Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent posts on Grief

Three steps to changing your life when a relationship ends

When you end a relationship, it's easy to be overwhelmed and wonder how you begin anew. Follow these three steps to changing your life and reaching your goals!

How Depression Can Move On

The new coming out is coming out about struggles with depression. Here, Judy realizes that depression can lead to empathy, past trauma, & even make you funnier.. Read on

Can Grief Be an Impetus to Personal Growth?

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on May 23, 2016 in Good Mourning
We have no choice about grief but we do have choices in grief—to grow up or to grow down.

Is There a Right to Grieve?

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on May 23, 2016 in Good Mourning
Some losses simply are not recognized by others. How can we enfranchise disenfranchised grief?

Mastering Life's Transitions

Transitions from one chapter of our lives to the next can be a challenge. The key is to step back, think big picture, move forward, and have realistic expectations. Some tips.

Do We Have Any Control Over Depression?

In Part 3 of this epic downer of a comic dealing with a depression that makes Kafka look cheery, we find out if one can control depression by doing good deeds. Read on...

When You Fall, How Do You Rise Again?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 10, 2016 in Ambigamy
When our glass drains to half-full we try to refill it with something more reliable. When that fails it's best to get an adjustable-height glass.

5 Things to Do to Heal Your Grief When a Relationship Ends

How to cope with the grief at the end of a relationship

If Your Mother Was Grieving, Could You Become Her Caretaker?

What would you do if you suddenly found that you had to care for a depressed and grieving parent?

A Human Face on Survival Guilt

Holocaust Remembrance Day marks the anniversary of the 1943 Warsaw Ghetto Uprising. Here is the story of Sande Boritz Berger's discovery of family history.

The Power of Public Grief

Community candelight vigils are super depressing. Here's why you should go anyway.

Donkeys: If They Aren't Grieving What Are They Doing?

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on April 28, 2016 in Animal Emotions
A recent video shows donkeys braying and interacting with a corpse. I don't know what they're thinking and feeling but surely they are grieving.

Why Shouldn't We Mourn Prince?

By Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 28, 2016 in The New You
Why do people mourn Prince?

A Noble Sadness: The Benefits of Sorrow

What are the benefits of sadness, sorrow and grief? We tend to shy away from these emotions, because they make us feel vulnerable. But could sadness lead to love and belonging?

Parenting a Parent Toward Life’s End

By Julie K. Hersh on April 27, 2016 in Struck By Living
How do you manage end of life care for your parent? There is no handbook but here is one story.

How to Help Someone Who Is Grieving

By Jen Kim on April 25, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
What you should do (or not do) when someone you love is suffering.

Do We Ever Really Say Goodbye to Those We Love?

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on April 24, 2016 in Listen Up!
Perhaps we never really say goodbye to those we've lost: The conversation with them can continue throughout our lives in unexpected ways. And in the most unexpected places.

The Timing of Memory

We celebrate joyous anniversaries, but we also observe anniversaries of loss – which can surprise us with emotional distress, thought disturbances, and attentional difficulties.

More Than a Feeling

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on April 24, 2016 in Good Mourning
We often think of grief as an emotion—but grief affects every aspect of our being—even our health.

Misplaced Pity for Prince

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 22, 2016 in Living Single
The usual pity party for people who die "alone" was not well attended this time.

Sad Day When Your Prince Dies

Prince's death has shocked us all. When I was Prince's opening act, I learned firsthand why Prince was such a prince. Here's the story ...

5 Ways to Help Me Through My Breakup

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on April 20, 2016 in Me Before We
Here's how to help your loved ones help you.

Good Grief

Although grief can be painful physically and emotionally, it can also be beneficial. As we live with loss, we can grow through grief.

“Why Would I Do Something So Stupid?!” 3 Tools for Answers

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on April 17, 2016 in Full Living
Find yourself stuck in repetitive behaviors, making the same poor relational choices? You have a good reason, you just have to be curious enough to figure it out.

Straight Talk About Relationships

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 17, 2016 in How To Do Life
An interview with Psychology Today's Editor-at-Large, Hara Marano.

Beyond Traditional Grief Therapy

It wasn't until I lost my beloved husband of 27 years that I realized that traditional Western grief therapy leaves the bereaved at an even greater loss.

We Grieve All Our Loss

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on April 07, 2016 in Good Mourning
In his article On Mourning and Melancholia, Freud chose an abandoned bride as his case illustration. What was he thinking?
Nancy Berns

A Thousand Ways in Life and Death

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on April 04, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
It can feel like a thousand little cuts that hit unpredictably as we learn to live with loss. It can be the seemingly mundane things in life that hurt so unexpectedly.

Why Novels About Infertility's Darkness Are Hitting a Nerve

By Monica N. Starkman M.D. on April 01, 2016 in On Call
Even if infertility is not currently a presence in one’s life, the fear of it often is. No wonder novels like The Girl On The Train resonate so strongly.
Nancy Berns

Why We Need to Move Beyond the Idea of Closure

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on March 31, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
So if we stop pushing closure, how do we help?