Coping With Grief

Coping with losing a loved one is one of life's great difficulties. If you have experienced the pain of mourning, you know that any way to ease the loss is welcomed. While our knowledge and study of grief continues to evolve, it's important to note that not everyone grieves the same way: We have individual patterns and outlets for grief.

Recent posts on Grief

‘Tis the Season… for Emotion Regulation

Find yourself falling into familiar traps during holiday togetherness? You can keep your cool and sidestep problems with these tips.
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Suicide Grievers Talk About Family and Friends

By Elizabeth Young on November 17, 2017 in Adaptations
“Does anyone else feel worried about the safety of a family member?”
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Tis The Season

If you aren't looking forward to this holiday season, you aren't alone.
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The Absent Presence for Suicide Grievers

By Elizabeth Young on November 16, 2017 in Adaptations
“I feel closer to them all,” Carla says.  “And I feel so sad to know they are gone from us.”

Estrangement and the Holidays

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Complicated Love
Has estrangement from a parent or adult child led to holiday blues? The holidays bring opportunities to reconnect or to begin healing.

Requiem For Leon, A Cat

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 11, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Even a cat, especially a well loved one, deserves a public obituary,
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What Suicide Grievers Don't Say

By Elizabeth Young on November 11, 2017 in Adaptations
"There won't be another son," I say quietly.  There's a long silence, and then Jack says. "No. There won't be another son." 

Finding Solace Through Stories

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on November 10, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Remembering our loved ones through stories helps us heal and bonds our families and friends together in times of grief.
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Suicide's Grievers (Suicide-2)

By Elizabeth Young on November 08, 2017 in Adaptations
I feel like I don't breathe for 45 minutes, as each person describes the death of their loved one.

The Ravages of Nature: Human and Otherwise

By Debbie Joffe Ellis on November 08, 2017 in Tried and True
When tragic events occur, we can choose to focus on what still is good in life, create stability within, and consequently cope well and act in more effective ways.

Choosing Growth after Grief

By Kenneth J. Doka Ph.D. on November 06, 2017 in Good Mourning
We can learn a great deal from those who seem to grow despite a significant losss
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Rites of Passage (Willa-2)

By Elizabeth Young on October 31, 2017 in Adaptations
"Willa," I say, "you have to stop riding. It's too dangerous."

Terrible, Thanks for Asking

These stories now enter our cars, homes, and earbuds—our everyday lives—decreasing fear, stigma, and isolation and increasing connection, humanity, and compassion.


By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 26, 2017 in How To Do Life
Advice distilled and honesty radical.

What Remains When All Is Lost?

By Kate Levinson Ph.D. on October 25, 2017 in Emotional Currency
How would you cope if you lost all your possessions?

Decide to Be Fine: A Supernatural Contract to Keep Fighting

“Decide to be fine til the end of the week. Make yourself smile because you’re alive and it’s your job. And do it again the next week.” Do no-harm contracts help us keep fighting?
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Why Should We Grieve the Death of a Wild Animal?

It’s natural to mourn the death of a loved one or a beloved pet. But what would it mean to grieve the death of an animal we come upon in the wild?

The Secret Suffering

If you are a parent of a sexual assault victim and not sure what to do, here are some ideas that could be helpful in your journey.
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Grieving During The Holidays

Is "Happy Holidays" an oxymoron?

Protesting God

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on October 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
Adversity can lead people to atheism or agnosticism. But what if questioning and anger were actually considered a critical component of a close, resilient relationship with God?

When a Sibling Dies by Suicide

Samantha recounts the grief she experienced after losing her brother to suicide.

Don't Lose What You Have to What You Have Lost

By Lucy C Hone Ph.D. on October 16, 2017 in Resilient Grieving
While research shows the benefits of focusing on the good, gratitude is rarely spoken of during bereavement. Time for a change, says Lucy Hone.
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Building on Blindness (Willa-1)

By Elizabeth Young on October 15, 2017 in Adaptations
"Going blind," Willa says, "I fear I may become invisible."
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Death and Bereavement Among the Lakota

For the Lakota, death is not the end of the journey.

Wearing Cancer Survival Like a Badge of Honor

Labels and degrees of illness can create a divide amongst those with cancer.

Tragedy in Las Vegas: Strategies for Psychological Healing

By Elyssa Barbash Ph.D. on October 03, 2017 in Trauma and Hope
Strategies for psychologically processing and helping others through this difficult time.

Talking With Children About Death and Tragedy

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in Freedom to Grieve
Here are some specific questions that you might have about how to talk with children about tragedy.
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6 Grief Challenges for the Las Vegas Bereaved

The Las Vegas tragedy presents six unique grief challenges for the bereaved.
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Support Kids Who Lost A Loved One In The Vegas Mass Shooting

By Azmaira H. Maker Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in Helping Kids Cope
A new book and tips to support the kids who lost a loved one in the Las Vegas Mass Shooting.
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Have You Been the News? Vegas, Puerto Rico, and the World

By Megan Devine on October 02, 2017 in It's OK That You're Not OK
The images coming out of Las Vegas are heartbreaking and enraging. But there are real families behind those photographs. The effects of violence last longer than headlines.