Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent Posts on Domestic Violence

Why Can Domestic Violence Get Passed From Parent to Child?

It can be hard to understand why a child who is exposed to domestic violence might go on to experience violence in later adult relationships.

Could Women Be as Violent as Men?

The Data Doctor answers a question about gender patterns in domestic violence and whether women could really be as violent as men.I also briefly comment on the Hoffman report regarding APA collusion in waterboarding and other torture post 9/11.

Can Abuse Be Invisible?

By Craig Malkin PhD on July 12, 2015 in Romance Redux
All abuse has a legacy. If we want to end emotional abuse, we can start by educating people about what it is and how it works.

Are Gay & Lesbian Couples as Violent as Straight Couples?

As we achieve marriage equality for LGBTQ and heterosexual couples, the Data Doctor answers a question about the dark side of relationships.

"Love Hormone" Oxytocin Linked to Domestic Violence

Oxytocin, which leads to trust and attachment, may also lead to possessive and abusive behaviours.

The Diseased States of America

By Stanton Peele on June 23, 2015 in Addiction in Society
If addictions are life-long diseases, we're all doomed.

Identifying The Next Mass Murderer—Before It’s Too Late

By Joe Navarro M.A. on June 21, 2015 in Spycatcher
We average 20 mass murders a year—what can be done?

Ask the Data Doctor

Sorting through science have you feeling achy and blue? Let the Data Doctor decipher the data for you. I help researchers, practitioners, students, and policy makers make sense of science on violence, victimization, resilience, and related psychological topics.

Come Here-Go Away; the Dynamics of Fearful Attachment

Adults “fearful” attachment styles feel lonely and want closeness in relationships; at the same time, they are avoid close relationships because of possible rejection or emotional injury. Learn how understanding this style can free you of the tyranny of your emotions so that you can live with intent. You can also learn to love and help your loved ones with this style.

The Sad Case of The Duggars

How The Duggars Situation Contributed To Sex Abuse

A Select Assortment of Books and More

Not every worthy book or DVD gets the attention it deserves. Here are a few you might otherwise miss.

Boxing and Domestic Abuse

Why boxing is not a causal factor behind domestic abuse

I Have To Leave My Kids:Help

What To Do When You Feel Trapped At Home

8 Reasons It's So Hard to Overcome a Tough Childhood

Trauma experienced in childhood has special power to wound and can often lead to alcohol and drug use as a way to numb the pain or, conversely, to feel something, as those of us in the addiction treatment field know too well. But help is available and the recovery process can be helped along with an understanding of the things that so commonly get in the way of healing.

Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, MD, Inaugurated

Surgeon General Vivek Murthy's inaugural speech calls for civic leaders to ignite discussions on mental health, and to bring the topic "out of the shadows".

Why You Can’t Reason with a Verbally Abusive Partner

Verbal abuse can be ever so subtle. Yet it leaves the victim of the abuse in a lot of pain and confusion. Believing in a different reality where people reason and communicate in rational ways with each other, the victim of the abuse tries to make sense of her abuser’s treatment of her. That is the wrong way to deal with this type of abuse.

Harming the Innocent to Punish the Guilty

By Peter Toohey on April 16, 2015 in Annals of the Emotions
There are three harrowing stories here, one modern concerning Katherine Knight, and two from Greek mythology concerning Procne and Atreus. Mental derangement, jealousy and resentment, and profoundly dysfunctional families are at the heart of the cannibalistic stories. They dramatize the harm that is inflicted on the innocent in order to punish the apparently guilty.

Kicking an Abuser Out of Your Life, and Out of Your Head

Kicking an Abuser Out of Your Life, and Out of Your Head. Ending an abusive relationship requires leaving physically and psychologically. By Avigail Gordon , M.A.

When Did “Victim” Become a Bad Word?

Our culture discourages people from acknowledging and/or talking about a victim's suffering. Many people feel embarrassed when they feel bad.. It’s as if they’ve done something wrong—as if their personality or their character has failed them in some way. It’s no wonder that many victims believe that to acknowledge their pain and suffering is to “feel sorry for themselves.”

Everything Ends Up as Pornography

By Steve Albrecht DBA on April 07, 2015 in The Act of Violence
Internet access to pornography is negatively reshaping dating relationships Millennials have with each other.

Should We Call it Postpartum Depression?

For reasons that are both straightforward and extremely complex, I just think the terminology should be different.

Shaping Women's Lives: Our Bodies, Ourselves

"Our Bodies, Ourselves" is listed in the Library of Congress "Books That Shaped America.” Since its original publication more than 40 years ago, the book set a foundation for evidence-based, culturally appropriate information on women’s health, sexuality, and reproduction. Co-author Judy Norsigian says, “Gatekeepers no longer have the control they had in the past.”

Racism: Our Collective Complicity, Denial and Naiveté

To honestly confront the psychological illness of racism, America needs a true mirror, one that reflects our light and our shadow; one that provokes a real moral and spiritual awakening.

To Prevent Sexual Violence, Campuses Turn to Bystanders

By Guest Bloggers on March 23, 2015 in The Guest Room
To combat attacks on college-aged women, researchers are developing programs to teach incoming students to be better bystanders.

Why Childhood Stress Crimps Academic Performance

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in The Human Beast
Animals from an environment full of risk remain vigilant and avoid exploring their surroundings. This promotes survival but has the indirect consequence of reducing their cognitive ability. A similar pattern applies to humans and shows up as academic under performance.

Misdiagnosis of Men With Borderline Personality Disorder

By Randi Kreger on March 17, 2015 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
Like women with BPD, men may come from troubled pasts and unstable relationships. At age 3, borderline football star Brandon Marshall witnessed his father nearly beat his mother to death—for the first time. He also lived with his father's drug use and vicious assaults toward women.

Are You in an Abusive Relationship with Money?

There’s one type of abusive relationship that’s still tolerated in this country: It’s the abusive relationship too many of us have with money.

Cyberstalking: The Fastest Growing Crime

The shift to living virtually has happened so quickly and so pervasively that we have hardly had time to adjust to all the implications. Cyberstalking is a compulsion. It aims to humiliate, control, frighten, manipulate, embarrass, get revenge at, or otherwise harm the victim.

Blaming the Victim

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Memory Medic
"What did we do to make them hate us so much?"

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.