What is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits like, mood improvement, and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent Posts on Emotion Regulation

Are You Mentally Strong Enough to Combat Stress?

We can't get rid of all the stress in our lives, but we can choose to increase our resilience to stress. Building mental strength protects us from the harmful physical and psychological toll stress can take.

Balancing Inhibition and Exhibition

By Gregg Levoy on March 03, 2015 in Passion!
The desire to keep your spark, your life-force, intact, will always have to contend with agents of decay and distraction. All the forces of resistance and inhibition, from within and without, that can rob you of your vitality if you let them. Here's how to referee that boxing match.

The First Myth About Positive Emotions

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Curious?
Learn about one of the big myths about positive emotions. Don't make the same mistakes that the majority of authors, journalists, and scientists are making.

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

When you feel down, discouraged or frustrated, Buddhist concepts and techniques can offer surprising relief. Here's some starter key ideas, and info on an accessible and engaging guide that can help you to learn more.

Chasing Happiness May Leave You Unhappier than Ever

Pursuing happiness for the sake of feeling better tends to backfire. But, research shows there are some concrete steps you can take to boost your mood effectively.

Finding "The One" Is Overrated: Emotionships Matter More

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Living Single
New research shows the power of having different people in your life who are good at helping you with different kinds of emotions. People with a diverse portfolio of "emotionships" are more satisfied with their lives. People who put all their emotional eggs into one relationship basket get celebrated by all the sappy love songs but they are not necessarily better off.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Minimize Distraction: When Customers Feel They Aren’t Heard

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Attention Training
As you shift from one situation to another, pay attention to how you are paying attention.

Is Your Job Ruining Your Marriage?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 27, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Most of us have had the impulse to yell at our boss or even burst into tears at work—but we typically don’t, because we don’t want to get fired. But suppressing our emotions at work can have a big impact on our home lives. Here's why:

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

By Carrie Barron M.D. on February 24, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat. Here are eight negative attitudes of chronically unhappy people...

Use 'One Good Thought' to Change Your Harmful Habit

By Meg Selig on February 20, 2015 in Changepower
To improve your life, connect with your core values. Try this simple, 5-minute technique right now!

Emotions As a Second Language - Or Should They Be Our First?

Emotional literacy is being able to feel and identify one’s feeling states. This fluency enhances emotional self-regulation, lessens over-reactivity to negative emotions such as anger, and is the basis of interpersonal emotional modulation.

Jealousy in Street Art

By Peter Toohey on February 19, 2015 in Annals of the Emotions
Does jealousy have a role in street art? Can it help to keep things fair?

4 Ways to Keep Your Cool, No Matter What

With these four simple steps we can become emotionally resilient, gracefully and calmly handling every situation that comes our way.

How to Keep People From Bringing Out the Worst in You

Reactaholism is the major addiction of our times. The others tend to start as attempts to ease the chronic powerlessness of reactaholism.

The Keys to Rewarding Relationships: Secure Attachment

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on February 12, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
If everyone could read social situations accurately, not get flooded or hijacked by strong emotions, and respond in a kind, empathetic, non-defensive and constructive manner, the world would be a more accepting and predictable place. Understanding the processes underlying secure attachment can help you get there and experience more rewarding and healthy relationships.

10 Myths About Love, Exploded

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Creating in Flow
These are some of my favorite things: the color blue, strawberries for dessert, and the emotion called love. But what exactly is love? Can you be in and out of it at the same time? Myths abound.

5 Ways to Get Your Unwanted Emotions Under Control

Being able to control your emotions is key to your happiness as well as your relationships. With these 5 strategies, you’ll be able to feel better and react more effectively to challenges both large and small.

Mindfulness and Acting

By Thalia R. Goldstein Ph.D. on February 05, 2015 in The Mind On Stage
We often ask "but what is acting" or "what are actors actually doing?" Perhaps the answer is "being mindful".

Looking to Meet Mr. Right Online?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Faster, faster, faster should not be confused with better, better, better. Turning to technology to find Mr. Right often goes all wrong as the technology itself often takes the place of human connection.

Broken Heart Syndrome

Examining the physics of broken heart syndrome

The "Precarious Manhood" of the Santa Barbara Shooter

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on February 02, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
Each new mass shooting prompts the same old explanations for the tragedy: the lack of attention paid to mental illness, the easy availability of guns, misogyny, and a socially-sanctioned sense of male entitlement. These explanations dance around the BIG question, which is why is it always a man who does this, and why is it almost always a young man?

What, Me Worry?

By Daniel Voyer Ph.D. on January 30, 2015 in Perceptual Asymmetries
Many people use worry as a coping mechanism. Are you one of them? I am one of them! Thankfully, how other people beat their worry habit can help you too as we revisit an old pop psychology book on this topic.

Ride the Wave of Winter

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on January 29, 2015 in Attention Training
You may notice that the way you feel during winter has developed into a sort of a pattern over the years.

Shame and Motivation to Change

By Lisa Rivero M.A. on January 29, 2015 in Creative Synthesis
We know the feeling only too well: Our pulse quickens. Our faces flush. The feeling is so bad that we want to escape at all costs. But is shame always bad?

When Not Talking About Past Trauma is Wise

By Carrie Barron M.D. on January 27, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Though self expression is often healing, sometimes it is better not to tell your tale of woe. For some people repeating the story re-ignites the trauma. Learning to re-direct the thoughts can be more therapeutic. Here are some suggestions.

6 Surprising Ways to Communicate Better With Your Partner

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 25, 2015 in Off the Couch
Are you having troubles talking about your feelings to someone you love? Does your partner run the other way any time you bring up the word “feeling”?

6 Ways to Get More Comfortable With Others, and Yourself

Social skills are a vital tool to promote success in life. You may think that the socially adept among us are born, not bred. These 7 simple tips can help you gain the skills you need to handle any situation with charm and grace.

The Keys to Rewarding Relationships

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on January 09, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
Relationships can be difficult and navigating them can be frustrating. Understanding how your emotional system is wired, how and why you pick up on or ignore threats of social rejection, and how your emotions and thoughts influence each other and your behaviors, you can consciously choose how to act in your social interactions and have the kinds of experiences you deserve.