What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills:

1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;

2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;

3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.

Recent posts on Emotional Intelligence

Why We Need More Empathetic and Compassionate Leaders

By Ray Williams on August 28, 2016 in Wired for Success
Recent studies have shown that contrary to some conventional wisdom, empathetic and compassionate leaders promote trust and collaboration and well being get positive results.

Flexibility and Love: Reaching Children with Cartoons

What should children do with painful thoughts and feelings? Some modern cartoonists are giving our children research based guidance that can compete with toxic cultural messages.

On a Carl Rogers Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 27, 2016 in How To Do Life
When are you defending yourself versus being defensive?

How Schools (Sometimes) Fail Our Children

By Maureen D Healy on August 26, 2016 in Creative Development
Can your child's school improve in certain areas?
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4 Myths About Mistakes (and How to Get Past Them)

Ever made a mistake? That's a GOOD thing.

Mindfulness Strategies for Anxious Children

Some children worry. Help your child become happier, calmer, and more productive with the Zorro Circle, the 20-Second Rule, or Gratitude at Bedtime.
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The Power of Healthy Shame

While toxic shame is destructive, healthy, friendly shame can offer a path toward seeing more clearly how we are affecting others. Friendly shame can get our attention.

An Era of Incivility

By Saul Levine M.D. on August 18, 2016 in Our Emotional Footprint
Living with constant incivility breeds unrest, unhappiness and discord between people. This is an incremental step towards animosity and enmity, leading to aggression and violence.

Every Game Is Serious

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 15, 2016 in On Having Fun
Do games tell stories? Do the stories they tell mean something? Do you have to ask?

I Do Not Approve of My Daughter's Relationship

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
Handling your feelings when you don't like your child's partner.

Why Someone's Disappointment Hurts Us More Than Their Anger

By Katherine Hawley Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in Trust
When you know you've hurt others' feelings, their anger can be easier to handle than their disappointment.

How We Color Our Lives With the Emotions We Desire

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in Between Cultures
"Ideal affect" offers insights into the complexities of our emotional worlds, our preferences and our behaviors.

Clashes in Class: Tech Culture & Chronic Stress

Is chronic stress silently wearing you down? As a first generation white collar worker, these tips will get you back on track!

"I'm NOT Sorry" - Why Ambitious People Don't Apologize

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on August 13, 2016 in Just Listen
If you haven't said or done anything intentionally to hurt someone, are you responsible when they feel hurt by what you said or did?

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

By Neel Burton M.D. on August 11, 2016 in Hide and Seek
Emotional intelligence is, in fact, a kind of virtue.

The High EQ Classroom

By Maureen D Healy on August 11, 2016 in Creative Development
Do you want to teach EQ to your children (at home or the classroom)?
Lisa Cron

Brain Science for Writers

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
A story coach's new book applies the neuroscience of storytelling in a practical how-to guide for writers.

"Man Plans and God Laughs"

By Saul Levine M.D. on August 10, 2016 in Our Emotional Footprint
We all experience successes and setbacks, loves and losses, pleasures and pain: How we face disappointments with courage and successes with grace are measures of our humanity.

Finding Strength in Vulnerability

By Michael F. Kay on August 09, 2016 in Financial Life Focus
Strength is admired and respected as a trait of winners; the weak are cast aside as not having what it takes. We need to reexamine what strength really means.

Have a Little More Blarney in Your Vocabulary!

7 steps you want to consider taking to pass along that “gift of eloquence” and “gift of gab” that kissing the Blarney Stone is supposed to impart!

Power and Emotion

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in Hot Thought
Interpersonal relationships operate with power based on coercion, benefits, respect, or social norms. These kinds of power depend on different emotions.

9 Habits That Can Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams

Your bad mental habits could be sabotaging your best efforts—and you might not even realize you're doing it.

Survival of the Funnest

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 08, 2016 in On Having Fun
Those individuals and species who seem on the whole to be having the most fun are those who are the most alive, most in life.

Finding Fulfillment

By Jennifer Hamady on August 08, 2016 in Finding Your Voice
Fulfillment and success aren't the result of reaching certain goals. They come from the mindset you have on the journey.

5 Ways to Deal With Feelings You'd Rather Not Feel

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on August 07, 2016 in Critical Feeling
There are five ways to stop an undesired feeling when we experience it. But be wary one obvious method, which can be poisonous.

Why Is Our Thinking So Black and White?

How does culture shape and limit each individual's ideas and beliefs?

Does Donald J. Trump Have the Temperament to Be President?

Political commentators on both sides of the isle have raised the question: does Republican presidential candidate Donald J. Trump have the temperament or character to hold what is,

3 Things You'll Experience When You Build Mental Strength

Although it takes hard work to build your mental muscle, there are some surprising benefits to becoming mentally stronger.
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Tachykinesics—Those Fleeting Behaviors That Say So Much

By Joe Navarro M.A. on July 31, 2016 in Spycatcher
Sometimes the most fleeting ephemeral behaviors are the ones that reveal what is really in the heart and the mind.

Leveling Up Your Emotional Intelligence

One of the hall marks of emotional intelligence is responding, rather than reacting. An even more subtle and nuanced aspect of emotional intelligence is reflecting.