Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent posts on Domestic Violence

The Only Way to Stop Verbal Abuse

The only effective way to put an end to particular instances of verbal abuse is to call out the abuser on each occasion.

When Love Becomes Infiltrated by Hate

Passionate love and hate are obsessive emotions, whereas indifference is a a kind of numbness that likely sparks an absence of action as opposed to reaction.

Psychological Abuse of Seniors, Part II

There are many warning signs indicating psychological abuse that we can spot when we visit the elderly in their homes, care centers and elsewhere. What are the most common ones?

Is My Son Being Abused By His Girlfriend?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when you don't like your child's partner

A Young Feminist's Compassionate View of Men

The Red Pill is the story of a young feminist who did something few feminists have done: She listened as non-judgmentally as possible to men and women in the men's rights movement.

Further Thoughts About Abuse Causing Criminality

A further look at the conventional wisdom

Trump and Coercive Persuasion

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on November 20, 2016 in Mind Games
Trump's win is not a validation of controlling partners. Rather, it's an opportunity to learn from his public behavior about coercive persuasion and psychological manipulation.

Family Matters When It Comes to Becoming a Bully

Are family characteristics linked to becoming a bully? Yes, and that gives the family preventive power.

Why People Struggle to End Verbally Abusive Relationships

A person with an otherwise accurate theory of mind will repeatedly make the wrong predictions about verbal abusers.
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3 Tips to Stay Safe When an Ex Becomes a Stalker

By Joni E Johnston Psy.D. on November 15, 2016 in The Human Equation
When a stalker is a former lover, the victim must be aware of the psychological blind spots that can increase her risk.

We Have the Right to Resist

By Ariel Gore on November 11, 2016 in Women and Happiness
The jump to normalize all of this feels very familiar to those of us who know too much about domestic violence. We reject that normalization.

Psychological Abuse of Seniors, Part 1

Psychological abuse tends to be overlooked compared to many forms of physical abuse, which can be more apparent and easier to prove.

Vampires Are Real

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on October 31, 2016 in Cui Bono
While the formidable qualities of bad boys make them excellent protectors, these same qualities also make them potentially dangerous to women.

The 5 Stages of a Relationship's End

When relationships come to an end, they often go through a series of predictable stages. New research shows how to tell whether you're ready to move on.

You’re Not Crazy⎯He’s (or She's) Controlling!

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on October 22, 2016 in Mind Games
Psychological abuse incites greater fear and impacts a woman's or man's psyche and sense of wellbeing to the same extent as physical abuse.

Childhood Sexual Abuse: How Men Can Help Women Recover

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 17, 2016 in All About Sex
One woman in six has survived child sex abuse. Even years later, men can help them recover. Here's how.

When Politics and Rape Culture Collide

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in The First Impression
In what ways does the most recent scandal as the presidential election nears represent a collision between rape culture and politics?

If You Meet a Shark in the Dating Pool, Swim Away!

Beware that "soulmate" feelings may be echoes of former trauma that may lead us into a relationship that will morph into the nightmare of the abusive situation.

I Don't Know How to Handle My Complicated Mother

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 11, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
How to handle a complicated mother

How Could Voters Give Trump a Pass on Misogyny? Here’s How

By Ryan P. Brown Ph.D. on October 08, 2016 in Honor Bound
Will Donald Trump's supporters abandon him in the wake of his openly sexist comments, caught on video? Recent research reveals why they might not.

9 Youth Violence Prevention Recommendations

By Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on October 02, 2016 in Stop The Cycle
Everyone wants to know how to prevent the next school shooting. Here are 10 recommendations to move us closer to that goal.

Intimate-Partner Violence—What a Difference a Day Makes

The frequency of occurrences can depend on the day of the week or year.

Protective Features Curb Abuse in Polyamorous Relationships

This blog explores the protective features that can inhibit abuse in polyamorous families like the presence of an observer, outside perspectives, allies, and more resources.

The Thin Line Between Fiction and Fact

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on September 02, 2016 in Trouble in Mind
A new novel about the relationship of Einstein and his wife Mileva, told from her point of view, strays too far from the truth.

Response to'The School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying Lie'

Juxtaposing the emergence of bullying as a contemporary social problem against the emergence of domestic violence as a social problem during the 60s and 70s is instructive.

How to Understand Honor Killings

By Ryan P. Brown Ph.D. on August 11, 2016 in Honor Bound
To combat a horrific practice, it helps to understand the motivations behind it.

Dating Violence, Warning Signs

By Katherine S. van Wormer M.S.S.W., Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 in Crimes of Violence
Can teens be taught the fundamentals of healthy relationships and the warning signs of possible abuse? Health education can do much to protect youth before it's too late.

Watching Edie: An Interview With Novelist Camilla Way

Watching Edie, a new novel about friendship, is a psychological thriller.

Mad Love: Personality Disorders in Harley Quinn & the Joker

Do the Joker and Harley Quinn display common symptoms of personality disorders?