The Art of Flirting

Flirting recruits all domains of skills: intellect, body language, creativity, empathy. At its best, flirting is high art, whether you're vying for a soul mate, manipulating a salesman, or just passing the time.

Recent Posts on Flirting

I Like You Because Your Girlfriend Is Hot

By Ryan Anderson on October 07, 2015 The Mating Game
Why is it that people with attractive partners are so romantically desirable? Science has an answer

The Hidden Trait that Predicts Being Attractive

Finding love is a tricky game. New evidence suggests that others' interest in you might be tied to your dispositional mindfulness.

The Psychology Of Why Being Funny When Flirting is Vital

Bale, Morrison and Caryl in their study of chat-up lines wondered why men persisted in using so many ‘chat-up’ approaches that were rated as unpopular with so many women – such as boorish jokes, empty compliments, and sexually loaded remarks. They wondered if these strategies were never intended to impress a woman, but merely winnow out which possible ‘targets’ were...

Men in Red

By Rebecca Coffey on September 11, 2015 The Bejeezus Out of Me
Men, listen up. You know those red power ties you wore a few years ago? They’re probably still at the back of your closet. They may work for you on Tinder ... only not in the way you expected.

What Is the Female Social Code?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 03, 2015 The Teen Doctor
How To Handle Complicated Friend/Boyfriend Situations

Avoiding Ashley Madison

You cannot "spot" a cheater, but you may be able to "detect" one if you know what to look for and where to look.

Which Hair Color Induces the Strongest Physical Attraction?

Startling new psychological research challenges previous thinking that hair color is merely about personal preference. Instead a massive consensus appears to exist on which hair color is preferred, and there also appears to be such severe prejudice associated with the tint of your locks, this is possibly as harsh as racial discrimination.

4 Ways to Use Your Words to Build Romance

It is often hard to know how to talk to a potential romantic partner, date, or sexy stranger. What can you say to help build an emotional connection and get them to pick you? According to speed dating research, there are a few tips that can make even four minutes of conversation enough time to get someone to bond, connect, and click. Read on to find out how...

Women's Sexual Fantasies - the Latest Scientific Research

It's important to note that while headline writers may focus on the fact women have sexual fantasies about coercive sex, this research finds it's an occasional daydream, not a preoccupation. It would be similarly unfair to tar men with the brush of an occasional fantasy they may have.

Why high heels make women more attractive

In their recent study, entitled "High heels as supernormal stimuli: How wearing high heels affects judgements of female attractiveness", the psychologists compared ratings of women walking in flat shoes, with the same women walking in high heels, in order to establish whether or not walking in high heels enhances the attractiveness of gait.

Who Do You Find Attractive? It All Depends on This.

Take a look at your standards for a potential partner. Now look again: they might be less stable than you think.

Why Male and Female Psychopaths Get More Sex

One theory is that male and female psychopaths end up hypersexual through different routes via contrasts in personality - it's the antisocial aspect in men, but instead the impulsive thrill seeking in women.

The 'Sexy Sons' Theory of What Women are Attracted to in Men

Psychologists might be able to predict what kind of man a woman is more likely to achieve an orgasm with.

Ugh! That's So Disgusting! Repulsion Predicts Your Sex Life

To have sex, we have to overcome strong feelings of disgust.

5 Ways the Fear of Rejection Holds You Back

Whether you opted out of asking someone on a date, or you chose not to apply for a promotion, the fear of rejection can be debilitating.

The Huntress Hunts You

The latest celebrity trophy hunter is a femme fatale who sees killing as therapy. Her motives help us understand the dilemma of everyone who’s ever felt like a Nobody in a Dead End job, in need of some life-saving heroic purpose.

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?

When Dating, Confidence Will Get You Far (But Only So Far)

Implications for you, and your online dating profile.

Finding a Life Partner, Part Two

While David Buss points out that we all come from a long line of ancestors who have been fairly successful in the mating game which, in theory, means that we are all equipped to succeed ourselves, Menelaos Apostolou isn’t so optimistic. The rules under which we live in modern society are very different from what our ancestors took for granted.

When Friends Become Lovers (and Why They Often Don't)

The surprising new science behind one of love’s gray areas: the “friend zone.”

When It Comes to Love, Do You Really Know What You Want?

Your list of what you're looking for in a partner may matter less than you think.

The Manipulative Power of Sexual Climbers

The objective of the sexual climber is not merely sex. When they leave a relationship, they often will take anything of value they can get. Money, goods, friends, and business contacts can all be confiscated by a climber.

5 Secrets to Finding Real Love

Love unfortunately is no fairy tale, but it is possible to find authentic love with these 5 steps.

Seven Steps For Coming Out to a (Potential) Sweetie as Poly

Because most people grow up thinking monogamy is the norm in the US, people who want to date others in consensual non-monogamous relationships often have to introduce the concept to dates. This blog gives 6 steps for coming out as poly to a current or potential sweetie.

Does Your Flirting Style Work for You?

Flirting isn't easy but some styles are more effective than others.

What It Takes for High School In-Love Relationships to Last

Young people who fall in-love and work to turn it into lasting love can learn some mature communication skills that will benefit them later on, in this relationship if it holds, or in another if it does not.

Should Men or Women Play Hard to Get?

When you meet a sexy stranger, should you act interested or play it cool? The answer depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Read on to learn the science...and the answer.

Love Is a Roller Coaster

Freefalling into love is most thrilling when we've made a climb.

When Women Use Jealousy

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 Love Proof
Common knowledge says jealousy always backfires. Common knowledge is wrong.

Loving Eye Contact: How Mutual Staring Can Create Passion

Research suggests that a mutual gaze or stare can help to create feelings of passion and attraction, even between total strangers. Read on for more...