All About First Impressions

We're built to size each other up quickly. Even if we're presented with lots of evidence to the contrary, we're attached to our initial impressions of people—which is why you should be aware of the impression you make on others. Luckily there are simple guidelines for wowing new acquaintances.

Recent posts on First Impressions

Chirality: A Look at Emotional Asymmetry of The Face

By Joe Navarro M.A. on May 21, 2016 in Spycatcher
The face sometimes reveals multiple emotions at once—here is a look at emotional asymmetry of the face.

Making a Good Impression Depends on Who You Want to Impress

If you had your choice, would you rather seem warm and caring or knowledgeable and intelligent? To pick the best strategy, consider who it is you’re trying to impress.

Does Talking to an Attractive Woman Make Men Dumber?

If women value intelligent mates, why do men become less intelligent when talking to beautiful women?

5 Reasons to Treat Dating Like an Internship

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on May 06, 2016 in Full Living
Take full advantage of the exploratory, temporary nature of dating.

Watch Your Language!

Just what is your choice of language telling yourself and others?

How Dogs Help Men in the Dating Market

What makes dog owners more attractive romantic partners?

New Graduates: Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes in Your Next Job

Research shows new graduates often make five bad assumptions about getting up-to-speed in their new job that actually undermine their ultimate success. Here's how to avoid them.

Men's Top-Dog Power Gestures Make Them Seem Untrustworthy

By Rebecca Coffey on April 05, 2016 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
In a new study, male speakers making lots of wide-reaching arm gestures (like Trump's) were generally seen as dominant. But they were also seen as fakers.

Tinder Study Shows Science of Best First-Date Body Language

By Garth Sundem on April 02, 2016 in Brain Trust
Want to be attractive on a first date or on Tinder? "People who are seen in expansive, open nonverbal displays enjoy increases in others’ romantic attraction," writes a new study.

First Impressions Are Key in the Hiring Process

By Victor Lipman on March 31, 2016 in Mind of the Manager
In a new study, 80% of respondents said they’d take one job over another based on emotional connections formed in interviews.

The Great Myth of White, Female Killers

By Scott A. Bonn Ph.D. on March 28, 2016 in Wicked Deeds
Much of the general public’s knowledge concerning homicide is a product of stylized and incorrect depictions of such events in the news and entertainment media.

Study: Women Should Probably Make the First Move More Often

Need a reason to make the first move, ladies? Your chances of success are higher than those of men.

What Does It Mean to Be Compatible?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on March 06, 2016 in Fixing Families
It's easy to be nice and accommodating when dating, but dating is about finding out if you are truly compatible. Here are the 6 big issues you'll want to discuss and focus on

The Off-Duty Psychologist

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 06, 2016 in A Sideways View
How do people react when they find out you are a psychologist? What is the best way to cope?

Who are the Creepiest Celebrities?

Celebrities dominate the media and they are people that we all share in common. However, some of them come across as creepier than others. Why?

In Defense of "Nuts"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 29, 2016 in How To Do Life
Even celebrants of diversity draw the line at oddball behavior. Should they?
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My Up and Down Life

By Joan Ullman M.A. on February 21, 2016 in Uncharted Customs
I didn't start falling down, like most people do, as I aged. I've spent my life falling down, and seen doctors to find out why. Too late, I found the medical profession failed me.

The Trump Dilemma - Two Plusses and a Very Big ?

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on February 21, 2016 in Just Listen
Trump may not be my preferred style, but in a manipulative, bullying world, might he play better than Sanders or Clinton?

Nine Ways to Ruin Romance

Avoid these nine relationship blunders and you’re a lot less likely to ruin a perfectly good relationship that you’d really like to keep.

Nothing Like the First Time

What do we really know about the love hormone?

6 Messages Your Glasses May Be Sending People

Your eyeglasses are there to help you see (perhaps) but they also send these 6 cues to those who see you.

7 Trusted Tips for Finding Love

Check out these basic prerequisites for finding love.
By Barry Badcock

Why We Choose Partners Who Push Our Buttons

You may think your partner is trying to drive you crazy, but unbeknownst to you they are trying to help you grow into wholenss.

Why Ted Cruz’s Facial Expression Makes Me Uneasy

By Richard E. Cytowic M.D. on January 01, 2016 in The Fallible Mind
We learn to read faces from birth, and easily tell a natural smile from a forced one. The Senator’s expressions feel atypical, which leaves me feeling uneasy.

The Psychology of the Christmas Card

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on December 19, 2015 in A Sideways View
There are many different types of cards to choose to send at Christmas. But what do they tell us about the sender?

4 Tips to Help Your Love Search

How do you deal with the fact that searching for love can be difficult?

Strangers in Love

By Ryan Anderson on December 15, 2015 in The Mating Game
Dating is hard work. A research team has figured how to create a feeling of closeness and intimacy with a stranger.

How to Make a Great First Impression at Family Get-Togethers

By Keith Rollag Ph.D. on November 22, 2015 in Being Good at Being New
Been invited to attend a family gathering by your "significant other" or boss? Here are 11 ways to "wow the relatives" when you're the newcomer to Thanksgiving dinners, family reunions, and other special occasions.

Lessons From the Paris Attacks

By Wendy L. Patrick Ph.D. on November 21, 2015 in Why Bad Looks Good
In the words of the next door neighbor of the ax-murderer, “But he . . . (say it with me) seemed like such a nice guy!” Why did she have that impression? Because her neighbor, whom she knew nothing about, had become familiar.

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