What is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits like, mood improvement, and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent Posts on Emotion Regulation

Anger Management Failures about "Healthy" Anger

Anger in all animals carries a powerful motivation to prevail, dominate, or retaliate.

3 Steps to Get Any Relationship Back on Track

Expert advice on how to repair or strengthen any relationship

Stop Numbing Out and Awaken to Your Life

Do you frequently numb out with food, television, social media or drama? Escapist habits quietly cheat us of the life that we're meant to live and prevent the healing that wants to take place in our hearts.

Anger Management Failures

Anger management fails for the same reason that diets don’t work.

Come Here-Go Away; the Dynamics of Fearful Attachment

Adults “fearful” attachment styles feel lonely and want closeness in relationships; at the same time, they are avoid close relationships because of possible rejection or emotional injury. Learn how understanding this style can free you of the tyranny of your emotions so that you can live with intent. You can also learn to love and help your loved ones with this style.

A Select Assortment of Books and More

Not every worthy book or DVD gets the attention it deserves. Here are a few you might otherwise miss.

Another Flashbulb Memory Bites the Dust

Guest post by a student who has a memory of September 11th, 2001, that is vivid, clear, and wrong.

A Simple Way to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
The most common forms of miscommunication that lead to heated arguments are also the ones we least expect.

A Crash Course on Happiness

Are you a "seeker"—someone who's always been interested in happiness? Have you wondered about what it would take to sustain happiness? Are you curious about the true and the fake determinants of happiness? If so, you may be in luck!

Anxious? Your Body May Be Trying to Tell You Something

Many people try to ignore, deny, or suppress their emotions. As an emotional energy builds within, they are unable to identify its source. The result? Anxiety. The cure? Increasing self-awareness and affect tolerance.

Solving Humanity’s Emotional Disorders

In the last 1% of human genus existence, mental illness has become rampant. What are we doing wrong?

New Evidence on Dreams and Memory

The dream lag effect, wherein images from daily events appear in dreams 5-7 days later, appears to be restricted to personally significant events only.

4 Steps to Shake a Bad Mood

Regardless of what is going on in the world around you, try practicing these four steps to lift your spirits instantly.

The D.I.Y. Divorce

By Wendy Paris on May 12, 2015 in Splitopia
The possibility of doing it yourself, or mostly yourself, is one reason that divorce can be so much better today than in the past. But would you be comfortable filing your divorce in strip mall next to a nail salon? It might be a better option than you'd think.

Sociability: The Core of Social-Emotional Learning

What helps children engage in learning? The cooperative capacity to interact with others—sociability— helps children absorb knowledge both inside and outside of school. Three powerful strategies can increase sociability in the classroom.

Cook Out to Keep Things Cool

Comfort food, music, and the great outdoors. A combination that's hard to beat.

How Do Your Genes Influence Levels of Emotional Sensitivity?

Neuroscientists have identified a specific gene variation that causes some people to be more emotionally sensitive.

9 Ways to Get Past Self-Pity

Mentally strong people refuse to feel sorry for themselves. Instead, they use life's inevitable hardships to grow stronger and become better.

Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel Sorry for Themselves

Every minute you spend hosting your own pity party is 60 seconds you delay working on a solution.

Is Crying Really Good for You?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 05, 2015 in Open Gently
Weeping may not make you feel better, if you're alone, depressed, or don't get a soothing response.

6 Better Ways to Share

We say that people have “no filter” when they let everyone know exactly what they’re thinking at any given moment. Although self-disclosure can promote intimacy, there are times when discretion trumps honesty in order to preserve your relationships. These 6 tips will help you develop that perfect filter.

Stop Working On Yourself and Start Growing in a Deeper Way!

The article explores how our attitude toward personal growth can hold us back. The expression "I'm working on myself" might foster a self-critical vigilance that impedes our growth rather than furthers it. Perhaps paradoxically, it is when we accept ourselves just as we are that we create a more reliable foundation for personal growth.

The Contradictions of Cliches

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on April 28, 2015 in The Prime of Life
What common clichés reveal about the popular psychology of our time.

Why Betrayal Hurts So Much (and Who Seeks Revenge)

A betrayal by someone you trust is one of the most challenging interpersonal situations you can face in life. Whether through infidelity or a failure to fulfill a promise, betrayal leads to a desire for revenge, particularly in some people. New neuroscience research suggests who’s most likely to be hurt by a betrayal and why.

How a Health Crisis Becomes a Gift

A health crisis or any personal roadblock can feel overwhelming, make you angry or frustrated. But, let's look how to turn it into an opportunity.

How Well Do You Understand Your Emotions?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 24, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
How tuned in are you to your emotions?

10 Ways Mindfulness and Meditation Promote Well-Being

This post includes a "Top Ten" list of ways that mindfulness and meditation promote well-being based on the latest scientific research.

Does Emotional Attachment to an Owner Change in Older Dogs?

Although older dogs may appear to be more placid and less emotionally responsive, physiological measures show that this is not the case. They may actually be reacting to stress to a greater degree than they did when they were younger.

A Destination Divorce? Get Outta Town! No, Really

By Wendy Paris on April 21, 2015 in Splitopia
You don’t need to travel to get a divorce today, but purveyors of tropical divorce getaways insist you might reach a better agreement under the swaying palm trees of someplace else.