What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.

Recent posts on Emotional Intelligence

The Hidden Gifts of the Shadow

You may have noticed that the word “shadow” has been showing up with great frequency lately in popular culture and in the media.

We're Raising a Generation of Wimpy Kids

The ultimate goal of parenting should be to work yourself out of a job. But studies show most young adults feel they lack the emotional skills they need to face life's challenges.

Life Long Learning

he Buddhists refer to such a state of openness as “beginner’s mind.” They regard this orientation as the curiosity of a child’s mind, and believe that it is an enlightened way....

Are Older People Wiser?

By Lawrence R Samuel Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Boomers 3.0
Memory worsens as we get older, but research also suggests that our strategy for the way that we process thoughts and information changes for the better.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Responding to Silences

Identifying a silence's meaning and responding according to its underlying intent can be a powerful way to show love. Matching the response to the meaning reflects intimacy.

Facing Your Depression

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers are working on a new treatment for depression you can put on your mobile device—but a self-help version is already available.

A Good Marriage Is Better Than Therapy

A loving marriage can heal old emotional wounds more effectively than the best therapy. At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.
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The Hero's Journey

Can you take the pain out of painful relationships?

The 1 Skill College Students Wish Their Parents Taught Them

We invest a lot of time in teaching young people to be academically prepared for the future, but we often overlook the skills they really need to succeed.
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The Ecstasy that Comes with Balance

My husband and I have interviewed is that one of the reasons they are enjoying their relationship so thoroughly is because they are fluid, experimental, and creative....

The Secret Life of Procrastinators and the Stigma of Delay

Rather than shame procrastinators for the way they get things done, instead let's understand motivational style differences.

How to Manage Your Emotions

By Rob Kendall on August 14, 2017 in Blamestorming
In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?

Why Technology Makes it Hard to Raise Mentally Strong Kids

While our digital devices make many aspects of life easier, electronics makes it tougher than ever to raise resilient kids.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Identify the Meanings of Silence

Silence between people who share a close relationship can have multiple meanings. Decoding them accurately is an act of love of great magnitude, permitting a loving response.

The Bandwagon Effect

The bandwagon effect is a psychological phenomenon whereby people do something primarily because others are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs.

Who's More Emotionally Intelligent, and Does Gender Matter?

Are women really poorly suited for careers in tech? One Google engineer’s claims got him fired. The facts based on personality research prove that Google made the right decision.

5 Ways to Turn Mistakes Into Valuable Life Lessons

You can gain a lot of wisdom from your mistakes. Here's how to learn the most from your blunders.

Seven Studies Show That Virtue Truly Is Its Own Reward

By Meg Selig on August 09, 2017 in Changepower
Is virtue really its own reward? These seven studies suggest that good actions actually do bring a surprising wealth of benefits to those who help others.

The Psychology of First Impressions

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers identify four facial features that drive our first impressions of others.

Two Types of Relationship Aggression Identified

Is impossible for couples to avoid arguments but new research on long-term relationships suggests that some forms are more damaging than others. Here’s how to avoid the bad kind.

Awe as an Antidote to the Polarized Mind

By Kirk J. Schneider Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Awakening to Awe
Awe-based tips for healing the social divides.

Cornering a Slippery Child

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 06, 2017 in Ambigamy
After decades with an inherently slippery child, I was able to distill his many excuses to three. If I could go back, here's how I would have tried to block each of them.

In the Eyes of the Beholder

Many of us toss around the notion of "the truth" as though there is an incontestable, objective "reality" and that we know what it is...

How to Deal With a Workplace Psychopath

Science has identified what it means to be a 'successful psychopath.' Here's how to stay mentally strong when you have to deal with a psychopath in the workplace.

30 Practices to Boost Well Being

There is a strong element of choice in our level of happiness. Indeed we do decide to be happy, but that’s only for starters. Then we are challenged to cultivate happiness.
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For, Not Against

By Matt James Ph.D. on August 02, 2017 in Focus on Forgiveness
Tired of all the negativity and contentiousness? Learn how to use "toward" motivation to be healthier and achieve your goals.

Living, Dying and the Taste of a Good Falafel

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 02, 2017 in On Having Fun
Do you think what thinking about dying (and dying in general) does for you is emphasize how much better living turns out to be?

Bystanders and Boundaries

Has this happened to you? You're chatting with a friend, when suddenly, they lean a bit closer and begin to confide in you about a mutual friend...and expect you will take sides?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Expand the Circle

Others may feel threatened when you form a new love relationship. With perspective and integrity, do what you can to include them in your life, now that you are part of a couple.

Can Technology Make Us More Human?

Do the advances in social media, artificial intelligence, robotics, and other technology threaten our basic nature as humans, or will technology enhance our humanness?