All About Caregiving

In a 2004 national survey, the AARP found that 44.4 million Americans are providing unpaid care to an adult, and the estimated annual value is $257 billion. To do so is a beautiful act of love and devotion, but also a great drain on one's physical and psychological resources.

Recent posts on Caregiving

Who Pays for Mental Illness?

Estimated costs of schizophrenia in the U.S. were $155 billion in 2013. Only 1/4 of costs were for health care for the mentally ill. What accounts for the remaining $117 billion?

15 Tips from 15 Years Sick

There’s been one constant in my life since I began writing for Psychology Today five years ago: chronic illness. Because 10 + 5 = 15, it’s time for “15 Tips from 15 Years Sick.”

5 Ways to Help Kids After a Disaster

As natural disasters like the wildfires in Fort McMurray increase in frequency, there are 5 simple things we can do to help children avoid the trauma of being forcibly displaced.

Focus on Older Adults: May is Mental Health Awareness Month

May 16 - 22 is Older Adult Mental Health Week. Depression, elder abuse and substance abuse/addiction are compromising the health and well-being of our older adult population.

The Caregiver's Manifesto

How many patients have I known over the years who've found themselves caught in the quicksand that is caring for a chronically ill loved one? Too many to count, so I'll recount

Why Rainy Days and Mondays Always Get You Down

Economist Heather Boushey demonstrates that paid sick days, family and medical leave, and child care can empower and support workers - and are also good for the American economy.

If Your Mother Was Grieving, Could You Become Her Caretaker?

What would you do if you suddenly found that you had to care for a depressed and grieving parent?

The Gift of Listening to Our Mothers

We may think we our doing our mothers a favor by listening to them, but the gift is ours.

Parenting a Parent Toward Life’s End

By Julie K. Hersh on April 27, 2016 in Struck By Living
How do you manage end of life care for your parent? There is no handbook but here is one story.

When You’re Chronically Ill: “Giving Up” Versus “Giving In”

Giving up can make you feel like a failure, as if you’re mentally weak and undisciplined By contrast, giving in is a type of surrender. I think of it as sweet surrender.

Higher Ideals, Better Health

By Russ Gerber on April 24, 2016 in Our Health
The rich promise of better health. Not as unrealistic as we thought.

Unnoticed: The Severely Mentally Ill Who Die Too Soon

These invisible people touch our lives each day, in one way or another, but die too soon.

“I’m Married to My Work”

If we think of intimacy as taking a chance on letting ourselves become known and accepted as we really are, “intimacy” can apply to relationships that develop in the work place.

“Why Would I Do Something So Stupid?!” 3 Tools for Answers

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on April 17, 2016 in Full Living
Find yourself stuck in repetitive behaviors, making the same poor relational choices? You have a good reason, you just have to be curious enough to figure it out.

The Family Caregiver’s Manual

By The Book Brigade on April 14, 2016 in The Author Speaks
Sooner or later, almost everyone will be a caregiver to a loved one. It can be both a physically and emotionally draining experience. Here is what you need to know right now.

Consensus Statement on the Implementation of Co-Parenting

As shared parenting has been recognized as a post-divorce parenting arrangement optimal to child development and well-being, its implementation should proceed without delay.

What Does A Successful Relationship Look Like?

Irrelationship allows us to interact with each other to maintain mutual unawareness of the threat of getting what we (think we) want in long-term love: intimacy, for instance.

Why Some Successful Parents Say You Can't "Have it All"

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on April 03, 2016 in Screen Time
You can't do two things at once. The notion of multitasking actually, does not exist. What is more possible is that parents can take steps to focus attention on a single task.

How Families Changed – What Everyone Knows and No One Knows

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 01, 2016 in Living Single
Families have been changing dramatically since the 1950s, in ways we never saw coming and in radical ways we still aren't recognizing.

Generosity as Isolation

Generosity and altruism are, of course, wonderful qualities. They are also the sheep’s clothes of irrelationship, allowing us to hide our anxiety about being close to others.

Early Relationships: The Fourth Vital Sign

By Claudia M Gold M.D. on March 27, 2016 in Child in Mind
When a baby is born, taking time to listen to parent and child together should be a top priority.

How Hospitals Do Us Wrong

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 26, 2016 in Living Single
In this guest post, Dr. Cathy Goodwin explains the many ways in which hospitals make things unnecessarily difficult and risky for people who are single.

Listening to Hear

We don't know what your lives are like, but we're hoping that you can muster up six minutes to communicate effectively—to experiment with listening and being heard.

When Should the Chronically Ill See a Doctor? Here's a Guide

I hope these guidelines are helpful. If you’re in doubt as to whether what’s happening warrants a trip to the doctor, err on the side of caution and make that trip.

Terms of Engagement

To attach only in the fashion of the small child, or even the ardent lover, is not enough. Attachment fits no single blueprint but is fundamental to all forms of human involvement

How Avoiding Difficult Dynamics Undermines Work Productivity

Community character, as a function of irrelationship, is a group defense that people in groups unconsciously establish/maintain to protect them from being overwhelmed by anxiety.

3 Ways to Combat Therapeutic Bias Against Polyamory

This blog explores three ways to combat bias against polyamorous or any clients with unconventional relationships.

Emotional Regulation: Is There an App For That?

The ability to self-regulate is developed early in life. How well it develops depends upon the parent-child relationship.

Later Never Comes—Betrayal and the Threat of Intimacy

Understanding avoidance, especially avoidance of awareness of the threat of intimacy, requires understanding how betrayal in childhood leaves its mark on adult relationships.

The Future of Family Lies in the Hands of Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 03, 2016 in Living Single
Americans are creating family in an unprecedented number of ways, and single people are taking the lead.