What Is Charisma?

Charisma is the ability to attract, charm, and influence the people around you. Charisma is often said to be a mysterious ineffable quality you either have or you don't, but it's actually easy to break down many of the key factors that make someone charismatic. Such factors include (but are not limited to): confidence, exuberance, optimism,  a ready smile, expressive body language, and a friendly, passionate voice.

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Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.

Get Robust, Because Resilience Is Too Little Too Late

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in Ambigamy
Resilience is the ability to recover your cool quickly. Robustness is keeping your cool no matter what. James Bond is robust. You don't see him recovering his cool after a fight. He keeps his cool in the fight. Here are 14 quick strategies for cultivating your robustness, so you can stand up for yourself invulnerably.

Men Who Hate Women

The misogynists. You may have heard of them. But what you may not know is that they can be anywhere around you. They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached to them, and they may even come across as woman lovers.

How Does A Husband End Up With a Cheating Wife?

By J. R. Bruns M.D. on February 16, 2015 in Repairing Relationships
The Golden Years can be Fool's Gold.

Why We Care that Brian Williams Lied

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 08, 2015 in Good Thinking
News media wield tremendous power to influence policy and hence history. And for that reason, news anchors can't just be pretty faces, charismatic celebrities, or entertainers.

How to succeed at work

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on February 07, 2015 in A Sideways View
How can you be really savvy at work? What advice would you give to someone just starting a job


A person becomes detached from a hut only when they are able to move into a mansion.

Calmfidence: The Secret to True Resilience

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 02, 2015 in Ambigamy
Make the best of your worst-case scenarios.

Student Evaluations: Fudging the "Happy Sheets"

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on January 31, 2015 in A Sideways View
One way to see how good, or popular, a training or lecture course is, is to look at the evaluations of those who have been on the course. It is a form of customer satisfaction. These are becoming more important for the way courses are financed and therefore those who deliver them are eager to find ways to increase their positive ratings. What do the cynics suggest?

Nice Guys or Bad Boys: What Do Women Want?

What do women want in a romantic partner? Men often do not know. Women are sometimes confused themselves. Fortunately, science does have a clue. Read on to find out too!

Bad Sports: 'Deflategate' and the Psychology of Cheating

By Jason Powers M.D. on January 27, 2015 in Beyond Abstinence
A study suggests that most cheaters, if found guilty, wouldn't experience much remorse. Researchers found that the "high" may be mitigated by the magnitude of the perceived consequences. However, over time and perhaps through self-reflection, cheaters may become more likely to regret their actions.

Do Certain Foods Really Cause Bad Dreams?

By Michelle Carr on January 26, 2015 in Dream Factory
Researchers report that people believe certain foods, namely eating dairy, can instigate bizarre or disturbing dreams. Is this true?

Je Suis Charlie: Courage, Commitment and the Cost of Freedom

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on January 18, 2015 in Evil Deeds
It is easy for Americans and French citizens to take our freedom for granted. But these violent attacks remind all of us that freedom is something precious and precarious, and that it takes great courage and commitment to affirm and maintain it. This is an existential truism not only for nations or cultures, but for patients in psychotherapy too.

Apostles and Terrorists: The Anatomy of Customer Loyalty

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on January 17, 2015 in A Sideways View
What makes you a blindly loyal customer of some restaurant or branded food-stuff? What do you do if you get really bad service or buy a product which is a dud? Organisations love the brand-loyal apostle who sings their praises. And they are rightly in fear of the media savvy brand-terrorist who wants to let everyone know how unhappy they have been with their purchase.

Road Rage, Phone Rage, & the Dehumanization of Everyday Life

I wonder if some of the anxieties we may be sensing these days are a vague apprehension of the loss of our humanity?

The Creative Inspiration of Worldplay

Inventing an imaginary world can be a boon to individuals working in the arts; in fact, the worldplay strategy has a long history of success.

Dating: From Tinder to Tender

By Hara Estroff Marano on January 12, 2015 in Nation of Wimps
Technology can be highly misleading about what matters most in the search for a mate.

The Said Then Done Fallacy

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on January 11, 2015 in Ambigamy
We tend to think we can change ourselves by embracing words of wisdom. We don't notice that embracing is easy; living the words of wisdom is hard and takes ongoing practice. And we often embrace wisdom instead of trying to live by it, the words substituting for deeds.

What Is Body Language?

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on January 10, 2015 in A Sideways View
Most people are fascinated about body language: how, how much, when, where, and why we communicate not be spoken but unspoken language. The topic has been investigated for more than 100 years by scientists from many different backgrounds. Yet, there remains many unsubstantiated claims by self-appointed experts. What do we know, and not know, about nonverbal communication?

A Call for Heroic Leadership

By Kathy Cramer Ph.D. on January 07, 2015 in Lead Positive
As a leadership consultant, I often use a writing tool called the Hero’s Journey to explain the epic adventures that await leaders as they tackle tough challenges and opportunities to achieve greatness for their organizations. This is a brief overview of how the Hero’s Journey plays out in business and professional life.

How To Spot and Stop Narcissists

Pathological narcissists often come across as grandiose, egotistical, manipulative, self-absorbed, and highly conceited. It's not easy when you have such an individual in your personal or professional life. How can you spot and stop a narcissist? Here are seven important keys...

What the World Needs Now

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on December 30, 2014 in Ambigamy
We don't necessarily get the government we deserve but we do get only as good a government as we're educationally prepared to elect. Leaders realized this in the Renaissance and so developed a curriculum aimed at creating a sane, savvy citizenry. Here's an idea about updating it for modern times.

A Tale of Three Psychopaths: A Decade Later

By Jean Kim M.D. on December 30, 2014 in Culture Shrink
Three films in 2005, Lord of War, Match Point, and Capote came out within months of each other and were character studies of American-style sociopathy, the blind hunger to conquer and the emptiness within. They were eerily prescient of the tone of the decade to follow, economic crashes, social media wars, and more.

Do Opposites Really Attract? It's Complicated.

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on December 29, 2014 in Head Games
Opposites attract, and likes repel. When it comes to magnetism, this principle is axiomatic. But does it also hold true for romantic relationships? New research suggests that when it comes to matters of the heart, well, it's complicated.

Change in the New Year

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on December 28, 2014 in Love Doc
The New Year symbolizes a new start: Out with the old and in with the new. Instead of war, we hope for peace, instead of illness we hope for health, instead of loneliness we hope for love.

The Beauty of Love and the Love of Beauty

By Dinesh Sharma Ph.D. on December 25, 2014 in Leaders in the Making
The Beauty of Love and the Love of Beauty: When Mazrui Interpreted the Poems of Wordsworth and Rumi

Envy-Empathy: Gifts Within Human Neurocircuitry

Malignant envy is wild desire, what in Eastern perspectives is believed to be responsible for suffering. When envy is modulated and matured, it empowers life positive impulses facilitating knowing, emulation, learning, admiration, feelings of gratitude, and empathy, that is, understanding, respect, and compassion for self and others.

Stop Head Games From Destroying Your Love

Make your relationship healthier and make it last by keeping clear of hidden and not-so-hidden head games.

The Miracle of Talking Dogs

By Stanley Coren Ph.D., F.R.S.C. on December 22, 2014 in Canine Corner
According to legend dogs gain the power of speech at midnight on Christmas Eve and one man recalls an attempt to test the truth of this folktale

5 Reasons You Don't Need to Be in the In Crowd

By Jen Kim on December 22, 2014 in Valley Girl With a Brain
As our mothers used to say – being popular and in the in crowd isn’t everything. In fact, science says that being cool isn’t actually cool either.