The Art of Flirting

Flirting recruits all domains of skills: intellect, body language, creativity, empathy. At its best, flirting is high art, whether you're vying for a soul mate, manipulating a salesman, or just passing the time.

Recent Posts on Flirting

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

Is Sadomasochism a Uniquely Human Form of Sexuality?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Animals and Us
From an evolutionary point of view, the enjoyment of pain would seem to be maladaptive. Is there an animal analog of finding sexual satisfaction in being whipped, poked with needles, or having hot wax dripped on your skin?

Confessing Your Office Romance

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Adventures in Dating
Workplace romances are common...but how do employees learn that two people are dating at work? My latest research study describes this process.

I'm Terrified of Rejection By Women

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
How To Think About Virginity & Relationships

9 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Workplace Romance

Flirtation, sex, and love might be tempting when you and a colleague share a mutual attraction. But is it a good idea?

Feeling Powerful vs. Being Powerful

Most anger and resentment are attempts to feel powerful at the cost of being powerful.

Does Disappointing Others make You Want to Give Up?

By Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Relationship Boot Camp
Dating does increase the chances you may feel things you don't like to experience.Often, people either feel disappointed or don't relish hurting another.

What Is Mindfulness and How Does It Work?

By Gregg Henriques on February 06, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
Mindfulness is one of the most important developments in mental health in the past twenty years. Understand what it is and how it works.

Looking to Meet Mr. Right Online?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Faster, faster, faster should not be confused with better, better, better. Turning to technology to find Mr. Right often goes all wrong as the technology itself often takes the place of human connection.

What It Really Means to Be 'Friends With Benefits'

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on February 03, 2015 in Me Before We
When you ask to be FWB before you’ve even developed a connection, you’re putting stress and expectations on a relationship that hasn’t even formed yet.

Why Some Other Women Cheat

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on January 11, 2015 in Love Doc
The main reason some women cheat is that their relationships are unsatisfactory. Then there are some other women. It’s not that their marriages are bad; it’s not their partners are bad; it’s not that they are bad. It’s that they want more excitement.

6 Things Introverts Bring to Any Relationship

By Sophia Dembling on January 06, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
It's easy for introverts to image they're invisible amidst the razzle-dazzle of extroverts. But we're not; we put out our own warm glow.

Peace Is An Achievable Goal

“Peace” is a prevalent theme this time of year. “Peace on Earth”, “World Peace”, etc. are lofty ideals that we aspire to because they connect us with others outside of ourselves. However, neither can ever be achieved without each us first developing “Inner Peace” or “Peace of Mind” - yes, that’s where it all begins!

Marijuana Use By Kids and Teens: Parents, Pay Attention!

I live in Colorado, one of the first states to legalize marijuana possession and use. Beware....Whether you call it pot, weed or marijuana, the long-term impacts of this mind-altering drug, especially for kids and teenagers, spells danger.

Taste, Texture & Sex; Food's Sultry Senses for the Holidays

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on December 22, 2014 in Sex Esteem
How do you enhance the holiday season in your sensuality? The foods of the season are a place to slow down and become more mindful of the many senses involved in dining, much in the same way a sexual experience can be passionate when all erotic triggers are firing. This holiday season, savor both the foods and your erotic connections. Happy Holidays.

Why Breaking Up is So Hard to Do

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 21, 2014 in Love Doc
T’s the season to be jolly. Yet many of us are not exactly jolly; rather, many of us are feeling sad. Indeed, this may be the season for separating from an unsatisfactory relationship. The end of the year could well signal the end of a hurtful union.

What Do We Use Language For?

By Vyv Evans Ph.D. on December 14, 2014 in Language in the Mind
Language is central to our lives. We use it to buy groceries, compose an email, flirt, propose marriage and get divorced. So, what are the major functions of language, in our everyday lives?

Why Sex Can't Always Be Stellar

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on December 12, 2014 in The Dolphin Divide
How hit-and-miss intimacy keeps us strongly connected. Our best efforts in the bedroom don’t always produce the fireworks we’d like. Why isn’t the love we take always equal to the love we make?

How Trivial Conversations Become Bust-Ups

By Rob Kendall on December 03, 2014 in Blamestorming
Research shows that most arguments begin with low-grade niggles about leaving sock-fluff on the carpet, unwashed plates next to the sink or flicking TV channels. These situations can quickly escalate into a full-scale row, in which underlying issues get brought into the conversation and both parties end up in The Bad Place.

Case of the Malleable Memory

Though reconstructing memories can sometimes be beneficial in easing anxiety or getting over grudges, we must proceed with caution.

The Whites of Your Eyes Convey Subconscious Truths

By Christopher Bergland on November 27, 2014 in The Athlete's Way
A new study has found that our eye whites communicate important social cues that are key to our bonding and survival at a conscious and unconscious level,

And He Knew All the Words

By Stuart Fischoff Ph.D. on November 24, 2014 in The Media Zone
Stuart Fischoff pioneered Media Psychology. He was a TV talk-show shrink—until it got too rowdy even for him. He knew all the words to Sondheim. And now he's gone.

Love Connections: A Duchenne Smile and Gratitude

By Rita Watson MPH on November 18, 2014 in With Love and Gratitude
If practicing the gratitude you do not necessarily feel can help you become more grateful, can practicing the Duchenne smile help you become happier and more loving?

The New Monogamy Challenge

Once upon a time, in the pre-Internet days of yore, monogamy in marriage was a given, and sexual infidelity was very definitely frowned upon. Nowadays, however, in our highly digitally sexualized, divorce-accepting world, infidelity is no longer such a big deal culturally.

Why Do Men Sexually Assault Women?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on November 03, 2014 in Insight Therapy
More often than not, sexual violence against women is an expression—rather than a violation—of deep themes within the American social consciousness.

Don't Just Do Something....Stand There! Surviving a Crisis.

By Teri Woods Ph.D. on November 01, 2014 in Compulsive!
No matter what is broken, you can't fix it without the right tools. If you try, you're going to make things worse. Every time.

The Art, and Crucial Importance, of Flirting

By Jennifer Verdolin Ph.D. on October 31, 2014 in Wild Connections
Whether it's covert or overt, the art of seduction is a very important part of courtship. Despite what some may think, humans don't have the market on flirting techniques. It can be surreptitious or it can be brazen, but animals flirt in as many varied ways you could imagine.

The Surprising Psychology of Smiling

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on October 30, 2014 in A Sideways View
Can there really be a science of smiling. Using the research of cross-cultural, evolutionary and social psychology researchers have built up a surprising amount of interesting information about the smile