Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent posts on Grief

Bad Listening Skills II: Responding to Grief and Loss

By Hank Davis on July 27, 2016 in Caveman Logic
What is it about death and loss that triggers the worst listening skills in most of us? No matter how deep your convictions are, you can't preach and listen at the same time.

5 Ways To Reinvent After A Hurtful Breakup

Endless self-criticism will get you nowhere and will only intensify the hurt. Here are 5 ways to get over your ex with your self-esteem intact.

How Will Our Story Be Told?

Our lives are a matter of show and (others) tell.
Win Henderson via Wikimedia Commons

Traumatic Grief

As mass violence is becoming more prevalent in our society, we are becoming a nation of mourners.
Kasia Bialasiewicz at

Coping With Large Scale Tragedies

By Susan Noonan MD on July 20, 2016 in View From the Mist
Are you caught in the trap of information overload when bad things happen?

The Rainbow Link

A new book helps young children process the death of a pet and learn to grieve in healthy ways.

Identity Can Change Even After Death

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on July 17, 2016 in Good Mourning
Identity is not fixed at death—some times new information or values can change the way an individual is perceived even long after their death. This can deeply affect grief.

5 Pieces of Advice You Should Ignore After a Breakup

Coming to terms with the end of your romantic relationship or marriage? Here are five well-meaning pieces of advice you shouldn't take to heart.

Homesickness: A Sign of Weakness or Strength?

Once considered beneficial, attachment to home is now viewed as dysfunctional. Is love of home a disorder? Or is it a foundation for healthy relationships?

The Most Important Step to Take After a Breakup

Research shows that women experience greater pain and heartache after a break up than men.
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

A Crisis of the Heart

Why some widows can't seem to make a relationship work post loss

Taking It Like a Man: Understanding Grieving Styles

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on July 04, 2016 in Good Mourning
Do men and women grieve differently? Some do, some do not.

How to Get Over an Ex (and 2 Major Mistakes to Avoid)

When faced with the loss of a relationship we tend to vilify or idealize our ex. There is a way out of this obsessive thinking that will help you to heal faster.

How to Practice Talking About Suicide Loss

You can decide how you want to tell your story of loss, so others can listen, and so you can feel supported in the way you deserve.

Love in Outer Space - Or Just in Your Head?

Water worlds? Kelper 62f? Stanislaw Lew’s sci-fi novel "Solaris" gave them a living angry mind. Tarkovsky’s and Steven Soderbergh’s psychological films saw it differently. Why?

5 Ways to Find Meaning in Life Following Adversity

Does the news—or troubling events in your own life—have you questioning the way the world works? Research in psychology can help.

When Fear and Facts Collide

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on June 25, 2016 in Trouble in Mind
The US is high in the statistics for mass killings of their own citizens. Will it act on research from other countries who have shown it is possible to reduce carnage and fear?
Used with permission from The Loomba Foundation: Lord Loomba with Yoko Ono

Why International Widows Day Matters

June 23 is International Widows Day and these two writers tell you why this matters

The Caregiver's Spouse

A fiction author gets the real-world details—fantasies, realities, and so much more—right.

Healing Horses: Equine Therapy for Grieving Children

Horses can help to heal emotional wounds

How to Survive Father's Day Without a Father

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on June 17, 2016 in Social Lights
Five ways to deal with a fatherless Father's Day.

10 Things to Do When Your Loved One May Be a Crime Victim

What should you do if your loved one may be the victim of a crime? Here are 10 tips to help you through an incredible stressful time.

The Art of Dying Well

By E E Smith on June 17, 2016 in Not Born Yesterday
We all want to live well, and for as long as we can. But then what? Death being inevitable, it seems to me that at some point dying well becomes as important as living well.

Why Air Crash Victims' Families Still Long to Find the Plane

The spatial basis of memory in our brain explains why humans have always sought to locate their dead, even as the search for the disappeared Malaysian Air Flight 370 winds up

The Worst Things to Say to Someone Who's Mourning

By Guest Blogger on June 17, 2016 in The Guest Room
Avoid these “well meaning” comments when comforting the bereaved and try these supportive, helpful ones instead.

Creating Space for Grief and Loss

So many of us don't really know how to grieve, and also drop the ball when someone we know is going through a loss.

You Only Get More of What You Resist—Why?

Jung argued long ago that “what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” Today this paradoxical viewpoint is typically shortened to “What you resist persists." . . .

"What's Wrong With the World?" Finding Hope After Hate

By Brad Waters on June 14, 2016 in Design Your Path
In the wake of violence, the youth of Orlando show us resilience and hope.