Dealing with Domestic Violence

Domestic violence can affect anyone of any age or gender. Whether it's physical or psychological, domestic abuse is destructive for both the battered and the batterer. Its tendency to be passed down over generations makes it all the more important that we develop effective methods for combating abuse.

Recent Posts on Domestic Violence

Radicalization of Young Muslims

By Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on November 28, 2015 Stop The Cycle
Radicalization is a growing and terriffying problem from Paris to Canada and around the world. The radicalization process has been well studied by scholars and much is known about it. Publicising what is known can help us put prevention strategies in place. Risk reduction is found in interventions in violent homes and communities, reaching out to disinfranchised youth.

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: Can we break the cycle?

Building Resilience After Trauma: Lessons from Chile

Don’t go it alone. Create order out of the chaos. Nurture hope. Commit for the long-term because recovery takes time. And reclaim your dignity through helping others. Wise advice whatever the trauma, wherever one lives.

It Wants to Happen

Feminism is stepping out of the shadows as many celebrities, intellectuals and politicians heartily and intelligently endorse full human rights for girls and women.It is everywhere on the planted it is happening.

How to Begin Saving Your Marriage in Five Steps

It doesn't always take two to save your relationship. In the beginning, it can start with one person making serious change.

The 8 Suprising Things Abusive Partners Need To Learn

There is hope for people who have abused their partners. Here's what they need to learn in order to change.

My Mother Thinks I Want to Have Sex With Her Boyfriend

What to do when your mother sees you as a rival.

5 Facts Everyone Must Know About Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. There is a great deal to be understood about domestic violence. This blog explores some important facts.

Five Reasons People Abuse their Partners

Why do some people abuse their partners? The answers will surprise you. A therapist who runs a treatment program for abusive partners writes about why many people behave abusively in their intimate relationships.

Why Is Peace So Elusive on This Planet?

Is peace even possible among our species? How?

How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on October 17, 2015 Presence of Mind
Is a friend or relative in an abusive intimate relationship? How can you best help?

It Is Possible to Avoid Arguments: Part 2

Arguments can be avoided, and when we consider the futility of trying to resolve differences by efforts that are coercive, controlling, and manipulative, the motivation to learn more effective ways of dealing with differences can grow exponentially.

Bang, Bang, You're Alive

By Bernard L. De Koven on October 14, 2015 On Having Fun
Playing dead they learn how long death really is. Shooting toy guns, they begin to understand the ultimate fiction of power.

Stealth Abuse of College Women: Coercive Control on Campus

While sexual assaults on college campuses are making the headlines, some of the most common dangers college women face are less visible: the verbal and psychological abuse, stalking, and sexual coercion that comprise a form of abuse called coercive control.

White Females Are Rarely Murder Victims or Perpetrators

By Scott A. Bonn Ph.D. on October 12, 2015 Wicked Deeds
The myth that women are at greater risk of homicide victimization than men suggests that white females have the greatest risk of all potential victims. There is also a myth which contends that women do not commit murder. This myth is based on traditional gender norms which claim that females are too passive and sweet to kill someone.

Are Fictional Heroes Making Us Stupid About Gun Control?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 09, 2015 Ambigamy
Those who oppose gun control could be influenced more by their Netflix account than by the NRA. Availability bias explains why.

Ten WHYS? (Agonizing, Infuriating, Shameful), and One WHEN?!

The United States is an outlier among Western nations in their healthcare, preschool education, and other social programs, but the most glaring, humiliating way we stand out is in terms of the sheer numbers of privately owned weapons we harbor, and the extraordinary numbers of shooting victims in homes and public places, especially in schools.

Yes, It Really Is Possible to Avoid Arguments: Part 1

When faced with a threat to our ability to influence or control our place in an important relationship, ancient fears can be activated that awaken memories or trauma from previous experiences in which others who possessed greater authority than ourselves may have exploited our vulnerability or dependency on them in ways that were hurtful or damaging to us.

When Getting Close Equals Getting Hurt, Part Two

Six key questions to consider to help your clients begin to take healthy risks towards seeking and sustaining closeness.

8 Ways Controlling Men Make Mothering Even Harder

Being a mother is the most important and difficult job. A controlling or abusive partner makes it so much harder.

I Want To Leave My Husband And Kids

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 The Teen Doctor
What To Do About Your Family When You Want To Leave Home

When Getting Close Equals Getting Hurt, Part One

Here's how prior experiences of rejection, abandonment, and disloyalties can create a template for relationships that associates closeness with getting hurt.

Micromanaging Every Move: Inside a Controlling Relationship

Coercive Control is not about one partner simply being “bossy” or “a nag;” it’s about domination.

Mental Illness Does Not Equal Dangerous, Mostly

By Carrie Barron M.D. on September 14, 2015 The Creativity Cure
There are many different kinds of mental illness and most people with these conditions are not dangerous. However a certain mix of psychological ailments combined with other known risk factors can be a set up for violent crime. If we can clear up the misunderstandings we will be in a better position to predict and protect.

Is Your Partner Too Controlling?

Are you feeling controlled by your partner? Assess your relationship.

One Psychologist's Two Cents on Guns

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on September 01, 2015 Out of the Ooze
Will owning a gun sometimes protect good people from bad people? Yes, of course. Will owning a gun also make a person more likely to be murdered or to die of suicide? Yes, of course. The politics swirling around the touchy issue of gun ownership often ignore the complexity of the problem.

Physical Punishment—and Violence

Physical punishment is damaging to the mental health of children and the societies in which we live. There are alternatives that build on children's ability to integrate feelings, language, and cognition.

Does Psychology Reveal Why Women Stay With Abusive Men?

Every minute, one case of domestic violence is reported to the police in the United Kingdom. This often hidden crime is frequently 'normalised' or made light of, by perpetrators.

When Relationship Abuse Is Hard to Recognize

Recognize abusive control in relationships