Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible? (Part 2)

I'll explain what I mean when I use the word "forgive," why I recommend the healing power of forgiveness, and how to heal even when you don't feel you can forgive.

Why Should We Forgive?

Forgiveness is an act of love, strength and a gift from which no one benefits more than ourselves.

How We Shoot Ourselves in the Foot Again and Again

We can repeatedly shoot ourselves in the foot for one simple reason. Under stress, we tend to retreat to habits of emotion regulation formed as far back as toddlerhood.

A Noble Sadness: The Benefits of Sorrow

What are the benefits of sadness, sorrow and grief? We tend to shy away from these emotions, because they make us feel vulnerable. But could sadness lead to love and belonging?

The Science of Violence

By R. Douglas Fields on April 27, 2016 The New Brain
A leading cause of death throughout the prime of life is not disease. It is violence.

3 Tools to Dissolve Sibling Jealousy

Since all "misbehavior" is driven by upset feelings or unmet needs, the real work here is helping the child resolve feelings that are triggering his aggression.

Why Forcing a Smile at Work is Bad for Your Health

5 tips to help you avoid the stress and exhaustion of "faking it."

Do Panic Attacks Really Come Out of the Blue?

It is often claimed that panic attacks are not triggered by specific environmental or interpersonal stressors because they seemingly happen at any time. This is misleading.

Three Steps to Getting Out of a Toxic Relationship

Toxic relationships can be hard to get out of. Here are three steps to help if you are feeling stuck.

Trump Feels Your Anger and Anxiety

Emotional intelligence helps explain Trump's appeal!

Do Liberals Inadvertently Help Donald Trump?

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on April 20, 2016 Critical Feeling
Donald Trump is the frontrunner in the Republican primaries. How could he become so popular? Cool research helps explain the heated dynamics of present-day politics.

Do You Suffer From Election Stress Disorder?

Political campaigns are designed to exploit bias rather than expose it. But how do candidates seem so certain about enormously complex problems?

Red Flags and Workplace Violence

To avoid tragedies in the workplace, we need to read behind the resumes and get to know our coworkers.

6 Science-Based Ways to Say “I’m Sorry” Effectively

New research has pinpointed the 6 key elements to an effective apology. Interestingly, 'requesting forgiveness' is the least effective way to say "I'm sorry."

How to Deal With Fear and Anger After a Terrorist Attack

An alternate way of managing fear after a terrorist attack can help reduce stress.

The Formula for the Good Enough Apology

The formula for a good enough apology seems pretty straightforward. Why is it so easy to get it wrong?

Understanding Serial Animal Abusers

What exactly is the relationship between animal cruelty and violence towards humans? A look at serial animal abusers sheds light on this complex relationship.

Three Proven Ways To Help Children and Teens Behave Better

If you are tired of fruitless power struggles with your child or teen, read this...

The Excitable and Mercurial Boss

What if you boss blows hot one day and the next cold? What if he or she is emotionally on a roller coaster? How best to cope?

Dial Down the Drama with Your Teenager

What you do and don't do determines whether you will enjoy or battle your teen.

Trillin v. Twitter: Have They Run Out of Ordnance Yet?

Calvin Trillin drew online ire for a satiric poem about Chinese food. What does this tell us about the psychology of anger, racism and social media?

Ethical Rage

Is rage a feeling that should be removed from our ethical choices? Or is it an intrinsic part of our decisions without which our intentions would remain buried in our conscience?

Why You Should Never Vote Angry

Think about the last time you got very angry. Was what you said or did after you felt angry helpful? Or, did it make things worse?

Are Cats Making Some People Aggressive?

A new study find evidence that the common cat parasite toxoplasma gondii is present at higher rates in very aggressive people.

Music to Improve Your Mood

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 01, 2016 How To Do Life
An instant, side-effect-free way to feel more upbeat or to calm down

5 Negative Workplace Emotions and Their Effects on Us

The workplace can be source of positive and negative emotions. Here are 5 negative workplace emotions and how to deal with them.

Outrage and Outrageousness: On Trump's Popularity, Part 3

What’s the nature of Donald Trump's devoted followers—who hardly flinch at the extreme positions he takes, or the strident put-downs or insults he’s so frequently guilty of?

How to Stop Disrespecting Your Children

Over decades, psychotherapist Alice Miller published details about child abuse. How do parents become self-aware (of what seems normal to them) and stop mistreating their children?

Explaining Extremist Voters: The "Dangerous World Theory"

What kind of president do people with a low tolerance for ambiguity, reverence for authority figures, distrust of non-conformists, and black-and-while morality want to elect?

Is Your Partner Playing Head Games With You?

Head games destroy relationships. Do you know how to spot them?