Understanding Gender

In the old days, it was simple: Men hunted and women raised the kids. Then we moved out of caves, invented gender studies, and learned a thing or two about genetics. Now nothing is clear cut. While social and biological analyses of gender offend some, they have freed others to finally feel comfortable in their own skin. Whether you're gay or straight, transgender or cisgender, or just curious about why men and women treat each other the way they do, there's something in here for you.

Recent Posts on Gender

Why Working Mothers Shouldn’t Feel Guilty

What do people really think about working mothers?

Are Gay & Lesbian Couples as Violent as Straight Couples?

As we achieve marriage equality for LGBTQ and heterosexual couples, the Data Doctor answers a question about the dark side of relationships.

Women by Design: Transforming Home, Transforming Self

By Toby Israel Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Design on My Mind
Women can express and transform their psychic and home interiors

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 in Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

Three Essential Steps for Career Planning Success

By Megan Dalla-Camina on July 04, 2015 in Real Women
Key strategies for focussing on the essential elements you need for career success.

White Supremacy and Dream Weddings

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Love, Inc
Dylan Roof's sister is upset because she couldn't have her PERFECT wedding in the wake of her brother's racially motivated murders of nine innocent people. We could read this as another sign that the Roof family is crazy, but in fact Amber's selfishness is part of the ideology of romance.

The Sexism in Science Controversies

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Rabble Rouser
Are scientific claims of sexism in science overstated?

Gay Marriage Ruling: Maybe We Can All Breathe More Easily

Gay Marriage Ruling: Maybe We Can All Breath a Little More Easily. Acceptance and inclusion makes us all feel better. By David Braucher, L.C.S.W., Ph.D.

Why (Almost) Everyone Is Happy About Same-Sex Marriage

By Ran Zilca on July 02, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
How is it that a topic that was deeply divisive for years becomes so vastly supported, almost unanimously perceived as a victory?

What Is Transgender? A Beautiful Short Film With an Answer

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on July 01, 2015 in Quite Queerly
Dylan is a short film written and directed by Elizabeth Rohrbaugh, and is based on a interview done with Dylan Winn Garner. The film follows a young trans man as he explains his story, his exploration in the trans community, his family's acceptance of his identity, and ultimately his physical and emotional transformation.

What Would America's Founding Mothers Want?

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in Jacob's Staff
When the philosophical foundations of America were being set by the "Founding Fathers", where were women's voices? How can we design a world that honors and integrates the unique value of women's perceptions of what society can be? What would you personally want to see in a global discussion of what the future can be?

The Causes of Infidelity: Players Gonna Play?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in Insight Therapy
At some point in their lives most Americans enter a monogamous intimate relationship. Over time, up to half will stray. Why?

The X Factor: Genetics and Female Mental Health

XIST, the gene that controls X chromosome gene expression, is up regulated in psychosis, just as the imprinted brain theory predicts.

The SCOTUS Ruling on Marriage Equality is Good for Everyone

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on June 30, 2015 in Quite Queerly
The language of American law--e.g., “Marriage is a commitment between one man and one woman.”--is sometimes in need of a hermeneutic update in order to truly do its job: to protect us all. In much the same way it is often necessary to use anomalous language in a variety of disciplines--medicine, psychology, religion--as we live, learn, and evolve.

What Is Wrong With Dichotomous Thinking

It is said that there are two kinds of people, those who think there are two kinds of people and those who don't. Please discuss.

What Does 'Girl Power' Really Mean?

In what ways is street harassment against women a larger indicator of rape culture in America?

Can Evolution Explain All Human Behavior?

Evolutionary explanations of human behavior abound and they call on what we know about evolution. However, proving the validity of these explanations is another story. Why is that?

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

#Love Wins . . . Marriage Equality Is for Real

It's about love and equality. That's about as simple as it can get.

Taboo of Male Rape Keeps Victims Silent

The stigmatization of male rape victims is harsh, such that survivors may not identify as victims, or realize that they have experienced a sexual assault.

Fun Home and the Gift of Being Out

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on June 24, 2015 in Quite Queerly
The Tony Award-winning musical, Fun Home—based on the graphic memoir by Alison Bechdel—show us that living our truth leads to a livable life.

Can We Choose Our Identity?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Caitlyn Jenner, Rachel Dolezal, Barrack Obama. The news today is filled with a debate about how much choice and control we truly have, over defining who and what we are.

Cupid at the Office

Many of us would like to think that our personal and professional lives are separate. Our work life seems to be a parallel universe filled with coworkers and casual relationships with acquaintances.

Ladies and Gentlemen

While these days I don’t think we’re hearing “lady” (and “ladies”) as much as “gentleman” (and “gentlemen”), when we do hear “lady,” it still carries an aura of goodness. But this association with goodness seems to be much more the case for lady than for gentleman. “Gentleman” is still widely used simply as a synonym for “man," sometimes even the perpetrator of a crime.

3 Reactions to the Massacre That May Serve the Terrorist

The long term answer to racism will be to decrease the prevalence of situations where race matters, but the conundrum is that while racism exists, efforts to decrease this prevalence are usually efforts by the privileged to draw attention away from their privilege.

Dad Max

By Robert J King Ph.D. on June 21, 2015 in Hive Mind
Mad Max and the battle of the sexes.

What Turns Guys On? Understanding Male Sexual Desire

Unsurprisingly, a large body of research (and a good bit of common sense) supports the idea that male and female sexual arousal are very different.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 6

By Eyal Winter on June 20, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Men, Women and the Roulette of Life

Men in Sexist Countries Win More Olympic Medals

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 19, 2015 in The Sports Mind
A new study challenges the claim that gender equality promotes Olympic success.

Same Sex Wedding Advice for Everyone

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on June 19, 2015 in Quite Queerly
Marriage equality is flourishing across the United States, yielding more same-sex weddings than ever before. Here I share a few ideas – some from my own experience – for navigating the unknown terrain of same-sex weddings, all of which will help any couple (gay or straight) who want to celebrate individuality over tradition.