The Art of Flirting

Flirting recruits all domains of skills: intellect, body language, creativity, empathy. At its best, flirting is high art, whether you're vying for a soul mate, manipulating a salesman, or just passing the time.

Recent Posts on Flirting

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?

When Dating, Confidence Will Get You Far (But Only So Far)

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 14, 2015 in The Sports Mind
Implications for you, and your online dating profile.

Finding a Life Partner, Part Two

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Media Spotlight
While David Buss points out that we all come from a long line of ancestors who have been fairly successful in the mating game which, in theory, means that we are all equipped to succeed ourselves, Menelaos Apostolou isn’t so optimistic. The rules under which we live in modern society are very different from what our ancestors took for granted.

When Friends Become Lovers (and Why They Often Don't)

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 16, 2015 in The Sports Mind
The surprising new science behind one of love’s gray areas: the “friend zone.”

When It Comes to Love, Do You Really Know What You Want?

Your list of what you're looking for in a partner may matter less than you think.

The Manipulative Power of Sexual Climbers

The objective of the sexual climber is not merely sex. When they leave a relationship, they often will take anything of value they can get. Money, goods, friends, and business contacts can all be confiscated by a climber.

5 Secrets to Finding Real Love

Love unfortunately is no fairy tale, but it is possible to find authentic love with these 5 steps.

Seven Steps For Coming Out to a (Potential) Sweetie as Poly

Because most people grow up thinking monogamy is the norm in the US, people who want to date others in consensual non-monogamous relationships often have to introduce the concept to dates. This blog gives 6 steps for coming out as poly to a current or potential sweetie.

Does Your Flirting Style Work for You?

Flirting isn't easy but some styles are more effective than others.

What It Takes for High School In-Love Relationships to Last

Young people who fall in-love and work to turn it into lasting love can learn some mature communication skills that will benefit them later on, in this relationship if it holds, or in another if it does not.

Should Men or Women Play Hard to Get?

When you meet a sexy stranger, should you act interested or play it cool? The answer depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Read on to learn the science...and the answer.

Love Is a Roller Coaster

Freefalling into love is most thrilling when we've made a climb.

When Women Use Jealousy

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Love Proof
Common knowledge says jealousy always backfires. Common knowledge is wrong.

Loving Eye Contact: How Mutual Staring Can Create Passion

Research suggests that a mutual gaze or stare can help to create feelings of passion and attraction, even between total strangers. Read on for more...

Another Guy Who Isn't a Sex Addict

By Marty Klein PhD on March 31, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
"Sex addiction" is a very poor way to understand people.

One Thing You Must Know About Jealousy

Evolutionary psychology explain a critical gender difference in jealousy responses. Men have more to gain from sex with multiple partners so they respond by looking for someone new. Women have more to gain from keeping their partner committed so they respond by enhancing themselves and the relationship.

Why Do We Kiss?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 28, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Kissing is not universal among human beings, and, even today, there are some cultures from which it is completely absent.

Is Flirting Ever Unethical?

Can flirting be unethical? The answer to that question depends on what counts as flirting.

Instant Romance is Just a Click Away

From fast food to same day shipping, we have come to expect that everything in life—even intimate relationships—are available at the click of a key. Unfortunately, interpersonal chemistry in a face-to-face meet-up is still the deal breaker or maker in potential relationships.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

Personality Disorders Explained 3: Treatment

Where most therapies capitalize on the alliance with the one part of the patient that agrees with the psychological formulation, therapists treating personality disorders are on their own.

Tomas Tranströmer’s Avocational Polymathy

Scratch beneath the surface of just about any successful career in science, art, or human affairs and you’re sure to find wide-ranging interests. We’ve been scratching through the memoirs and biographies of Nobel Prize winners. No surprise, avocational polmathy, aka the several-hats tactic, turns up time and again. Tomas Tranströmer provides a case in point.

Is Sadomasochism a Uniquely Human Form of Sexuality?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Animals and Us
From an evolutionary point of view, the enjoyment of pain would seem to be maladaptive. Is there an animal analog of finding sexual satisfaction in being whipped, poked with needles, or having hot wax dripped on your skin?

Confessing Your Office Romance

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Adventures in Dating
Workplace romances are common...but how do employees learn that two people are dating at work? My latest research study describes this process.

9 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Workplace Romance

Flirtation, sex, and love might be tempting when you and a colleague share a mutual attraction. But is it a good idea?

Feeling Powerful vs. Being Powerful

Most anger and resentment are attempts to feel powerful at the cost of being powerful.

Does Disappointing Others make You Want to Give Up?

By Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Relationship Boot Camp
Dating does increase the chances you may feel things you don't like to experience.Often, people either feel disappointed or don't relish hurting another.

What Is Mindfulness and How Does It Work?

By Gregg Henriques on February 06, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
Mindfulness is one of the most important developments in mental health in the past twenty years. Understand what it is and how it works.

Looking to Meet Mr. Right Online?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Faster, faster, faster should not be confused with better, better, better. Turning to technology to find Mr. Right often goes all wrong as the technology itself often takes the place of human connection.