Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves in the same way: We have individual patterns and different outlets for grief. There has also been research on stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance—but people do not always experience these stages in any particular order, nor do they experience every stage. In the worst cases, there are individuals who suffer more severe grief, known as prolonged grief and formerly complicated grief, which can last up to months. This form of grief can pave the way to isolation and chronic loneliness

Recent posts on Grief

Can You Be Stuck in Grief?

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on February 20, 2018 in Good Mourning
Even if we seem stuck in grief, there are ways to continue our journey with loss.

Lessons from Love and Loss

By Frances Kuffel on February 18, 2018 in What Fat Women Want
As we crammed the protesting dervish into her crate for our flight back to New York, my brother said, “You know, you don’t have to keep her. Not every dog is right for everybody.”

The Shock We Share

We are all affected by this week's shocking news about another school shooting. Here are suggestions about how we can engage in compassionate witnessing.

Ice Cream Shops Can Fight Youth Suicide, Too

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on February 18, 2018 in Nurturing Resilience
We need ways to talk about suicide year round if prevention campaigns are going to work. Corporate partners can help.

What Can You Do for Adolescents Exposed to Traumatic Events?

Trauma & Grief-Focused Group Therapy may provide adolescents a shared outlet for healing.

Roadblocks in the Search for Answers

Discussions about the link between gun violence and mental illness often fall prey to a few logical fallacies. A more informed debate promises better outcomes for all of us.
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Facing the Pain of Child Abuse

It can be difficult to allow yourself to experience the pain of childhood abuse but having self-compassion can help.

Differences in Grief Expression

Dismissing people's "thoughts and prayers" will backfire as a persuasion tactic.

How to Dredge Up Some Gratitude After Life Slams You

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on February 09, 2018 in Creating in Flow
What if it's NOT "all good"? You can learn to restructure your thinking and experience small amounts of gratitude on even the darkest days. Consider these strategies.

Young Children and the Fear of Death

It can be alarming when your child expresses concerns about mortality, but death worries are common between the ages of 4 and 8. Take the fears seriously, and be calmly reassuring.

Leading a Bereavement Group for 9/11 Widows

Instead of ending after 16 weeks, the support group kept going for 41 months.

When a Child Loses a Parent

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 04, 2018 in Media Spotlight
New research explores the impact of losing a parent before the age of eighteen and what it can mean for later ability to form adult relationships

5 Reasons We Should Take Pet Loss Seriously

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 04, 2018 in The Squeaky Wheel
There are reasons why losing a pet causes such intense grief.

The Power of The Narrative

By Kristin Meekhof on February 04, 2018 in A Widow's Guide to Healing
How the power of one's story can change your life

After a Loss: How Do I Protect Myself?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 03, 2018 in Fixing Families
Relationship losses can be traumatic. When they are, we seek safety and develop a plan to protect us from feeling the pain again. Some tips on navigating these difficult times.

How Does Early Parental Death Affect Adult Relationships?

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 02, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Early parental loss can have negative effects on adult physical and mental health. New research on over 1.5 million people shows how parental death affects adult relationships.

Logic Brings Suicide Prevention to the Grammy Awards

By Shainna Ali Ph.D. on January 30, 2018 in A Modern Mentality
In a powerful performance of their song, 1-800-273-8255, Logic, Khalid, and Alessia Cara spark a much-needed conversation about suicide in the USA.

Navigating Grief and Condolences

By Mica B. Estrada, Ph.D. on January 26, 2018 in Lead with Kindness
Is it possible that the kindest thing we can do is allow the pain of a loss to be felt and release ourselves from the reflex to try to stop it?

The Gift of Grief

Honesty, transparency, and vulnerability are qualities that most of us claim to value, yet when it comes to embodying these virtues in our actions and words, we may be reluctant...

Mourning Without Markers

By Gayle Greene Ph.D. on January 25, 2018 in Insomniac
As a career woman with no children but many unresolved issues about my mother, with no chance now to tell her the things I wish I had, writing became my drug of choice.

The Inner Life of Animals: Love, Grief, and Compassion

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in Animal Emotions
An Interview with Peter Wohlleben, author of a new book on animal emotions called "The Inner Life of Animals," a sequel to his best-seller "The Hidden Lives of Trees."

Should You Try To "Get Over" Grief?

Grief is overwhelming. It is painful beyond measure. Should you active try to "get over" it?
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Facing Death Together at the Bedside

Sitting vigil with a dying loved one.

Closure Is Overrated

"You need closure." Heard that before? Here's why getting closure is unrealistic in some circumstances.

Soul Sadness

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Finding True Refuge
Our soul sadness is fully revealed when we directly and mindfully contact our pain. In such moments, we discover a natural upwelling of compassion and tenderness for our own heart.

When Grief Gets Complicated

By Jessica Zitter MD, MPH on January 08, 2018 in Life and Dignity
Having a loved one die is hard enough. Make sure that you aren't flying blind.

The Big Split

By Sarah C. Newcomb Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Loaded
Here’s what you need to know about the psychology of money when it comes to splitting up.

Underlying Patterns: Hard to See and Painfully Obvious

Change and letting go by choice can trigger one’s own feelings of loss and abandonment.
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What to Say in a Sympathy Note

Do you stress over finding the right words to say?