Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

7 Surprising Ways Your Emotions Can Get the Best of You

Recognizing how your emotions influence the way you think and behave can prevent you from making these mistakes.

5 Factors That Make You Feel Shame

The healthiest way to cope is to own up to shame and allow it to dissipate with time.

An Open Letter to the President from a Forensic Psychologist

By Stephen A Diamond Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 Evil Deeds
Dear Mr. President....As a forensic psychologist and an American, I empathize with your profound frustration, pain, sadness, disgust and anger regarding the most recent mass shooting on the campus of Umpqua Community College in Roseburg, Oregon this week.

Yes, It Really Is Possible To Avoid Arguments. Part I.

When faced with a threat to our ability to influence or control our place in an important relationship, ancient fears can be activated that awaken memories or trauma from previous experiences in which others who possessed greater authority than ourselves may have exploited our vulnerability or dependency on them in ways that were hurtful or damaging to us.

Christopher Harper-Mercer fits the profile

By Clark McCauley Ph.D. on October 03, 2015 Friction
Could we have predicted violence from Christopher Harper-Mercer?

Oregon Murders and Risk Factors for Mass Shootings

There are clear psychological, biological and situational risk factors for mass shootings. Greater public awareness of what they are can help us figure out preventions.

The Story Game

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 03, 2015 How To Do Life
A game you can play with yourself or a client that can yield key revelations.

Inside The Mind of the Mass Killer

Knoll wonders if the true solution to mass murder might involve a three pronged approach - better media responsibility over reporting these incidents, tighter gun regulation and improved mental health services.

Social Engineer Gun Violence or Accept the Consequences.

We have made the country safer by socially engineering car safety as well as other issues related to smoking, vaccinations, and various consumer protections. Other developed countries have much better track records regarding gun safety than we do. Perhaps taking a page from their playbook isn’t such a bad idea if we have the will to do so.

A Profile of Oregon's Pseudocommando Killer

Dr. Park Dietz has identified three types of mass murderers—family annihilators, pseudocommandos, and set-and-run killers. The killer who targeted people at Umpqua Community College was a classic pseudocommando.

Rampage as a Team Instinct

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 A Swim in Denial
Humans have evolved powerful social bonding that shows up in group rivalry and team spirit. In civilization, where strangers can live together, the lethal competition of warfare is safely symbolized in team sports such as football. In rampage killing, as in the Roseburg Oregon massacre, that symbolic quality breaks down.

Dreadful Companions Called Fear, Guilt and Shame

Along with anger comes companion emotions that need to be examined as you heal from your eating disorder or disordered eating. Anger can be an immediate response to pain in your life. Fear, guilt and shame, however, follow close behind.

The Secret to Keeping Your Cool When You’re Really Mad

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 Feeling It
Anger costs us a lot, but it's also helpful. Here's a science-based secret to reaping the good while avoiding the bad.

Why We Love to Hate Politicians

You may think politicians deserve the hate spewed at them because others seem to feel that way. It helps to know that the mammal brain bonds around common enemies. The mammal brain seeks safe ways to oppose power. The mammal brain mirrors others and relies on old pathways. Your inner mammal feels good when you hate politicians, which lures you to forget that it's hate.

Students: Microaggression and Trigger-Warnings

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 Beyond Good and Evil
Folie à Plusieurs in the 21st Century!

Dealing With Anger on the Job

Keeping your cool and letting things go may be essential on the job

Political Correctness Gone Mad

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Beyond Good and Evil
The thinking we do when we don't think about the thinking we do: microaggressions and trigger-warnings:

No, the Dalai Lama is not a Sexist (Taming the Angernet)

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on September 28, 2015 The Pacific Heart
Social media scapegoating hit a new low a few days ago, in the attempted shaming of His Holiness the Dalai Lama. A Jezebel article about the Dalai Lama went viral. Here are the facts and a response, and my own reflections on the "angernet."

The Good and Bad of Emotion Regulation Strategies

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 28, 2015 Between You and Me
Our emotional experiences weave the tale of our lives. We remember when we felt joy, gratitude, anger, fear, not that time when we felt oh-so-neutral. But sometimes we have to hold back our emotions. People use different strategies when they try to deal with their emotions, and these different strategies impact their feelings, well-being and even their close relationships.

Why a Code Phrase Can Save Your Relationship

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
After nine years of marriage, Elisha and Elon knew two things for sure; that they still loved one another and that unless they stopped having such bad arguments, they’d never make it to their tenth anniversary. Here's what happened:

Love is Lovely, but Hate Gives Love its Teeth

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on September 25, 2015 Full Living
Hate is a normal part of mature, relevant love. A love that holds the reality of hate is stronger and can withstand the trials of time in a way that new, idealized love could never hold a candle to.

Divorce Your (Bad) Mother: How to Love Her and Still Be Free

"The daily beatings stopped when I left home at nineteen, but the psychological abuse and manipulations were never-ending. I chose to love her from a distance and heal myself." Magdalena Gómez.

Video Games Impact Your Feelings in Real Life

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on September 21, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
With an estimated 59% of the population playing video games, it’s time we paid more attention to their psychological impact.

Gratitude as Emotion: 4 Challenges to Forgiveness

By Rita Watson MPH on September 21, 2015 With Love and Gratitude
Does gratitude dissipate when we are angry or sad? And if so, perhaps forgiveness is the bridge between the gratitude of science and the gratitude of emotion.

Thinking About “The Rationality of Rage”

In The New York Times, Matthew Hutson surveys some recent research pointing to the social benefits of anger. But might anger be too difficult to control to use strategically? Let's ask some philosophers what they think.

Remember Who You Love Even in the Worst fights: 8 Strategies

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on September 19, 2015 Full Living
Fighting with our partner can bring out the absolute worst in us and them. We can change that. And as a reward, we will gain access to some of the core issues that are preventing us from living our life to the fullest.

Rehabilitation Benefits Young Offenders

Should youth be put in solitary confinement? The evidence suggests not.

Is Online Infidelity Really Infidelity?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on September 16, 2015 Love, Digitally
Online liaisons are not necessarily considered to be unfaithful behaviour. Sexual infidelity online is no threat to a male’s certainty of paternity

The Real Reason Those Annoying Noises Drive You Mad

By Anna David on September 15, 2015 After Party Chat
For as long as I can remember, certain sounds people make have caused me rage. Turns out I'm not just intolerant; I have an actual disorder.

You're Not Yourself When You're Angry. This Is Who You Are.

By Garth Sundem on September 15, 2015 Brain Candy
When you’re angry, an argument becomes about the person and not the situation.