Understanding Embarrassment

Embarrassment is a painful but important emotion. It makes us feel bad about our mistakes so that we don't repeat them, and one of its side effects—blushing—signals to others that we recognize our error and are not cold-hearted or oblivious. Shame, a related emotion, can be felt even when no one knows about a slip-up. Guilt tends to focus on what one has done, rather than who one is.

Recent posts on Embarrassment

Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame

By Peg Streep on June 23, 2017 in Tech Support
Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

The Shame of Adult Sexual Harassment

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 20, 2017 in Minority Report
There's not much public space for adults of sexual harassment to feel safe, since adults are supposed to know right from wrong and have the language to say no. But I can tell you..

The Doctor Is In: New Web Series Explores the World of Kink

A new web series provides insight, humor and education about BDSM.

Why Do Man Buns Inspire Instant Vitriol?

By Gregg McBride on June 10, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
With the advent of social media, we’ve all become a little more “brave” in regard to sharing our opinions. The parallels to other life disagreements have not been lost on me.

The Vitamin Cocktail of Courage

Choosing to take even tiny courageous actions can be a powerful antidote to toxic shame and a vitamin cocktail for our Zesty Selves. Drink up.

Is Teaching Tolerance the Solution or the Problem?

Tolerance is part of discrimination, which explains why we have intolerance. Acceptance is the answer, not tolerance.

Overcoming Sex Addiction: A Self-help Guide

By The Book Brigade on June 08, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Compulsive sexual behavior typically conceals negative feelings about oneself—feelings that are readily treatable.

Five Embarrassing Things That Therapy Can Help With

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 07, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Many people believe that therapy is just for specific mental health disorders. But many everyday concerns—including those rarely spoken about—can be helped by it as well.

The End of Guilt

Has shame taken over from guilt as the marker of American culture? Or was guilt never very important in the first place?
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Sex Work IS Work: a Documentarian Gives Sex Workers a Voice

A documentary filmmaker dispels myths about sex workers through their own words.

The Asian Christian Sex Addict

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 05, 2017 in Minority Report
If you're an Asian, Christian, sex addict, is there a difference in your issues compared to other addicts? I would say definitely so since there are three distinct parts.

Why Shaming Doesn't Work

Many people consider shaming an acceptable way of changing behavior. Is shaming effective? Research reveals that shame is a complex emotion.
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Quiz: Self Care for the Sensitive

How narcissistically vulnerable are you? Take this quiz and learn how to protect the narcissistically vulnerable parts of yourself.

Facebook Banned Another Political Activist - Myself!

Facebook Banned Another Political Activist - Myself!
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Body Shame Is Not a Diet Plan

By Renee Engeln Ph.D. on May 14, 2017 in Beauty Sick
Fostering body shame is not an effective way to get healthy. Shame makes you want to withdraw from important activities and meaningful connections with others. Shame can be a threa
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Ghosted? 6 Ways to Make the Bad Feelings Disappear

Has this happened to you? Someone you like suddenly seems to stop liking you, and you can’t figure out why.

Should Therapists Self-Disclose?

To self-disclose or not to self-disclose: that is the controversial question.

I Thought I Was Damaged Goods!

Why don't many patients treat what they can? Why don't some doctors notice that patients feel hopeless when they shouldn't and guilty when they are aren't?

If People Only Knew

So many of us fear what we - and others - will find at our core. Why is there such an epidemic of shame in our culture?

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

How to Break the Cycle of Shame With Your Child

The more empathic you are as you set the limit, the more your child will accept the limit, and WANT to shift gears to channel his impulses into more acceptable behavior.

6 Myths About Women and Addiction

While biology and circumstances affect who is at risk for addiction in both sexes, gender can shape how trauma, loss and family influence that risk.

Religious Conflict Makes Porn Bad for Relationships

By David J Ley Ph.D. on April 17, 2017 in Women Who Stray
A new research study finds more evidence that the alleged harms from porn are actually caused by religious conflict, shame, and the "porn addict" identity.
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Emotions as Our Mother Tongue

We strive for competency. We want a better quality of life. To achieve this, our second language, thought, not only needs but demands its mother language—emotion.
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The Feelings That Underlie Our Criticisms

The tendency to be critical is very human, yet it often has destructive effects in our relationships. Uncovering our truer, more vulnerable feelings is a powerful way to connect.

When Your Boss Is a Ruthless Monster

When Your Boss is a Ruthless Monster How to reduce your daily stress and maintain your sanity

Emotional Complexity

A few of the elements that make emotions so complicated are habituation, inhibition, constriction, and disinhibition/excitement.

When and What Do I Tell My New Boyfriend About My ADD?

“How do I explain my ADD to my new boyfriend?” the transfer student asks. Our conversation captures the tension of self-disclosure.

Collective Moral Injury: A Burden We Share

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on April 03, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Moral injury is a concept mainly applied to combat veterans. How does it apply on a collective level, given the state of the world today? Here's a detailed discussion...