The Art of Flirting

Flirting requires many types of skills: intellect, body language, creativity, empathy. At its best, flirting can be high art, whether you're vying for a soul mate, manipulating a salesman, or just passing the time.

Recent posts on Flirting

Sage Relationship Advice From the Movie Swingers

It’s been twenty years and I still think one of my favorite relationship movies is Swingers. It is a veritable storehouse of relationship advice, particularly about self-esteem.

Online Dating: Quit Bragging

Research on why modesty is best for the online dater.

How (and Why) to Play Hard to Get

Can playing hard to get make you more attractive? Read what the research has to say.

Can a Crush on a Friend Ever Turn Into a Relationship?

New research shows how projecting your romantic feelings onto a friend can sometimes set off a chain reaction that leads to romance.

The 3 Essential Elements of Attraction

Different traits and features are attractive for different types of relationships. Find out how you are attractive—and to whom.

5 Tricks for Hotter Summer Sex

Five research-based ideas for heating up your sex life this summer.

Are You Flirting More Than You Realize?

Whether or not you intend to, you may be sending out signals that you’re sexually available. See which of the 5 flirting types fits your own behavior.

4 Ways to Turn a Crush Into a Relationship

Summer crush season is upon us! Here's how to make the feeling mutual.

The CODES of a Good Date

By Eva Ritvo M.D. on May 24, 2016 in On Vitality
Learn the C.O.D.E.S of a good date! Cortisol, Oxytocin, Dopamine, Endorphins, and Serotonin.

The Psychology of Flirting

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 10, 2016 in Love, Digitally
There are three stages people have to negotiate in order to successfully flirt.

Evidence-Based Dating: What Could Go Wrong?

There is no shortage of research into romance and relationships. But is it convincing? And are psychologists really best placed to advise others on romance?

Polyaffectivity and Compersion in House of Cards

The Netflix series House of Cards has a plot line that demonstrates compersion and polyaffectivity in a fictional relationship, and this blog explores their expressions in the show

Is This the Secret to Attraction?

By Garth Sundem on April 02, 2016 in Brain Trust
Want to be attractive on a first date or on Tinder? "People who are seen in expansive, open nonverbal displays enjoy increases in others’ romantic attraction," writes a new study.

Infographic: A Snapshot of Who Is Sexting in Adolescence

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on March 28, 2016 in Connected
Our new infographic explores how "sexting" is not necessarily a problem behavior caused by new technology, but a part of sexual exploration during adolescence.

Digital Don Juans

Meetups, conferences, bootcamps? Seduction communities offer men creative ways to gamify dating.

Pet Names between Couples are a Very Good Sign

Terms of endearment between lovers are a very positive sign.

10 Things to Remember About Dating as a Grown-Up

Being a jerk never makes a good impression. This should be simple, but people may behave immaturely if it’s been awhile since they’ve had to behave like an adult.

Red and Valentine’s Day

Science should inform the colors you choose for Valentine's Day.

6 Ways of Using Facebook to Get and Keep a Date

Can social media help you get a lover and maintain a relationship? According to the research, social networking sites can offer unique advantages for finding love. Learn more here.

7 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Rebound Relationship

Research indicates that while some rebound relationships can be successful, others may be harmful. Here are seven signs you’re in an unhealthy rebound relationship...

The Sexiest Love Letters

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on January 18, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
Writing sexy love letters has been around since Renaissance times. It's one of the many ways a couple can show their love for one another. This article inspires writing one.

7 Trusted Tips for Finding Love

Check out these basic prerequisites for finding love.

The Biggest Online Dating Day of the Year! Now What?

Trying to navigate the online dating game? Try these skills to get the relationship you want.

To Stay in Love… Do This

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on January 03, 2016 in The Puzzle of Love
You need to know how to make each other feel secure if you want your love to last.

Monogamy Is Outdated

By Ryan Anderson on December 22, 2015 in The Mating Game
Monogamy is really hard to maintain. Perhaps we are just not meant to be monogamous

20 Ways to Surprise Your Partner

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 16, 2015 in Joyful Parenting
Surprising your partner can lead to greater relationship intimacy, tenderness, and lighthearted fun. Try one of these 20 ideas to surprise your partner for "no reason at all."

Strangers in Love

By Ryan Anderson on December 15, 2015 in The Mating Game
Dating is hard work. A research team has figured how to create a feeling of closeness and intimacy with a stranger.

Are Tattooed Women Really More Promiscuous?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 14, 2015 in All About Sex
Men think that tattoos signal women's sexual availability. Think again.

How Friendship Turns Into Romance

The line between friendship and love is more blurred than you think.

To Cuff or to Tether

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on December 02, 2015 in The Puzzle of Love
Some think of fall and winter as “cuffing season,” but tethering with a partner is much more likely than cuffing to lead to a happy, long-lasting, secure-functioning relationship.