Understanding Family Dynamics

Can't we all get along? That's a tall order when your limelight has been snatched away by your adorable new little brother. Family, you love them and you hate them. There are so many things to consider when you think of family: there's birth order, rivalries, the only child, to name a few.

Recent posts on Family Dynamics

Marital Infidelity: Existential Uncertainty in Spades

By Susan Rako M.D. on February 18, 2017 in More Light
"How can I ever trust my husband/wife again?"

National Children of Alcoholics Awareness Week

By Indra Cidambi, M.D. on February 16, 2017 in Sure Recovery
Why family-based recovery is important.

Three Relationship Tips, Courtesy of the Obamas

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on February 13, 2017 in Quite Queerly
The exemplary relationship practices the Obamas shared with each other and the world, is a rare and valuable form of leadership that we benefitted from on a daily basis.

Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Social Lights
How to care for yourself amidst the chaos of caregiving.

Adolescence: Your Parenting Work Is Not Over Yet

A parent’s job changes at a child’s adolescence. Be available while letting go. Argue. Laugh. Love the person your child really is, underneath all the identities they’re trying on.

10 Ways to Love the One You're With

The hard work for us as parents is accepting who our child is, including the things we wish we could change and cherishing him or her for being that person.

Failure to Launch: What do we (mom & dad) do now?

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on February 08, 2017 in Healing and Growing
Helen and Bill were at their wits end with their son, Josh, 22. What can parents do to help young people struggling with adult life?

Finding Your Flock

People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are traveling on the thrust of one another.

5 Essential Facts About Children and War

If we want to help children exposed to armed conflict, we would do well to heed the findings of recent studies.

Questionable Study About Implanting False Memories

By David M. Allen M.D. on February 03, 2017 in A Matter of Personality
A study shown on "Nova" puts a subject in the position of having to call her parents liars. The experimenter ignores her behavior during the study in drawing conclusions.

Collective Stories in Families Teach Us About Ourselves

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Collective family storytelling helps parents and adolescents learn about each other and themselves
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Office Gossip: How to Make Sure It's NOT About You

If people didn’t behave badly at work, there’d be no such thing as office gossip. Here’s how to reduce your chances of being the subject.

Are Gaslighters Aware of What They Do?

Are gaslighters aware they are manipulating others? It depends on the gaslighter.

Immigration and the Benefits of Other-Regarding Actions

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on January 29, 2017 in Quite Queerly
Studies show that empathy, generosity, and altruism can lead to a healthier, happier, and longer life. So, let's offer it up to our fellow Americans: old, new, and aspiring.

5 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Get Kids to Cooperate

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on January 27, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Parents have to move kids through tasks like chores, potty, teeth-brushing, etc. Here are 5 tools to strengthen cooperation, reduce resistance, and promote bonding along the way.
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Chubby, Chunky, Heavy, Big

Many parents are watching their children getting bigger and bigger and wonder, when do I say something? How do I help them when I can’t even help myself?

When an Affectionate Word Makes an Argument Worse

Telling someone how much you love them in the middle of an argument doesn't always have the "cool down effect" you might like.

Aging in Polyamorous Families

This blog explores aging polyamorists and their relationships with their children, community engagement, the physical impacts of aging, and divorce.
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Mothers of Murderers

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on January 23, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
What do mothers say when they're told that their son or daughter is a murderer?

When His Homework is Your Personal Purgatory

You are in homework hell and the assignments aren’t even your responsibility! As a parent, you feel as if it all falls on you.

Infographic: Guidelines for Kids & Screen Time

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on January 20, 2017 in Connected
Take a look at AAP's new screen time guidelines for infants, toddlers, and children.

Brothers & Sisters: The Best Friends You Didn't Know You Had

Learning to get along as well as possible with your siblings can be the ultimate self-help gift as you grow older.

The Women's March On Washington, Attachment Theory & My Mom

Representing 5 generations of marching women. Why we did it.

Is This the Surprising Way Couples Will Become Less Insular?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 18, 2017 in Living Single
The community that was creating and honoring “families of choice” long before the concept became broadly familiar may be the one to transform coupling.

From School Bullying to Feuding Parents

By Izzy Kalman on January 17, 2017 in Resilience to Bullying
There is a growing phenomenon of adults who used to be friends becoming enemies because of beliefs spread by the anti-bully movement.

Evolutionary Mismatch and What You Can Do about It

Our modern worlds are mismatched dramatically from the environments we evolved to live in.

15 Ways To Become Closer To Others

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on January 16, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
These practices will help you get closer to the important people in your life.

New Beginnings

To change your life: you have to make a commitment to do so understand the ripple effect it has on others, seek support from others, and believe in yourself.

The Evolutionary Psychology of Divorce

Why does divorce wreak such havoc on people’s lives? For the same reason that high levels of processed foods cause health problems—divorce is not evolutionarily natural.