Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

How Your Beliefs About Yourself Limit Your Potential

At one time, your beliefs protected you and helped you navigate your life. But as an adult, believing you can't express your anger or that winning is all that matters - doesn't help you anymore. It limits you.

"Love Hormone" Oxytocin Linked to Domestic Violence

Oxytocin, which leads to trust and attachment, may also lead to possessive and abusive behaviours.

Random Acts of Kindness Meets Road Rage

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in Digital Altruism
Positive psychology takes to the road in this new gadget designed to make the road a happier place.

Coping with Adversity from "Inside Out"

This film effectively and hilariously shines a light on the inner workings of our emotional brains and why we struggle at times. Most powerfully, its metaphor of "Emotions at Your Central Control Panel" offers a useful way to reflect on our own feelings and how they can push us to react, sometimes to our disadvantage. Required viewing for anyone operating a human brain.

Venting Your Feelings Isn't Enough

Research suggests that venting might make you angrier, but a process called pendulation might actually decrease angry feelings.

"Anger Is an Energy!"

By Scott Haas on June 30, 2015 in Shrink in the Kitchen
Anger is an energy and not an emotion.

Will the Arguing Ever End?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on June 29, 2015 in The Dolphin Divide
Why things get worse before getting better. We all argue now and then. Chronic arguing, however, requires thoughtful and ongoing work. Happy endings are possible—but there may be a storm or two before the calm.

12 Bliss Tips: Love and Gratitude Can Reduce Stress

The 4th of July is a time for celebrating freedom and the world comes aglow with fireworks. It is a good time to rethink ways of freeing yourself from stress, making the time to dream, and practicing gratitude and kindness to find your bliss.

Inside Out—A Major Emotional IQ Picture

The voices in our heads are real—and these distinct personalities can learn to get along.

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

The families of slain church members teach us a lesson in forgiveness.

4 Reasons We Should All Give Up Cynicism

Cynicism feels protective. A little cynicism, however, goes a long way. Too much mistrust and cynics find themselves losing more than they gain. If you default to cynicism in your thinking and interactions, make an effort to tap into your more optimistic side.

Inside Out—And Beyond

It could have been awful. A movie that teaches kids about emotions could have been dry and preachy. Instead, Pixar’s Inside Out is an exciting and compelling tour of inner life that’s grounded in science plus an authentic understanding of how kids feel. Here are three lessons about emotions from the movie--plus one more.

A Surprising Influence on Your Emotions

By Guest Blogger on June 24, 2015 in Brainstorm
Recent research has found that group members actually become more similar in their expressions of anger and gratitude over time.

Do Parts of How You Are Bother You or Others?

By Dan Mager MSW on June 24, 2015 in Some Assembly Required
Reactions driven by personality challenges are unconscious and automatic, like a reflex. You don’t think about it, it just happens... However, we can learn and develop the skills to respond to other people and situations intentionally with conscious awareness, rather than react on impulse.

Between Obsessions

What if what our irrelationship—and obsessional-compulsive—routines are really protecting us from is how truly and totally at risk we are when we acknowledge and accept ourselves and our lives—those in it (our friends, our spouses, our children, our families) and our circumstances (our history, our experiences, our education, our jobs, careers)—exactly as is?

Selma and I Turn 50: Thoughts & Feelings About Charleston SC

By Kyle D Killian Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Intersections
Yes, black lives matter, but your mileage may vary.

Headquarters? What Headquarters? Behind Pixar's Inside Out

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on June 22, 2015 in The Pacific Heart
Inside Out is a fantastic movie, highlighting the inner life of a girl, with plenty of positive female role models in the form of emotions. Sadness is the unlikely hero. We learn a lot about childhood vulnerability, emotional regulation, and adaptation. But emotional regulation, and the idea of a “Headquarters” in our mind, bear a closer look.

How Pixar's Inside Out Gets Anger Right

By Ryan Martin Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in All the Rage
The character of Anger, voiced by Lewis Black, is pretty much all the anger metaphors rolled into one.

Ode To Dad (and Me)

By Rick Miller LICSW on June 21, 2015 in Unwrapped
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but updating the relationship with your father may be well timed and just what you need to reboot your life. A cleaner, less complicated connection is rewarding for everybody.

Identifying The Next Mass Murderer—Before It’s Too Late

By Joe Navarro M.A. on June 21, 2015 in Spycatcher
We average 20 mass murders a year—what can be done?

Practical Tips for Men Distressed by Their Circumcision

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on June 21, 2015 in Moral Landscapes
“I am deeply troubled by having been circumcised as an infant. It causes me distress on a daily basis and interferes with my ability to enjoy life. Can you suggest a professional who can help me?”

Master Your Athletic Frustration

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on June 18, 2015 in The Power of Prime
Every athlete, from juniors to Olympians and pros, has experienced the feeling of frustration when they’re not able to do something, whether physically, technically, tactically, or competitively: you feel stuck, get tense, lose focus, and get discouraged. The best way I can describe the feeling is: AAARRGGHH!! It is a truly infuriating feeling.

Abuse and the Mirror of Love

Everyone who loves another is susceptible to some form of emotional or verbal abuse, by virtue of the Mirror of Love.

Are You Using Your Anger—or Is It Using You?

Anger can help us stand up for ourselves or give us the momentum to make the changes we need to make. But when anger is a constant state—either in a society or a person—it’s rarely useful and usually destructive.

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In and out of psychotherapy since age 14.

Avoiding Violence

By Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on June 15, 2015 in Let's Connect
Studies suggest that most violence is caused by hidden humiliation.

When Parents Get Angry at Their Adolescent

One primary responsibility of parents is to teach their adolescent how to manage anger well through their instruction, interaction, and example in family life.

Tattooing Buidings

Graffiti and tagging tell us both about the people who do it and what they do it to.

What Drives Emotional Abuse in Relationships

Everyone in an abusive family loses dignity and autonomy. You become unable to decide your own thoughts, feelings, and behavior, because you are living in a rigid pattern of defensive-reaction that runs largely on automatic pilot.

5 Steps to an Apology That Really Works

Communication with a partner is never more important than when conflict happens. Learn how to build and execute a better apology, and how to achieve the art of forgiveness.