The Art of Flirting

Flirting recruits all domains of skills: intellect, body language, creativity, empathy. At its best, flirting is high art, whether you're vying for a soul mate, manipulating a salesman, or just passing the time.

Recent Posts on Flirting

What It Takes for High School In-Love Relationships to Last

Young people who fall in-love and work to turn it into lasting love can learn some mature communication skills that will benefit them later on, in this relationship if it holds, or in another if it does not.

Should Men or Women Play Hard to Get?

When you meet a sexy stranger, should you act interested or play it cool? The answer depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Read on to learn the science...and the answer.

Love Is a Roller Coaster

Freefalling into love is most thrilling when we've made a climb.

10 Tips to Change From Reactive to Proactive in Situations

All of us encounter experiences in life when we may be temporally overwhelmed by a negative emotion, be it anger, pressure, nervousness, despair, or confusion. In these situations, how we choose to “master the moment” can make the difference between proactive versus reactive, and confidence versus insecurity. Here are ten ways to be less reactive in difficult situations...

When Women Use Jealousy

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Love Proof
Common knowledge says jealousy always backfires. Common knowledge is wrong.

Loving Eye Contact: How Mutual Staring Can Create Passion

Research suggests that a mutual gaze or stare can help to create feelings of passion and attraction, even between total strangers. Read on for more...

Another Guy Who Isn't a Sex Addict

By Marty Klein PhD on March 31, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
"Sex addiction" is a very poor way to understand people.

One Thing You Must Know About Jealousy

Evolutionary psychology explain a critical gender difference in jealousy responses. Men have more to gain from sex with multiple partners so they respond by looking for someone new. Women have more to gain from keeping their partner committed so they respond by enhancing themselves and the relationship.

Is Flirting Ever Unethical?

Can flirting be unethical? The answer to that question depends on what counts as flirting.

Science and the Online Dating Profile

Online dating is the new singles bar, one in which your words won't be drowned out by the music. But which words should you use? There is some scientific evidence about relatively more effective ways to turn an online contact into a real huggable moment.

Instant Romance is Just a Click Away

From fast food to same day shipping, we have come to expect that everything in life—even intimate relationships—are available at the click of a key. Unfortunately, interpersonal chemistry in a face-to-face meet-up is still the deal breaker or maker in potential relationships.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

Campus Rape

Will college compliance with Title IX prevent date rape?

Personality Disorders Explained 3: Treatment

Where most therapies capitalize on the alliance with the one part of the patient that agrees with the psychological formulation, therapists treating personality disorders are on their own.

Tomas Tranströmer’s Avocational Polymathy

Scratch beneath the surface of just about any successful career in science, art, or human affairs and you’re sure to find wide-ranging interests. We’ve been scratching through the memoirs and biographies of Nobel Prize winners. No surprise, avocational polmathy, aka the several-hats tactic, turns up time and again. Tomas Tranströmer provides a case in point.

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

Is Sadomasochism a Uniquely Human Form of Sexuality?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Animals and Us
From an evolutionary point of view, the enjoyment of pain would seem to be maladaptive. Is there an animal analog of finding sexual satisfaction in being whipped, poked with needles, or having hot wax dripped on your skin?

Confessing Your Office Romance

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Adventures in Dating
Workplace romances are common...but how do employees learn that two people are dating at work? My latest research study describes this process.

I'm Terrified of Rejection By Women

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
How To Think About Virginity & Relationships

9 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Workplace Romance

Flirtation, sex, and love might be tempting when you and a colleague share a mutual attraction. But is it a good idea?

Feeling Powerful vs. Being Powerful

Most anger and resentment are attempts to feel powerful at the cost of being powerful.

Does Disappointing Others make You Want to Give Up?

By Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Relationship Boot Camp
Dating does increase the chances you may feel things you don't like to experience.Often, people either feel disappointed or don't relish hurting another.

What Is Mindfulness and How Does It Work?

By Gregg Henriques on February 06, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
Mindfulness is one of the most important developments in mental health in the past twenty years. Understand what it is and how it works.

Looking to Meet Mr. Right Online?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Faster, faster, faster should not be confused with better, better, better. Turning to technology to find Mr. Right often goes all wrong as the technology itself often takes the place of human connection.

What It Really Means to Be 'Friends With Benefits'

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on February 03, 2015 in Me Before We
When you ask to be FWB before you’ve even developed a connection, you’re putting stress and expectations on a relationship that hasn’t even formed yet.

Why Some Other Women Cheat

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on January 11, 2015 in Love Doc
The main reason some women cheat is that their relationships are unsatisfactory. Then there are some other women. It’s not that their marriages are bad; it’s not their partners are bad; it’s not that they are bad. It’s that they want more excitement.

6 Things Introverts Bring to Any Relationship

By Sophia Dembling on January 06, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
It's easy for introverts to image they're invisible amidst the razzle-dazzle of extroverts. But we're not; we put out our own warm glow.

Peace Is An Achievable Goal

“Peace” is a prevalent theme this time of year. “Peace on Earth”, “World Peace”, etc. are lofty ideals that we aspire to because they connect us with others outside of ourselves. However, neither can ever be achieved without each us first developing “Inner Peace” or “Peace of Mind” - yes, that’s where it all begins!