Understanding Family Dynamics

Can't we all get along? That's a tall order when your limelight has been snatched away by your adorable new little brother. Family, you love them and you hate them. There are so many things to consider when you think of family: there's birth order, rivalries, the only child, to name a few.

Recent posts on Family Dynamics

Are You Addicted to Your Sibling’s Addiction?

Help an addicted sibling by first saving yourself.

I Did Not Raise a Narcissist

Will the most powerful man in the world have a negative impact on today's men?
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Sesame Street and Autism: The PG-Rated "Extras"

By Barb Cohen on March 22, 2017 in Mom, Am I Disabled?
Young children accept any playmate who is not hostile. It is the parents who usually communicate discomfort, caution or pity, and it is the parents who have the most to learn.

Family Dysfunction: How Therapists Get the Whole Story

Therapists have several useful techniques for getting shameful, protective, or guilty patients to open up and tell the whole story regarding dysfunction in their families.

Readers' Views About Porn and Relationships

In 2012, I began asking Psychology Today readers about how pornography is influencing their relationships. You might be surprised by what they shared.

Is Your Adult Child a Narcissist?

Is your adult child really a narcissist or more like the center of your universe? If so, why is he or she the focus of your life? Is there something you are avoiding?

Grandparents Affected by Adult Child Divorce

One of the lesser-mentioned advantages of co-parenting after divorce is that it can strengthen children's relationships with both sets of grandparents.

Why Young People Destroy the Very Things They Need Most

By Nick Luxmoore on March 15, 2017 in Young People Up Close
When young people spurn our best attempts to love and support them, why do they do this?

Daddy's Little Girl

On the make for married men

Why (Most) Polyamorous People Are Not Out to Steal Your Wife

There are three main reasons polyamorous people are not trying to steal monogamous partners away from their spouses -- consent, skills, and orientation.

10 Ways to Use Walks to Teach and Bond With Young Kids

Walks are a perfect way to help children learn concepts and have memorable experiences related to science, language, math, senses, nature, joy, and the community.

3 Mindfulness Tools that Help Parents Bond With Young Kids

Setting specific, clear intentions can help parents create rich, meaningful relationships with kids and partners. Here are 3 creative ways to apply intention to family life.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Raising a Self-Confident Adolescent

Parents can be confidence builders or confidence breakers. Better the first than the second.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Recognizing the Relationship

When two people recognize their relationship as a separate entity worthy of being tended and nourished, they open doors to countless ways of showing love.

The New Committed Relationship: For Parenting, Not Romance

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 03, 2017 in Living Single
Families have evolved in all sorts of ways. Now there are singles who come together only to raise children. They find romance elsewhere, if they are interested in it at all.

How to Maintain Your Emotional Boundaries

Holding good emotional boundaries is as much about checking in with yourself as it is about learning to stand firm with other people.
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Need Help Coping With a Tough Marriage? A Painful Divorce?

Are coping with a tough marriage, or getting through a divorce, inevitably painful? Here's two factors that can alleviate much of the sting.

Your Children Will Give You What You Seem to Expect

By David M. Allen M.D. on February 27, 2017 in A Matter of Personality
When parents are overly preoccupied with something their child does, the child may think the parents need to be thusly preoccupied, and so increase the behavior's frequency.
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This Close to Happy, by Daphne Merkin

Why do some people do well and others not when ill with a disease?

The Surprising Effects of Parents' Sleep Deprivation

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on February 25, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Sleep deprivation inhibits parents' ability to manage their emotions and reactivity to negative stimuli. It may also interfere with their verbal and nonverbal expressions of joy.
Source: Philadelphia PD

Lost Boy, Still Needs Name

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on February 25, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
America's Unknown Child is still an unnamed crime victim after 60 years.

I Miss My Mom

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 24, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to do if your mother is emotionally unstable.

Celebrate Progress

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on February 23, 2017 in A Family Affair
Is perfection getting in the way of helping your loved one? Focus on progress instead.

Be Responsible For Your Relationships

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
We are 100 percent responsible for our relationships. We create them in our minds and hearts, and we have a hand in the twists and turns they take.

Why Do Only Famous People Have Biographies?

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on February 20, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Family stories bind us together and define who we are as a family. Whether you are 7 or 70, it is never too early or too late to start sharing family stories.

Marital Infidelity: Existential Uncertainty in Spades

By Susan Rako M.D. on February 18, 2017 in More Light
"How can I ever trust my husband/wife again?"

National Children of Alcoholics Awareness Week

By Indra Cidambi, M.D. on February 16, 2017 in Sure Recovery
Why family-based recovery is important.

Three Relationship Tips, Courtesy of the Obamas

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on February 13, 2017 in Quite Queerly
The exemplary relationship practices the Obamas shared with each other and the world, is a rare and valuable form of leadership that we benefitted from on a daily basis.

Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Social Lights
How to care for yourself amidst the chaos of caregiving.

Adolescence: Your Parenting Work Is Not Over Yet

A parent’s job changes at a child’s adolescence. Be available while letting go. Argue. Laugh. Love the person your child really is, underneath all the identities they’re trying on.