All About First Impressions

We're built to size each other up quickly. Even if we're presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we're attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others. Luckily there are simple guidelines for wowing new acquaintances.

Recent Posts on First Impressions

Fifty Shades of Gay

By Rick Miller LICSW on April 17, 2015 in Unwrapped
An ever-widening spectrum of choices and possibilities means that the gay community is truly taking on all of the colors of the rainbow, every shade and hue.

How to Leave Your Company (On a Good Note)

By Tim Leberecht on April 09, 2015 in The Romance of Work
The average employee will change jobs 11 times during a career. Here are a few suggestions for how we can begin to consecrate a professional transition. They can help you honor the institutional knowledge you’ve built up during your tenure, including the triumphs that thrilled you and the failures that stretched you.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship with a Sexual Narcissist

Sexual narcissism can be defined as a grandiose sense of one’s sexual prowess which, in the mind of the sexual narcissist, entitles him or her to engage in acts of emotional and physical manipulation at the partner’s expense. How do you know when your partner may be a sexual narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Surprising Facts Learned on My Trip to India

On my recent trip to India, I became immersed in the rich culture. While learning more about this culture, I began to realize that there were facts about the culture in India that I had been completely unaware of!

2 Reasons Why People Don't Get to Know the Real You

Assumptions come in many varieties, but two of the most powerful and pervasive of these are confirmation bias and the primacy effect.

Work Meetings in a Bar?

Holding work meetings in a bar disadvantages some people

The 7 Habits of Truly Genuine People

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Being authentic requires a different approach to life—here's what you need to know:

Instant Romance is Just a Click Away

From fast food to same day shipping, we have come to expect that everything in life—even intimate relationships—are available at the click of a key. Unfortunately, interpersonal chemistry in a face-to-face meet-up is still the deal breaker or maker in potential relationships.

How to Escape the Drama in Our Own Heads

By Gregg McBride on March 14, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
It's often when caught up in life's to-do list that we get caught up in our own mental interpretation of what's going on in the world around us—and then make it all about us, when in fact, it has nothing to do with us. And if we would instead take a moment to breathe and observe, we just might learn something and/or find a reason to count our and others' life blessings.

4 Ways To Be A More Authentic Person

People are attracted to authenticity. Here are four techniques that help you be your most authentic self, even in uncomfortable situations.

Do You Want People to Understand You? Stop Doing This.

Saying what you mean is more than a matter of finding the right words. It’s the intonation, or tone of voice, that adds punch to our language. If you’re a victim of “uptalk,” without knowing it, you may be leaving people with a wrong, and confusing, impression.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

The First 100 Days: Be A Stranger (As Long As You Can)!

By Tim Leberecht on February 28, 2015 in The Romance of Work
When you start a new job, your story has already started before you walk through the office door for the first time. The beginning of your tenure is a great opportunity to capitalize on being an outsider and to make new mistakes.

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

Caught Off-Guard by Breast Cancer: First Impressions

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 09, 2015 in Turning Straw Into Gold
Except for what I’ve been told by people who’ve written to me about their experiences with cancer, this was a new medical arena for me. I’ve learned that it’s a world onto its own in many ways. Nothing was familiar to me. It’s been a disorienting experience.

Is Addiction a Disease? Part 2

By Joseph A Shrand M.D. on February 02, 2015 in Manage Your Stress
Even addicts are doing the best they can.

Why Our Negative First Impressions Are So Powerful

Introverts view extroverts as arrogant, overconfident, brash, and pushy, while extroverts see introverts as quiet, nerdy, insecure, and socially inept.

The Four “Dark Personality” Traits

Psychopaths, narcissists, and sadists, oh my! Personality psychologist Del Paulhus has bucked the positive psychology trend, with a series of rigorous studies delving into the "Dark Side" of human personality. He has shown that four dark traits have distinct but often unexpected consequences in the workplace and in relationships.

"Why Don't I Love My Body?"

By Carrie Barron M.D. on December 09, 2014 in The Creativity Cure
Many people struggle with body image and the ability to feel comfortable in their own skin. In this blog, my client Brianna discusses her personal struggle as well as the idea of inner and outer beauty. She found her way.

The Surprising Power of a Beautiful Face

By Gregory Ciotti on December 07, 2014 in Habits, Not Hacks
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... but what exactly do they behold?

The Incredible Shrinking Task

Is your life dream or a mission-critical task in front of you, and you just can't understand why you can't start or finish it? Take a step back and try these effective techniques (taken from 20 years of project management) for springing yourself into action.

First Impressions: A Roadmap or a Roadblock?

By Russ Gerber on November 06, 2014 in Our Health
Labels and expectations are pinned on us at every turn. Are we adopting them?

The Optics of Politics: Appearances are not always reality

Do Attractive Candidates Really Get More Votes? The Optics of Politics. When appearances are not always reality.

Four Ways to Start Your Work Week at the top of Your Game

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 19, 2014 in Off the Couch
Going back to work can stir up any number of feelings. So how do you cope with being excited, nervous, pleased, worried, fearful, stressed, or any combination emotions? How can you make the transition in the most positive way possible?

Analytical Thinking — Logic Errors 101

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on October 07, 2014 in Memory Medic
What we read or hear is commonly tainted by thinking errors. Here's how to minimize such errors in your communication.

Sex, Sexuality and the Psychopath/Sociopath: An Introduction

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on October 07, 2014 in Insight Is 20/20
Psychopaths have sex, but the way they do it serves a higher purpose. The local bar is often a place where psychopaths find it easiest to ensnare their next prey.

Emailing Future Ph.D. Advisors

By Laura E. Buffardi Ph.D. on October 01, 2014 in Grad School Guru
How and why to contact professors before you apply

3 More Things You Didn't Realize About How Your Brain Works

By Peg Streep on August 19, 2014 in Tech Support
Do you realize that your physical surroundings can shape both your thoughts and your actions, without your being any the wiser? Or that women react differently to potential competition if the rival is wearing is red? A revelatory look at the role unconscious and unperceived "snap judgments" play in human life.

How to Spot a Flirt

What differentiates flirting from friendly banter? Research reveals how accurately people interpret flirting and provides some clues to help decipher the often tricky code of interpersonal conversation.

Why Profile Photos Are Liars

By David DiSalvo on July 21, 2014 in Neuronarrative
Psychology researchers want us to know something about our profile photo-centrism – it’s a lie, and it’s leading us to draw conclusions that likely have zero basis in reality.