All About Deception

Studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Some of those are biggies (“I’ve always been faithful to you,”) but more often, they are little white lies (“Of course that dress looks good on you!”) Some forms of deception aren’t exactly lies: combovers, nodding when you’re not listening. And then there are lies we tell ourselves, for reasons that run the gamut from healthy maintenance of self-esteem, to serious delusions beyond our control. 

Recent Posts on Deception

How Brian Williams Can Earn Back Trust

Can Brian Williams earn back trust? Yes, he can if he follows the 4 H's and 4 R's.

Alien Landing in Sindelfingen

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in One Among Many
Imagine a world in which “learning” is easy. Believe anything! Such a world exists. It was recently put on display in Sindelfingen, Germany.

All Kids Lie To Their Parents. But When? How Much?

Respecting children's boundaries while staying strict and engaged is the best way to encourage them to share information and to keep them from lying.

What To Do About a Small Penis

If size is an issue, the trick is to find ways to make up for the lack in volume. Penis extension devices, such as Andropenis, and penis extension surgery carry with them significant inconvenience and risk. In most cases choice of sexual position can make up for a lack in size.

Simple Ways to Be More Present in Our Everyday Lives

By Brad Waters on April 14, 2015 in Design Your Path
Developing a more present-focused life by showing up fully for our everyday routines.

Is There an Epidemic of Fake Service Dogs?

In order to gain access to public places such as restaurants and hotels with their pets a number of people are purchasing service dog vests and meaningless assistance dog identification cards and certificates from commercial online service dog registries. These do not require that the dog be trained nor that the person have a disability.

10 Signs of True Love

Two selfish creatures committing to a life partnership need an ironic frame.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

By Carrie Barron M.D. on April 13, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.

At Least Get Gender Right!

Film & TV media sell females short

Gracing Clients’ Lives

Boomer died suddenly at age 9, leaving a trail of progeny and well wishes for his therapy work with clients.

10 Things To Know About Real Love

10 Things To Know About Real Love and How To Prepare For It

The Real Dangers of “Diagnosing” Everyone a Narcissist

By Craig Malkin on April 12, 2015 in Romance Redux
The current promiscuous use of "narcissist" not only trivializes the pain of people who've suffered greatly in abusive relationships, it generates massive confusion about what narcissism really is. Here's the truth about narcissism and narcissists--and why we need to stop, take a breath, and think carefully before we use either word as an insult.

4 Ways to Thwart the Serenity Stealers

Learn the danger signs that affect you when you are in the presence of someone seems to intrude on your peace.

10 Great Ways to Get to Know New People Without Awkwardness

Icebreakers are a traditional way to overcome the original awkwardness that many people feel when they first form a group. Whether it’s with a class, a set of co-workers, or a volunteer committee, a little psychology will go a long way toward building group cohesion and identity.

The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Passion

By Gregg Levoy on April 10, 2015 in Passion!
Passion can be either beneficial or detrimental, life-giving or life-denying. And it can share a border with mania. Here’s how to tell whether your passion for work and life is healthy or not.

Can There Be Too Much Romantic Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is often praised as one of the most important pillars of a good romantic relationship. Although this is indeed the case, too much romantic sensitivity can overburden a relationship. How then can we find the optimal balance of sensitivity in the complex romantic realm?

The Macabre Side of Growing Up Catholic

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on April 08, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
There is no shortage of ferocity and bloodshed in the traditions and histories of most religions. However, it is curious how those living within their personal theological fishbowls can so clearly see the barbarism of other people’s practices while celebrating the holiness of their own.

John Joseph Shows Us Why Healthy Living Is Pure Hardcore

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on April 08, 2015 in Brick by Brick
The Cro-Mags' John Joseph shows us that coping with difficult situations can be hard, but healthy living is the ultimate strategy.

5 Tips for Lazy Meditators

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in In Practice
Tips for sneaking meditation into your life in lazy ways

There's No Such Thing As a Photographic Memory

By Temma Ehrenfeld on April 06, 2015 in Open Gently
Although there's no such thing as photographic memories, some children can see a picture in their mind's eye for a few minute.

Promiscuous College Students Have MORE Friends

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in Strictly Casual
Promiscuity is highly stigmatized in our culture and we often believe that promiscuous people are socially ostracized and lonely. But while slut-shaming can be a serious problem and promiscuous people suffer more interpersonal discrimination and victimization, a new study shows they actually have more friends and feel less lonely.

The Ethics of Financial Accounting

At first it seems obvious that manipulating performance measures is unethical: teachers teaching to the test, managers manipulating earnings upward to sell its shares at a high price, and so forth. But things are more subtle than they seem!

8 Signs You're in a Relationship with a Sexual Narcissist

Sexual narcissism can be defined as a grandiose sense of one’s sexual prowess which, in the mind of the sexual narcissist, entitles him or her to engage in acts of emotional and physical manipulation at the partner’s expense. How do you know when your partner may be a sexual narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

The Ghost in the Machine

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 02, 2015 in Hide and Seek
What makes you who you are?

How Honest Are Individuals About Their Sexual Histories?

Disclosing one's previous number of sexual partners is important for sexual safety...but how often does this actually happen? My latest study explores these conversations.

The Fastest Way to Get Over It

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 01, 2015 in Ambigamy
Grief, mourning, grudges—necessary but man, can they suck away the years and we don't get that many years anyway you cut it. Here are a few fast-acting poems that can keep the sucking to a minimum.

The Top 4 Reasons Relationships Fail

Committed relationships can survive ups and downs, but some patterns and behaviors can create more permanent damage. Infidelity is only one of the reasons relationships break up. These four negative patterns raise red flags about the state of your relationship or marriage. If you recognize your relationship here, it's time to change course.

Another Guy Who Isn't a Sex Addict

By Marty Klein PhD on March 31, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
"Sex addiction" is a very poor way to understand people.

What Pet Owners Can't Know About Their Pets

By Peg Streep on March 31, 2015 in Tech Support
Dog owners universally ascribe complex emotions to their furry companions. But what's really going on? Do dogs feel what we think they feel or are we all just projecting?

Ice Breakers: How to Warm Up a Training Group

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in A Sideways View
There are some really interesting psychological games and exercises which can help you get any group going? Here, four of the best are described