Can't we all get along? That's a tall order when your limelight has been snatched away by your adorable new little brother. Family: You love them and you hate them. There are so many things to consider when you think of family: there's birth order, rivalries, and the only child, to name a few.
Parents are not rational. Children are not choices. Neither parents nor children are individuals. Rather, parents and children emerge together, in relation to one another, expressions of life itself, as a potential matrix of mutually enabling loves.
The story of Lizzie Borden has taken on mythical proportions over the years. Despite her acquittal in criminal court in the nineteenth century for the murders of her father and stepmother, Lizzie has always been considered guilty by the public as a result of ghoulish media and cultural representations of her.
What if you are married with kids, but you don't consider your spouse the most important person in your life? How can you arrange your life to honor the people you care about most, and also maintain the important place of both parents in the lives of the kids?
It becomes a better game, not because of the particular rules that you’re playing it by, but because you’ve played it so many different ways that it becomes a celebration of a growing bond between each and all members of the community.
Alongside the well-known increase in the number of people living alone is another very different and less heralded trend – people who are living with all sorts of other people who are not their spouse or romantic partner.
One trap for parents and teenager when in a hard place with each other is to think hard thoughts and feel hard feelings. By doing so, matters get worse. To make them better it helps to violate negative predictions and disempower feelings from influencing decisions.
Creative and individualized strategies to help a person with dementia retain some dignity and reasons for living are feasible in the early and mid-way stages of the disease, and support and therapy can help family members cope when their loved one is alive, as well as make the grieving process less painful.
While parents are more kid-focused than ever, it seems ironic that today’s children say they feel disconnected from their parents and wish their parents would spend more time really listening to them. It is also ironic that in a culture in which we are constantly connected via technology, families have become ever more disconnected...
Food, water, and shelter are considered the essentials for survival in the wilderness. But some Asians believe this same mentality can work in raising children (i.e. give their children food, provisions like clothes and a college fund) will suffice. To even consider the child's emotional world is viewed as an anathema to their Asian culture and tradition of stoicism...
Many therapists seem to think that patients behave in their offices in ways typical of how they behave in other social contexts. This is very naive. We all present different aspects of ourselves, and hide other things, depending on the goals we are trying to reach with certain others, or because of loyalty to our family system and its beliefs. We lie even to ourselves.
Navigating a divorce is perhaps one of the most difficult challenges for parents and for kids. Sadly many children are caught in the middle of overt or covert battles and silently suffer in the process. However, divorce may be managed in a civilized and sensitive manner, and may turn out better for all concerned. We offer some guidelines to help prevent untoward hardship.
Beyond the sentimental stereotypes, there is a deep relationship between men and their mothers. And it can be hard for a man to acknowledge that debt without again feeling like a little boy clustered around a woman's skirt.
The science of siblings. Yes, we love and hate our brothers and sisters, but it’s a bond that influences us no matter what. Herein read about birth order, rivalry, estrangement, and more. Cover Image: VasilyevAlexandr/Shutterstock