Understanding Gender

In the old days, it was simple: Men hunted and women raised the kids. Then we moved out of caves, invented gender studies, and learned a thing or two about genetics. Now nothing is clear cut. While social and biological analyses of gender offend some, they have freed others to finally feel comfortable in their own skin. Whether you're gay or straight, transgender or cisgender, or just curious about why men and women treat each other the way they do, there's something in here for you.

Recent Posts on Gender

Age, Gender, Geography And Visual Appeal

By Susan Weinschenk Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 Brain Wise
What makes people prefer one type of visual design, for example, a website design, over another? How much do age, gender, and geography or culture have to do with it?

Why Women Don't Make the First Move

In the traditional world of dating, men ask and women wait to be asked. A new dating app is changing the rules, but what makes women wait in the first place?

The Story Game

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 03, 2015 How To Do Life
A game you can play with yourself or a client that can yield key revelations.

10 Ways Coupling Has Changed Over the Past 75 Years

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 02, 2015 Living Single
In some significant ways, over the past three-quarters of a century, couples have been acting more like single people.

Dear Men: Wake Up and Smell the Inequality

By Adam Grant Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 Give and Take
Men see no bias, hear no bias, speak no bias

Cosmetic Vaginal Surgery Ignores Women's Mental Health

The promise of a "perfect vagina" generates enormous wealth at women's expense.

Is Marriage Worth It For Women?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 Insight Therapy
Why are women more likely than men to initiate divorce?

Womb Transplants and the End of Gender

By Laurie Essig Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 Social Studies
As womb transplant become increasingly popular for women without a womb, the very real possibility of womb transplants for men is upon us. If reproduction becomes something that anyone can do, regardless of gender or genitals, then the end of gender is upon us.

Internalized Oppression: We Need to Stop Hating Ourselves

By E. J. R. David Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 Unseen and Unheard
Have you ever used bleach or skin whitening products? Have you ever refused to speak your heritage language or tried to get rid of your accent in order to fit in? Did you ever try to hide an important part of your identity—like your ethnicity or sexual orientation—because you were ashamed? Do you know someone who has? Ever heard of "Internalized Oppression"? Read on.

The Playground as Battleground: Take the Test!

Nice girls don’t do conflict. A girl often will become a “people pleaser” and adopt accommodation and avoidance as conflict styles. She will say “yes” when she really wants to say “no.” In contrast, men often perceive “no” as “go.” No becomes a challenge, something to conquer.

Angry Young Feminists

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on September 29, 2015 Full Living
Here is my current contribution the perennial debate about why some folks hate feminists and the concept of feminism. I am going to “blame” it on angry young feminists. Okay, I don’t really mean I am going to blame it on them, but I am going to speculate on how the period of waking up to sexism effects young women and the people around them.

Let's Not Take It Out on the Children

When the modern women’s movement began to turn its attention to girls – as in books like Failing at Fairness: How America’s Schools Cheat Girls (published in 1994) – they were already doing better than boys on many measures of educational achievement, including college enrollment. Feminism should now, among its other campaigns, fight to make classrooms more boy-friendly.

8 Ways Controlling Men Make Mothering Even Harder

Being a mother is the most important and difficult job. A controlling or abusive partner makes it so much harder.

What Are The Chances of a Clinton or Fiorina Presidency?

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on September 26, 2015 Presence of Mind
Cross-cultural data on women’s paths to head of state suggest that Clinton’s chances are better than Fiorina’s. But it's hard to say. The first woman president or prime minister of a country usually arrives somewhat unexpectedly.

False Fear Of Feminism(FFF Syndrome)

If you are not a feminist, chances are you have an irrational and curable phobia.

Rigid Gender Roles: Enemies of the New Intimacy

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 25, 2015 Rediscovering Love
Whether in straight or gay relationships, what was once the established status quo of the male role as dominant and protective, and the female role as supportive and adaptive, is rapidly transitioning.

The Shame of Breaking-up

Are women more woebegone than men when a romantic involvement ends?

Viola Davis Matters

Onscreen storytelling is only enhanced by diversity, both in front of and behind the camera. Letting a variety of people into our imaginations and our lives often yields huge rewards.

Art Therapy With Sex Offenders: Exposing the Fragile Self

By David Gussak Ph.D., ATR-BC on September 24, 2015 Art on Trial
Guest blogger Cindy Chen focuses on the challenges of using art therapy with sex offenders to identify treatment barriers, build alliances and establish resiliency, and even to work with her own counter-transferential issues.

One Skill to Curb Unconscious Gender Bias

By Joseph Grenny on September 23, 2015 Crucial Conversations
What if your colleagues discriminated against you just for being assertive? Unfortunately for many women, gender bias is a reality in today’s workplace.

Macho Macho Men

Women's preferences for masculine or feminine faces vary considerably. A new study puts evolutionary explanations of these preferences to the test.

Yintimidation: Bullying The "Nice" Way

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 21, 2015 Ambigamy
We associate bullying with yang or macho behavior, but that's not the only way to bully

Are You a Man or a Mouse?

“Are you a man or a mouse?” This exhortation has been a way that men have encouraged other men, especially younger ones, to be brave, not to run away but rather to take things up to the next level. However, considering what has happened to men these days, I think the expression can be considered in a whole new way. Especially because mice are really pretty brave.

How to Make A New, Meaningful Friendship

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on September 19, 2015 Wander Woman
No matter how busy you are, you need a few solid friendships for your health and well-being. Follow these five steps to create an enriching, long-term, and fulfilling relationship.

Micromanaging Every Move: A Coercive Control Tactic

Coercive Control is not about one partner simply being “bossy” or “a nag;” it’s about domination.

The Myth of Wanting It All

There is a pervasive mantra that has gone around in the professional world for decades. Women “want it all” – career, family, a work-life balance – but with a few minutes reflection, it is often clear that “it all” is an unattainable goal no matter who you are and how you measure “all.” Yet, the professional world for women doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

Are We Trapped Inside Patterns?

Are you trapped by the way your brain organizes patterns? Reframing meaning can change everything.

Why Some Welcome Unisex Bathrooms, and Some Steer Clear

Why are women more comfortable than men when sharing multi-user unisex bathrooms? Although still influenced by Victorian-era paternalism toward women, the gendered dynamics behind men's discomfort primarily reflect their fears and insecurities in all-male public restrooms. Does man's de facto exclusion undermine the inclusive intention of multi-user unisex bathrooms?

The Truth About Female Orgasms

By Ryan Anderson on September 17, 2015 The Mating Game
There are a lot of myths and mysteries surrounding the female orgasm, especially among men. This article looks at some of the science behind the female orgasm.

Bromance and Tribe Identity

Women need to talk about relationships, while men would rather just live them.