What Is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques, such as meditation, that can allow you to do just that—along with various other benefits, like mood improvement and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent posts on Emotion Regulation

How Mentally Strong People Think (It's Not Always Positive)

There's a lot to be said for positive thinking--but it won't make you mentally strong. Here's how to train your brain to think

Is This What Revolution Feels Like?

What emotions are fueling the revolution? And what do these emotions tell us about what's likely to happen next?

Seasonal Affective Disorder

By Gemima St. Louis Ph.D. on December 13, 2017 in Mind Matters
The fairer time of the year has passed and winter is upon us. With that come the many individuals who will experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD).

Seven In-the-Moment Tools to Lessen Anxiety

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Are your tools for managing your stress and anxiety getting stale? It's time to try something new.

Kids with These Skills Are Twice as Likely to Go to College

All children have the ability to learn these skills, we just have to teach them. Here are five exercises you should start teaching your kids today.

Freedom and Power Must Be Grown from Inside

Living with a commitment to a balanced life doesn’t mean that we never get off track or caught up in one thing or another.

The Cure for an Imperfect Childhood

Some of us got off to a rough start in life, and for many of us, our childhood was missing the kinds of experiences that every child needs in order to thrive.

You Don't Have to Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

Our fantasy of the perfect family holiday can drive us to do more, more, more – but more of what we didn't need to begin with can't fill those deep longings. There's a better way.

Why We Kill, According to Motivational Science

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on December 07, 2017 in Motivate!
Do you think your basic psychological needs are different from those of a killer?

What You Should Read Next

As the days get shorter and the news gets more brutal, we could all use a healthy dose of fictional transportation. Here are some of my favorite 2017 reads.

How to Be a Secure Base of Attachment for the Holidays

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Does the thought of the family holiday gathering stress you out? Attachment theory can teach you to be a "secure base," lower everyone's anxiety, and enjoy your family and friends.

How Culture Affects Depression

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Between Cultures
The meaning and symptoms of depression can vary around the world. So can the ways people cope with it.

Creativity and Alcoholism

A number of prominent American writers have suffered from alcoholism in the past, but they seldom did their best writing while directly under the influence of alcohol.

Coping With Collective Trauma

By Joy Jacobs J.D., Ph.D. on November 30, 2017 in One More Bite
Has the state of the world left you feeling off balance? These simple strategies will bring you back to center.

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Child

When your emotions are "triggered," your child looks like the enemy. You can't be the parent your child deserves at those times.

Family of Choice

Borrowing relatives from other families.

Accentuate the Positive, Eliminate the Negative

Negativity can be a healthy assertion of individuality. Here are 12 ideas to support young kids’ developing independence while moving them toward a more cooperative attitude.

In Search of Constructive Conversations

Initiate, be humble, listen, find common ground, be cool, think big, keep it short, and end on a positive note.

Unloved Daughters and Holiday Triggers: Five Ways to Cope

By Peg Streep on November 28, 2017 in Tech Support
All families have their squabbles and tensions but when your family of origin is toxic and dysfunctional, the holidays are really hard. But you're not powerless.

The Power of Tiny Practices

By Dan Mager MSW on November 28, 2017 in Some Assembly Required
These five simple yet precious practices soften the heart, don’t cost anything extra and, to borrow a term from boxing, punch way above their weight.

Be Your Own Hero

Albert Einstein talked about this kind of respect when he wrote: "A human being is part of the whole called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space..."

Self-Cyberbullying

New study reports that nearly six percent of students (approximately 1 in 20) admitted to posting something cruel about themselves online.
Carl Pickhardt Ph. D.

Keeping Emotional Sobriety When Parenting an Adolescent

Parents can sometimes emotionally "lose it" with the surprising adolescent, but they can also take steps to keep their emotions in check and their judgment in charge.

Evolutionary Psychology and Enlightenment

Programed for dissatisfaction? Thank your evolutionary roots. Consider enlightenment as a strategy to improve your well-being and to become a better person.

Read this before heading home for the holidays...

Holidays, family meals, and reunions can include “spirited” conversations, and “enthusiastic” exchanges of opinions over the dinner table...

Can a 4-Step Self-Help Therapy Technique End Upset Feelings?

Therapists use this technique to help their clients gain insight and feel better. Can it also relieve upset feelings if you use it as a self-help technique?

How to Put a Stop to Catastrophic Thinking

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on November 21, 2017 in Turning Straw Into Gold
Catastrophizing is also called “magnifying.” This is a good way to think of it because it emphasizes how often we magnify unpleasant experiences way out of proportion.

The Seven C's of Thanksgiving

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Feeling nervous about an upcoming family gathering? The seven C's of Thanksgiving can help you prepare you, body, mind, and spirit for any family dynamics that come your way.

How to Weather Life’s Emotional Times

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Making Change
Strong emotions can leave you feeling helplessly tossed about. Before giving up all hope of grounding yourself, try this counter-intuitive approach: accept and observe them.

‘Tis the Season… for Emotion Regulation

Find yourself falling into familiar traps during holiday togetherness? You can keep your cool and sidestep problems with these tips.