Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

The Rise of Incivility and What To Do About It

By Ray Williams on October 21, 2016 in Wired for Success
Has incivility become the new norm in America? Fundamental ethical values such as respect, fairness, honesty, personal responsibility and tolerance seem to be fading.
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How and Why You Should Keep Your Temper in Check

By Richard Taite on October 21, 2016 in Ending Addiction for Good
At the end of the day we are human, not perfect, and it is okay to make mistakes so long as we learn from them and try to do better.

Anger Is a Swing State

By Ryan Martin Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in All the Rage
Is anger over the election driving you to the breaking point?

How to Listen So That Kids Will Talk About Bullying

Why is it that so many young people are so loathe to talk to their caregivers about bullying?

Understanding Passive Aggressive Behavior

While anger is generally experienced as an uncomfortable emotion, the passive-aggressive person derives pleasure out of frustrating others.

Are Political Differences Straining Your Relationships?

Do's and don'ts for dialogue lest political differences wreck your relationships.

Mastering Your Emotions

By L. Kevin Chapman Ph.D. on October 17, 2016 in Evidence Based
The "how to" guide of mastering all of your emotions

Trump's Failed Apology

Why it is so important for Trump (and all of us) to give meaningful apologies

How to Stop Violence in America

There is a solution to stop the violence in America. A solution that is far more central than controlling religious radicalization and gun access. It's all about fear.

Struggle for a Sense of Humanity

The fight to hold onto a sense of humanity inner voices of conflict, powered by covert guilt and shame. In most of us, these voices are faint. In some they bellow.

How Is Incivility Related to Scientific Integrity?

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on October 11, 2016 in Rabble Rouser
Psychological science is in distress. Studies fail to replicate at what some consider an alarming rate. Its statistics and methods are a mess. And its scientists behave badly.

7 Essential Keys to a Successful Relationship

Through my work, I have had the satisfaction of seeing positive outcomes when two people work hard at relationship self-improvement.

Understanding Anger as an Outgrowth of Self-Compassion

Find humanity by looking for the suffering behind anger

The Art of the Email Letter

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on October 09, 2016 in Fixing Families
Everyone has communication breakdowns that need to be repaired. Rather than the text or phone call, try the email letter. Some guidelines for crafting the perfect one

Your 9 Top Defense Mechanisms, Revisited

We’ve all come to know about defense mechanisms, but usually from the perspective of Freudian theory. This new view redefines nine of them in a more rational manner.
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The Role of Shame in the 2016 Elections

Are both major-party candidates in this election driven by shame?

The Gender Gap in the Presidential Race

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 06, 2016 in Intentional Insights
How emotional intelligence and gender norms for emotional expression might impact the presidential race

The Secret to Feeling Less Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on October 06, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Feeling annoyed is normal and common, but you can lessen this painful dynamic in your relationship. Here are 5 secret powers that can reduce how annoyed you feel with your partner.

When You Pee on Your Brother, You've Gone Too Far

I don't think a sticker chart—or a spanking—will work. Why? They don't get to the root of the problem. The root of the problem is that Mom got a replacement for him.

It’s Okay to Be an Angry Young Woman

By Guest Blogger on October 06, 2016 in The Guest Room
Teenage girls in fiction tend to be stubborn, moody, or brooding, but rarely are they seething with anger. Why not?

Grief Following Sudden Death of a Loved One

The sudden death of a child creates disbelief, shock, sadness, anger and guilt. The shock can be so great the siblings can become the "Forgotten Mourners."

Was Tyre King’s Shooting Justified?

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on October 03, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Research-based approaches can help us think in rational ways about racial profiling, implicit bias, and other emotionally polarizing topics.
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How Compassion Can Help You Support an Addicted Loved One

Compassion: The Best Way to Support a Partner or Family Member with an Addiction.

Answers to Your Questions About Passive-Aggressiveness

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on October 03, 2016 in Mindful Anger
What do you do when they know they're angry, but they just want you to be wrong?

Humans Are Genetically Predisposed to Kill Each Other

By R. Douglas Fields Ph.D. on October 02, 2016 in The New Brain
A new study of 1,024 mammal species has determined which animals are the most vicious killers of their own kind. For the answer, just look in the mirror.

6 Strategies for Dealing With Adult Sibling Rivalry

The most effective way to break the cycle of relentless sibling rivalry is to reset the system.

The True Nature of Jealousy

We usually know how to identify jealousy when it appears, and we can tell when someone else experiences jealousy, based on their actions—but what exactly is jealousy?

Constructive Anger

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Face It!
Do you use anger constructively? The Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman weigh in.

Why the Pundits Are Wrong About Clinton Winning the Debate

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Most pundits focus on content in determining the debate winner. This article helps reveal the surprising role of emotional expression and emotional intelligence in the debate.

When Is It Good to Forgive?

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 29, 2016 in Between You and Me
What should you do when your partner upsets you? Recent research suggests that whether you are better off forgiving or getting angry depends on your partner’s personality.