All About First Impressions

We're built to size each other up quickly. Even if we're presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we're attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others. Luckily there are simple guidelines for wowing new acquaintances.

Recent Posts on First Impressions

How to Make a Great First Impression at Family Get-Togethers

Been invited to attend a family gathering by your "significant other" or boss? Here are 11 ways to "wow the relatives" when you're the newcomer to Thanksgiving dinners, family reunions, and other special occasions.

Lessons From the Paris Attacks

In the words of the next door neighbor of the ax-murderer, “But he . . . (say it with me) seemed like such a nice guy!” Why did she have that impression? Because her neighbor, whom she knew nothing about, had become familiar.

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: Can we break the cycle?

The Clothes You Wear Can Affect a Dog's Emotional State

Data shows that if your clothing has stripes vs polka-dots or plain color, it can provoke an emotional response in dogs

Relationships: Finding a Great Partner

First, be a good mate yourself. Second, find someone who is as much like you as possible. When you do this, you will find happiness and a happy relationship.

Will He Cheat? Don't Check His Phone, Check His Credit

Will your relationship last? Credit scores may hold the answer

Love at First Sight and Life-Long Love: 20 Questions

If you want life-love long, be careful of the illusions trap.

Like a Moth to a Flame

By Ryan Anderson on November 03, 2015 The Mating Game
Some people would prefer attraction to remain mysterious. There are several things you can control to make yourself more attractive to the opposite-sex.

12 Tips For Identifying The Real Hypocrites

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 29, 2015 Ambigamy
They're accusing each other, and maybe even accusing you of being a hypocrite. How do we decide who really is the hypocrite? And how should we decide? Here are a few tips.

What's your Likability Quotient?

You'll get a lot further in life if you'll likable.

The Lipstick Effect: How Boom or Bust Effects Beauty

Now a series of psychology experiments have confirmed for the first time that while tougher economic times decrease desire for most items, they also reliably increase women's yearning for products that boost their attractiveness.

The 5 Core Skills Of Hostage Negotiators

By Jeff Thompson Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 Beyond Words
Learn the five core skills taught to law enforcement hostage negotiators and apply them to your next crisis situation at work or home in order to get what you want. Sure police crisis incidents are much different but the underlying similarity is emotions dictate people's actions when they are in crisis. Therefore, these are five skills that you will be able to use too.

The Hidden Trait that Predicts Who We Find Attractive

Finding love is a tricky game. New evidence suggests that others' interest in you might be tied to your dispositional mindfulness.

Foundation Helps Vets "Dress for Success" in Job Interviews

By Eric Newhouse on September 26, 2015 Invisible Wounds
Kewon Potts, a Navy veteran, was one of 25-plus vets being given new suits, dress shirts and ties this month to wear to job interviews. The Save-a-Suit foundation and its founder, Scott Sokolowski, believe it's important to dress for success because it improves the interviewer's critical first impression and builds the vets' confidence.

One Skill to Curb Unconscious Gender Bias

By Joseph Grenny on September 23, 2015 Crucial Conversations
What if your colleagues discriminated against you just for being assertive? Unfortunately for many women, gender bias is a reality in today’s workplace.

The Psychology Of Why Being Funny When Flirting is Vital

Bale, Morrison and Caryl in their study of chat-up lines wondered why men persisted in using so many ‘chat-up’ approaches that were rated as unpopular with so many women – such as boorish jokes, empty compliments, and sexually loaded remarks. They wondered if these strategies were never intended to impress a woman, but merely winnow out which possible ‘targets’ were...

Are We Trapped Inside Patterns?

Are you trapped by the way your brain organizes patterns? Reframing meaning can change everything.

Does Online Dating Really Work?

By Donna Barstow on September 18, 2015 Ink Blots Cartoons
Three ways to make your dates go more smoothly, and a study that says don't worry about that 3-hour personality test at eHarmony.

Men in Red

By Rebecca Coffey on September 11, 2015 The Bejeezus Out of Me
Men, listen up. You know those red power ties you wore a few years ago? They’re probably still at the back of your closet. They may work for you on Tinder ... only not in the way you expected.

Avoiding Ashley Madison

You cannot "spot" a cheater, but you may be able to "detect" one if you know what to look for and where to look.

How to Spot When Someone is Lying to You

But before we are too quick to judge those in the headlines who find themselves accused of lying, the psychological research indicates that ordinary people tell an average of 1.5 lies a day, but this rate can climb dramatically because how likely you are to deceive depends a lot on the situation you find yourself in.

Which Hair Color Induces the Strongest Physical Attraction?

Startling new psychological research challenges previous thinking that hair color is merely about personal preference. Instead a massive consensus appears to exist on which hair color is preferred, and there also appears to be such severe prejudice associated with the tint of your locks, this is possibly as harsh as racial discrimination.

We Are All Fallible Experts

Our ability to abstract, infer, and categorize is a gift. But it's also the root of prejudice and stereotyping.

Can You Escape Bias?

Is is possible to be completely bias free? Even with the best of intentions, the forces of social conditioning can interfere with our perceptions and constructions of one another. Have you ever misjudged someone, or been on the receiving end of wrong assumptions? How can we overcome these limiting tendencies in favor of embracing and appreciating our many dimensions?

How Important Is It to Look Competent?

University students in Korea can look at the faces of two unknown political opponents in the U.S. and choose the winner about two-thirds of the time, yet they can’t accurately predict what happens in their own country. What’s going on here?

What Do You Look Like When You’re Bored?

What does it look like to be bored, to be melancholy or depressed, or even just to be thinking? In photography, in art, and in real-life there are often striking similarities. There's usually a head-on-the-hand. But there are some differences and that's what I'll try to show you here. See if you can spot them at the next meeting you attend.

Beware of First Impressions

Alienation can be counter-intuitive, even for mental health professionals

Complimenters and Ghosters: Is There Room in Your Tent?

In a society that lacks the cohesiveness of a tribe, new social connections might remain stuffed in a box.

You Pays Your Money and You Takes Your Choices

We can make whatever choices we want or need to—as long as we are willing to accept the consequences of those choices. This equation represents the intersection of awareness, action, and accountability. And, it is applicable to virtually every area of life.