Understanding Family Dynamics

Can't we all get along? That's a tall order when your limelight has been snatched away by your adorable new little brother. Family, you love them and you hate them. There are so many things to consider when you think of family: there's birth order, rivalries, the only child, to name a few.

Recent posts on Family Dynamics

Mommy Nearest

Mother and son incest: Are deep-seated cultural taboos against recognizing it hindering therapy?

Play: A Different Perspective

Much has been studied and written about play, and we would like to consider play from a somewhat different perspective, namely, that of affect theory.

Warning: This Drug May Kill You

In this beautiful and sorrowful HBO documentary, we crisscross this country to meet families who represent today’s victims of the opioid epidemic.

8 Life Setbacks and Failures of Narcissists

Many narcissists are oblivious to their negative and often self-destructive behavioral patterns, which typically result in them experiencing life lessons the hard way...

Is Willful Ignorance a Good Quality in an Attorney?

Why do family law attorneys ignore the research which supports the benefits of a facilitative over an adversarial approach for divorce and family law?

The Rise and Fall of Monogamy

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 19, 2017 in Hide and Seek
What future for monogamy and polyamory?

Are You Confusing Love With Something Else?

As parents we want to hold onto the illusion that we can fix or control our children. We cannot fix or control them; it is an illusion.

Divorce and Autism: Familiarity, Stability, Consistency

Children with autism thrive on familiarity, stability, and consistency. In divorce, work to maintain your child's relationships in the neighbourhood, school, and family.

Children in Polyamorous Families Part 2

Children in polyamorous families experience unique practical and emotional advantages but no unique disadvantages that are not present in other forms of blended families.

4 Ways to Support Your College-Bound Teen

May 1st is just around the corner, but it's never too late to show your child that they can turn to you.

Are the Hormones of Couples in Sync?

By Darby Saxbe Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Home Base
Couples can get under each others' skin, literally. Partners appear to synchronize their stress and reproductive hormone levels over time.

What Is Your Conflict Style?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 14, 2017 in Talking Apes
Conflict is inevitable, but how couples approach it determines whether their relationship will be strengthened as a result, or torn apart.

Familismo

Familismo is a Latinx cultural value. But it can facilitate mental health for people from any cultural background.

Intrapsychic Conflict and Dysfunctional Family Patterns

Conflicts within parents' minds over certain behavior can lead them to give double messages to kids, who in turn develop dysfunctional mental models about what is expected of them.

How to Break Up When You Still Have to Live Together

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 06, 2017 in Ambigamy
Five simple tips for keeping it as simple as possible.

Can You Divorce Your Family?

New research explains that communication is critical in distancing yourself from family.
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Have Better Conversations With Someone With Hearing Loss

By Shari Eberts on April 05, 2017 in Life With Hearing Loss
Would you like to have better conversations with someone with hearing loss? These communication best practices can help.

Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on April 03, 2017 in Full Living
An explanation through metaphor of why we repeat patterns from our families of origin and how therapy helps us change that.

The 10 Best Ways To Get Your Way

If you get everything you want in a relationship, your partner could be left with very little, and that imbalance can create problems. These tips will help you both.

Children in Polyamorous Families Part 1

This blog begins a series on children in polyamorous families with a look at their age-dependent experiences and three reasons they appear to be in great shape.

How Some Beliefs Limit Loved Ones

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on April 02, 2017 in A Family Affair
You can identify and change beliefs that limit you.

Cultural stories provide roots for growth

Marcus Garvey said “A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.”

Mindful Listening

Do you struggle to really listen to others? Try using empathy to listen mindfully instead of offering advice.

4 Ways Bad Marriages Are Worse for Kids Than Divorce

Staying in a toxic marriage can cause more damage than good. Here's how:

What to Do if Your Child Feels in Competition With Your Work

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., JD on March 30, 2017 in All Grown Up
Is your child feeling in competition with your work? It can be possible to have a satisfying, meaningful career and be an attentive, loving parent. Try these universal guidelines.

Pets Versus Siblings as Sources of Support for Children

New study suggests that kids may get along better with their pets than their siblings. Just like siblings, pets are a source of comfort and companionship...and they never blab.

Why Family Hurt Is So Painful

Four reasons why family hurt is so painful: Hurtful behavior and messages from family are the most painful compared to those from friends or significant others.

Are You Addicted to Your Sibling’s Addiction?

Help an addicted sibling by first saving yourself.

I Did Not Raise a Narcissist

Will the most powerful man in the world have a negative impact on today's men?