Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent Posts on Grief

After a Stillbirth, Interpersonal Support Facilitates Coping

Finding support is key for emotional recovery after a stillbirth

Leslie Pietrzyk: Grief and Condolences

By Jennifer Haupt on October 07, 2015 One True Thing
After my husband died I needed help but didn't know how to ask. A funeral is many things, including that giant to-do list, but repairing a shattered life is pretty much only one thing: hard work. The paradox is that no one else can do it for you, yet you can’t do it alone.

When You Are Grieving After a Miscarriage

Grieving is a very normal and healthy response to pregnancy loss. For some women, physical and emotional healing happens fairly quickly. For others, it can take longer – months or even a year.

My College Daughter Hates Me

What to do when your college child distances herself.

A Profile of Oregon's Pseudocommando Killer

Dr. Park Dietz has identified three types of mass murderers—family annihilators, pseudocommandos, and set-and-run killers. The killer who targeted people at Umpqua Community College was a classic pseudocommando.

Living Life While Facing Death

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 Freedom to Grieve
Daniel said his wife wanted to capture life and keep living even as she faced cancer. How can she still have fun even when telling her son she was dying?

A Meditation for My Mother

By Susan Hooper on September 28, 2015 Detours and Tangents
I helped care for my mother for six years before she died. The sixth anniversary of her death feels like a turning point for me.

Grief and Fear

Grief is also about becoming untethered. It’s about losing an identity.

Escaping the Grief of Financial Disaster

By Michael F. Kay on September 24, 2015 Financial Life Focus
There doesn't seem to be a path to a comfortable solution. Dread and depression become partners with despair and devastation. We can sit in self-blame, self-pity or denial—or recognize that the only way out is through positive action.

Should We Beware of Sad Songs?

People expect that sad music will make them feel better by providing catharsis, the opportunity to work through sadness, or the knowledge that other people have also had similar feelings. But does it?

Remembering a Medical Man for All Seasons

By Jeffrey Lieberman M.D. on September 22, 2015 Shrink Speak
A wise and gentle voice of humanity bids farewell.

Countertransference: When is yours, mine?

The ache I felt in my chest as Monica recounted the events of that heartrending evening at the hospital was too deep and too personal to ignore.

Should You Forgive?

Forgiveness can be impossible. It can also be freeing. Here's how to make it work for you.

Grief and Art: A Survivor's Act of Love

By Jennifer Haupt on September 14, 2015 One True Thing
Poet Priscilla Long asks: What does art do for the grieving person, the survivor? Art beholds the beloved, remembers the beloved, makes the beloved visible. And art laments. Art keens. Art puts the private agony of grief out into the world where it reverberates with an elemental core of our human condition.

Can You Die of a Broken Heart?

You don't have to be a widow to experience physical discomfort related to loss.

Sayonara: Farewell Grandma, on Your 114th Birthday

“She waited for you,” the priest told me. I believe she did.

Grieving My Mother

My mother died this year, and she continues to give me some valuable lessons.

Who Murders Children? Psychology Profiles Child Killers

Published in the academic journal Victims and Offenders this review also confirms the police can infer a lot about who committed the crime just from the age of the victim. When a child is younger than five, the suspect, who is equally likely to be male or female is most probably from within the same family, not motivated by molesting, and tends to kill using their hands.

Techniques of Grief Therapy: Assessment and Intervention

By The Book Brigade on September 03, 2015 The Author Speaks
Everyone experiences loss, because the world is a place of impermanence. There’s no question that loss is painful. But it is also potentially productive.

Basics of Getting Beyond Trauma

By Kimberly Key on September 01, 2015 Counseling Keys
Three debilitating things that can happen in a traumatic event. With any complex issue, there are a host of solutions that equal in complexity. This article is going to focus on one, and often missed, solution.

Is There a Right Way to Grieve?

By Jen Kim on August 31, 2015 Valley Girl With a Brain
The hardest part about losing a loved one is not that they’re gone.

Anxious America

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on August 23, 2015 Hidden Motives
We spend over 2 billion dollars a year on anti-anxiety medications. What are we so anxious about?

Creative Rehabilitation, Part 4: Dementia

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on August 22, 2015 Trouble in Mind
Creative and individualized strategies to help a person with dementia retain some dignity and reasons for living are feasible in the early and mid-way stages of the disease, and support and therapy can help family members cope when their loved one is alive, as well as make the grieving process less painful.

The Importance of Sex While Raising The Special Needs Child

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on August 19, 2015 Save Your Sex Life
Sex & Raising The Special Needs Child

Grief Out Of Order: Apocalyptic Loss and "The Walking Dead"

"The Walking Dead" demonstrates how stages of grief follow no universal order. Before we discover how new characters on "Fear the Walking Dead" respond to the zombie apocalyse, look back at how one of the original program's characters faced loss and bereavement. What do these reactions mean for ongoing survival in a complicated world? What might Kübler-Ross say?

One Less Hamburger: Dealing With Loss on Labor Day

Holidays are really tough when somebody has died. Summer has many holidays that honor folks we love. First we honor our fallen veterans, then we honor our mothers and, before July appears, we honor our Fathers. We honor our Independence and, at the end of the summer, we honor the workers who support our country.

Grief: Cross-Cultural, Cross-Species, and Personal Views

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on August 13, 2015 Animal Emotions
A recent BBC Forum called "Grief" offers a very thoughtful and easy to understand discussion of cross-cultural, cross-species, and personal perspectives in which three women consider a wide array of different forms of grief and loss. I highly recommend it as it surely will encourage listeners to pay more attention to these topics.

Complicated Grief and the Inner Clock

By Michael Terman Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 Chronotherapy
For some bereaved individuals, grief turns from an emotion into an illness that can last months or years—and causes neurological changes that can be detected on an MRI. Find out more about complicated grief and the effects it can have on your sleep and circadian rhythms.

6 Ways to Keep Going After A Devastating Loss

What To Do When You Need to Maintain Your Sanity After Loss

A Riddle For All Ages

By Kaja Perina on August 03, 2015 Brainstorm
When my son was old enough to understand the basic concept of infinity (but hardly its nuance), he presented me with a “trick riddle.”