What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills:

1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;

2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;

3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.

Recent posts on Emotional Intelligence

Keeping Life in Perspective

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
I want a low-stress life, and I want to live as fully as possible. I know that keeping things in perspective is a far better way of going on with this (mostly) wonderful journey.

Debate Scorecard for Hiring the President: How to Evaluate

How to bypass your biases and explore proven leadership competencies and derailers for the most important hiring evaluation. Score each candidate so you can ne be more objective.

There's Only One Way to Love: Bravely

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Loving Bravely
How do you reconcile the romanticized images of love portrayed in the media with the lived experiences of being in an intimate relationship? Let self-awareness be your guide.

How the Trump Foundation Scandal Hurts the Nonprofit Sector

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Emotional intelligence research shows how you can be in danger due to scandals that have nothing to do with you!

Political Persuasion: Aim for the Heart, Not the Head

So long as a message is emotionally congruent and consistent, both fear and hope can be equally pervasive.
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The Art and Science of Mistakes II

Why and how we sabotage our success

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

Which Candidate Will Make America Safer?

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 15, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Both candidates promise to make you safer. But which one will actually do so? This articles describes how research shows how candidates mislead our intuitions on this topic.

How Empathetic Are Americans? Gender and Generation Matter

By Christopher Bergland on October 15, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
America was ranked no. 7 in a first-of-its-kind global survey on empathy. But, not all Americans are equally empathic. Why are some Americans more empathetic to others' suffering?

Six Expressions of Love

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in In It Together
Do you and your partner have different ideas about how to express love? "Not feeling loved" is a major underlying cause of separation, so this is a conversation worth having.

What Would You Discover in the "Happiness Museum"?

By Meg Selig on October 13, 2016 in Changepower
What if there were a "Happiness Museum?" Here is what you might find inside--all based on the latest studies about positive emotion and happiness. Get happy here!
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Bruce Springsteen: Born to Be Honest

By Michael Bader D.M.H. on October 12, 2016 in What Is He Thinking?
Bruce Springsteen's new book, "Born to Run," is not only a meticulous account of his rise to musical fame, but reflects insights born of over 30 years of deep psychotherapy.

Understanding Anger as an Outgrowth of Self-Compassion

Find humanity by looking for the suffering behind anger

7 Steps to Making Sound Decisions

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on October 09, 2016 in The Squeaky Wheel
Sometimes we just can't make a decision—here is how to get unstuck.

Emotion Perception Across Cultures

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on October 09, 2016 in Between Cultures
Culture influences how we perceive facial expressions in subtle yet important ways.

The Gender Gap in the Presidential Race

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 06, 2016 in Intentional Insights
How emotional intelligence and gender norms for emotional expression might impact the presidential race

Are You Mentally Strong?

Answering these 27 questions will help you gain insight into how mentally strong you really are.

Are You Really Listening?

By Caren Osten Gerszberg on October 05, 2016 in The Right Balance
How good a listener are you—really? These five tips may change how you interact with those around you.

Are Women Queen Bees?

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on October 01, 2016 in He Speaks, She Speaks
When men argue or engage in conflict, it’s a healthy debate. When women argue, it’s a catfight.

Constructive Anger

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Face It!
Do you use anger constructively? The Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman weigh in.

Pornography: Great Fantasies, Poor Modeling

By Marty Klein PhD on September 29, 2016 in Sexual Intelligence
Are you looking at porn realistically? It is neither a documentary nor primarily violent.

Why the Pundits Are Wrong About Clinton Winning the Debate

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Most pundits focus on content in determining the debate winner. This article helps reveal the surprising role of emotional expression and emotional intelligence in the debate.

The Mirage of Sexism

By Liz Swan Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in College Confidential
Sexism is real. But what about when it's not? Find out why calling something "sexist" when it's not can be counterproductive and self-defeating.

Debate Scorecard for the Presidency: Trust

The selection of our next president is fast approaching. What is the criteria you will use to make that selection? Here's a scorecard to help you really think, consider and decide.

Why I Wish I Could Be a Narcissist

Simply put, life might be easier as a narcissist.

How Well Do You Know Yourself?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Creating in Flow
Psychological tests that are trusted by one generation may be debunked by the next. A selection of tests to learn about and try, just for fun, are found in Psychobook.

Deciding When to Demand Change

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Ambigamy
They say, "Stand strong. Don't lower your standards" and "Accept reality. Don't fight it." Just rarely in the same breath. The Serenity Prayer shows how to handle these opposites.

The (Lost) Art of Self-Reflection

If you are tired of the blame game and want to get real answers, consider engaging in a little self-reflection with these nine steps.

When You’re of Two Minds, Admit It

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Ambigamy
Is integrity being consistent or is it being honest about your inconsistency? It's both and the latter matters more.

What Does It Take to Be Happy?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Talking Apes
For ages, philosophers have debated the meaning of happiness. Now, the science of happiness tells us how to achieve it.