What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills:

1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;

2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;

3. The ability to manage emotions, including the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.

Recent posts on Emotional Intelligence

Debate Scorecard for the Presidency: Trust

The selection of our next president is fast approaching. What is the criteria you will use to make that selection? Here's a scorecard to help you really think, consider and decide.

Why I Wish I Could Be a Narcissist

Simply put, life might be easier as a narcissist.

How Well Do You Know Yourself?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Creating in Flow
Psychological tests that are trusted by one generation may be debunked by the next. A selection of tests to learn about and try, just for fun, are found in Psychobook.

Deciding When to Demand Change

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Ambigamy
They say, "Stand strong. Don't lower your standards" and "Accept reality. Don't fight it." Just rarely in the same breath. The Serenity Prayer shows how to handle these opposites.

The (Lost) Art of Self-Reflection

If you are tired of the blame game and want to get real answers, consider engaging in a little self-reflection with these nine steps.

When You’re of Two Minds, Admit It

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Ambigamy
Is integrity being consistent or is it being honest about your inconsistency? It's both and the latter matters more.

What Does It Take to Be Happy?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Talking Apes
For ages, philosophers have debated the meaning of happiness. Now, the science of happiness tells us how to achieve it.

On Being Truly in Play

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 19, 2016 in On Having Fun
Why do we play?

Conquer Public Speaking Anxiety Via Emotional Intelligence

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 17, 2016 in Intentional Insights
A few tips will go a long way to addressing any anxiety around public speaking

6 Things Predators Know About You

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
Basic principles of social influence and persuasion are effective tools for predators.

"Moonshadow" Offers Many Clues for Letting Go of Entitlement

By Christopher Bergland on September 16, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A new study pinpoints how a sense of entitlement leads to malcontent, distress, and anger. What can we do to break the cycle of entitlement? Pop music and poetry offer some clues.

How One Pilot Calmed His Passengers With Just a Few Words

By Meg Selig on September 14, 2016 in Changepower
This pilot used 4 simple communication skills to soothe the minds of his passengers. While not a "Miracle on the Hudson," he made life better for a planeload of people.

Listen To Your Heart

By Gaby Pfeifer, Ph.D. on September 14, 2016 in Mind Growth
Our ability to listen to internal bodily signals, such as our heartbeat, is known as interoception. How does interoception contribute to our emotional experiences?

Understanding Shame: Symptoms and Prevention

Shame is insidious, corrupting our self-knowledge, inhibiting our self-love. What are shame's consequences? What can we do to prevent it's toxic bite?

Grumpy Old Men (And Women) Are a Myth

By Becky Ready Ph.D., ABPP on September 13, 2016 in Your Quality of Life
If you are a healthy, older adult, your emotional resources may be at their lifetime peak.
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Happiness Comes From Within

By Robert Puff Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Meditation for Modern Life
With enough practice, you’ll be able to experience true peace of mind regardless of your thoughts.

Becoming Awed, Part 1

By Kirk J. Schneider Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Awakening to Awe
An interview with Experience Life Magazine

The Professor's Study Guide for Parents

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Social Lights
Things every college parent should know before midterms.

Is Restorative Justice Exhausting?

By Mikhail Lyubansky Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Between the Lines
School teachers and staff are already stretched thin. Is restorative justice the final straw?

How Others See You

By David Ludden Ph.D. on September 10, 2016 in Talking Apes
Our intuition is a powerful information processor that helps us make quick judgments of others, but it also has built-in biases that lead us astray.

Why Popular Dating Advice Is Keeping You Single

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on September 10, 2016 in Finding Love
Popular dating advice consistently leads single people away from the very love they are seeking. Research explains why this is and what to do about it.

How to Install Your "Emotional Reset Button"

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on September 06, 2016 in BrainSnacks
When you press your magic reset button, you instantly distract your brain from its undesirable state of arousal, and you redirect its attention to a more positive feeling state.

Ironic Faith: A Healthy Coping Strategy

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 02, 2016 in Ambigamy
An eye-opening trip to Indonesia teaches radical co-existence through ironic, stress-reducing faith.

Why It's Good to Feel Sad

By Atalanta Beaumont on September 02, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
The importance of sadness

Can We Trust Our Feelings?

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on September 01, 2016 in Critical Feeling
Learn when you can trust your feelings.

Your Feelings Are Not Your Fault (Mostly)

How much responsibility should you take for your feelings? The right balance will go a long way.

A New and Better Way to Read People

Your body can be a better tuning fork for determining other peoples’ emotions than your mind.

You Get 10 “Do-Overs” – What Would You Do Differently?

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in BrainSnacks
Suppose a magic genie came to you and said, "You get ten ‘do-overs’ – ten revisions of your personal history." What ten choices would you make differently?

Fighting: Threat and Damage as Ineffective Communication

Winning is sharing. The biomental child development perspective says: “for you to win, your opposer also must win."

The Roots of Shame

Do you sometimes think something is wrong with you? Do you know your own story and have compassion for your suffering? If not, shame may be limiting your healing.