All About Friendship

Anais Nin put it beautifully when she said, "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." Though some natural loners are happy without them, most of us depend greatly on the company of true friends. As with any relationship, friendships bring support and joy and occasionally strife. Here's how to make friends, understand friendship better, and be a great confidante to others.

Recent Posts on Friends

Love And Manipulation

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 08, 2015 Ambigamy
Understanding how affirmations work will help hone your ability to discriminate between genuine and manipulative flattery.

Can Your Child's Friends Affect How Much He or She Learns?

By Garth Sundem on October 06, 2015 Brain Trust
A study in the British Journal of Developmental Psychology explores how friends influence each other's school skills.

The Opposite of Addiction is Connection

In an increasingly well-known TED Talk titled “Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong,” British journalist Johann Hari discusses the available research into the underlying causes of addiction and concludes, rather brilliantly, that the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it’s connection.

7 Tips for Having Difficult Conversations

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The need to talk about something difficult can fill us with anxiety, whether at work or in our romantic, family, or friend relationships. Often we enter these conversations without being mindful of how to make them go the best they possibly can-- and we can make things far worse if we're not prepared. Here are important factors to consider when planning the interaction.

Why You Trust Your Friends Even When They're Ripping You Off

By David DiSalvo on September 29, 2015 Neuronarrative
Your brain wants to trust. We’re wired for social connection—not just casual meet and greets, but genuine connection—and trust is what makes it work. But that same drive to trust, essential though it is, also makes us natural born suckers.

The 7 Habits of Socially Connected People

By Kira Asatryan on September 29, 2015 The Art of Closeness
All socially successful people behave in basically the same way. What are their secrets? Find out now!

Is It Time to End a Friendship?

How often do you prefer to hide behind texts or emails when you have a difficult message to convey?

Balancing Old and New Friendships Isn't Always Easy

How do you strike a balance between variety in friendship groups while forging deeper bonds with a chosen few?

The Day I Played Against Yogi Berra, and He Let Me Win

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 23, 2015 Living Single
Many years ago, George Plimpton chose me to play on his team of fans. We took on the Mickey Mantle All-Stars in Yankee Stadium, and Mantle, Whitey Ford, Yogi Berra and the rest of the team let us win.

Married With Children . . . and Divorced Friends

By Wendy Paris on September 22, 2015 Splitopia
It can be hard for married parents to reassure their own children about the permanence of marriage, given the high divorce rate and other changes in the "typical" American family. Parents can talk to their children about the durability of family. Those of us in positive post-marriage relationships can help spread of sense of stability within our communities.

The #1 Challenge For "Best Friends"

Why do we get riveted on some limitation of a good friend, or how she is screwing up a relationship?

My Mother Is Destroying My Social Life

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 20, 2015 The Teen Doctor
How To Repair Your Relationship With Your Mother

How to Make A New, Meaningful Friendship

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on September 19, 2015 Wander Woman
No matter how busy you are, you need a few solid friendships for your health and well-being. Follow these five steps to create an enriching, long-term, and fulfilling relationship.

How To Opt Out of a Friendship

Friendships are voluntary relationships and like romances, they involve a certain degree of “chemistry” between two people. Each person needs to determine whom they want to befriend and be befriended by—which friendships they want to pursue and those they want to pass up on.

Why Do We Make Fun of Men Who Hang Out Together?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 17, 2015 Friendship 2.0
We're always taking little jabs at men's friendships. But over the course of their lives, there are few things more important to their health.

Bromance and Tribe Identity

Women need to talk about relationships, while men would rather just live them.

Nostalgia Helps You Make and Keep Friends

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 More Than Mortal
Lacking the motivation to socialize? Try nostalgia.

How Did Dogs Become Our Best Friends?

By Jann Gumbiner Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 The Teenage Mind
Ever wonder how dogs became our best friends? Dr. Brian Hare developed a research program to understand how dogs evolved to read human gestures.

No Matter What, We Will Always Be Friends

By Rick Miller LICSW on September 15, 2015 Unwrapped
The idea that you will stay friends with a partner following a breakup is often a deceit designed to make leaving easier. Creating the reality takes work, honesty, and, sorry, it takes time. Here are some guidelines.

7 Things I Learned From Spending the Day With Oprah

By Rubin Khoddam on September 15, 2015 The Addiction Connection
Want to live a better life? Well, watching Oprah and 10 other visionary authors give half-hour talks on meaning, purpose, happiness, and personal betterment was a once in a lifetime opportunity and helped provide me and an audience of 1800 a few amazing life lessons.

Why We Have Dogs

Humans have had symbiotic relationships with domesticated dogs for more than 20,000 years. If you want to understand your dog today, you need to understand what your dog’s ancestors were doing thousands of years ago – and why humans and canines formed a symbiotic relationship in the first place.

The 'Big 3' Keys to Relationship Success

Learning to navigate the “Big 3” relationship deal-makers and to use friendship-cementing behaviors offer a little extra assurance that your love is here to stay.

Single and Lonely? The Truth May Be Exactly the Opposite.

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 14, 2015 Living Single
Who is most likely to maintain social ties with parents, siblings, friends, and neighbors? Who is likely to help those people and receive help from them? Is it married people? Previously married people? People who have always been single? The answer is always the same, and it comes from nationally representative surveys.

When a Friendship Gets Too Complicated

When friends move away from each other, it’s hard to maintain the same relationship they had when they were living close together. Even without that barrier, relationships change over time as two people grow in different directions.

Lessons Learned in Recovery

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on September 08, 2015 A Family Affair
Lesson learned by loved ones to help them deal with the challenges they face with family members with substance abuse issues.

Ten Secrets for a Happy Start to Preschool or Kindergarten

In the early years, from 2½ to 5, school should be a time for playful exploration, confidence-building, social development, learning about emotions and self-regulation, and proudly mastering new skills. Here are ten ways parents can help to ensure that all of this happens, and that the transition to school goes smoothly.

The Good Reasons Why Some People Are Happy Being Single

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 06, 2015 Living Single
Researchers got a lot of attention for showing that single people who like to avoid conflict in their relationships are just as happy as coupled people, and happier than singles who don't care about avoiding conflict. But those are grudging reasons for being happily single. Here are some research-based positive reasons.

Siblings for Life or Friends Forever? Adult Sibling Rivalry

What do you do when sibling rivalry follows you into adulthood?

You Naturally Choose Your Friends With This Pattern

Benford's Law says that numbers in natural systems start with a 1 far more often than they start with a 9. A new study shows this applies to friend counts in social networks - and to friend counts in your own social circle, too.

8 Tips for Helping Kids Cope with Friendship Disappointments

How do you help your child learn from a friendship disappointment?