All About First Impressions

We're built to size each other up quickly. Even if we're presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we're attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others. Luckily there are simple guidelines for wowing new acquaintances.

Recent Posts on First Impressions

You Pays Your Money and You Takes Your Choices

By Dan Mager MSW on July 30, 2015 in Some Assembly Required
We can make whatever choices we want or need to—as long as we are willing to accept the consequences of those choices. This equation represents the intersection of awareness, action, and accountability. And, it is applicable to virtually every area of life.

Attractiveness Changes Our Perception At an Early Age

Not only does attractiveness influence children's trustworthiness of a person, it even changes how the brain's neural system responds.

How Are You Portraying Yourself When Using Social Media?

By Gregg McBride on July 25, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
When did vitriol become a national pastime and filling our social media feeds with hatred become de rigeur? Has initially greeting someone we don't understand (or even that we don't agree with) with kindness become a thing of the past?

When It Comes to Love, Do You Really Know What You Want?

Your list of what you're looking for in a partner may matter less than you think.

A Cynical Attitude Could Cost You

A new study reveals that cynical people earn less money. Three statements can help you determine your level of cynicism.

How to Overcome a Bad First Impression

New ideas and information can change our first impressions and increase our opportunities.

First Dates

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 11, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
First dates can be a fun exercise in developing your social graces.

Should Men or Women Play Hard to Get?

When you meet a sexy stranger, should you act interested or play it cool? The answer depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Read on to learn the science...and the answer.

Adventures in Allergy

When patients say they are "allergic" to something, they do not necessarily mean the same thing that doctors have in mind when they use the word. And vice versa.

Fifty Shades of Gay

By Rick Miller LICSW on April 17, 2015 in Unwrapped
An ever-widening spectrum of choices and possibilities means that the gay community is truly taking on all of the colors of the rainbow, every shade and hue.

How to Leave Your Company (On a Good Note)

By Tim Leberecht on April 09, 2015 in The Romance of Work
The average employee will change jobs 11 times during a career. Here are a few suggestions for how we can begin to consecrate a professional transition. They can help you honor the institutional knowledge you’ve built up during your tenure, including the triumphs that thrilled you and the failures that stretched you.

Work Meetings in a Bar?

Holding work meetings in a bar disadvantages some people

The First 100 Days: Be A Stranger (As Long As You Can)!

By Tim Leberecht on February 28, 2015 in The Romance of Work
When you start a new job, your story has already started before you walk through the office door for the first time. The beginning of your tenure is a great opportunity to capitalize on being an outsider and to make new mistakes.

Caught Off-Guard by Breast Cancer: First Impressions

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 09, 2015 in Turning Straw Into Gold
Except for what I’ve been told by people who’ve written to me about their experiences with cancer, this was a new medical arena for me. I’ve learned that it’s a world onto its own in many ways. Nothing was familiar to me. It’s been a disorienting experience.

Why Our Negative First Impressions Are So Powerful

Introverts view extroverts as arrogant, overconfident, brash, and pushy, while extroverts see introverts as quiet, nerdy, insecure, and socially inept.

The Four “Dark Personality” Traits

Psychopaths, narcissists, and sadists, oh my! Personality psychologist Del Paulhus has bucked the positive psychology trend, with a series of rigorous studies delving into the "Dark Side" of human personality. He has shown that four dark traits have distinct but often unexpected consequences in the workplace and in relationships.

"Why Don't I Love My Body?"

By Carrie Barron M.D. on December 09, 2014 in The Creativity Cure
Many people struggle with body image and the ability to feel comfortable in their own skin. In this blog, my client Brianna discusses her personal struggle as well as the idea of inner and outer beauty. She found her way.

The Surprising Power of a Beautiful Face

By Gregory Ciotti on December 07, 2014 in Habits, Not Hacks
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... but what exactly do they behold?

The Incredible Shrinking Task

Is your life dream or a mission-critical task in front of you, and you just can't understand why you can't start or finish it? Take a step back and try these effective techniques (taken from 20 years of project management) for springing yourself into action.

First Impressions: A Roadmap or a Roadblock?

By Russ Gerber on November 06, 2014 in Our Health
Labels and expectations are pinned on us at every turn. Are we adopting them?

The Optics of Politics: Appearances are not always reality

Do Attractive Candidates Really Get More Votes? The Optics of Politics. When appearances are not always reality.

Four Ways to Start Your Work Week at the top of Your Game

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 19, 2014 in Off the Couch
Going back to work can stir up any number of feelings. So how do you cope with being excited, nervous, pleased, worried, fearful, stressed, or any combination emotions? How can you make the transition in the most positive way possible?

Analytical Thinking — Logic Errors 101

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on October 07, 2014 in Memory Medic
What we read or hear is commonly tainted by thinking errors. Here's how to minimize such errors in your communication.

Emailing Future Ph.D. Advisors

By Laura E. Buffardi Ph.D. on October 01, 2014 in Grad School Guru
How and why to contact professors before you apply

3 More Things You Didn't Realize About How Your Brain Works

By Peg Streep on August 19, 2014 in Tech Support
Do you realize that your physical surroundings can shape both your thoughts and your actions, without your being any the wiser? Or that women react differently to potential competition if the rival is wearing is red? A revelatory look at the role unconscious and unperceived "snap judgments" play in human life.

How to Spot a Flirt

What differentiates flirting from friendly banter? Research reveals how accurately people interpret flirting and provides some clues to help decipher the often tricky code of interpersonal conversation.

Why Profile Photos Are Liars

By David DiSalvo on July 21, 2014 in Neuronarrative
Psychology researchers want us to know something about our profile photo-centrism – it’s a lie, and it’s leading us to draw conclusions that likely have zero basis in reality.

Can Your Unique Features Make You More Appealing Over Time?

You don't always have to look and act like everyone else to find and keep love. Sometimes, unique qualities can be attractive too. Find out when and how...

5 Tips for Avoiding Conflict in Your Relationship

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on June 30, 2014 in Between You and Me
My husband and I got into a fight over a pillowcase. It was one of those times where it was clearly his fault, and I was sure he would apologize. He didn't. Instead he seemed surprised that I wasn't apologizing to him. How could we have such different views of the same conflict? Which one of us was right? It turns out that we were both right, in our own ways.

4 Benefits of Hugs, for Mind and Body

Hugging feels good, but it is also good for us. It may even free us from cultural conditioning and feelings of fear and shame. Hug yourself and others to happiness, health, and freedom. This blog was inspired by my experiences during the World Congress for Psychotherapy 2014 in Shanghai, China.