What is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits, like mood improvement and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent Posts on Emotion Regulation

Causes of Students’ Emotional Fragility: Five Perspectives

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 Freedom to Learn
The high and apparently increasing rates of emotional disorders and problems of everyday living among college students have generated great concern on campuses throughout the nation. Here I present a sample of views expressed by K–12 teachers, professors, employers, parents, and students about the sources of students’ emotional and coping difficulties.

4 Steps to Prevent a Bad Divorce

By Wendy Paris on November 24, 2015 Splitopia
While we've all heard horror stories of expensive, nasty divorces, there are steps we can take to help ensure our own break-up does not follow that model.

In Praise of Seriousness

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 How To Do Life
Upbeat is overrated.

Going Screenfree: Sheer Madness or Sheer Genius?

Whether a parent senses screen-time is having a negative impact on a child or simply feels there's way too much of it, constantly managing electronics use can drive parents crazy. Here are three tips to help parents go from thinking "something needs to change" to taking decisive action.

Why Meds Are Not a One Stop Cure for Anxiety and Depression

Have you seen all the drug commercials lately? The rise in prescriptions for anxiety and depression in America, along with increasing lifestyle illness begs our individual and collective attention and action.

The Unparented Child

Wrong child/wrong parent: how to heal a mismatch and champion your neglected inner child

12 Easy Ways to Shrink Annoying Problems Down to Size

By Meg Selig on November 20, 2015 Changepower
Got a problem? Shrink it! These 12 techniques will relieve stress by shrinking annoying problems down to a more manageable size.

Why Some Math Anxiety Might Actually Be a Good Thing

We typically think of math anxiety as universally bad for math learning, but a team of scholars have now discovered that the relationship between math anxiety and learning is much more complex.

Our Hidden Fear of Acceptance

While the fear of rejection is understandable, the fear of acceptance is less visible. The article explores how this more subtle fear operates. Being mindful of how we fear acceptance can open to door to a deeper capacity to receive the love and caring that is available.

A Gourmand’s Guide to the Passionate Life

Making sense of the emotions with psychiatrist, writer, and drink-maker Neel Burton in his Heaven and Hell: The Psychology of the Emotions (Acheron Press: 2015)

Can You Prevent a Bad Divorce . . . While Married?

By Wendy Paris on November 17, 2015 Splitopia
Committing to treating each other well, whatever happens with your relationship, can help prevent a bad divorce and strengthen a marriage.

You Can't Have Pleasure Without Pain

The research is clear - you need to endure some pain if you want to live a truly happy life.

The Reason You Are Needy

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on November 14, 2015 Wander Woman
The reason you are needy is because social needs fuel your drive to connect with others and succeed. This post will teach you how to identify your needs so you can feed them instead of reacting negatively when they aren't met.

Super Genes

How unlocking the astonishing power of your DNA can improve your health and well-being

Yale Students Demonstrate the High Cost of Too Much Safety

By Shawn T. Smith Psy.D. on November 12, 2015 Ironshrink
My generation has taught far too many youngsters that their comfort is the one variable which trumps all others—including the rights and freedoms of other people. Ironically, that lesson creates no end of discomfort.

Life After 55 When Your Death Is No Longer Unexpected

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on November 12, 2015 Obesely Speaking
In life change is constant and aging is unavoidable, but you will always be you.

The Essential Power Of Relationship

Perhaps the most important psychological discovery in years, Porges' research explains how the benevolent non-judgmental signals of the caregiver can calm the child. If consistent enough, calming relatedness is internalized, allowing us humans to engage in cooperation, reproduction, and - indeed - civilization.

Why Try to Change Me Now?

It is commonly assumed that we love someone even though we know his flaws—as love is essentially not about the partner’s characteristics, but about the lover’s attitude. Accordingly, it is not fruitful to try to change the partner’s characteristics; it is the lover’s attitude that needs to change. There is some grain of truth in this view, but the story is more complex.

The Joy of Shopping

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on November 11, 2015 A Sideways View
There is a lot of serious science involved in understanding how, when and why we shop because there is so much money involved

Being a Sedulous Ape: Good or Bad?

Learning by example, when intentional and directed, underlies true learning that is enduring and meaningful. This short piece is a “how to” discussing motivation and skill development.

Don't Let Recent Events Cause Panic at the Airport

The news is disturbing. If we keep it out of awareness, we feel better. But, avoided concerns can catch up with us. If they hit all at once as we board a flight, panic may result. We are better off if we deal with disturbing news as it happens.

Rabbit Thoughts

How to control rabbit thoughts and stop anxiety from ruining your life.

Training the Brain to Discipline Itself

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on November 05, 2015 Memory Medic
Emotional working memory training improves the ability to suppress disturbing emotional responses.

To Win an Argument, Women Need to Hold Their Temper

In the heat of an argument, it’s natural to lose your temper once in a while. Whether that meltdown will help you or hurt you in winning that argument depends on your gender. For a woman, chances are you’ll lose the power of persuasion according to new research on how juries reach their decisions.

What is Attachment Anxiety?

The attachment system plays an important role in emotion regulation allowing individuals to deal with distressing events.

Easy Ways to Curb Cravings

By Polly Campbell on October 29, 2015 Imperfect Spirituality
Cravings making you crazy? A feel simple habits can help you ease the urge to eat.

Stressed or Anxious? 5 Steps to Feeling Better Right Now

Stressed or anxious? These 5 steps will help you feel better right now

9 Ways You Can Improve Your Mental Health Today

Pick something from this article that resonates with you and try it. Making these simple changes will pay off in all aspects of your life, including boosting your mood, building resilience, and adding to your overall enjoyment of life.

Empathy and the Mind-Body Connection

By Marty Babits on October 27, 2015 The Middle Ground
The double arrow of empathy

How You Can Tell that Deep Down, Solitude Is Your Thing

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 27, 2015 Living Single
A wildly popular article identified 10 signs that you are perfectly happy with solitude. Most of them were spot-on. But the author got it wrong about the kinds of people focused primarily on fulfilling their own needs.