All About First Impressions

We're built to size each other up quickly. Even if we're presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we're attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others. Luckily there are simple guidelines for wowing new acquaintances.

Recent posts on First Impressions


Love Is in the Air: Are You Ready?

By Vijayeta Sinh Ph.D. on February 13, 2018 in Life in Balance
It takes more than updating your dating profile to find love.

Is Love at First Sight Real?

An empirical study of first encounters between strangers gives scientists new insight into love at first sight.

What Does Being With Your Partner Say About You?

Whether you flaunt your sexy spouse or feel like your partner shows you off, new evidence suggests that romantic partners could be a trusted source for impressions.

What You Think About Veterans Is Likely Wrong

By Meaghan Mobbs on January 24, 2018 in The Debrief
Americans incorrectly think more than half of vets have mental problems. Be a part of the solution, not the problem.

You Are Judged By Your Screen Name, So Choose Carefully

Sexual predators prey on women using provocative screen names. Yet good guys are looking too. So choose your screen name carefully.

What Does Makeup Say About You?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on January 03, 2018 in Attraction, Evolved
What do we assume about a woman wearing makeup? And do our preconceptions have any basis in fact?

Proximity and Preference – Why We Like Who We Are Close To

Is it just me or do you love it when your on-screen duos become real life lovers? Perhaps proximity played a role in their attraction.

The Open Book: What Your Reading Choices Say About You

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 27, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
You are what you read. Your choice in plot and complexity speaks volumes about who you are and how you think.
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How the 3 Types of Narcissists Act on a First Date

This article will help you recognize and understand the three basic types of Narcissistic disorders and how they are likely to treat you if you get involved with them romantically.

8 Body Language Cues That Can Get You Into Trouble

Be careful with these potentially dangerous body language cues.

What to Do After a First Date If You Want a Second

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 18, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
After a terrific first date, what should you do to ensure there is a second? Research shows that moving slowly enhances relational development and satisfaction.

Should You Tell a Friend That You Don't Like Her Partner?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to consider before telling your friend that you don't like her partner.

Why You Talk About Your Relationship With Friends

It's not what we say — it's why we say it.

3 Tips to Finding Love When You’re Older

It takes a willingness to stay the course and not give up.

LinkedIn: How to Spot Predators Posing as Professionals

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 01, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Online business networking sites provide an aura of authenticity. Exploiting the legitimacy of platforms like LinkedIn, predators often masquerade as professionals.

Holiday Decorating Is Good for the Soul

The beauty of holiday decorating, though, is that your way – no matter what it is – is the right way for you and your traditions

What Happens When You Run into Your Therapist on the Street?

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on November 21, 2017 in I Hear You
Have you ever had the unnerving experience of running into your therapist when you're not at all ready to see him or her? How will it likely play out and why?

Face Time: What Expression Makes the Best First Impression?

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 20, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
We size each other up quickly, based on what we see. A happy face is noticeable, memorable, and creates positive emotion—which enhances the perception of authenticity.

What Makes Some People Unforgettable

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Ever wonder why certain people stand out in your mind? What is it about them that makes them so unforgettable? The answer likely has more to do with you than them.
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Perceiving the Credibility of Claims of Sexual Abuse

By Harold Sigall Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Wishful Thoughts
How did the appearance of Harvey Weinstein and his accusers affect our beliefs about their credibility?


By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about people’s veneer.

3 Ways to Detect Dishonesty in a Partner

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
As much as you want to take the plunge of trust, don't believe everything you hear. Pacing, presentation, and pauses provide several ways to detect deception.

Face First: The Most Attractive Expression for a First Date

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 07, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
We size each other up through facial expressions within milliseconds. On a first date, put your best face forward, to ensure a great first date leads to a great relationship

Why You Should Smile in Your Online Photo

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 01, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
When selecting a handsome photo to augment your witty dating profile text, consider that photo selection can quickly define your desirability—or lack thereof.

The Most Attractive Trait Displayed During First Impression

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 01, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
First impressions are best formed in person because emotions matter. Responsive strangers are found to be attractive and desirable.

The Many Subtle Ways Women Signal Romantic Interest

By Lucia F O'Sullivan Ph.D. on October 26, 2017 in At First Blush
It's often women, not men, who initiate the first approach.

12 Tips for Landing a Job at a Company You Admire

By Brad Waters on October 17, 2017 in Design Your Path
Online job applications not getting you a foot in the door of your favorite companies? Here are 12 tips for catching their attention.

The Most Attractive (Invisible) Trait of Any Partner

If you set your device on the table on a date, beware: distraction signals disinterest. Instead, cultivate chemistry through the most significant silent compliment: your attention.

Dating Dealbreakers: How to Make or Break a First Date

Dating dealbreakers come in all shapes and sizes, from personality to lifestyle to health. Make it a priority to spot them on a first date, when you are at your most objective.

How a Picture With Friends Can Get You a Date!

Does who you surround yourself with matter when looking for a date? Can being near friends (or lovers) make you more attractive to potential partners? Find out here…