All About Conscientiousness

Conscientiousness is not just about getting to church on time, in a freshly ironed suit. It's a fundamental personality trait that influences whether people set and keep long-range goals, deliberate over choices or behave impulsively, and take seriously obligations to others. Conscientiousness is a key ingredient for success, but the off-the-charts conscientious may court perfectionism by setting sights too high. This is a Big Five personality trait along with extraversion, agreeableness, openness, and neuroticism.

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You've Got the Magic Touch

If you're a hardcore NPR listener like I am, you may have heard the Morning Edition show with Michelle Trudeau talking about the health-promoting properties of touch.

Top 10 Tips for Keeping Your Cool

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
Keeping your wits about you when the kids are acting up, your boss is down on you, and your mate is all over the map can be a challenge. Here are 10 tools to help.

Individual Differences

People come in all shapes and sizes, physically and psychologically. Here are nine of the core personality dimensions on which we vary from each other.
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Want To Be Happier? Live Like the Balinese

By Anna Akbari Ph.D. on January 10, 2018 in Startup Your Life
A few simple shifts can totally change your mindset.

The A to (Almost) Z of How Flow Helped Sue Grafton Find Fame

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on January 01, 2018 in Creating in Flow
It's no mystery that Sue Grafton loved to write. The joy of being in flow is one reason why, as she explained in this interview.

Nurturing The “Better Angels Of Our Nature”

If we fully embrace ethical values that most people would actually agree to (e.g., the Golden Rule), we might be able to better steer this ship that has steered well off course.

Psychology Explains New Year Resolutions, Hits and Misses

55.2% of resolutions were health related (exercise: 31.3%, eat healthy: 10.4%, have healthier habits: 13.5%), 34.4% were work related (save: 20.8%, get out of debt: 12.5%)

Acknowledgment, Validation, and Praise

To sit down with our beloved in a formal session to exchange what I love about you is an intimate and soul-nourishing experience.

The Biggest Relationship Dealbreaker

For many people these behaviors certainly can be dealbreakers, particularly if there is no motivation, intention or willingness to stop or change the disturbing pattern.

The Movie "Wonder" Demonstrates the Power of Kindness

Here are five tips to teach your children to accept those who are different.

The Dangers of Ghosting

By Anna Akbari Ph.D. on December 05, 2017 in Startup Your Life
Put an end to ghosting in your professional and personal life.
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Why You Feel Helpless When Your Young Adult Won't Help

By Brad E Sachs Ph.D. on December 04, 2017 in Emptying The Nest
Frustrated by your young adult treating your home like a boarding house? Careful consideration of your expectations and how you express them can make living together more livable.

The Art of Parenting

You have more time to be a good parent today than you will ever have again. Take advantage of your good fortune!

Aging, Health, and Conscious Evolution (Part 2)

How can we keep our inevitable failures from causing us to feel negative or downhearted or arouse self-pity?

Guns, Drugs and Mental Health: Crises Everywhere

Life is hard and cries abound. What if each of us chose to become a better person?

No Search and Destroy Part 1

The process of discovering our hidden parts is not about “search and destroy.” Search and befriend is probably a better way to put it...

Social Media Is Harmful to Your Brain and Relationships

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on October 20, 2017 in Obesely Speaking
Social media is making you fatter and sicker by the tweet.

Sometimes the Simple Sound of “Sorry” Stinks

"Sorry" can be a sorry excuse for an apology, especially in a text. Here's a better way.

The Pressure to Be Perfect

Perfectionistic thinking is different from having high expectations and a drive to do a good job, in that the pressure to be perfect brings with it a host of negative thoughts.
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Living in a World of Opposites, What's the Best Way to Cope?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 09, 2017 in Off the Couch
We live in a world filled with turmoil and contradictions. How do we manage the feelings they stir up? And what can we do to make things better?

Is President Trump Mentally Healthy? The Pros Weigh In

Recently many leading mental health professionals have argued that the duty to warn provision (excuse the pun) "trumps" the longstanding Goldwater Rule when it comes to Mr. Trump.

Cognitive Dissonance

What happens when you receive information or behave in a way that is totally contradictory to your beliefs? You experience cognitive dissonance.

Mindful Interactions in the Digital Age

Are you striving to bring balance and stillness of mind to your online interactions? Awareness, reflection, and intentionality can make it possible.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice Part 2

Practices of sacred partnership are numerous, but here are some that we have found to be tremendously helpful. Please don’t be confined to these offerings of practices.

The Pitfalls of Popularizing New Science

By Art Markman Ph.D. on September 06, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
I believe that it is important for scientists to popularize psychology. At the same time, I think that there are real dangers in popularizing science.

What's the Key to Winning Hearts and Minds?

You can’t change someone else’s mind or their habits. The harder you try, the more resistance you face, and frustrated you become. But, there is a better way.

10 Ways to Protect Yourself in a Terrorist Attack

Preparing for the next terrorist attack involves not paranoia, but preparedness. Mindful, intentional steps to be proactive, not reactive can protect you and your loved ones.

Holding the "Both-And" in Times of Stress

Compassion, wisdom, and curiosity may just be able to help us avoid the well trodden path to polarization, them vs us, and the limits of right and wrong. We are more than all that!

Delaying Gratification Can Come at a Cost

Rational decision-making should play a role in assessing if delaying gratification is worth it—but not be the only factor. Emotions are important too.

Living in the Modern World, Part I

By Susan Hooper on July 30, 2017 in Detours and Tangents
The process of getting settled in my new home has made me think about the lives of the people who make the things I buy.