Understanding Gender

In the old days, it was simple: Men hunted and women raised the kids. Then we moved out of caves, invented gender studies, and learned a thing or tow about genetics. Now nothing is clear cut. While social and biological analyses of gender offend some, they have freed others to finally feel comfortable in their own skin. Whether you're gay or straight, transgender or cisgender, or just curious about why men and women treat each other the way they do, there's something in here for you.

Recent Posts on Gender

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.

ADHD and Weed: What’s the Draw?

Does marijuana help with ADHD?

Does Science Really Say That Hot Guys Are Jerks?

There have been many recent media stories—with titles like "Science Says: Hot Guys Are A-Holes"—about a new study on attractiveness and behavior. I was lead author on this study, and I'll clarify here what our study really showed.

Here's a Quick and Easy Wage Gap Calculator

By Ariel Gore on February 26, 2015 in Women and Happiness
I would like to talk about wage equality and not talk about celebrities.

A Mother's Love: Myths, Misconceptions, and Truths

By Peg Streep on February 26, 2015 in Tech Support
Commonly held ideas about motherhood shape the dialogue we have culturally, get in the way of understanding parent-child conflict, and affect each of us individually by setting a high and sometimes impossible standard. Why it's time to banish some of the myths that animate the discussion and start a new conversation.

Do Generations Exist?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Is it misleading to speak about a self-absorbed “Me Generation” or jaded, cynical GenXers, overeducated and underemployed?

Mothers, Daughters and Food

By Zanthe Taylor M.F.A. on February 25, 2015 in A Million Meals
It seems especially cruel and strange that mothers often pass down a legacy of self-hatred, guilt and shame to the very children for whom they would otherwise lay down their own lives.

Online Dating: The Dark Side

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Love, Digitally
These people use devious psychological ploys. Have you ever been suspicious about an online relationship?

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

By Carrie Barron M.D. on February 24, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

Non-Traditional Addiction Services That Work

Navigating addiction treatment services can be an overwhelming process, especially when you or your loved one is in crisis. However, it is also important to understand that there are non-traditional forms of addiction/mental health treatment that are being utilized more often and are becoming more mainstream.

Missing That 'Vast Wasteland'

The real problem is that when people tell you about a series they've been watching or have watched, they never just say it's "pretty good" or "worth watching." They say it's "great!" or "incredible!" and that you just HAVE to watch it. Back in the old days, I don't remember anyone saying, "You just HAVE to watch 'Lassie'!"

How to Survive a Slasher Film

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Do you think you're trapped in a slasher film? A new research study published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture provides an in-depth look at Final Girls over three decades of slasher films and what it was that enabled them to survive to the end of the movie. The study results may surprise you.

The Benefits of Being Blond

Is it better to be blond? Prior research suggests that blond women enjoy a wage premium and preferential treatment from men. But does this really translate into higher lifetime earnings or better odds of marriage? And might blond men be similarly-advantaged?

What’s Behind Women’s Intuition?

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in He Speaks, She Speaks
The ability to decode nonverbal cues is ultimately valuable and essential for effective communication. So women must ask themselves, how can we use these skills to enhance our effectiveness instead of letting them divert us? Women must not focus on others for a definition of what is “normal” or acceptable behavior; they must define it for themselves.

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat. Here are eight negative attitudes of chronically unhappy people...

Celebration Planning Can Be Effective Therapy

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on February 20, 2015 in Quite Queerly
Can planning a wedding (or any milestone celebration) be effective therapy? Yes, it can! I explained how in my interview with the Imago Relationships International Think Tank.

Is There Time in Your Type-A Lifestyle for Friendship?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 19, 2015 in Unwrapped
Socializing, connecting and laughing with friends are an essential part of happiness. We need to take a moment, press "escape", unplug, and make space for friendship. Don’t click “like” if you agree, call me!

Fatherhood by the Numbers

By Peter B. Gray Ph.D. on February 19, 2015 in The Evolving Father
Fatherhood lags behind motherhood, but is also rising. That's fatherhood by the numbers. Scholars also call for increased research on fatherhood interventions, including more rigorous research designs to discern what the effects of those interventions on children will be.

Can We All Just Get Along?

By Rupert W Nacoste Ph.D. on February 18, 2015 in A Quiet Revolution
Look, neo-diversity has come upon us very fast. Rapid social change has put each of us in situations where we have to interact with people on an equal footing, but with people who do not look like, sometimes do not even sound like, sometimes do not even believe like us.

10 Barriers to Intimacy and How You Can Break Them Down

By Peg Streep on February 18, 2015 in Tech Support
How close and connected you feel to your partner changes over time and can, alas, both ebb and flow. What you can do to increase intimacy in your relationship, based on science.

What Does That Person Really Mean?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in How To Do Life
For different groups, the same sentence can have a very different meaning.

Pride and Prejudice and Compassion

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Web of Violence
How does gender affect the relationship between compassion and mental health? Revisit a classic love story in this blog as we look at how compassion could drive you crazy.

Why Does the Fifty Shades Movie Look Like Domestic Abuse?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 16, 2015 in SexualityToday
In the theater, I realized that the idea of Fifty Shades just being fantasy and therefore innocuous doesn't completely work. Some of the fantasy on-screen struck me as too close to the things people put up with in real life.

Sex After 50 Can Be the Best of Your Life

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Older lovers can have great sex—by turning intercourse into "outercourse."

Fifty Shades of Grey

By Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. on February 15, 2015 in Get Hardy
E. L. James' racy bestseller Fifty Shades of Grey has been called an amusing, romantic tale of a woman's exploration of sexual desire that has captured the interest and imagination of over 19 million readers. But, is there something more to the subject matter of this racy novel that has led to its huge success and the making of a movie? See this post!

How did "the Gossip" Become a Woman?

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
Although everyone seems to detest a person who is known as a “gossip” and few people would use that label to describe themselves, it is an exceedingly unusual individual, male OR female, who can walk away from a juicy story about one of his or her acquaintances. So, how did gossip become thought of as a primarily female activity?

How to Stop Calling Yourself a Fraud or a Failure

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on February 14, 2015 in Wander Woman
Whether you are starting something new or you made some mistakes you regret, you might fall into the trap of calling yourself a failure. Or you worry others will judge you as incompetent. This post will help you recognize scenarios where you discount yourself and then it gives you 5 steps for helping you recover your confidence so you can move on.

The Psychology of Brian Williams

By Stanton Peele on February 14, 2015 in Addiction in Society
Brian Williams' transgressions result from a key source of male insecurity—not playing on the high school football team. Some men may never overcome this "shortcoming" no matter how famous and admired they become.

Personality Traits of BDSM Practitioners: Another Look

A recent study provides some new insights into the personality traits of dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners. Dominant practitioners seem to be more calm and have a greater desire for control, while submissive ones may be more emotional and introverted. Some questions remain about how these findings compare to previous studies into this fascinating world.

Thirst Responders

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in In Excess
Most people have probably heard of ‘binge drinking’ and ‘binge eating’. But what about binge gambling? Binge gambling shares many similarities with other binge behaviours including loss of control, salience, mood modification, conflict, withdrawal symptoms, denial, etc. This blog looks at an interesting case study of binge gambling