All About Assertiveness

Demonstrating assertiveness means there's no question where you stand, no matter the topic. Cognitively, to be assertive implies a lack of anxious thoughts in light of stress. Behaviorally, assertiveness is all about asking for what you want in a manner that respects others. Assertive people don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others. In terms of affect, assertiveness means reacting to positive and negative emotions without aggression or resorting to passivity.

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By Donna Barstow on June 24, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
If you've never used Darwin in your dating practices before, you're missing out. Cavewomen had multiple orgasms without even trying.

Do You Mate Like a Cavewoman?

By Donna Barstow on June 24, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
If you've never used Darwin in your dating practices before, you're missing out. Cavewomen had multiple orgasms without even trying.
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By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Ambigamy
Supreening: posturing or preening like you're the supreme judge deciding who's right—you or your opposition.
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By E. Paul Zehr Ph.D. on May 31, 2017 in Black Belt Brain
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David Hicks explores masculine aggression in a new novel, White Plains, that is engaging, insightful, and funny.
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By Susan Harrow on April 15, 2017 in The Body Blog
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By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on April 11, 2017 in Feeling It
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By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on March 24, 2017 in Ambigamy
Here's a simple trick for making decisions you won't regret.