All About Friendship

Anais Nin put it beautifully when she said, "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." Though some natural loners are happy without them, most of us depend greatly on the company of true friends. As with any relationship, friendships bring support and joy and occasionally strife. Here's how to make friends, understand friendship better, and be a great confidante to others.

Recent Posts on Friends

3 Signs It’s Time to Ditch "that" Friend

Knowing when it is time to let go of a friendship is a matter of personal preference, but there are 3 sure-fire signs that the relationship leaves you cold.

A Reflection on Extreme Prejudice and Violence

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in The Pursuit of Peace
It is painful to passively accept the extreme prejudice and violence being reported across the world. Reflecting on these incidents can help to raise awareness of similar tendencies around and within all of us. What can we do locally and in ourselves to counter prejudice and violence, and promote more peaceful and effective relations, particularly across different groups?

Is Friendship in Decline?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Face-to-face conversations extending over decades is indeed evaporating.

The First Myth About Positive Emotions

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Curious?
Learn about one of the big myths about positive emotions. Don't make the same mistakes that the majority of authors, journalists, and scientists are making.

Why Do So Many Middle Aged Men Feel Lost?

Is the future of men "neutered uselessness"?

Are Friends Really Worth That Much?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on February 27, 2015 in Creating in Flow
Have you ever reflected on the role of female friends in your own life? Do you maintain lifelong friendships? If not, do you wish you could?

4 Keys to Great Sex

By Kimberly Key on February 27, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Sex with the wrong partner can have deleterious effects on your self-esteem. Learn the four keys to an awesome sex life.

5 Ways That Men’s Friendships Differ From Women’s

How different are men's and women's friendships? There are at least 5 important ways that friendships among men differ from friendships among women.

Grow a Key Inner Strength

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Use these four questions help grow inner strengths. 1) What's the issue? 2) What psychological resource - inner strength - if it were more present in your mind, would really help with this issue? 3) How could you have experiences of this inner strength? 4) How could you help this experience of the inner strength really sink in to you?

The Number #1 Rule for Fighting With Your Partner

Here's the number 1 rule to stop fighting that is going nowhere and even making things worse.

Who Was George Washington?

By Gregg Henriques on February 22, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
An analysis of George Washington's character and relational strivings on what would have been his 283rd birthday.

Can You Trust Married People to Keep a Secret?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 21, 2015 in Living Single
If you have friends who are married, should you assume that those friends share all of your communications and conversations – both the routine ones and those told in confidence – with their spouse? What does it mean if couples see themselves only as a unit and not also as individuals?

Use Curiosity to Hook New Friends

“Curiosity hooks” act as silent invitations for people to initiate conversations.

Confessing Your Office Romance

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Adventures in Dating
Workplace romances are common...but how do employees learn that two people are dating at work? My latest research study describes this process.

“Islamic Extremism” vs “Violent Extremism”

Some refuse to use the term "Islamic Extremists" to describe the terrorist group, ISIS, calling them "Violent Extremists." By attributing cause and accountability, we are better able to define who they are, delineate their mission and goals, and derive solutions to stop them. Naming them DOES NOT blame, or indict non-violent Muslims - not guilt by religious association.

Socially-Strategic Welfare

By Jesse Marczyk on February 19, 2015 in Pop Psych
Cross-national differences in beliefs about welfare appear to be generated by the same underlying psychology. If you want to get people to agree on welfare, you need to get to them agree about the recipients.

Is There Time in Your Type-A Lifestyle for Friendship?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 19, 2015 in Unwrapped
Socializing, connecting and laughing with friends are an essential part of happiness. We need to take a moment, press "escape", unplug, and make space for friendship. Don’t click “like” if you agree, call me!

Robert Durst On Disappearance Of Wife: ‘I Lied’

By Cathy Scott on February 18, 2015 in Crime, She Writes
Billionaire in an HBO series unwittingly reveals never-before-released details in the disappearance of his wife Kathie Durst.

What Should I Look For in a Therapist?

How to tell if you are somewhere safe with somebody good

Why Are This Divorcee's Friendships Eroding?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on February 18, 2015 in The Friendship Doctor
I recently started a relationship and my boyfriend who just moved in with me. I have never ignored my friends but they have pulled back from me and two even stopped talking to me altogether.

10 Barriers to Intimacy and How You Can Break Them Down

By Peg Streep on February 18, 2015 in Tech Support
How close and connected you feel to your partner changes over time and can, alas, both ebb and flow. What you can do to increase intimacy in your relationship, based on science.

How Do You Define Love?

Careful how you use the word, "Love." It just might be misunderstood and that can get you into trouble.

3 Tips for Better Rebound Relationships

Have patience with yourself or your friends, if a rebound relationship is on the radar.

From "Sex and the City" to Marriage, “The Longest Date”

By Elise Ballard on February 12, 2015 in Epiphany
Award-winning, former "Sex and the City" writer Cindy Chupack talks candidly with Elise Ballard about her epiphanies and insights on life, love, romance, writing, and therapy, as well as her new book about the trials and tribulations of marriage and starting a family.

The Keys to Rewarding Relationships: Secure Attachment

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
If everyone could read social situations accurately, not get flooded or hijacked by strong emotions, and respond in a kind, empathetic, non-defensive and constructive manner, the world would be a more accepting and predictable place. Understanding the processes underlying secure attachment can help you get there and experience more rewarding and healthy relationships.

The Psychological Antidote to ISIS – Part I

By Ran Zilca on February 12, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
Can we humans look at ourselves in the mirror today and confidently like what we see? If aliens are watching us from faraway galaxies, how would they describe us today? Are we the predators at the top of the food chain, or perhaps a virus infecting the planet, as Agent Smith in the film The Matrix suggested?

Fail! A Tip for Valentine's Day

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on February 12, 2015 in Quite Queerly
It is necessary to fail in all of ourrelationships if we ever want them to grow.

When You Should (and Shouldn't) Be Friends with Your Ex

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on February 11, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
Most people cut off contact with an ex once the relationship ends, but shouldn't there be a core of friendship that can continue? Do we have to approach relationships in such an all-or-nothing way?

Attempt to Redirect Dog Evolution Falls Flat

By Mark Derr on February 10, 2015 in Dog's Best Friend
Researchers' claims that dogs evolved fewer than 10,000 years ago are at odds with current archaeological and genetic evidence. They are also grounded in the belief that wolves and humans are natural enemies. They are not.

Why You Might Find It Harder to Make New Friends

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 09, 2015 in Good Thinking
Every seven years we lose about half of our close network of friends and replace them with others. Here's how it's done.