Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent posts on Grief

Music as a Shoulder to Cry On

Sad music seems to accommodate emotional healing by allowing people to safely get in touch with negative emotions that might otherwise be repressed.

Recovery and Fulfillment in Loss and Longing:

Understanding unconscious motivation, strengthening ego defenses, experiencing loss & longing facilitate eating disorder recovery and enable responsible & honorable decision making

When a Death in the Family Takes Over Your Life

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on March 14, 2017 in I Hear You
We all feel awful in the weeks and months after the death of someone close. But what can you do if the grief goes on and on, and you can't stop thinking about the person you lost?

Is There a Right to Grieve?

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on March 13, 2017 in Good Mourning
Some losses simply are not recognized by others. How can we enfranchise disenfranchised grief?

21 Simple Things You Can Do to Feel Better Right Now

I know what it feels like to be really miserable. I’ve been there. So I made you a list of 21 simple things you can do to feel better right here, right now.

We Need to Talk About Death

Coming to terms with death and dying.

Unloved Daughters and Mourning the Mother You Deserved

By Peg Streep on March 09, 2017 in Tech Support
Recovering from a pain-filled and difficult childhood is a long journey for most but there's one step that's often overlooked or ignored: Grieving for the mother you didn't have.

If Only

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on March 09, 2017 in Good Mourning
Guilt can take many forms in grief. Yet, whatever form it takes can complicate grief.

Managing Grief With Harry Potter

We go through many losses in life. It's hard to manage when we are dealing alone. By connecting with friends or fictional characters we might be able to better manage our loss.
Jessica Mendoza, used with permission

Touching the Dying

The comfort of touch.

The Ways We Grieve

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on February 27, 2017 in The Truisms of Wellness
Despite its inevitability, rarely are we adequately equipped to deal with the pain that follows the death of a loved one. Here are a few ways we experience and cope with loss.

3 Reasons You Can't Stop Crying Over a Deceased Loved One

By Jamie Turndorf Ph.D. on February 23, 2017 in We Can Work It Out
Einstein said that energy can't be destroyed. When we "die" our soul energy lives on. Therefore, our relationships are not meant to end with bodily death.
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

Five Things Not to Say to the Bereaved

By Kristin Meekhof on February 21, 2017 in A Widow's Guide to Healing
Wondering how to comfort the bereaved? Here are five things to avoid saying to them.

Happy-Sad: Charity Fundraising, Grief, and Hope

These events are not called “Cycle for Loss” or “Into the Darkness” for a reason. They are focused on coming out of -- surviving -- something that can be devastating.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Helping Your Adolescent Cope with Significant Loss

Parents can teach their adolescents how to make their way through significant loss when it occurs.
Krystine I. Batcho

When Your Heart is Breaking

When you lose someone you love, it can feel like your heart is breaking. Attending to emotional suffering is as important as taking care of physical pain.

Nine Types of Love

By Kimberly Key on February 14, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Cats may have nine lives. Humans have nine loves. In fact, we can benefit from all nine of these types of love.

Pet Loss and the Human-Animal Bond

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Animal Emotions
An interview with the founder of the Pet Loss Education Project, Adam Clark, who specializes in coping with the grief of losing a companion animal.

Handling Messy Breakups

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 11, 2017 in Fixing Families
Sometimes, in spite of your best efforts, the ending of a relationship creates a new crisis on both sides.
Markus Spiske

Falling to Pieces

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 07, 2017 in Decisions Teens Make
How to process the permanence of loss? Of course, there are the well-known stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression (or despair) and, ultimately, perhaps, acceptance.

Grief Is Another Word for Love

By Sophie Sabbage on February 06, 2017 in The Cancer Whisperer
Are you waiting for grief to bring closure? That's not its job.
Sarah Baker/Flickr/CC by 2.0

Prisoners Working With the Dying

How prisoners can learn compassion.

Valentine's Day After a Breakup

Valentines Day is mistakenly thought of as the epitome of love and it's anything but.

Breakups and Our Unresolved Losses

It's important to understand that the pain of grief is not just about your recent loss, but every one before.

10 Things to Consider When Someone You Love Has Depression

Do you know or love someone who struggles with depression? Here are ten things to consider about their situation.

Getting Over Rover: Why Our Grief Over a Dog Is So Intense

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on January 29, 2017 in Out of the Ooze
Those of us who have loved a dog know the truth: Your pet is never "just a dog," which explains why we miss them so much when they pass away.

The Emotions of Grief After a Breakup

Many will tell you not to waste your tears on a former love, but grief is the healing feeling. It must have its due for you to be happy once again.

J20: Mo(u)rning in America?

Immediate memorials at the sites of sudden death conflate mourning with protest. This blog suggests that the J20 protests protest with mourning.

10 Ways to Cope With Big Changes

Change will happen in life—it always does. So how can you go through change and come out even better than before? These 10 tips will show you how.

When a Loved One Threatens Suicide

There are no easy answers, but facing the reality of loss sometimes works better than trying too hard to prevent it.