What Is Emotion Regulation?

We all experience moments when our emotions control our actions. When this happens, we often regret the things we say or do and wish we had been able to keep our emotions in check. There are techniques—like meditation—that can allow you to do just that, along with various other benefits, like mood improvement and increased compassion and empathy.

Recent posts on Emotion Regulation

Eating Anger

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on July 25, 2016 in Cravings
You're angry because you're hurt. Don't make it worse by overeating or otherwise self-destructing; find new ways to cope.

Want To Save Yourself Years Of Heartache?

Dysregulated relationships have a hard time surviving the transition from the passion of the honeymoon period into a mature, profound, and sustainable commitment to reciprocity.

How Stress Makes Us Healthier and Happier

By Nick Tasler on July 25, 2016 in Strategic Thinking
We all know that stress kills. But what if we are all wrong? What if stress is not killing us, but carrying us?

Are You Smiling?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 24, 2016 in Talking Apes
Most people are prisoners of their emotions. Take control of yours, and you’ll see more positive outcomes in your social exchanges.

Do You Get Just What You Deserve?

How to sweet-talk yourself into getting what you need and want.

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

5 Good and Bad Ways Nature Impacts Your Emotional Health

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on July 20, 2016 in The Squeaky Wheel
By 2050, 70% of people will live in urban areas. Now consider how powerfully nature affects our minds, brains, and body as illustrated by these recent studies:

The Role of 'One-Sided Sex' in Relationships

Peace-inducing sex is one-sided sex intended to maintain industrial peace within one’s relationship. Is it beneficial? Yes and no.

The Roots of Marital Conflicts

If you want to change the way you act and feel, you have to change the way you think

How to Prevent Violence

Identify powerlessness, rejection, humiliation, injustice, unimportance, insignificance and nothing to lose by dying before they combine together in violence.

Culpably Unwarranted Delay: Is There an App for That?

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on July 15, 2016 in Don't Delay
Once it becomes clear that procrastination involves a mens rea (guilty mind), significant opportunities for intervention come into view.
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Why Is Someone Burning Homeless Men in San Diego?

A serial killer in San Diego is setting fire to homeless men. Why?

There's No One Addictive Personality

By Temma Ehrenfeld on July 14, 2016 in Open Gently
People with addictions aren't especially neurotic, dishonest or selfish.

The Poison Tendrils of Negative Emotions

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Don't Delay
A recent research summary argues that negative emotions poison every aspect of successful self-regulation. Understanding this process is key to understanding procrastination.

5 Ways to Get What You Want, on Your Terms

Always getting what you want is tempting, but also unrealistic. With some grit and goal-setting, you can get close.

Chronic Pain May Be a Memory Problem

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on July 09, 2016 in Memory Medic
A prolonged period of acute pain strengthens the emotional pathways that are activated during pain. They do not go away even after the physical pain is gone.

Rageaholics Have Less Brain Connectivity Between Key Regions

People suffering from Intermittent Explosive Disorder (also known as "rageaholics") have atypical brain connectivity, according to a new study.

7 Habits of a Happy Brain

You can build new neural pathways by feeding your brain new experiences. Here's how to choose experiences that stimulate each happy chemical.

Managing Emotions: Mindfulness, Impulsivity, and Goldilocks

Mindfulness is an affordable substitute for the real thing.
Harold Lloyd and Wesley Stout, An American Comedy / Public Domain / Wikimedia Commons

The Perils of Pursuing Pleasure

Is your philosophy of happiness making you unhappy? See why it's important to put pleasure in its place.

How Divorce Is Changing for Our Neighbors Up North

By Wendy Paris on July 05, 2016 in Splitopia
New article in Canada's largest newspaper looks at Canadian couples who co-parent cooperatively, celebrate holidays together, and even help out with each other’s laundry.

One Motivational Technique Really Works (And It's Easy!)

A massive new study has pinpointed the most effective motivational technique for improving performance—and it’s incredibly easy.

Why Hug?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on July 03, 2016 in Moral Landscapes
Cuddling with mom. Wrestling with dad. Hugging family members. Loving and playful touch contribute to well-being.
Krystine I. Batcho

Missing the Present Before It's Gone

As you contemplate how time will erase some of the present, do you feel the sadness of losing what you love or do you feel a richer appreciation for what you still have?

Why We Are Unhappy

Modern people are unhappy because they cannot experience completion... No one knows if they have reached their destination or if that end-point is years ahead.

The Brexit Age Gap

By Eyal Winter on June 30, 2016 in Feeling Smart
Were aged 65+ pro-Brexit voters trapped by nostalgia ?

Don't Panic! Stress Is Contagious

New research confirms that stress is contagious. How can you become immune to other people's anxiety? Your vagus nerve may be the antidote for catching the anxiety bug.

Tourist Psychology

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on June 26, 2016 in A Swim in Denial
In the prison of habit the tourist dreams of mind-blowing abandon

18 Things Mentally Strong People Do

Building mental strength takes hard work and commitment, but it's key to reaching your greatest potential.

The Two Faces of Nostalgia

It’s a well-known fact of life that “you can’t go home again,” and it’s how we deal with that realization that determines the emotional quality of our memories.