Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent Posts on Domestic Violence

Shaping Women's Lives: Our Bodies, Ourselves

"Our Bodies, Ourselves" is listed in the Library of Congress "Books That Shaped America.” Since its original publication more than 40 years ago, the book set a foundation for evidence-based, culturally appropriate information on women’s health, sexuality, and reproduction. Co-author Judy Norsigian says, “Gatekeepers no longer have the control they had in the past.”

He is Verbally Abusing Me: Why Me?

A victim of verbal abuse may manage to get out of an abusive relationship and feel relieved, but then meet someone new who is also an abuser. Or she might manage to get out of a relationship but then realize that her colleagues or friends are verbally abusing her too.

Violent Expression: Sign of Our Deep Need to Communicate?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on March 26, 2015 in The Dolphin Divide
When notions of fair play are violated, our ability to speak helps keep the peace. We are capable of sudden, violent physical outbursts, but calm expressions of anger through language can keep us from resorting to brute force – sometimes.

Racism: Our Collective Complicity, Denial and Naiveté

To honestly confront the psychological illness of racism, America needs a true mirror, one that reflects our light and our shadow; one that provokes a real moral and spiritual awakening.

To Prevent Sexual Violence, Campuses Turn to Bystanders

By A Guest Blogger on March 23, 2015 in Brainstorm
To combat attacks on college-aged women, researchers are developing programs to teach incoming students to be better bystanders.

Why Childhood Stress Crimps Academic Performance

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in The Human Beast
Animals from an environment full of risk remain vigilant and avoid exploring their surroundings. This promotes survival but has the indirect consequence of reducing their cognitive ability. A similar pattern applies to humans and shows up as academic under performance.

Misdiagnosis of Men With Borderline Personality Disorder

By Randi Kreger on March 17, 2015 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
Like women with BPD, men may come from troubled pasts and unstable relationships. At age 3, borderline football star Brandon Marshall witnessed his father nearly beat his mother to death—for the first time. He also lived with his father's drug use and vicious assaults toward women.

Are You in an Abusive Relationship with Money?

There’s one type of abusive relationship that’s still tolerated in this country: It’s the abusive relationship too many of us have with money.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

Cyberstalking: The Fastest Growing Crime

The shift to living virtually has happened so quickly and so pervasively that we have hardly had time to adjust to all the implications. Cyberstalking is a compulsion. It aims to humiliate, control, frighten, manipulate, embarrass, get revenge at, or otherwise harm the victim.

3 Major Warning Signs of Relationship Trouble

Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Yet, 53% of marriages in the U.S., 48% in Canada, 47% in the U.K., and 43% in Australia end in divorce. What are some of the major warning signs of a relationship in trouble? Here are three key indicators based on research...

Jodi Arias Update

The Jodi Arias jury deliberations continue.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Blaming the Victim

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Memory Medic
"What did we do to make them hate us so much?"

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.

The Angry Asian Showdown at the Social Media Corral

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on February 23, 2015 in The Pacific Heart
The "Angry Asian Man" (Phil Yu) and "Angry Asian Girl" (Lela Lee) are involved in a dustup that some say has "damaged the Asian-American community." Here's my take on the social media firestorm. My takeaway: depending on social media to connect us is a really, really big mistake. The medium itself is inherently flawed and beyond repair.

Witnessing an Abusive Relationship -- 'Whiplash': the Movie

By Barbara Schildkrout on February 22, 2015 in The Clinical Picture
This psychological review of the film "Whiplash" discusses one of the most powerful but least apparent dynamics in an abusive relationship -- the manipulation of truth. “Whiplash” was nominated for Best Picture 2015. J.K. Simmons won the award for Best Actor in a Supporting Role.

Escaping Across the Border Through Art

By David Gussak Ph.D., ATR-BC on February 19, 2015 in Art on Trial
Often, women who are emigrating from Mexico—sometimes illegally—may be doing so to escape from violence and suffering. Sometimes, they escape towards it. This post examines how one art therapist, guest blogger Valentina Castro, uses art to help endure and heal from such pain.

What 50 Shades of Grey Tells Us About Women

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Good Thinking
The phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Grey is telling something important about the female psyche.

Why Does the Fifty Shades Movie Look Like Domestic Abuse?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 16, 2015 in SexualityToday
In the theater, I realized that the idea of Fifty Shades just being fantasy and therefore innocuous doesn't completely work. Some of the fantasy on-screen struck me as too close to the things people put up with in real life.

The Way We Were?

By Phil Zuckerman Ph.D. on February 11, 2015 in The Secular Life
Life was not better when religion was stronger

Domestic Violence: Why I Stayed and Why I Left

By Cathy Scott on February 09, 2015 in Crime, She Writes
Writer tells personal experience and advises those suffering from physical abuse after a victim tells her story on the Grammys

Understanding PTSD, TBI, Suicide and Student Veteran Success

Research shows that the transition from the intensity of military life to a more independent civilian life can be overwhelming. Recognizing and understanding special symptoms supports the important objective of increasing the success of many veteran students on campus. It is important to share this information about the needs of student veterans.

“Je Suis Moath al-Kasasbeh”

By Dr. Kathryn Seifert on February 07, 2015 in Stop The Cycle
ISIS and other terrorist groups enraged the world with their actions. Fighting terrorists with lethal weapons will be part of, but not the entire answer. Examining the roots of terrorism will lead the world to ideas about prevention.

Broken Heart Syndrome

Examining the physics of broken heart syndrome

NFL Message: Just Go Punch Someone

By Stanton Peele on February 02, 2015 in Addiction in Society
The NFL wants players to eschew unjustified, irrational, emotionally-driven violence—except if they feel like hitting people.

NO MORE: 7 Lessons from the Inside

By Mitch Abrams Psy.D. on February 01, 2015 in Sports Transgressions
With the long overdue awareness of dating and sexual violence finally being raised with No More public service announcements and greater media attention in general, this offers some recommendations to help prevention really hit its mark.

School Shooters: There Is No Sound Bite

By Peter Langman Ph.D. on January 31, 2015 in Keeping Kids Safe
My new book summarizes research on forty-eight school shooters, going beyond sound bites to a more in-depth analysis of the lives and minds of the perpetrators.

James Holmes: A Psychiatric Analysis

Is James Holmes a victim of insanity or a calculating killer?

How Do You Feel About Mondays? 4 Upsides to Work

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on January 26, 2015 in The Web of Violence
Popular culture often talks about the downside of work, but workplaces are where many of us find important sources of self-esteem, validation, and support.