All About Deception

Studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Some of those are biggies (“I’ve always been faithful to you,”) but more often, they are little white lies (“Of course that dress looks good on you!”) Some forms of deception aren’t exactly lies: combovers, nodding when you’re not listening. And then there are lies we tell ourselves, for reasons that run the gamut from healthy maintenance of self-esteem, to serious delusions beyond our control. 

Recent Posts on Deception

Finding the Truth through Forensic Media Psychology

In years ahead, law schools, schools of psychology, television, media and film, business schools and schools of public policy will offer courses, certificates and degrees in Forensic Media Psychology; a field whose time has arrived.

The Psychology of Plagiarism: Is Cheating the New Normal?

By Peg Streep on May 21, 2015 in Tech Support
Have we become a nation of cheaters, so focused on getting what we want that we don't care what means we use?

How to Identify a Sexual Manipulator

Not all relationships are formed on an equal footing. Learn how to spot a sexual manipulator and avoid the heartache.

How to Stop Others from Lying

By Joseph Grenny on May 13, 2015 in Crucial Conversations
The most powerful way to improve the moral character of our world is not policing, but connecting. We can help one another stay morally engaged by simply connecting people with their own values and with the consequences of their choices.

The Stories He Told Himself: Understanding Brian Williams

Our thoughts have a profound affect on us—whether they are true or false. Although we cannot know exactly why Brian Williams lied to the public about his experiences in the Iraq war, it is quite possible that he believed his lies when he told them. And when any of us lie to ourselves, we will lie to others. For we will communicate our lies as if they are fact.

How The Media Betrays Public Trust

By Donna Flagg on May 11, 2015 in Office Diaries
Have you ever been duped by an Astroturfing campaign?

Lying

Join the conversation between two skilled clinicians as they discuss parenting as a thoughtful and creative process.

Desire by False Pretenses

If you have spent any amount of time on the Internet, you have likely run across someone who is presenting a completely false front… claiming to be someone he or she is not.

Self-Deception Has Many Faces

Procrastination is a stealth form of self-deception

Make Skepticism, Not Gullibility, Your Habit

Everyone knows someone who believes in some form of unscientific science. After all, if such-and-such helped so-and-so, it should help you, right? Not so fast.

4 Reasons You Can Misread Your Partner's Body Language

You would think that with familiarity, our ability to accurately read someone’s body language would improve, but it often doesn’t. Here are some reasons why you might not be able to read a loved one’s nonverbal cues.

What Is Confirmation Bias?

People are prone to believe what they want to believe.

How Brian Williams Can Earn Back Trust

Can Brian Williams earn back trust? Yes, he can if he follows the 4 H's and 4 R's.

Alien Landing in Sindelfingen

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in One Among Many
Imagine a world in which “learning” is easy. Believe anything! Such a world exists. It was recently put on display in Sindelfingen, Germany.

Why You Lied to Your Parents (and What They Really Knew)

Respecting children's boundaries while staying strict and engaged is the best way to encourage them to share information and to keep them from lying.

What To Do About a Small Penis

If size is an issue, the trick is to find ways to make up for the lack in volume. Penis extension devices, such as Andropenis, and penis extension surgery carry with them significant inconvenience and risk. In most cases choice of sexual position can make up for a lack in size.

Simple Ways to Be More Present in Our Everyday Lives

By Brad Waters on April 14, 2015 in Design Your Path
Developing a more present-focused life by showing up fully for our everyday routines.

Is There an Epidemic of Fake Service Dogs?

In order to gain access to public places such as restaurants and hotels with their pets a number of people are purchasing service dog vests and meaningless assistance dog identification cards and certificates from commercial online service dog registries. These do not require that the dog be trained nor that the person have a disability.

10 Signs of True Love

Two selfish creatures committing to a life partnership need an ironic frame.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

By Carrie Barron M.D. on April 13, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.

At Least Get Gender Right!

Film & TV media sell females short

Gracing Clients’ Lives

Boomer died suddenly at age 9, leaving a trail of progeny and well wishes for his therapy work with clients.

10 Great Ways to Get to Know New People Without Awkwardness

Icebreakers are a traditional way to overcome the original awkwardness that many people feel when they first form a group. Whether it’s with a class, a set of co-workers, or a volunteer committee, a little psychology will go a long way toward building group cohesion and identity.

The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Passion

By Gregg Levoy on April 10, 2015 in Passion!
Passion can be either beneficial or detrimental, life-giving or life-denying. And it can share a border with mania. Here’s how to tell whether your passion for work and life is healthy or not.

Can There Be Too Much Romantic Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is often praised as one of the most important pillars of a good romantic relationship. Although this is indeed the case, too much romantic sensitivity can overburden a relationship. How then can we find the optimal balance of sensitivity in the complex romantic realm?

Forensic Media Psychology and a Camera in Every Pocket!

Forensic Media Psychology (FMP) is an important sub-specialty in psychology offering increasing professional opportunity. Present applications include law, public policy, government, health care, entertainment, education, commerce, the military, social justice, and more. Citizen video and a camera in every pocket is causing a cultural reset.

John Joseph Shows Us Why Healthy Living Is Pure Hardcore

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on April 08, 2015 in Brick by Brick
The Cro-Mags' John Joseph shows us that coping with difficult situations can be hard, but healthy living is the ultimate strategy.

5 Tips for Lazy Meditators

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on April 06, 2015 in In Practice
Tips for sneaking meditation into your life in lazy ways

The Ethics of Financial Accounting

At first it seems obvious that manipulating performance measures is unethical: teachers teaching to the test, managers manipulating earnings upward to sell its shares at a high price, and so forth. But things are more subtle than they seem!

The Ghost in the Machine

By Neel Burton M.D. on April 02, 2015 in Hide and Seek
What makes you who you are?