What Is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits, like mood improvement and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent posts on Emotion Regulation

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Brain Breaks Elude Me

By Margaret Moore on August 30, 2016 in Life Changes
Do you have a habit you would love to make? Have a closer look at your inner dialogue.

Fighting: Threat and Damage as Ineffective Communication

Winning is sharing. The biomental child development perspective says: “for you to win, your opposer also must win."

Why Art Therapy Works

What makes art therapy "work" has eluded the profession—until recently. Researchers have constructed a five-part model that summarizes the key factors.

Primary Affects

We have been exploring how our earliest, innate feelings work – Distress, Anger, Fear, Shame, and Dissmell. This month we look at Enjoyment, Shame, Disgust, and Dissmell.

7 Elements of Wisdom That Can Make You Happier as You Age

By Christopher Bergland on August 29, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
New research suggests that people tend to become happier as they age. Unfortunately, younger people are less happy than ever. This post offers insights for people of all ages.

The Cross-Cultural Significance of Emoticons

Use of emoticons differs between Japanese and American culture. With Japanese use of emoticons, the eyes are expressive; whereas with American use, the mouth is expressive.

Don’t Bee Afraid

By Jeffrey Lockwood Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in The Infested Mind
Not only are bee stings painful, but they can be deadly—and we all know this! So why would a beekeeper wear shorts and work without a veil?

10+ Ways Exercise Can Change Your Life

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on August 25, 2016 in Cravings
One of them is bound to give you the motivation you need to get moving.

Divorce an Unreliable Predictor of Aggressiveness

Even amongst a small fraction of children, severe aggression is rare.

10 Strategies to Try When You’re Sick of Being Sick

After fifteen years of chronic illness and writing a book titled "How to Be Sick," I still can feel sick of being sick.

Talking About the Past With Your Child Builds Resilience

By inviting, validating, helping and supporting your child to construct coherent narratives, you teach skills for regulating emotions and building resilience.
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Our Anger Crisis: Anger Elevates Us By Pulling Others Down?

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on August 22, 2016 in Ethics in Question
Injustice tells the world that wrongdoers and their victims are not moral equals. Can anger and retribution symbolically restore their equality?

When You've Been Bad, Is it Enough to Say You're Sorry?

Regret may seem like a watered down version of an apology but, according to new research, honest feelings of regret will have more lasting effects on behavior.

Take Back Control and Reach for the Stars

By Atalanta Beaumont on August 19, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
How to take back control and make it work for you

Burned Out on the Job? New Research Shows Why

27.8% of Americans "burn out" on the job. Here's why.

The Rise of the Monster Parent

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on August 17, 2016 in Media Spotlight
Teachers in North America already deal with parents who watch over every aspect of their child's education. But reports out of Asia say that things could be worse. Much worse.

"Healthy Anger"

Let it all hang out? Really?
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Our Anger Crisis: What Good Is Payback

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in Ethics in Question
Anger makes us want to retaliate against those who've harmed us. Martha Nussbaum says that's irrational and incoherent — is she right?

How We Color Our Lives With the Emotions We Desire

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on August 15, 2016 in Between Cultures
"Ideal affect" offers insights into the complexities of our emotional worlds, our preferences and our behaviors.

Accepting Difficult Emotions Surrounding Race

We all need to get better at accepting, rather than avoiding, difficult feelings. Anti-racism action requires embracing the discomfort.

Caught in a Stress Cycle

By Stuart Shanker DPhil on August 12, 2016 in Self-Reg
Stress cycles are impervious to ordinary self-help tips. Like “Devil’s snare”, the more you struggle the harder they grip. So it’s essential to understand when you’re caught in one

Attenuation of Arousal: The Linchpin of Emotional Regulation

By Tom Bunn L.C.S.W. on August 10, 2016 in Conquer Fear Of Flying
Stress hormones grab our attention and prepare us to run or fight, in case action is required. Thereafter, arousal needs to be sharply reduced so we can assess the situation.

More Ways Couples Misunderstand Each Other III

The very familiarity that makes us feel secure in love relationships reduces novelty and interest. Fortunately, we can deliberately activate interest at any time.

Our Anger Crisis: The Pleasure and Pain of Anger

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in Ethics in Question
Anger is a strange emotional brew: painful, but tinged with pleasurable anticipation at seeing wrongdoers suffer. Should we cultivate anger, or shun it, as Martha Nussbaum argues?

9 Habits That Can Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams

Your bad mental habits could be sabotaging your best efforts—and you might not even realize you're doing it.

5 Ways to Deal With Feelings You'd Rather Not Feel

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on August 07, 2016 in Critical Feeling
There are five ways to stop an undesired feeling when we experience it. But be wary one obvious method, which can be poisonous.
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Our Anger Crisis: Can Philosophy Help?

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on August 03, 2016 in Ethics in Question
We are facing a rising tide of anger in public and private life. Can philosophy help us navigate our way through—or even beyond—anger?

Different Core Vulnerabilities in Intimate Partners

Your core vulnerability is the emotional state that is most dreadful to you, in reaction to which you’ve developed the strongest defenses.

How to be Resilient During Election Season

Are you upset by this year's presidential campaign rhetoric?

Yes, You Can Do It! Self-Control May Be an Infinite Resource

Researchers are beginning to question the notion that self-control is a depletable resource. This is good news for anyone looking for inspiration and motivation to seize the day.