All About Dreaming

Why we dream is still one of the behavioral sciences' greatest unanswered questions. Researchers have offered many theories—memory consolidation, emotional regulation, threat simulation—but a unified one remains, well, a pipe dream. Nevertheless, people continue mining their nighttime reveries for clues to their inner lives, for creative insight, and even for premonitions.

Recent Posts on Dreaming

Rock On: Getting Your Teen to Talk

By Elaine Reese Ph.D. on March 31, 2015 in Tell Me a Story
Teens need to be able to disclose their thoughts, struggles, and dreams with their parents. Learn ways to communicate with your teen that help build your relationship, and that will make it more likely that your teen will keep talking to you.

Jerked Awake

By John Cline Ph.D. on March 31, 2015 in Sleepless in America
Although their cause is unknown, sleep starts are experienced by a majority of people. They occur during drowsiness or light sleep and feel like falling with a sudden jerk. Most often they are unpleasant but harmless. In some cases, however, they can cause insomnia or even sleep deprivation.

Loves Lost: One Troubled Pilot Brings Grieving to Many

One wonders how many words were left unspoken by those who boarded the plane? Will those left behind expressed gratitude because their last moments together were a blessing? Or did they part with an unkind word or look that can never be repaired?

5 Ingredients of an Extraordinary Ordinary Life

Extraordinary people exist within even the most ordinary lives. They are the ones with the knack for living genuinely and who inspire us to attempt the same.

The Top Four Reasons Relationships Fail

Committed relationships can survive ups and downs, but some patterns and behaviors can create more permanent damage. Infidelity is only one of the reasons relationships break up. These four negative patterns raise red flags about the state of your relationship or marriage. If you recognize your relationship here, it's time to change course

Language

Language represents a huge developmental leap. Think of all the things we can accomplish with our words and language. We can enhance relationships with our children. We can share feelings and ideas.

Discover the Joy of Missing Out

Turn down the noise from our wired world to reconnect with your true self and your true life.

Don't Give Up on the Difficult Patient

By Allen J Frances M.D. on March 31, 2015 in DSM5 in Distress
The most difficult patients often eventually form the deepest relationships and have the most satisfying outcomes. We are most important and make the biggest difference in the lives of the people who need us most, even if the day to day is not always smooth. With redirection, what was once the power to destroy can now become the power to heal and create.

Commit to Self-Compassion

By Wendy Paris on March 31, 2015 in Splitopia
Self-compassion is a powerful force when it comes to getting through a divorce and getting on with your life.

The Sleep and Dream Database

The SDDb is a free, open access resource for empirical dream research using simple yet powerful and highly flexible tools of analysis.

Sleep Is a Turn On

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in Sleep Newzzz
Sleep may have a significant role to play in the health and vitality of our sexual lives.

Why Create Minor Characters in a Novel, Story or Essay?

By Sheila Kohler on March 30, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Russian stories are often filled with a vast number of minor characters whose names we may find difficult to pronounce or remember. So why does Turgenev, for example, in a short story like Mumu ( 1854) give us not only his main character,Gerasim, the wonderful deaf and dumb serf, but the woman he belongs to, as well as a tailor, Kapiton Klimov who is a sad drunkard.

Night Terror

By John Cline Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in Sleepless in America
Sleep terrors are a type of parasomnia that arise out of non-rapid eye movement sleep and involve intense fight-or-flight reactions. They are not nightmares, which occur during rapid eye movement sleep. They are usually not remembered by the person having the sleep terror but are hard to forget for the people nearby who are awakened by the frightening sound of screams.

Murder in a Locked Room:

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in A Swim in Denial
In a paradox worthy of Greek tragedy, the fortified cockpit door to Germanwings Flight 9525 invited the mass murder it was meant to prevent. Can we make sense of a co-pilot’s rampage?

Don't Let Anxiety Hold You Back From Living Your Dreams

Are anxiety and excessive caution getting in your way and stopping you from living a more meaningful and fulfilling life. Avoidance feeds on itself and makes you less confident, while getting started and taking action creates a positive cycle that naturally helps your anxiety go down. Learn five effective ways to get a handle on anxiety so you can move forward.

How To Keep The Reader Reading

By Sheila Kohler on March 29, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Suspense often lies in putting a vulnerable creature into a dangerous position. Thus it comes from within ( the vulnerability) and without ( the outer danger) or to put it differently from the character, himself, or from the world outside him.

From “wow” to “meh” – 8 ways to deal with any letdown

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 28, 2015 in Off the Couch
Has this happened to you? You love everything about your new job – your terrific boss, your fabulous co-workers and your first assignment. Even your little cubicle is in the perfect location, with a bit of sunlight from a nearby window and near all of the right people. And then, sometimes all of a sudden, sometimes just bit-by-bit, you start to feel less excited.

You're Okay . . . That's All You Need to Remember

The desire and expectations you have for your own personal growth should be tempered by the acknowledgement that you are okay and that you, alone, know yourself best.

Megan Kruse: The Driving Force of Desire

By Jennifer Haupt on March 27, 2015 in One True Thing
"I know there are people who have always known their destinations. When I worry that I’m getting nowhere, I try to remember the power of never attaining. What would it mean to want for nothing? I can only think that to stop wanting would snuff out the candle of the glittering next life."

On the Wisdom of Taking a Lover

By Sheila Kohler on March 27, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
When my ex- husband announced he had fallen in love with another woman, he said he still loved me and was not sure what to do. He felt terribly guilty as did his mistress and he had to tell me the truth. We had been married for ten years and were both in our early thirties

Let´s Go to the Movies

By Ana Nogales on March 26, 2015 in Family Secrets
Movies have the ability to change our attitude, how we think and feel, and even our values.

10 Reasons You Should Go to Sleep Right Now

On the myriad benefits of sleep, glorious sleep.

The Infestation Begins: Terror on the Prairie

What if a doctor fainted at the sight of blood, an actor trembled when facing an audience, or an entomologist panicked amidst a swarm of insects? Professionals might have access to certain knowledge and skills, but experts are humans. So what does a scientist do when he loses his nerve and can no longer sustain a safe, psychological distance from the object of his study?

The Tolerable Distance of Closeness

Being physically close to your lover is central to romantic love. Indeed, temporal and geographical closeness typically increases emotional closeness, and this often makes distance seem intolerable. Some kind of distance, however, must remain even between two lovers. What is the nature of such distance, and is it indeed intolerable?

Are You a Traumatized Woman?

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on March 24, 2015 in The Time Cure
When we peruse the landscape of our world half the women we see have experienced a life-altering traumatic event, perhaps a natural disaster like a tornado, or a human-made disaster such as a car accident. And 1 in 3 women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. But this number is probably much higher because these are only reported cases.

Setting Goals As a Couple Gets Results & Builds Your Bond

Creating goals as a couple is one of the most powerful and connecting things you can do. Have fun with it and see where it takes you, there is nothing better than sharing your success with someone you love.

The Best Reason to Get a Good Night's Sleep

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on March 23, 2015 in Minding the Body
In a recent study, getting an extra hour of sleep increased women’s likelihood of having sex with a partner the next day by 14 percent.

Signs You're Taken for Granted

By Kimberly Key on March 21, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Don't settle. Love exists. Test to tell if you're not getting the nurturing you need.

Wresting Meaning from Loss

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 21, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Coping with loss -- then and now.

Collaboration, Willingness, and Leadership

Certainly, those of us who want to put collaboration at the center of how we function are swimming upstream. What’s most needed, in my mind, is the empowerment of all to be able to express their needs and perspectives and, simultaneously, be interested in the needs and perspectives of others and in finding a solution that works for all.