Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent posts on Grief

A Grieving Gorilla: A Picture That's Worth Entire Courses

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on May 27, 2017 in Animal Emotions
A photo of a sad orphaned gorilla and a comforting human raises numerous questions about what other animals think and feel and the emotions shared in human-animal relationships.

Straight Life Cycle/Queer Life

A psychotherapy vignette about navigating traditional milestones as a gay man.

Recycling in Breakup Grief

Just when we think we're over it, the old feelings come bubbling up. It's part of the process. Learn what to do when it happens.

The Rules of Disengagement

Even though No Contact is hard after a breakup, it's a necessary step to healing.

Coping with the Death of a Friend

When a good friend dies, no words can fill the void in your life.

4 Ways People Sabotage Their Breakups

Healthfully letting go brings self-knowledge and psychological wellbeing. Here are a few common ways that people inadvertently sabotage their breakups and divorces.
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

5 Ways to Practice Self- Compassion After Loss

Struggling with grief? Here are ways to practice self-compassion.

Is Depression Apart from Grief or a Part of Grief?

The title above alludes to a really tricky question. And a complicated one, too. For the answer to this two-part inquiry is, well, “Yes” and “Yes.”

Grief in Prairie Dogs: Mourning a Death in the Family

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on May 16, 2017 in Animal Emotions
I saw a unique interaction between an adult prairie dog and road-killed youngster. She pulled the corpse off the road, touched it lightly, and vocalized, perhaps saying good-bye.

The Waiting is the Hardest Part

When the outcome is not in your control, waiting for answers, waiting to feel better, or waiting to get back together can feel like life or death.

Acceptance, Gratitude and Celebrating Life

By Debbie Joffe Ellis on May 14, 2017 in Tried and True
On some occasions when many people feel joy, others may suffer painful emotions. We can choose to adopt a healthy perspective - and feel uplifted instead of deprived & depressed.

Mother’s Day Manifesto for Grieving Mothers

By Allen J Frances M.D. on May 13, 2017 in Saving Normal
It is time to get back to the original intent of Mother's Day: a loving tribute to all mothers, especially those who are grieving the loss of a child.

From A Mother Who Died Too Young

I share reflections on losing my mother at a young age to cancer, and what this has taught me about motherhood.

4 Ways to Overcome a Toxic Relationship

If you're experiencing a toxic relationship, then you likely move in and out of a state of denial about how unhealthy it truly is. Here are 4 ways to overcome toxic love.
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Guilt and Grief: Placing a Loved One in a Nursing Facility

10 ways to cope with one of the hardest decisions.

A Reflection on Near Death Experiences

How better to resolve the ambiguity surrounding death than by looking to those individuals who have apparently crossed over and then returned to us?

When Grief Came To Town: A Mother's Tale of Loss and Renewal

By Mark Matousek on May 01, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
Cherrie Adams's "annus horribilis" included the deaths of three family members, and the resurrection of a whole new life

What Do Refugees Leave Behind?

Here's what we need to understand about loss and grief among people displaced by war.

Facebook Can Create Psychological Safety Nets During Crises

Facebook has many pros and cons, as most of us know. Two recent studies have found that Facebook can create a surprisingly effective "safety net" in times of crisis and distress.

Psychology in "13 Reasons Why"

The psychology behind Netflix series "13 Reasons Why"
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

A Lament That Remains

There are many things you outgrow as a child but you don't outgrow the death of a parent.

Warning: This Drug May Kill You

In this beautiful and sorrowful HBO documentary, we crisscross this country to meet families who represent today’s victims of the opioid epidemic.

Those Sneaky Spring Holidays

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on April 19, 2017 in Good Mourning
While we often realize that the winter holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Hanukkah can trigger grief, but the many holidays of Spring can take mourners by surprise.
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What Do We Lose From Life When Depression Strikes?

By Susan Noonan MD on April 19, 2017 in View From the Mist
Grieve the losses you experience with depression and you will be better able to move on.

It Would've Been My Brother's 30th Birthday Today!

Have you lost a significant person in your life? Here, a psychologist shares her personal loss of her brother and the psychological strategies that you too can apply to your grief.

The Courage of Bob

By Greg O'Brien on April 17, 2017 in On Pluto
At 78, there are a lot of miles on Bob Bertschy, who, as a lanky young ballplayer, crouched behind home plate, wearing the “tools of ignorance,” as a catcher with the LA Dodgers.

How Can We Help a Person to Overcome Chronic Guilt?

By Susan Rako M.D. on April 17, 2017 in More Light
When your patient is suffering from chronic guilt, could it be that something else is really at issue?

Communicating With the Dead: Mediums, Séances, Ouija Boards

There has long been a keen interest in finding a way to communicate with the dead. How better to manage our own uncertainty about life in the hereafter?
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

Five Things to Say or Do for the Bereaved

Not sure what to do or say to someone in grief? Here are 5 tips.

I Have Cancer and Maybe a Year to Live

By Bernard L. De Koven on April 10, 2017 in On Having Fun
If you want to do something for me or because of me, grieving is not what I need. I need you to play.