Understanding Body Language

People are constantly throwing off a storm of signals. These signals may be silent (non-verbal) messages communicated through the sender's body movements, facial expressions, voice tone and loudness.
Microexpressions, hand gestures, and posture register almost immediately, a silent orchestra that can have long-lasting repercussions.

Recent Posts on Body Language

A Psychologist’s Guide to People Watching

The art of people watching most likely dates back to earliest civilization. Putting psychology’s knowledge about nonverbal behavior to use can help you become a pro at this basic human pastime.

The Gold Standard for Healing the World...

Remember an incident when someone listened deeply to you and then talked with you when you were in a bad place. Would you want to honor that person if you could? If so, they would just want you to do onto someone else what they did onto you. Isn't that so?

"Squash It!”

We tend to focus on ‘squashing’ ‘bad’ behavior, A shift in perspective to examining the motivations behind the behavior may ultimately prove more useful.

Sarcasm Bites

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 11, 2015 in One Among Many
Are you ready for sarcasm? Yes? Yeah, right!

Forensic Media Psychology and a Camera in Every Pocket

Forensic Media Psychology (FMP) is an important sub-specialty in psychology offering increasing professional opportunity. Present applications include law, public policy, government, health care, entertainment, education, commerce, the military, social justice, and more. Citizen video and a camera in every pocket is causing a cultural reset.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship with a Sexual Narcissist

Sexual narcissism can be defined as a grandiose sense of one’s sexual prowess which, in the mind of the sexual narcissist, entitles him or her to engage in acts of emotional and physical manipulation at the partner’s expense. How do you know when your partner may be a sexual narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

4 Ways to Boost Your Charisma

Most people think that charisma is a mysterious quality that people are born with. However, there has been a century of research on charisma, and nearly a half-century focusing specifically on what makes a person charismatic. As a result of this work, we can measure and enhance charisma.

Cultural Differences

While attributing human characteristics to animals is cute in movies, and potentially a cause of misunderstanding between the species, it can be useful to help humans understand our 'cultural differences'.

Can You Know Someone Better Than They Know Themselves?

There may be no more disagreeable remark you can make than to tell someone: “I know you better than you know yourself.” Why? Simply because such a comment is almost always taken as a put-down. So whether or not your analysis is correct, they’re likely to be offended. Or they may feel embarrassed or humiliated by your so authoritatively “dissecting” them.

Do We Project Our Own Personalities Onto Our Dogs' Behavior?

Dogs can be a sort of psychological mirror since people sometimes use their own personality tendencies to fill in the gaps when trying to interpret ambiguous dog behaviors.

Loving Eye Contact: How Mutual Staring Can Create Passion

Research suggests that a mutual gaze or stare can help to create feelings of passion and attraction, even between total strangers. Read on for more...

Being Misunderstood

By Lynne Soraya on March 30, 2015 in Asperger's Diary
Looking back at my life, if I were to identify a common theme, it is feeling misunderstood. It sounds so much like a cliché, that many roll their eyes when hearing the phrase. “Everyone feels misunderstood,” they say. But what’s interesting is that those in my life who have said that, have gradually come to realize that it is true.

10 Things You Can Do as a Bystander

Many schools, corporations and organizations offer ‘leadership training’ courses and seminars, yet they fail to teach the skills and strategies required for ‘bystander intervention.’ Here are a few concrete things that bystanders can do:

Are You Falling Out of Love?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
Evaluate your feelings and decide whether you should end your relationship now or take steps toward turning it around.

No Limits: Relationships in Cyberspace

Virtual relationships can foster a sense of bonding and belonging, but psychological distancing can increase loneliness and alienation.

The Best Way to Get Love is to Show Love

Without realizing it, you communicate our emotions to others through our behavior as well as our words. In the best of all possible worlds, you would communicate only the positive, and not the negative emotions to those in your social world. By communicating "micro-affections," you and your relationships will benefit.

Is the Wedding Still On?

There's more to deciding how to treat acne than counting the pimples.

The Effective, Ethical, and Less Stressful Job Interview

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 25, 2015 in How To Do Life
You risk failure if you sit there passively and give canned answers.

2 Reasons Why People Don't Get to Know the Real You

Assumptions come in many varieties, but two of the most powerful and pervasive of these are confirmation bias and the primacy effect.

Do As I Say: Be Oppositional!

Oppositional behavior by children would seem to run counter to arguments in my previous posts that family members often do what they think their families want them to, even at great personal sacrifice. But oppositionality can be more apparent than real. People often act that way to accomodate what they perceive their parents to want and need from them.

How a Suggestion Can Change Your Life

By Polly Campbell on March 20, 2015 in Imperfect Spirituality
We are influenced by all kinds of things. But knowing that, we can use those external influences to shape success.

The Cerebellum Deeply Influences Our Thoughts and Emotions

Yesterday there was a report on NPR about groundbreaking new research on the cerebellum from Harvard Medical School. The latest neuroscience shows that the cerebellum plays an important role in creating fluidity between our thoughts, actions, emotions, and cognitive processes.

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

Are Most of Us Touch Deprived?

From professional "cuddlers" to the massage craze, are we touch deprived? Why do we pay to be touched?

Culture Matters! How Cultural Knowledge Influences Language

By Vyv Evans Ph.D. on March 06, 2015 in Language in the Mind
Culture, along with language and mind, form a golden triangle; their symbiotic interleaving enables the prodigious meaning-making capacity of our species.

Changing the Onus of Responsibility

While it is important to give our children strategies for standing strong, we must give them alternate means by which to do so---means by which they, as bystanders, will find their voice, and begin to use it in soft ways.

What Girls Can Say and Do to Stand Up to Bullying

When the simplicity of forming a friendship just by climbing the same jungle gym is replaced by the intricacy of scaling middle-school social ladders, how can you teach your daughter the skills she needs to stay strong in the face of friendship drama and bullying?

Do You Want People to Understand You? Stop Doing This.

Saying what you mean is more than a matter of finding the right words. It’s the intonation, or tone of voice, that adds punch to our language. If you’re a victim of “uptalk,” without knowing it, you may be leaving people with a wrong, and confusing, impression.

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Former professional hockey player Theo Fleury is no stranger to confrontation, both on and off the ice. In 2009, he bravely and publicly confronted a very personal issue—sexual abuse and alcoholism. He explains how communication is pertinent to well-being, and even though the road ahead may not be easy, he truly believes that people can learn to heal.

Are Canadian Voters Really This Dumb?

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on March 01, 2015 in Caveman Politics
One of the nonpolitical shortcuts people use when evaluating politicians is their nonverbal displays—the messages they send with their facial expressions, body movement, eye contact, voice, and touch. How much does style matter over substance in politics?