All About Assertiveness

Demonstrating assertiveness means there's no question where you stand, no matter the topic. Cognitively, to be assertive implies a lack of anxious thoughts in light of stress. Behaviorally, assertiveness is all about asking for what you want in a manner that respects others. Assertive people don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others. In terms of affect, assertiveness means reacting to positive and negative emotions without aggression or resorting to passivity.

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Six Elements Of Self-Care In Adults With Childhood Trauma

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on November 18, 2017 in ExperiMentations
From childhood to our relationship with ourselves, carrying a negative or empty sense of self makes it learning self-love seem like an impossible bootstrap. Yet it can happen...
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Why Don't Victims of Sexual Harassment Come Forward Sooner?

No wonder victims of sexual harassment keep quiet. It is time we supported them, rather than question them.
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The Nine Ingredients of Great Sex

By Michael Castleman M.A. on November 15, 2017 in All About Sex
It's not that difficult to enjoy great sex. Just incorporate these nine elements into lovemaking.

Preventing Trouble With Houseguests

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Presence of Mind
Houseguests can be a dream but they can also be experienced as territorial invaders that create stress and strain, especially if we aren't clear about visit boundaries.

Learn How to Argue and “Take the Hit"

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on November 06, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
It doesn’t take bravery to run away from an argument or to lash out and counterattack. So, learn to fight with honor, address the real issues, and have conflict be productive.

The Meaning of Halloween

Why do we like to be scared on special occasions while we seek comfort on most others? Here are two ways to confront the darkness for the sake of a deeper and happier life.
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And the Lady from Philadelphia Said...

By E E Smith on October 29, 2017 in Not Born Yesterday
The only thing I know about someone called the “Lady from Philadelphia” is that she was a character in a novel, possibly by Charles Dickens.
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Boundaries: Where Do You Draw the Line?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on October 29, 2017 in Fixing Families
Boundaries: Some folks are too rigid and inflexible, others are too soft and accommodating. How to find draw the lines that are just right for you.

The Sacred Trance

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 26, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
When a leader uses the idea of the sacred, the word can be inspiring or sinister. Psychology can help us determine which is which.

Do Minorities Have Equal Access to All Emotions?

Where a person lies in the hierarchy set by society determines which emotions to express and which to suppress.

Your Anger Knows Your Worth

Your anger knows your worth: 10 steps to turn your temper into a teacher.

How to Complain So Your Partner Listens

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on October 23, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
The secret to voicing a complaint without starting an argument.

Sex and the Abuse of Power

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on October 20, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Those in power have always seen those below them as theirs for the taking. Perhaps the times finally are changing.

Let’s Put the Focus on Bullying Where It Belongs

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on October 20, 2017 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
New research on the importance of bystanders.

Here’s Why We Don’t Speak Up Against Harassment

By Zoe Chance Ph.D. on October 18, 2017 in Make It So
If you're confused about why women don't speak up against harassment, this piece will explain why silence makes sense.

Self-Obsessed but Not Introspective? How Does That Work?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 13, 2017 in Ambigamy
There's a difference between knowing yourself patly and wondering about yourself. The former is more fun, and more dangerous.

Scams, Scandals, and Security Breaches

We may feel bombarded with stories about the lack of ethics, seemingly everywhere. But we can take charge and actively establish rings of trust around us.

Corking 45

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 09, 2017 in Ambigamy
Trump is going nowhere until he's humiliated to his face.

A Fresh Start Yet Again

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 04, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about passivity, resilience, and change.
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Three Steps to Say “No” Gracefully

It can be really hard to say no. Despite my best attempts not to care what other people think of me, I still find myself wanting to be liked.

He Is the Boss, She Is Bossy: The Role of the Media

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on October 01, 2017 in He Speaks, She Speaks
Male bosses and co-workers sometimes don’t know what to do with ambitious, goal-oriented women who want leadership positions.

15 Tips to Avoid Damaging Your Voice

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on September 29, 2017 in Communication Success
How to avoid damaging your speaking and singing voice.
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Time to Leave Your Therapist?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 23, 2017 in Fixing Families
Therapy is a different kind of relationship but a relationship none-the-less. Like other relationships it's good to periodically step back and see how well it is working

Going From Lonely to Only: Talking with Nilofer Merchant

By Morra Aarons-Mele on September 21, 2017 in Hiding in the Bathroom
Sixty-one percent of people give up, cover, and hide themselves at work. Claim that spot in the world only you stand in.

Courage and Conscience in Today's America

By Brenda Berger Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Hearts and Minds
Whatever happened to the home of the free and the brave?

How Mentally Strong People Respond to Snarky Comments

Studies show snarky behavior can spread. Here's how to stay strong when you're dealing with sarcasm, passive-aggressive comments, and backhanded compliments.

Obverse Psychology: A Better Response to Know-It-Alls

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 12, 2017 in Ambigamy
How to respond to someone who reverses or deflects every challenge, always claiming the "correct" side of the coin for themselves? You expose how we're all dealing with both sides.

Gender Differences Among Adults in Business School

By Art Markman Ph.D. on September 12, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
Over the last several decades there has been concern about gender differences in performance in school in a variety of topics. What about school performance of adults?

When Your Boss Is Irrational

How to keep your cool and your job.