All About Assertiveness

Demonstrating assertiveness means there's no question where you stand, no matter the topic. Cognitively, to be assertive implies a lack of anxious thoughts in light of stress. Behaviorally, assertiveness is all about asking for what you want in a manner that respects others. Assertive people don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others. In terms of affect, assertiveness means reacting to positive and negative emotions without aggression or resorting to passivity.

Recent posts on Assertiveness

9 Holiday Resolutions for Sanity, Safety, and Joy

By Meg Selig on December 06, 2016 in Changepower
Why wait for the New Year to make a vow to change? To give yourself the gifts of comfort, joy, and sanity, try these 9 Holiday Resolutions on for size.

More Than Just a Face (or Title)

Understanding the psychology behind individual relationships in the workplace.

The Two Conversations You’re Having When You Negotiate

By Andy Molinsky Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in Adaptation
The two conversations you’re having when you negotiate (hint: one is with yourself).

Top Tips for Festive-Season Survival

By Atalanta Beaumont on December 02, 2016 in Handy Hints for Humans
These tips will help you get through the holidays.

Can of Worms? Pandora’s Box? Divulging Your Dark Secrets

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
As a psychologist, I’ve seen clients show tremendous ambivalence about bringing up certain subjects, particularly those suffused with fear, trepidation, guilt and shame.

Why Narcissists Feel They Need to Look So Good

It’s well known that people high in narcissism have an endless need to look good. What’s less clear is why. A new study sheds light on why, and how, narcissists seek to seem ideal.

The 5 Types of High-Conflict People & What To Do

You know them - they're in your workplace, in your home, and now at your Thanksgiving table. People that love conflict. Here's how to handle the 5 types of high-conflict people.
K. Ramsland

Power Assertive Murder

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on November 20, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
Some serial killers are motivated by anger and the need to harm those they think have wronged them. Todd Kohlhepp appears to be in this category.

Empowering Patients to Become Effective Self-Advocates

By Joanne Buzaglo, Ph.D. on November 17, 2016 in The Patient’s Voice
When you're diagnosed with cancer, you may feel like you've lost your voice. But it's important to be a self-advocate with your doctors and medical team.

6 Steps to Setting Limits as a Solo Parent

By Wendy Paris on November 15, 2016 in Splitopia
Setting and keeping limits can be extra hard when you're the only adult in the house. Clinical psychologist Stephanie O'Leary gives easy success strategies.

Love Is Stronger Than Hate – How to Be Strong, Kind, & Laugh

7 keys to keep yourself positive and strong during these challenging times.
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8 Keys to Handling Adult Bullies

Most of us encounter adult bullies at certain points in our lives. Here are eight keys to successfully handle them...

You Have to Face the Darkness to Fully Appreciate the Light

Changing your self-talk from “woulda, shoulda, coulda,” to “yes, I can” can move you far from the place where you allow your beliefs about the past to constrict your future.

6 Steps to Resolve Relationship Conflicts, Once and for All

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again?

Want to Better Yourself? Start Here

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Making Change
Goals are easy to set, but can feel near impossible to meet. Learn to use self-awareness to harness your inner power to change.

Why Barbie Dolls Matter in the 2016 Presidential Election

For over fifty years the girls and young women of America have been told that we can be anything. But all we’ve really seen is our dolls becoming those things--until now.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Helping Older Adolescents Evaluate a Love Relationship

The great source of instruction about conducting caring relationships is experience; however, parental guidance can help sort that experience out.

Childhood Sexual Abuse: How Men Can Help Women Recover

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 17, 2016 in All About Sex
One woman in six has survived child sex abuse. Even years later, men can help them recover. Here's how.

If You Meet a Shark in the Dating Pool, Swim Away!

Beware that "soulmate" feelings may be echoes of former trauma that may lead us into a relationship that will morph into the nightmare of the abusive situation.

What You Said Made Me Feel Bad

By Sharon Praissman on October 07, 2016 in Beyond the Egg Timer
A guest post from one of the authors of the recent parenting book The Danish Way, which is full of fascinating parenting from the country that’s been ranked happiest in the world.

In Defense of Power Poses

The idea that you can get a boost of confidence from posing like a superhero has recently come under fire. While these critiques have merit, so does the original idea.

“You’re SO Controlling!”

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

Need to Jump-Start Your Spiritual Life?

By Russ Gerber on September 15, 2016 in Our Health
Along life's journey you sometimes need an about-face.

Who's Keeping You Quiet?

By Katherine Hawley Ph.D. on September 15, 2016 in Trust
The best listeners recognize they don't already know it all.
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Dating: Whose Relationship Is It Anyway?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 05, 2016 in Fixing Families
It's all too easy when dating to fall into being too accommodating, too reactionary, and taking what you can get. How to break out and make the relationship your own.

Conflict Resolution: Dancing Your Way to Cooperation?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on August 30, 2016 in The Dolphin Divide
How to avoid a clash of wills in the face of stubbornness. Making the right moves when it counts can head off flared tempers and open conflict.

3 Keys To Finding Balance in Motherhood

Motherhood can be an excuse to give up on your dreams. Writer Yuko Grover offers tips to empower yourself and your children.

How to Raise Your Kids With High—and Healthy—Self-Esteem

This post is about what, as a parent, you do to ensure that your children grow up with a more positive self-image than you yourself may have had when you were young.