All About Caregiving

In a 2004 national survey, the AARP found that 44.4 million Americans are providing unpaid care to an adult, and the estimated annual value is $257 billion. To do so is a beautiful act of love and devotion, but also a great drain on one's physical and psychological resources.

Recent posts on Caregiving

A Is for Aunt

By Susan Hooper on August 28, 2016 in Detours and Tangents
Since 2003, I have lived four miles away from my two nephews. During that time, they grew from boys to young men—and they transformed my life.
Photo by Kristin Meekhof

5 Things Care Givers Want Hospice Workers to Know

Hospice care giving is especially difficult because of these 5 things

Caregiving

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on August 23, 2016 in Life After 50
Is taking care of an elderly parent making you feel guilty no matter how much you do?

Desperately Seeking a False Sense of Security

It is the awareness of the most mundane threats to our hearts that irrelationship most effectively protects us from—how emotionally close we are to those in our everyday lives.

Alison Gopnik’s Advice to Parents: Stop Parenting!

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in Freedom to Learn
Everything Professor Gopnik says in The Gardener and the Carpenter indicates that our schooling system is very very wrong. So why does she point her finger at parents, not schools?

Letter to Young Activists

This post is adapted from a talk recently given to young community organizers about self-care and well-being on the journey to a more compassionate and just society.

Helping a Friend Whose Loved One Is Seriously Ill

How can you best help your friend during a very stressful time? Your greatest gift can be providing support in ways tailored to what your friend needs.

How Could They Have Said That?

Sometimes condolences can hurt more than help.

What to Do When Your Parent-Caregiver Is a Narcissist

I wanted to interview Meredith again so I could get some pointers on how the chronically ill can effectively deal with a parent-caregiver who is self-absorbed and manipulative.
The Madonna and Child with a Female Saint and the Infant Saint John, labeled for reuse Wikimedia commons

Why Attachment Theory Is All Sizzle and No Steak

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 in Standard Deviations
Attachment theory is a helpful research tool, but in clinical practice it imposes arbitrary, moralistic societal standards on relational and sexual desires.

An Out-of-Sync Friendship

A woman laments the loss of a long-time friend when their circumstances change.

5 Ways for Parents to Prevent Back-to-School Meltdowns

Prevent the back-to-school transition from becoming a trip to crazy town.

What Trump Doesn't Know That Any Commander in Chief Should

By Nancy Sherman Ph.D. on August 04, 2016 in Afterwar
Military families go to war vicariously with their service member and the grief and moral injury are the hidden casualties of war. Any future commander in chief should know this.

Your Relationship’s Personality

What is a relationship's personality, and how does it protect itself? Defect and defense can be seen as interchangeable terms—both pinpointing the existence of irrelationship.

Why Is Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Still a Mystery?

After fifteen plus years of suffering from this illness with little relief from symptoms, I often feel forgotten by the medical community.

If We Only Had a Brain: Participate in a Clinical Trial

By Greg O'Brien on July 26, 2016 in On Pluto
Just a few keyboard swipes could put the U.S. on the road to triumph over Alzheimer’s. If you're experiencing memory loss that disrupts your daily life, seek help. Take the test.

Want To Save Yourself Years Of Heartache?

Dysregulated relationships have a hard time surviving the transition from the passion of the honeymoon period into a mature, profound, and sustainable commitment to reciprocity.

Happy Parents, Happy Kids

Peace activist Daisaku Ikeda affirms: when happiness thrives in the lives of parents, it thrives in their children’s lives as well.

Is Serving Others the Key to Meaning and Purpose?

Are you going through the motions day after day without feeling fulfilled, and tired of not having a sense of meaning and purpose in your life? Serving others might be the answer!

Smartphones vs. "Smart Parenting" - Part Two

Do you soothe or comfort your child with a digital smartphone or tablet? Here's what you can do instead, and how you can limit your child's use on a digital device.

Can Animals Be Holy?

A new book makes us question the sacred, the human and the future of our world.

Smartphones vs. "Smart Parenting" Part One

There is something fundamentally wrong when a child's greatest source of comfort is their parent’s smartphone.

5 Keys to Providing Quality Dementia Care at Home

Quality dementia care is the source of my mother's contentment and having a team of caregivers is key to my father's very survival. Here's how we've created our pleasant journey.

7 Pet Peeves About Doctors

Unless studies show that there’s no connection between a medication and a particular side-effect, the doctor should be saying, “We don’t know.”

Sex as Relationship Builder or Deal Breaker

Sex can be used to build intimacy. But when a relationship is in trouble, sex can be used just as easily to maintain distance. In that case, sex stops being about sex.

When Sharing Is Not Such a Good Idea

By Mark Borigini M.D. on June 29, 2016 in Overcoming Pain
If only someone could take back the real Original Sin: the lack of common sense.
K. Ramsland

“Hero” Serial Killers

In the news recently was a male nurse who claims he endangered and killed so many patients he'd lost count; he had wanted to be a hero.

Why Time-Outs Need a Time Out

In using time-outs parents unintentionally convey that they are unable to contain or tolerate their own feelings.

It Didn't Start With You: The Mystery of Inherited Trauma

By Mark Matousek on June 23, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
How do we inherit family traumas? What tools can we use to work with painful experiences that did not begin with us? Family Constellations pioneer Mark Wolynn explains.

A Psychological Approach to Making America Great

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 21, 2016 in How To Do Life
What a Psychology Party's platform might look like.