Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

Sticky, Tricky, and Icky: Unconscious Parent-Child Dynamics

Emotional abandonment may manifest in parental coldness, but when the dynamic is operative, both parent and young child believe it is they who are internally, irreparably flawed.

Anger Over Trump’s Words Harms Our Health: Can We Forgive?

By Rita Watson MPH on August 17, 2017 in With Love and Gratitude
If we are angry about Trump's Charlottesville words, we can instead cling to the words of Nelson Mandela, as cited by Barack Obama in the most liked tweet in Twitter history.

How to Change Passive Aggressive Behavior

Is a passive aggressive person causing you to feel angry and exhausted? The skill of Benign Confrontation can help you make long-term changes to this destructive dynamic.
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Managing Your Life in a Dysfunctional Relationship

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Dysfunctional relationships, whether they are filled with anger or addiction or mental illness, often create a flood of contradictory emotions within you. Tips on how to navigate.

Psychology Informs Us About Hate Groups

Decades of psychological research helps us better understand hate group behaviors. Learning from much of this research can make the incomprehensible more comprehensible.

How to Manage Your Emotions

By Rob Kendall on August 14, 2017 in Blamestorming
In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?

Love and Fear in Parenting

Parenting is my greatest adventure, and it is often my greatest source of fear.

Loving a Broken Body

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in Obesely Speaking
I lost 290 pounds in six months by giving up rage, anger, humiliation, and suffering.

The #1 Brain-Scrambling Apology

Let's de-code the most brain-scrambling apology of them all.

My Mother Has Disliked Me Since Childhood

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
How To Deal With A Mother Who Is Full of Anger.
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What Is Mental Illness? Does Trump Have One?

When the term "mentally ill" is used to describe President Trump, is the term being used appropriately?

Trump's So-Called Victory

By Judith Eve Lipton M.D. on August 09, 2017 in Peace and War
Why might Russia and the Alt-Right join forces to support Trump? Maybe it was revenge for destroying the USSR, a gamble. Now nuclear war threatens both Empires.

It’s Not Really About Control: Tips for Frustrated Couples

It happens routinely. So often, when I begin counseling with a couple, not one but both parties complain that the other is trying to control them. But just how accurate is this?

How to Help Kids Manage Anger

Are you feeling embarrassed or baffled by your child's way of handling anger? You're not alone. Here's how to help.

Two Types of Relationship Aggression Identified

Is impossible for couples to avoid arguments but new research on long-term relationships suggests that some forms are more damaging than others. Here’s how to avoid the bad kind.

Road and Sideline Rage

What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.
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The 3 Most Dangerous Topics in Relationships

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 04, 2017 in Fixing Families
Sex, money, and kids—the three power issues in relationships, the ones that cause power struggles and acting out. How to navigate them and use them to help you define your needs.

Anger, Anxiety, Resentment, Stress, and Basic Humanity

Your chances of consistently managing anger, anxiety, resentment, and stress, without becoming a better person, are practically zero.

The Fear Behind Geriatric Spats

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on August 03, 2017 in Complicated Love
Are spousal spats about health, weight and well-being getting you down? Here's what you need to know about the fear that is fueling your fights and some ideas for making peace.
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Why Be So Obnoxious at the Airport and on the Plane?

By Steve Albrecht DBA on August 01, 2017 in The Act of Violence
Can't we all just get along in the airport and on the plane?

Can Sweet Memories Neutralize Conflict?

When intimate partners fight to win, their conflicts can easily deteriorate into accusations, invalidations, and character assassinations.

Suppose You Practiced Mindfulness Meditation?

Cultivate your capacity to be mindful and you enhance your ability to respond to rather than react to anger.
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Lying in Relationships: 3 Steps to Making It Stop

Lying is always destructive to relationships. The causes and ways to stop it.

Managing Parental Anger

Take a deep breath or count to 10 and find positive words to send your message.

7 Myths About Emotions That Will Rob You of Mental Strength

Before you can understand how your feelings influence your thoughts and behavior, you need to know the truth about emotions.

When Children Begin to Talk

Language represents a huge developmental leap for a child. Once childre begins to talk, the task turns to teaching them to use words to appropriately express their feelings.

7 Stories You May Tell Yourself Invariably Arouse Anger

What fables might you tell yourself that increase your vulnerability to anger? Recognizing them and cultivating more realistic narratives is a potent pathway for healthy anger.

Is It Narcissism or Sociopathy?

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Evil Deeds
What is the nexus between narcissistic and antisocial personality?

How and Why You Compromise Your Integrity

Your most important possession is your integrity. It’s your trustworthiness, word of honor. Yet at some point you’ve certainly violated this most “sacred” part of yourself. Why?

The Psychology of Revenge (and Vengeful People)

By Peg Streep on July 19, 2017 in Tech Support
Is revenge really sweet? And what makes people vengeful? Does playing tit for tat make you feel better? Or not? The science of revenge.