms in grief. Yet, whatever form it takes can complicate grief.

Your Career and the Tyranny of the Shoulds

The word "should" creates two selves: an ideal self and a real self. Here’s how to escape the tyranny.

Can I Trust Him? The Psychology and Philosophy of Trust

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 07, 2017 in Hide and Seek
What is trust, when does it pertain, and can it ever be absolute?

The Gift That Keeps on Giving: Coping with Parental Guilt

By Dena Kouremetis on February 17, 2017 in The Unedited Offspring
What can we do to assuage the guilt we feel over not being the best parents we could have been?
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"Refrigerator Mothering" Is Dead but the Blame Game Lives On

By Barb Cohen on February 16, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
The mother—and now the father too—are still suspect. Suspected of what? Nobody knows for sure, but whatever it is, we are expected to defend ourselves against it.
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Was it Really a Suicide?

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on February 05, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
A new book shows investigators how to interpret seemingly innocent 911 calls that might actually be from a killer.

Watching Football Is a First World Guilty Pleasure

By E. Paul Zehr Ph.D. on January 29, 2017 in Black Belt Brain
Many of us will tune into the upcoming Super Bowl. Enjoy it for what it is but also respect what these players go through. And see if there isn't a bit of guilt there too.

The Emotions of Grief After a Breakup

Many will tell you not to waste your tears on a former love, but grief is the healing feeling. It must have its due for you to be happy once again.

Gary Taubes's New Book Puts Sugar On Trial

By Michael Bader D.M.H. on January 25, 2017 in What Is He Thinking?
In The Case Against Sugar, science writer Gary Taubes shows how Sugar fronts distorted science and politicized nutrition politics to sell what Taubes shows is actually a a poison.

VA Says 68,000 Vets Addicted to Opioid Painkillers

By Eric Newhouse on January 23, 2017 in Invisible Wounds
Opioid painkillers are addictive, but the VA has been prescribing them to about a half million vets—and treating nearly 70,000 of them for addiction to their meds.

White Guilt vs. White Empathy

Thoughts to commemorate the Martin Luther King holiday.