Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent posts on Domestic Violence

What Are the Roots of Distress Among Refugees?

Research is changing the way we address the mental health needs of refugees.

Help Rejecting, Complaining Victims of Troublesome Spouses

How should you respond to a friend who is always complaining to you about their mate, but rejects any suggestion you make to them about how to handle their relationship?

If I Can't Have You, No One Can

How can we predict who will kill someone s/he once loved? Look at the dark clouds in the relationship to predict storms after a breakup.

My Mother Has Disliked Me Since Childhood

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How To Deal With A Mother Who Is Full of Anger.

Beware: On a First Date, Red Flags Can Look Red Hot

Beware dangerous liaisons. On a first date, exciting, assertive people perceived as desirable might be dangerous. Get to know prospective partners before getting involved.

When Words Can Kill

The power of words can traumatize and ultimately lead to suicide, or they positively lead to healing. Here's how.

Two Types of Relationship Aggression Identified

Is impossible for couples to avoid arguments but new research on long-term relationships suggests that some forms are more damaging than others. Here’s how to avoid the bad kind.

A Feminist Critique of Marriage

By Neel Burton M.D. on August 04, 2017 in Hide and Seek
At a time of unparalleled social freedom, can we imagine a better way of living?

What The Handmaid's Tale Can Teach Us About Coerced Women

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on July 18, 2017 in Mind Games
Current attention to women's rights begs us to address what's behind closed doors.

If Gandhi Was Your Marriage Therapist

Research has found that Gandhi's principles of fairness, peace, and principled protest can also change your love life.

Long-Term Effects of Violence Toward Animals by Youngsters

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on July 09, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Encouraging youngsters to kill other animals can have devastating and enduring effects. A phenomenon called "the link" should concern New Zealanders as they wage war on wildlife.

Gaslighting: How it Manipulates Relationships

How gaslighting controls, dominates, and exploits relationships.

Trauma-Informed Care and Why It Matters

Individuals’ coping reactions to trauma remain poorly understood, even by many of the people who are in the best positions to offer support and treatment to victims.

Family Cutoffs and Relationship Disintegration

Why relatives cut each other off.

More Porn, Less Rape? The Controversy Revisited

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 02, 2017 in All About Sex
Does pornography contribute to sexual assault. Retrospective trials says yes, but prospective trials say no. Prospective trials are much more credible. So, more porn, less rape.

Beware of Narcissists Around Your Pet

Narcissists may neglect and abuse your pet. Your pet is seen by the narcissist as a distraction from putting your full attention on them. Watch for these signs.

Reflections on LGBTQ Rights

By Robert Dingman Ed.D. on June 30, 2017 in Mind Matters
One highly alarming consequence of the marginalization of LGBTQ individuals is vulnerability to human trafficking. How do we stop this?

Unable to Bury a Dead Love

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on June 27, 2017 in Obesely Speaking
Pretending to be happy is easier than actually being happy sometimes.

The Connection Between Migraines and Psychological Trauma

By Jean Kim M.D. on June 26, 2017 in Culture Shrink
Migraines may have a neurobiological connection to the same systemic pathways that affect trauma and mood, and can occur more frequently in people with a history of abuse.

Sometimes Amazing Things Happen

An estimated 15% of these incarcerated men and women will have a serious mental illness, and approximately 50% have an active substance use disorder, or both.
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Cyber Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on May 31, 2017 in Media Spotlight
With the rise of social media and smartphones, cyberbullying and other forms of online harassment are becoming more common. This seems to be especially true for domestic abusers.

Coercion in Intimate Relationships

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on May 30, 2017 in Mind Games
For 23 years, I heard experiences from women in my Recovery Groups for Women with Controlling Partners, that therapy was unhelpful and actually hurtful.

Digital Abuse in Relationships: What You Need to Know

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on May 17, 2017 in Connected
Learn how, and how often, digital technology is being used by domestic abusers to victimize their partners.

The Victim Is To Blame

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on May 08, 2017 in Am I Right?
There is a reason why some blame the victim: it is a matter of their moral system.

7 Stages of Gaslighting in a Relationship

How gaslighters emotionally manipulate, traumatize, and exploit victims in personal and professional relationships.

Coercive Control of Women

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on April 28, 2017 in Mind Games
"Are we all talking about the same man?" asks a woman in a recovery group for women with controlling partners.

5 Types of Subtle Verbal Abuse in Relationships

Verbal abuse can be very subtle. This may partially be why you are in doubt about whether you are in that kind of relationship with your beloved.

Please Yell at Me

By Asa Don Brown Ph.D. on April 21, 2017 in Towards Recovery
Have you ever found yourself uncontrollably yelling?

How Many Wars on the Human Psyche and Body Can We Fight?

Does language shape behavior? Does the language of war create more warlike strategies in unexpected arenas that really have nothing to do with war?

Police 'Blue Wall of Silence' Facilitates Domestic Assault

The “blue wall of silence”—an unwritten code to protect fellow officers from investigation—perpetuates domestic violence in officers' homes.