Dealing with Divorce

Some experts contend that the easing of divorce laws has helped make marriage stronger by rooting it more deeply in personal choice. On the flip side, do people have all the skills needed to work out the inevitable difficulties that arise in marriage? If the dissolution of a union results, the process can be a painful one for all concerned. It can take a divorcee years to regain equilibrium, and sometimes the emotional split is incomplete. 

Recent posts on Divorce


How to Have a Good Divorce: Try Interest-Based Negotiation

By Wendy Paris on October 18, 2016 in Splitopia
Q&A: Austin-based collaborative lawyer Janice Green on the critical difference between interests and positions.

Gray Divorce: Why Some Grandparents Are Calling It Quits

Would you stay in a stale marriage if you are going to live into your 80s or 90s? Gray divorce is here to stay.

Laughter in the Face of Divorce

By Wendy Paris on October 11, 2016 in Splitopia
A divorce comedy improv show helps us take a step back from divorce while creating a positive moment.

3 Ways to Manage Second Thoughts After a Breakup

Are you having second thoughts about ending a relationship? These strategies will reinforce your decision to split and help you move on after a breakup.

Unrequited Love: Why We Cling

By Wendy Paris on October 04, 2016 in Splitopia
Intermittent reward keeps us attached, says psychotherapist and author Jeanne Safer. We need to credit our own feelings of dissatisfaction and let go of "relentless hope."

Is He or She an Addict First? Or a Narcissist First?

By Peg Streep on October 03, 2016 in Tech Support
When someone you love is addicted, your first impulse may be to offer all the support and empathy you can. But is this always wise? Apparently not....

3 Ways Your Smile Can Predict Your Future

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on September 29, 2016 in Head Games
Your smile communicates much more than you may realize.

I Just Can’t Get Over Him!

When a man walks away from a marriage, particularly when the wife didn’t see it coming, it is often a profound emotional injury, which leaves her feeling abandoned.

New Love Euphoria Mimics Effects of Crack Cocaine

There are at least ten compelling reasons to use a model of addiction to crack cocaine to describe the euphoria that results from new love.

10 Reasons New Love Is Like Crack Cocaine

Off-putting though it may be to some, here are ten reasons why I am sticking with “cocaine rush phase” as the best way to capture the first phase of new relationships.

A Happy Ending Matters in this Hollywood Divorce

By Wendy Paris on September 27, 2016 in Splitopia
The negative stories about the Brangelina break-up are dangerous, because the expectation that divorce must be a tragedy for all involved can create just that outcome.

Divorce: American Style

The single-most reason marriages fall apart.

Escape from Loneliness: Is Living Alone the Unlikely Answer?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 26, 2016 in Living Single
Researchers trying to pin loneliness on single people and people living alone are not finding what they expected

Divorce Pitfalls to Avoid, Part Two

During divorce parents confront numerous dilemmas that damage relationships with their children. By avoiding divorce pitfalls, you will enhance the relationships with you children

My Advice for Brad and Angelina (And the Rest of Us)

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
We all know how to have a destructive divorce. Just be the same two people you were when you were married. Having a civil divorce is much harder. Here's how.

Why It Feels So Good to Hear That Your Ex Got Dumped

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Dating and Mating
Why does it feel so good when you find out that your ex has been dumped by his or her latest lover?

Divorce Pitfalls to Avoid, Part One

Divorce imposes challenges, reshuffling relationships between child and parents. Avoiding these divorce pitfalls will enhance your relationships for your child beyond the family.

Adverse Features Contribute to Abuse in Polyamory

Isolation, charismatic leaders, and groupthink could facilitate abuse in polyamorous families.

Why We Need Closure

What is 'closure', really, and why do we need it to move on?

Resilience: The Divorcées Secret Superpower

By Wendy Paris on September 13, 2016 in Splitopia
Resilient people make conscious choices every day to put aside time for practices that energize them, enliven them or strengthen them." Here's how.

How a Breakup Can Change You for the Better

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on September 11, 2016 in Communication Success
"When one door closes another opens."

Marriage Is Dead. Long Live Marriage!

Is marriage the place in which we find pleasure?

Do You Outsource Your Self-Esteem to Relationships?

It’s a sad reality that people who haven’t been loved adequately in childhood are often loved inadequately in adulthood. There's a way to break this pattern.

Back From Vacation, and Now More Likely to Divorce?

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on September 05, 2016 in The New Resilience
Couples often hope that their relationship will benefit their relationship. But a new study finds that returning from summer vacation is when divorces spike.

How to Rebuild Trust with Someone Who Hurt You

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on September 04, 2016 in Living Forward
When someone you trust betrays you, it cuts to the core of your emotional soul. These four important steps will help you rebuild trust in a relationship.

Reconciling as Parents

Can divorced parents act like parents, not spurned lovers? These women found a way.

Divorce an Unreliable Predictor of Aggressiveness

Severe aggression is rare among children of divorced parents.

The Ex Who Drives You Crazy

Divorces are never easy, and it doesn't help to have a difficult ex-spouse, but there are many positive, healthy ways to deal with this situation.

Why Is Getting Emotional Divorce Help So Hard?

You may have to create the support you need.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.