What is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits like, mood improvement, and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent Posts on Emotion Regulation

The Science of Betrayal

A betrayal by someone you trust is one of the most challenging interpersonal situations you can face in life. Whether through infidelity or a failure to fulfill a promise, betrayal leads to a desire for revenge, particularly in some people. New neuroscience research suggests who’s most likely to be hurt by a betrayal and why.

How a Health Crisis Becomes a Gift

A health crisis or any personal roadblock can feel overwhelming, make you angry or frustrated. But, let's look how to turn it into an opportunity.

How Well Do You Understand Your Emotions?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 24, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
How tuned in are you to your emotions?

10 Ways Mindfulness and Meditation Promote Well-Being

This post includes a "Top Ten" list of ways that mindfulness and meditation promote well-being based on the latest scientific research.

Does Emotional Attachment to an Owner Change in Older Dogs?

Although older dogs may appear to be more placid and less emotionally responsive, physiological measures show that this is not the case. They may actually be reacting to stress to a greater degree than they did when they were younger.

A Destination Divorce? Get Outta Town! No, Really

By Wendy Paris on April 21, 2015 in Splitopia
You don’t need to travel to get a divorce today, but purveyors of tropical divorce getaways insist you might reach a better agreement under the swaying palm trees of someplace else.

How We Frame Emotions Through Facial Expressions

How our faces express emotions is a moving window into our minds.

10 Tips to Change From Reactive to Proactive in Situations

All of us encounter experiences in life when we may be temporally overwhelmed by a negative emotion, be it anger, pressure, nervousness, despair, or confusion. In these situations, how we choose to “master the moment” can make the difference between proactive versus reactive, and confidence versus insecurity. Here are ten ways to be less reactive in difficult situations...

Harming the Innocent to Punish the Guilty

By Peter Toohey on April 16, 2015 in Annals of the Emotions
There are three harrowing stories here, one modern concerning Katherine Knight, and two from Greek mythology concerning Procne and Atreus. Mental derangement, jealousy and resentment, and profoundly dysfunctional families are at the heart of the cannibalistic stories. They dramatize the harm that is inflicted on the innocent in order to punish the apparently guilty.

Can You Really Calm Disturbing Feelings With Just One Word?

By Meg Selig on April 16, 2015 in Changepower
Can one word calm your agitated feelings? Yes! Try this simple and effective word magic and ease your distress in a nanosecond.

Dreaming Makes New Connections

By Michelle Carr on April 15, 2015 in Dream Factory
Research shows that REM sleep integrates recent emotional memories by forming broad associations to past experience. Could your dreaming style steer the connections your mind makes during sleep?

4 Ways That Breaking Up Could Improve a Relationship

By Wendy Paris on April 14, 2015 in Splitopia
Many people assume that since hate is the opposite of love, discord must be the opposite of marriage. But some former couples get along better unmarried. Four reasons why this might be true.

Newsflashes from Emotion Science

A few reflections on the themes that emerged from the second annual meeting of the Society for Affective Science, a new society dedicated to understanding our emotional lives.

12 Keystone Principles That Bolster Resilience

These 12 keystone principles will increase your resilience and help you stay brave in the face of adversity.

Holding a Grudge Produces Cortisol and Diminishes Oxytocin

Are you currently holding a grudge against someone? Is someone holding a grudge against you? This blog post offers scientific reasons and some basic advice on how-to let go of a grudge and move on with your life.

12 Ways to Replenish Your Energy

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on April 11, 2015 in Wander Woman
Do you feel exhausted at the end of the day, with little energy left for family and friends? This post will help you look at what you do that leaves you feeling drained, and then provides tips for revitalizing yourself so you have energy left for the evening.

Are Women More Emotional Than Men?

Is There Evidence of Women’s Greater Negative Emotionality All Around the World?

The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Passion

By Gregg Levoy on April 10, 2015 in Passion!
Passion can be either beneficial or detrimental, life-giving or life-denying. And it can share a border with mania. Here’s how to tell whether your passion for work and life is healthy or not.

Mindfulness: The Power of “Thinking About Your Thinking”

Taking just five minutes a day to “think about your thinking" can dramatically improve your life.

Confront Your Nightmares with Lucid Dreaming

By Michelle Carr on April 08, 2015 in Dream Factory
Lucid dreaming is the process of becoming aware in a dream. Once lucid within a nightmare you realize that there is no real danger, so you can choose to safely confront your fears.

Why Inappropriate Laughter Is Often Contagious

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 08, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
The worst case of inappropriate laughter I've ever seen—can you resist giggling when you see it?

We Break Our Own Hearts

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on April 07, 2015 in Obesely Speaking
Our perception is our worst enemy in love and addictive behaviors.

Learn to Take Back Control When Emotions Rise to Power

We’ve all had those times after a difficult situation when we’ve said, “I wish I had…” While being human involves having to face that we will always make mistakes, you don’t have to be at the whim of your emotions. You can learn to think more clearly even in the midst of powerful feelings.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship with a Sexual Narcissist

Sexual narcissism can be defined as a grandiose sense of one’s sexual prowess which, in the mind of the sexual narcissist, entitles him or her to engage in acts of emotional and physical manipulation at the partner’s expense. How do you know when your partner may be a sexual narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

What Your Oldest Memories Reveal About You

What do your childhood memories say about you? Do our early memories merit our consideration?

How Do You Feel if You Can't Read?

By Peter Toohey on April 03, 2015 in Annals of the Emotions
Real literacy rates in advanced economies are lower than you might expect. This reduces the accessibility of digital technology for many people whose literacy is not strong. The common claims that the Digital Revolution is changing the way people experience emotions – such as loneliness, love, jealousy, boredom - may need to be treated with considerable caution.

What Kind of Angry Are You? (Part 2)

In order to get the important message that anger is trying to deliver, you need to steer clear of your old, unhealthy avoidance habits and let your inner communication come through.

Do You Know Your Own Strength?

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in The Web of Violence
What is your goal in life? To be happy? Successful? Resilient? How about “psychologically regulated"? That last one might not be a popular response to the question I posed, but it should be. And I will tell you why.

Higher Rate of Depression in ADHD College Students

College students with ADHD are more likely to experience depression than their non-ADHD peers.