Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

How to Stress Less in a Traffic Jam

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on September 02, 2015 in Minding the Body
Rush-hour commuters in the United States lose an average of 42 hours per year to traffic delays. Here's how to navigate traffic jams with less stress.

3 Steps to Decode Your Fight

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on September 01, 2015 in Mindful Anger
Are you tired of having the exact same argument with your partner? These three steps can shed a lot of light of your situation.

What Happens When a Narcissist's Love Turns Into Rage

No one like being rejected or left, but for narcissistic individuals, a rejection can become the stimulus for a dangerous over-reaction. If you’ve ever been the target of one of these attacks, you know how frightening it can be. Understanding the cause of your ex’s rage can help both of you cope more reasonably.

How to Use Your Emotions to Build Relationships that Work

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on August 30, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
Using emotions to decide how to behave in any given situation is vital. Emotions are important pieces of data. They tell us something about our environment or situation that our conscious/rational minds might otherwise miss. Using attachment theory, you can learn to use emotions as data to make good choices regarding how and when to communicate in your relationships.

Are You Angry or Hangry?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 28, 2015 in Open Gently
Don't have angry discussions on an empty stomach. And if your husband is angry at you, make sure he's fed.

Defusing Anger Using Respect

By Joseph A Shrand M.D. on August 28, 2015 in The I-M Approach
Anger is a powerful and scary emotion designed to change the behavior of someone else. But respect is equally powerful, a behavior designed to change the emotion of someone else. Read how respect is used in this story.

Intimate Relationship Dynamics

They worst thing your partner says goes into long-term memory; the worst thing you say does not. Natural selection favored recording injury we suffer more than injury we inflict.

On-Air Shooting Raises Specter of "Bullying"

Before we are content to establish Flanagan’s ‘underlying mental instability,’ or situate the tragedy at the intersection of graphic video games and life, we must consider the ways in which our culture is fast paced and unforgiving.

Anger's Allure: Are You Addicted to Anger?

By Jean Kim M.D. on August 25, 2015 in Culture Shrink
Anger is becoming an epidemic; it's worth exploring the biological and psychological reasons why anger can become addictive for people, and alternatives to kick the habit.

The Best Clinical Story Ever?

Great clinical stories teach us how to think, they liberate the mind from its ruts, and most importantly thy raise the bar of excellence to counter complacency and mediocrity.

Zero Tolerance for Delay

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on August 23, 2015 in A Sideways View
Has the fact that so many services have become so much more efficient caused people to become unreasonably intolerant about any sort of delay?

Sometimes I Hate Him

By Joseph A Shrand M.D. on August 21, 2015 in The I-M Approach
The I-M Approach is a strength based model of radical acceptance applied as easily to psychiatry and addiction as to every day life. This is the first of a series of stories inviting discussion from the readers about this model of care and approach to life in general. It is based on our human desire to be valued, and what can happen when we worry that we are not.

Does Your Partner Have Rage Attacks? Here's What to Do

If, for whatever reason—or possibly no good reason at all—your partner is blasting you, what do you need to do? Granted, many therapists would simply suggest that you leave the scene. For, as a matter of personal dignity and respect, you’re hardly obliged to tolerate such abuse. But although such a response is warranted, it can actually be dangerous. . . .

10 Common Relationship Myths (and Why They're All Wrong)

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
We enter into relationships with certain beliefs about what good relationships are supposed to be like and how we’re supposed to feel within them. But what if we're wrong?

Inside the Mind of the Twitter Troll

The latest scientific study on internet trolls finds them to suffer from a unique constellation of manipulativeness (cunning, scheming, unscrupulous), sadism (pleasure from inflicting pain on others) and psychopathy (lacking empathy and remorse), which may only be properly illuminated by psychological testing.

Living with Type-A Behavior

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 18, 2015 in How To Do Life
You're a hurried, angry person. Now what?

Do Violent Video Games Contribute to Murder?

Psychologist Tobias Greitemeyer from the University of Innsbruck, Austria, one of the world's leading authorities on the link between violent video games and real world aggression, has just published results from a new study entitled, 'Intense acts of violence during video game play make daily life aggression appear innocuous: a new mechanism'.

Can Screaming or Yelling Be Bad for Your Relationship?

Many people think that they can’t help raising their voices. They think it is “normal” and is largely out of their control. But is it really? So, why do people scream or yell in the first place?

Grief Out Of Order: Apocalyptic Loss and "The Walking Dead"

"The Walking Dead" demonstrates how stages of grief follow no universal order. Before we discover how new characters on "Fear the Walking Dead" respond to the zombie apocalyse, look back at how one of the original program's characters faced loss and bereavement. What do these reactions mean for ongoing survival in a complicated world? What might Kübler-Ross say?

Just Don't—Why You'd Be Better Off Not Commenting

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 17, 2015 in Open Gently
Stay out of the flame wars. Online venting will make you feel worse.

Turn Anger Into A Peaceful Heart

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 17, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Fortunately, there's a healthy middle path between tight-lipped self-censoring and boiling-over rage. These three things will help guide you to find peace. 1) Stop Things from Building Up 2) Understand What's Making You Angry 3) Find Key Ways to Turn Anger into Peace

Make Envy Your Friend—and Keep Your Friends

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 17, 2015 in Open Gently
Envy is normal but dangerous if it combines with anger.

Inside the Mind of the Pilot who Flies to Crash

While the German co-pilot’s motives remain mysterious, clues as to his psychology are being dissected, including the suggestions reported in the media that he appears to have flown fewer hours than would be expected given the career stage reached, plus he seems to have taken a mysterious break of several months in the middle of his training.

A Workover: Angry at Her Boss

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 15, 2015 in How To Do Life
Helping an angry person look at her complaint in full dimension.

On Grudges and the Importance of Letting Go

Forgiveness is the most frequently cited remedy for ridding oneself of a grudge and moving forward with life. If you find yourself willing to let go of your grudge but held back by your negative feelings and inability to forgive the wrong-doer, explore these five steps to identify what’s in your way of letting go, and how-to finally release the negativity from your life.

Emotion Regulation

Before you know that you’re sad, you’re motivated to drink or eat too much. Before you know that you feel vulnerable, you’re motivated to blame, deny, or avoid. Before you know you’re ashamed, you’re motivated to seek quick adrenalin through active or passive aggression.

6 Strategies to Communicate With Anger Addicts

Anger addicts cope with conflict by accusing, attacking, humiliating, or criticizing. Unchecked they can be dangerous and controlling. Learn 6 tips to communicate with these type of people.

Getting Out Of The Abusive Relationship

It is possible to live a happy, healthy life after abuse

A Magical Elixir for the Mind

By Gary L Wenk Ph. D. on August 09, 2015 in Your Brain on Food
The fact that science has not yet invented a true brain enhancer has not stopped people from selling magical elixirs on the TV and internet.

Why Was the Movie Theater Killer Spared the Death Penalty?

Why was the insanity plea nullified in the movie theater killings in Aurora, Colorado? The answer is simple - because the carnage was so horrendous that there was too much public pressure in favor of the death penalty. There was no way the insanity plea would be allowed. Nonetheless, Holmes was clearly and incontrovertibly psychotic and delusional.