What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.

Recent posts on Emotional Intelligence

Do Your Children Yank Your Chain?

Just because you've permitted your child to manipulate you in the past doesn't mean you can't start taking charge now. In the long run, you'll be doing him or her a favor...

Emotion Regulation Skills Reduce Procrastination

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on April 26, 2017 in Don't Delay
Procrastination is an emotion-focused coping strategy. We avoid some tasks in order to avoid the emotions they evoke. New research explains how to reduce procrastination.

Competing Commitments Part 2

If you are one of the countless numbers of people who have had difficulty achieving your stated goals, you are not alone. Don’t take it personally; it’s not your fault.....

Struggling With Temptation?

By Katherine Hawley Ph.D. on April 25, 2017 in Trust
Is it better to battle temptation, or to never be tempted at all?

Do Women Need to Play Golf to Succeed in the Corporate World

Golf has become a metaphor for membership dues, and some women simply don’t want to pay the dues.

Shouldn't Lawyers Understand the Art of Persuasion?

Lawyers could more effectively represent their clients if they understood the art of persuasion.

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

How Many Wars on the Human Psyche and Body Can We Fight?

Does language shape behavior? Does the language of war create more warlike strategies in unexpected arenas that really have nothing to do with war?

Our Partner Is a Magic Mirror

"When the practice of love invites us to enter a place of potential bliss."

How to Break the Cycle of Shame With Your Child

The more empathic you are as you set the limit, the more your child will accept the limit, and WANT to shift gears to channel his impulses into more acceptable behavior.
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Lessons from Zen Master Grandpa Jerry

By Steve Albrecht DBA on April 19, 2017 in The Act of Violence
Learn to love life's little moments.
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The Power of Curiosity

Are you truly curious? How to remain calm when someone's opinion is difficult to understand.

Competing Commitments Part 1

If simply understanding what it takes to create a happier life were enough to achieve that goal, reading a book, listening to a tape, or watching a DVD would be sufficient...

How Do Character Strengths Help (and Harm) Romance?

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on April 18, 2017 in Curious?
This is the first study to suggests that the beliefs we hold about the personality strengths of our romantic partners influence our well-being and their well-being.

How Do You Know If Your Relationships Are Healthy?

By Dan Mager MSW on April 17, 2017 in Some Assembly Required
The quality of our relationships with others is a reflection of our overall state of mental & emotional health, but our relationships also affect our mental & emotional well-being.

Relationships, the Key to Life

Thanks to the internet and media, we are bombarded with examples of self-centeredness every day.

Can You Have Too Much Empathy?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on April 15, 2017 in Wander Woman
There is a light and dark side to empathy. Knowing how to let go of the need to fix and care for someone will increase the impact of your empathy.
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Emotions as Our Mother Tongue

We strive for competency. We want a better quality of life. To achieve this, our second language, thought, not only needs but demands its mother language—emotion.

Tool to Help You Challenge Your Beliefs and Change Your Life

Have you tried to re-wire your neural net to create a better life? A practical worksheet to help you rethink the way you think and transform old mental models to serve you better.

Aphrodite and Dionysus

Lack of or a low sexual desire is the most common sexual challenge, about which physicians hear numerous complaints.

The Passion of Anger Can Be Used in a Constructive Manner

Falling into the common trap of defining emotional intelligence much too narrowly can lead to low levels of Collaboration Essentials.

How Universal Is Body Language?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on April 12, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Are emotional signals shaped by different cultures or are they universal to all humans? An ambitious new research project seeks to answer that question,

When Your Child Gets Angry: Here's Your Gameplan

Children develop emotional intelligence when we teach them that all their feelings are okay, but they always have a choice about how they act.

Create a Meaningful Summer

Planning your summer vacation? How about a meaningful epic summer adventure instead? The steps you take before you take off can make all the difference.

Transform Failure, Disaster, and Rejection Into a Fortune!

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on April 10, 2017 in Motivate!
Maybe of us underestimate the power and influence of life's darkest moments. When you learn these simple strategies you will never look at adversity like you have before.

Emotional Complexity

A few of the elements that make emotions so complicated are habituation, inhibition, constriction, and disinhibition/excitement.

When You’re Tempted to Be Direct

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 07, 2017 in How To Do Life
Tactics on tact...and when to use them...or not.
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What You Can Do When Your BFF Turns Into Your Worst Enemy

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on April 07, 2017 in Off the Couch
Frenemies aren't just for your teen years. This painful and sometimes surprising reversal occurs in the lives of women of all ages, and all over the world.
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Is It Worth Trying to Improve Our Wellbeing?

Can the wellbeing of people and populations really be improved? an interview with Professor Martin Seligman.

What Is the Importance of Nonverbal Communications?

By Joe Navarro M.A. on April 05, 2017 in Spycatcher
Why study nonverbals? Because as you will see, they matter more than we think.