All About Empathy

Empathy is the experience of understanding another person's condition from their perspective. You place yourself in their shoes and feel what they are feeling. Empathy is known to increase prosocial (helping) behaviors. While American culture might be socializing people into becoming more individualistic rather than empathic, research has uncovered the existence of "mirror neurons," which react to emotions expressed by others and then reproduce them.

Recent posts on Empathy

Evergreen College, the Rejection Complex, and Bullying

Evergreen State College was recently in turmoil. There were accusations of racism and bullying along with threats and a show of riot police. What's underneath the hysteria?

Grieving and Healing from the Loss of a Friend

Grieving is a process, or rather a difficult climb which requires strength, perseverance and endurance.

Decoding the Complex Brain Mechanics of Altruism and Empathy

A new study by a team of neuroscientists from Duke and Stanford University debunks the myth that a singular brain region is responsible for making decisions that affect others.

Understanding the Personality of Moral Rebels

What does it take to do the right thing in the face of social pressure to conform? And what does this suggest for claims that moral behavior is controlled by situational forces?

Imagine Falling Back in Time 600 Years — And Liking It

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on June 24, 2017 in Creating in Flow
When a good writer creates a believable world on the page, it doesn't matter where you go in time, you'll want to keep turning pages.

Where Have All Our Values Gone?

America's progressive values, long a beacon of light the world over, are in danger of deteriorating as selfishness and incivility are prominent in public discourse and behavior.

Are Not Emotions Persons?

“The only question left to be settled now is: Are women persons? And I hardly believe any of our opponents will have the hardihood to say they are not." —Susan B. Anthony

Should You Negotiate with Your Child?

Sometimes that means we just have to say no and stick to it. Even when our limit is greeted with tears. But remember, there's no reason to be mean about it.

Now What? How to Talk with Your Millennial Kids about Love

Young adults want their parents to talk with them about the complexities of romantic relationships. The "Marriage 101" professor shares some questions to help you get started.

Learning Stuff While Missing the Point

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on June 20, 2017 in Memory Medic
The best way to remember factoids is the thinking required to understand them.

First Date

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in In It Together
Are you missing the important signs of a match on first dates? Here are some characteristics of a healthy, happy match.

What Is Justice and When Is It Served?

When a court's factual findings differ from reality, it erases actual lived experiences.

How to Avoid Taking Your Work-Related Stress Home With You

If you're mistreated at work, you're more likely to mistreat your loved ones. Studies show these two strategies end that cycle.

The Factor That Administers Cognitive Control over Emotions

Some recent research on poor cognitive control and depression has overlooked four issues. This post suggests that it is cognitive understanding of reality that regulates emotions.

Understanding Anger

Anger is often denied or suppressed but communication of anger can be productive and avoid development of destructive hostility, constant anxiety, and violence..

Quick Tips to Shift Your Mood with Gratitude—Permanently!

Throughout your day, stop, breathe deeply and express gratitude for life having brought you to this moment. Notice that this doesn't take any extra time at all out of your day.

Four Possible Explanations for Online Dating Rejection

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on June 15, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Anonymity and the fleeting nature of a hook-up culture may lead to ghosting.
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Eight Tips to Help Your Partner Listen to Feelings

Sometimes the way you feel can be hard for your partner to hear. These tips will increase your chances of getting through, being heard, and having your needs met.

In Mediation, Is Empathy Enough or Even Necessary?

Proper mediation involves learned skills, some of which require an understanding of complex concepts.

Can't Get Through to Your Child?

As children develop, they naturally want to explore the world and learn for themselves. But they need to know that their parents are available, providing a safe base for them.

Your Brain on Magic

By Jen Kim on June 13, 2017 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Do you believe in magic? Here are five reasons you should.

No Syrup, Just Butter

A Father's Day story about abandonment and healing.

Understanding Your Emotions

What are emotions, how to better understand them, and when it is optimal to modify them.

What Would Gandhi Do About Trump?

The science of wisdom can help us deal with turbulent political times!

My 20-Year Journey Toward a Unified Framework

A retrospective on my work toward a unified framework for psychology and psychotherapy.

How the Brain Determines Sexuality

It has been known for a long time that early exposure to testosterone has a powerful influence on later sexuality. Now we are beginning to understand how this might come about.

Is Teaching Tolerance the Solution or the Problem?

Tolerance is part of discrimination, which explains why we have intolerance. Acceptance is the answer, not tolerance.

How (and When) to Apologize to Your Child

Apologizing for your own off-track behavior doesn't mean you don't correct your child when necessary. He'll still know who's boss.
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What Is a Psychopath?

By William Hirstein Ph.D. on June 08, 2017 in Mindmelding
The neuroscience of psychopathy has made great strides in the past fifteen years in understanding how their brains differ from those of normal people.

The Loss of a Child

By Asa Don Brown Ph.D. on June 07, 2017 in Towards Recovery
There is no greater grief, than when a parent losses a child.