Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent posts on Domestic Violence


Is Your Relationship Toxic?

You may not realize your relationship is harming you or be able to leave. Find out the symptoms, whether there's hope for change, and steps you can put into action.

Dating and Coercive Control

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on March 01, 2017 in Mind Games
A thousand women with controlling partners missed their partner's coercive tendencies while dating.
Source: Philadelphia PD

Lost Boy, Still Needs Name

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on February 25, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
America's Unknown Child is still an unnamed crime victim after 60 years.
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Five Management Approaches to Workplace Violence Prevention

By Steve Albrecht DBA on February 19, 2017 in The Act of Violence
Companies can stop workplace violence if they follow these five steps.

Controlling Your Partner Is Illegal, But Not in the U.S.

By Lisa Aronson Fontes Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Invisible Chains
Domestic violence victims in the U.S. have less protection than in some other countries. Laws in England now make controlling a partner illegal.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship With a Gaslighter

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on February 15, 2017 in Communication Success
How gaslighters emotionally manipulate, traumatize, and exploit victims in personal and professional relationships.

Why Gaslighters Accuse You of Gaslighting

Gaslighters frequently accuse their victims of manipulating, cheating, and being addicted. Why do gaslighters do this, and why does this tactic work so well?

Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Social Lights
How to care for yourself amidst the chaos of caregiving.

Valentine’s Day Alarm: Violence Against Women by Budget Cuts

By Paula J. Caplan Ph.D. on February 10, 2017 in Science Isn't Golden
The elimination of funding for the Violence Against Women Act must be prevented.

Leaving the Abusive Relationship

Happiness is an inside job which starts with a positive self-image.

From Mice to Men?

By Joni E Johnston Psy.D. on February 02, 2017 in The Human Equation
A recent rash of animal killings in Canada have raised new questions about a budding serial killer. Do serial killers target animals first? Here's what the research says.

Why Does Rape Happen?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on February 01, 2017 in Media Spotlight
How are victim blaming, sexual objectification, and sexual scripting linked to sexual assault? New research explores this disturbing question

Are Gaslighters Aware of What They Do?

Are gaslighters aware they are manipulating others? It depends on the gaslighter.

Sex Offender Laws: Fair for Some, Draconian for Others

Why do people think that every sex offender should rot in prison?

Efforts to Reach Human Trafficking Victims are Falling Short

Working with victims of domestic violence does not translate into adequate training to handle human trafficking cases. We must come up with a separate approach for these victims.

What Can We Do About Domestic Violence?

By Sheila Kohler on January 22, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
Sometimes, I suggested she simply leave the country, run away, but she told me her husband had the children’s passports kept in his safe. She couldn’t abandon six children.

Hidden Mental Health Harm in Intimate Relationships

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on January 19, 2017 in Mind Games
Coercive control in intimate relationships is entrapping and damaging, yet hard to detect.

Leaving the Abusive Relationship

It is possible to leave an abusive relationship and create a new life.

Physical Punishment and Violence

To paraphrase Abe Lincoln, if hitting a child is not wrong, then nothing is wrong. If we truly want to decrease violence in our society, not hitting our children is a good place.

Our Oh So Violent Holidays at Home

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on December 18, 2016 in Nurturing Resilience
Child abuse, assaults with guns and knives, and other types of domestic violence are much more likely to occur during the holidays when families spend more time together.

How to Stop Verbal Abuse

The only effective way to put an end to particular instances of verbal abuse is to call out the abuser each time they strike.

When Love Becomes Infiltrated by Hate

Passionate love and hate are obsessive emotions, whereas indifference is a a kind of numbness that likely sparks an absence of action as opposed to reaction.

Psychological Abuse of Seniors, Part II

There are many warning signs indicating psychological abuse that we can spot when we visit the elderly in their homes, care centers and elsewhere. What are the most common ones?

Is My Son Being Abused By His Girlfriend?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when you don't like your child's partner

A Young Feminist's Compassionate View of Men

The Red Pill is the story of a young feminist who did something few feminists have done: She listened as non-judgmentally as possible to men and women in the men's rights movement.

Further Thoughts About Abuse Causing Criminality

A further look at the conventional wisdom

Trump and Coercive Persuasion

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on November 20, 2016 in Mind Games
Trump's win is not a validation of controlling partners. Rather, it's an opportunity to learn from his public behavior about coercive persuasion and psychological manipulation.

Family Matters When It Comes to Becoming a Bully

Are family characteristics linked to becoming a bully? Yes, and that gives the family preventive power.

Why People Struggle to End Verbally Abusive Relationships

A person with an otherwise accurate theory of mind will repeatedly make the wrong predictions about verbal abusers.