Understanding Body Language

People are constantly throwing off a storm of signals. These signals may be silent (non-verbal) messages communicated through the sender's body movements, facial expressions, voice tone and loudness.
Microexpressions, hand gestures, and posture register almost immediately, a silent orchestra that can have long-lasting repercussions.

Recent Posts on Body Language

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

Subtle body language in others can trigger emotional, cognitive, and behavioral reactions in us -- and we may be completely unaware of them.

Male-Female Interactions: Don’t Get Your Signals Crossed

In any relationship the interaction between individuals is carried out through both words and actions. It is not only what is said but also the way it is said.

10 Things Passive People Say

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 12, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
When passivity becomes our default way of responding and interacting and determines our general approach to life, it hurts us in ways we might not realize: Here's what to look for:

The Essential Power Of Relationship

Perhaps the most important psychological discovery in years, Porges' research explains how the benevolent non-judgmental signals of the caregiver can calm the child. If consistent enough, calming relatedness is internalized, allowing us humans to engage in cooperation, reproduction, and - indeed - civilization.

Like a Moth to a Flame

By Ryan Anderson on November 03, 2015 The Mating Game
Some people would prefer attraction to remain mysterious. There are several things you can control to make yourself more attractive to the opposite-sex.

One Simple Way You Can Become a Human Lie Detector

Researchers have identified that observing whether or not someone is "thinking too hard" is the single most reliable cue for detecting a liar.

Nose to Nose Greeting With Puppies

Nose to nose touching with an adult dog may result in bites to a person's face, however this method of greeting may be a useful and safe technique to use when socializing puppies.

Relationships and Being a Great Partner

You might be wondering how being single has anything to do with being in a successful relationship with others, but it does.

Women's Conflict Mantra: Harmony is Normal, Conflict is Abno

What implication does this have for handling everyday conflict at work (financial costs, lack of promotion and career progress, acting out resentment in indirect ways such as passive-aggressive behavior, and inferior decision making)?

Bilingual Minds, Bilingual Bodies

It has been known for some time that the minds of bilinguals adjust to the linguistic and conceptual demands of different languages. Could it also be that their bodies differ in the way they process emotions and actions?

The 5 Core Skills Of Hostage Negotiators

By Jeff Thompson Ph.D. on October 05, 2015 Beyond Words
Learn the five core skills taught to law enforcement hostage negotiators and apply them to your next crisis situation at work or home in order to get what you want. Sure police crisis incidents are much different but the underlying similarity is emotions dictate people's actions when they are in crisis. Therefore, these are five skills that you will be able to use too.

Does a Dog's Body Language Tell Us How Much He Has Learned?

You can read a dog's body language — specifically his mouth, eyes, ear position, and tail carriage and wagging — to learn whether he has learned an obedience task well.

Getting a Leg Up on Optimism

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on September 24, 2015 The Dolphin Divide
How positive associations enable learning. None of us can learn without relationships. It turns out that variety and fun provide the spice that keeps both going strong.

Top 10 Lessons From Donald Trump's Body Language

Presidential hopeful, Donald Trump, is certainly a unique individual, with his own personal style (love it or hate it). Here is an analysis of the nonverbal cues that Trump commonly uses, and the possible effects they may have on others.

How Did Dogs Become Our Best Friends?

By Jann Gumbiner Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 The Teenage Mind
Ever wonder how dogs became our best friends? Dr. Brian Hare developed a research program to understand how dogs evolved to read human gestures.

Gaining Charisma (Part II)

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 08, 2015 How To Do Life
Your competence will have more influence if displayed with charisma. Here’s how

5 Ways to Protect Your Personal Space

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on September 06, 2015 Off the Couch
Do you work in an open cubicle? Does someone in a nearby cube talk too loudly on their phone, or talk to you nonstop? Are you (or do you know) a college student who could be in danger of sexual boundary violations? Do you have a roommate (or a child or sibling) who “borrows” your clothes without asking, and returns them damaged – or not at all?

Is Gender Just A Performance and Are We All Just Performers?

Are you tired of performing gender or is it second nature. Does it always feel natural?

9 Things Only Passive-Aggressive People Do

While most people take the passive-aggressive approach once in a while, for some people manipulation and indirect communication become a way of life.

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

By Jennifer Haupt on August 31, 2015 One True Thing
My husband of 25 years and I recently attended Kissing School, the brainchild of Seattle psychotherapist Cherie Byrd. Here's what we learned after seven hours of smoothing.

Your Field Guide to Body Language

Think of a rude gesture, and when you last used it. Think of a famous TV star and their peculiar and very personal gestures. What information are these gestures conveying? What can we read into head, hand and foot movements?

The Effects of Crying

Although crying results in sympathetic stimulation, it may help by eliciting empathy of others. Additionally, people recall feeling better after having cried.

How Dogs Show Us What Is Happening in the World

Dogs have developed a behavioral technique that involves directing the attention of humans to objects in the world that may be of interest.

New Psychology of Kissing Reveals Its True Purpose

The investigation challenges conventional views of why we kiss. The surprising results suggest there may be more going on beneath the surface, when it comes to kissing, than is commonly realised.

Behavioral "Red Flags" in the Dog

Dogs show many different signs that they are stressed or scared. Understanding their body language can help an owner or caregiver understand the dog's mindset, avoiding being bit, and make events more pleasant for their dogs.

10 Techniques For Overcoming Speaker's Anxiety

By Joe Navarro M.A. on August 17, 2015 Spycatcher
We have all experienced the nervousness and anxiety of having to speak in public. Here are ten easy ways professional speakers overcome the jitters.

Can Screaming or Yelling Be Bad for Your Relationship?

Many people think that they can’t help raising their voices. They think it is “normal” and is largely out of their control. But is it really? So, why do people scream or yell in the first place?

5 Rules for Getting Along with Anyone, Anywhere

It’s inevitable that we face tough conversations in life. How you handle those conversations can make a world of difference to your well-being and the well-being of others. These 5 basic guidelines will ensure that, no matter what, your conversations will be productive and respectful.

It's Easier Than You Think To Misread Body Language

It never fails to surprise and disappoint me when therapists make dumb comments.