What Is Charisma?

Charisma is the ability to attract, charm, and influence the people around you. Charisma is often said to be a mysterious ineffable quality you either have or you don't, but it's actually easy to break down many of the key factors that make someone charismatic. Such factors include (but are not limited to): confidence, exuberance, optimism,  a ready smile, expressive body language, and a friendly, passionate voice.

Recent Posts on Charisma

Infantasy: The Dream Of Unconditional Love Never Dies Young

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on March 31, 2015 in Ambigamy
Romantic love and confirmation of our social worth are complexly tangled.

Adoption in the Life of Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs' adoption provided an environment that helped him become the co-founder and major influence of Apple Computers, but his genetic inheritance was also crucial.

Narcissists and Social Validation on Facebook

By Catalina Toma Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in Virtual You
Facebook is beloved by narcissists because it allows them to self-promote. But do narcissists also receive the attention and social validation they crave on Facebook?

Humiliation, Recovery and Monica Lewinsky

By Carrie Barron M.D. on March 27, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Public shaming, online harassment and cyber-bullying are ubiquitous but they were not always. This blog examines the heart wrenching plight of one woman and how she overcame humiliation to become a tour-de-force and an agent for public good.

On the Wisdom of Taking a Lover

By Sheila Kohler on March 27, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
When my ex- husband announced he had fallen in love with another woman, he said he still loved me and was not sure what to do. He felt terribly guilty as did his mistress and he had to tell me the truth. We had been married for ten years and were both in our early thirties

Do You Feel Sexy on the Inside?

By Rick Miller LICSW on March 23, 2015 in Unwrapped
Expanding the ways in which we feel “sexy” is good for everyone (yup, except maybe for the beauty industry that sells just one way).

5 Tips for Transforming Stage Fright into Stage Delight

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on March 21, 2015 in Wander Woman
Instead of trying to be calm, you can use your nervous energy for positive results. Here are two tips for counteracting your negative self-talk with positive nervousness before you go on stage and three tips to keep you engaging and likable while you are speaking:

Leaders: We Love Humble Leaders But Idolize Narcissists

By Ray Williams on March 17, 2015 in Wired for Success
Research shows that humble leaders whose focus is to serve others are equally successful, but more importantly, capture the hearts and loyalty of others.

When Love Kills

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in A Swim in Denial
In 1850s Rome, cloistered nuns got entangled in fraud, murder, sexual hijinks, and what the investigators “false holiness.” The Inquisition kept the scandal buried until 1998. Now the story’s out and it has much to tell us about love, hero-worship, crime, and neoteny.

Adolescence and the Dominating Friend

For many adolescents, after letting go the childhood dependence on parents, there is a need for a transitional dependence on an assertive and strongly defined same sex friend before feeling ready to rely more independently on themselves.

Sparkle Versus Glow—and What That Means For Your Love Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on March 14, 2015 in Finding Love
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.

4 Ways To Be A More Authentic Person

People are attracted to authenticity. Here are four techniques that help you be your most authentic self, even in uncomfortable situations.

Using Art to 'Touch' Someone in a Juvenile Detention Center

Guest blogger and artist Elise Lunsford describes a unique and creative approach to promote reconnection and healing with a difficult client in a juvenile detention facility. In forensic settings, clinicians are warned not to touch the inmates. She demonstrates that art can allow us to reach out and touch those who therapists would otherwise hesitate to touch.

An Amish Surprise: Solving the Bipolar Puzzle

Do you know what Abraham Lincoln, Vincent Van Gogh, Ernest Hemingway and Marilyn Monroe have in common? If you guessed they all had bipolar disorder, you’re right.

Cyberstalking: The Fastest Growing Crime

The shift to living virtually has happened so quickly and so pervasively that we have hardly had time to adjust to all the implications. Cyberstalking is a compulsion. It aims to humiliate, control, frighten, manipulate, embarrass, get revenge at, or otherwise harm the victim.

Finding Meaning in Work

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 10, 2015 in The Prime of Life
How can we find significance and purpose in work in today's economy?

How NOT to Raise a Narcissist

Narcissism is more than believing “I’m great!”; it’s believing “I’m better and more important than you!” Here's how NOT to raise a narcissistic child.

9 Ways Some People Will Take Advantage of You

Have you been emotionally ambushed by a coercive friend, coworker, or family member?

Why Do All the Bad Boys Come in Such Beautiful Packages?

By breaking social norms and acting in unpredictable ways, bad boys inspire fascination in us. Bad equals attractive, because distortions and deformities to normal behavior produce a sense of thrill, something that is easily confused with being in love.

Card Drives

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in In Excess
A number of years ago, I helped a leading Internet poker company do some research on different types of poker player and developed a typology. The typology was based on a survey of 2000 poker players and produced seven different types of player. But what were they? Find out more by reading this article.

Our Evolving Black American Naming Traditions

Understanding the meaning and origin of names provides important social clues, spiritual insight, and understanding.

Are Canadian Voters Really This Dumb?

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Caveman Politics
One of the nonpolitical shortcuts people use when evaluating politicians is their nonverbal displays—the messages they send with their facial expressions, body movement, eye contact, voice, and touch. How much does style matter over substance in politics?

You Can't Be Happy All of the Time, But Don't Stop Trying

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
We work very hard to reach goals, anticipating the happiness that they will bring us. After a brief fix of “yippee," however, we quickly slide back to our sorry-ass, humdrum, ordinary state of being. Studies of lottery winners and others who seem to "have it all" throw cold water on our dream of a different life. And yet, we persist. Why?

Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.

Get Robust, Because Resilience Is Too Little Too Late

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in Ambigamy
Resilience is the ability to recover your cool quickly. Robustness is keeping your cool no matter what. James Bond is robust. You don't see him recovering his cool after a fight. He keeps his cool in the fight. Here are 14 quick strategies for cultivating your robustness, so you can stand up for yourself invulnerably.

12 Ways to Spot a Misogynist

The misogynists. You may have heard of them. But what you may not know is that they can be anywhere around you. They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached to them, and they may even come across as woman lovers.

Why We Care that Brian Williams Lied

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Good Thinking
News media wield tremendous power to influence policy and hence history. And for that reason, news anchors can't just be pretty faces, charismatic celebrities, or entertainers.

How to succeed at work

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on February 07, 2015 in A Sideways View
How can you be really savvy at work? What advice would you give to someone just starting a job

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A person becomes detached from a hut only when they are able to move into a mansion.

Calmfidence: The Secret to True Resilience

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 02, 2015 in Ambigamy
Make the best of your worst-case scenarios.