Understanding Family Dynamics

Can't we all get along? That's a tall order when your limelight has been snatched away by your adorable new little brother. Family, you love them and you hate them. There are so many things to consider when you think of family: there's birth order, rivalries, the only child, to name a few.

Recent posts on Family Dynamics

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust VII

Couples therapy teaches that there are at least six people in an intimate relationship.
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3 Million of Us

By Elizabeth Young on October 19, 2017 in Adaptations
I have had diabetes for 44 years, 6 months, and 29 days. But who's counting?

When a Sibling Dies by Suicide

Samantha recounts the grief she experienced after losing her brother to suicide.

Over Half of Bisexual Youth Don't Have Family Support

What can straight parents do to support their bisexual children?

Choose Joy for Your Child

What does compassion for yourself and your child look like?

When Someone You Love Becomes an Addict

With addiction, love isn't enough. Here's how to get help.

What Parents, Grown Kids Mean By "Independent" Is Different

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on October 12, 2017 in Between the Lines
Can your kids be adults even if they're not wholly independent? And is that still a valid endpoint to maturity? Interdependence may be an idea whose time—and place—has come.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust VI: The Break: Independence

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

What Makes Families Resilient?

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Between Cultures
How do families turn adversity into a catalyst for growth? Insights from research on family resilience.

How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist

These strategies can help you end those ugly, pointless fights with the Narcissist in your life.

Horizontal Relationships: Affection, Ambivalence, Ambiguity

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on October 10, 2017 in Buddy System
Relationships with siblings and friends can be hard to characterize. We need to get comfortable with them not being perfect.

"The True Story" of Wonder Woman's Marston Ménage à Trois

The psychologist who created Wonder Woman and the women who inspired him lived an unconventional lifestyle, but do people really know what they think they know about them?

Managing Relationship Conflict: Letting Go of Being Right

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Tired of having arguments that end with you and your partner insisting that you both are right about long ago events? Learn to let go of being right and find strategies that work.

The Second Marriage: What You Need to Know

Five necessary conversations before saying "I do" for the second time.
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Your Child's Mind Space

Learn how healthy indwelling and dynamic self-regulation can help your child improve his or her intellectual functioning and emotional well-being.

Is My Mom Punishing Me Too Harshly?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 05, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Dealing with expectations and punishments.

7 Reasons It's Tough to Raise Mentally Strong Kids

On the surface, you might think today's parents have it easy. But raising resilient kids who will become responsible adults is a challenge in modern-day society.

What Do Biracial People Have to Teach Us about the World?

By Tiffany McLain LMFT on October 04, 2017 in Living Between Worlds
In an increasingly polarized social and political environment, where black-and-white thinking prevails, multiracial Americans have valuable lessons to share.
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How Does It Feel? Finding Freedom In and From Our Family

By Brad E Sachs Ph.D. on October 03, 2017 in Emptying The Nest
Thoughts on grief and growth upon my father's passing

Don't Let a Loved One Steal Your Joy

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on October 03, 2017 in A Family Affair
Is your loved one stealing your joy? Here are some ways to get it back.

How To Fail at Family Problem-Solving

When family members try to discuss their recurring, disturbing interactions, anger and frustration often result. There are many common strategic errors that lead to this outcome.

What ¨This Is Us¨ Can Teach Us About Family Dynamics

By Mariana Plata on October 03, 2017 in The Gen Y Psy
The psychology behind NBC's hit series ¨This Is Us,¨ and why it's so compelling and relatable.

Changing Roles, Changing Boundaries

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in Between the Lines
Do you feel excluded from your kids' married lives? Why that's a good thing and why it's about them, not you.

Born To Be Wild: Why Teens Take Risks, and How We Can Help

What happened to that wonderful, even angelic child we knew before he or she turned teen? Did we do something wrong…

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Create the Right Rituals

Meaningful rituals can show love by reflecting commitment, defining relationship boundaries, providing comfort, provoking memories, anchoring expectations, and providing pleasure.

What Parents Need to Address About Sex

Talking with your kids about sex to open an ongoing and effective exchange requires engaging them on five levels. Can you address the five areas where your children need you most?

How to Thrive (Not Just Survive) in Today’s Dating World

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on September 29, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Today's dating landscape is full of possibility and complexity. A professor who teaches a course on love suggests five ways to stay optimistic and empowered in the dating world.

Something Important You Can Tell Your Child

By Sheila Kohler on September 28, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
As children, my sister and I were taught not to talk about money. Other, apparently more scabrous subjects, even sex, might be mentioned sotto voce or even laughed about.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust V: Siblings: Adoration&Abuse

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood

6 Ways Highly Emotionally Intelligent People Deal With Anger

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Feeling It
How to communicate frustration without destroying your relationships.