Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

A Heartrending Story of Courage in the Face of Loss

Bella lost her baby. What she did with her anger, grief and shame is remarkable.

How to Avoid Thinking of Oneself as a Victim?

By Sheila Kohler on May 21, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
When my older sister was killed by her husband after a history of battering, I was in a rage. I sat down and wrote a novel in three months. I wrote out of anger and the sense that my sister had been a victim, an innocent, martyred woman, the mother of six small children, whose husband had killed her by driving a car off the road on a dry night no other car in sight.

#rednoseday: Mental Health is Social Equity!

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on May 20, 2015 in The Pacific Heart
Thursday, May 21 is the first Red Nose Day in the U.S. Here are some thoughts on what emotional problems are worsened with socio-economic inequity, and why.

How To Love Unconditionally When You're Angry

Loving unconditionally when you're furious isn't easy. In fact, it's such heavy lifting of the heart that it builds real love muscle. But nothing changes your child's behavior quite as quickly.

Lubitz Likely Practiced Mass Murder by Airplane

By Kathryn Seifert on May 18, 2015 in Stop The Cycle
New details are still emerging about the Germanwings plane crash in the Alps in March of this year. Many are focused on the fact that co-pilot, Andreas Lubitz, had been diagnosed with a mental illness as being his major risk factor for suicide and mass murder. Mental illness alone is NOT a risk factor for violence or mass murder.

On the Theater Shooting

With the trial going on, I am reposting my thoughts from the day of the shooting.

Reading Faces

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Talking Apes
The language you speak can influence the way you perceive the emotional expressions of other people.

Why Kids Hit Siblings and How to Help Them Stop

Any child who repeatedly hits is pushing feelings down inside, but that means he's pushing away his good feelings, too. He disconnects from us. His cup is empty, but filling it is tough because he can't take in our love. So we have to build trust, safety and connection, and then we have to help him with his tangled up feelings.

K-Rage

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on May 13, 2015 in Minority Report
Is Korean anger a myth, stereotype, or a psychological coping mechanism through generations of repeated attempts to obliterate a nation and culture? When looked at from a historical and cultural lens, the anger or culture-bound symptoms known as haan or hwa-byung begins to resonate with today's Korean culture.

After the Happily Ever After

Falling in love is often easier than staying in love, but few of us understand how to change that. This post outlines my work with a couple on the brink of calling it quits, feeling there is no tunnel, they wonder how they can see the light? Using principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy this post examines where we go wrong in love and how to begin to fix it.

The Definitive Way To Respond to Others' Mistakes

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on May 13, 2015 in Feeling It
Mistakes happen. The question is - how should we respond? Research shows that compassion will help us come out ahead.

How To Grow Through Failure

By Peter Bregman on May 11, 2015 in How We Work
Here’s what’s most interesting: When I followed my own Four Seconds advice and paused to take a breath and really consider what I was feeling, I found something deeper than the anger, sadness, and disappointment. In fact, I found their source. Shame.

Are Men Angrier than Women?

By Steven Laurent on May 10, 2015 in Chill Pill
How do men and women feel or express anger differently?

Why Complaining Is More Destructive Than Productive

By Gregg McBride on May 09, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
Have you ever had a challenging life situation rear its ugly head in the midst of an otherwise good day or week? If so, did you give into the grief and the agony and jump on board the pity train? Or did you shake it off and move forward with a positive spirit—determined not to let one of life's everyday annoyances get in your way?

Is Narcissistic Rage Real?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on May 07, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
Narcissists are people who feed off the energy of others. They draw from people around them to boost their self-esteem. As a result, they are extraordinarily self-centered. If you have a narcissist for a boss, that can be very difficult. Narcissists are reluctant to share credit with others.

What's the Downside of Self-Soothing?

When you’re feeling stressed, out-of-sorts, or on-edge, you should be able to turn to whatever offers you comfort. Still, some forms of self-soothing are much healthier, safer, and adaptive than others. And regrettably, certain ways of comforting yourself can carry a steep price tag—and in the end be seriously detrimental to both you and your relationships. . . .

Discipline Rooted in Nurturance and Living Example

Discipline is pointing the way. Living example demonstrates the message in vibrant color impacting a child even more than words.

Finding Your Emotional Sweet Spot

By Gregg Henriques on May 07, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
The emotional sweet spot is the place between emotional awareness and attunement on the one hand and the adaptive regulation of feelings in accordance with long term goals on the other. This blog articulates key do's and don'ts for finding your emotional sweet spot.

You May Be Playing the Victim, and Not Even Know It?

When you do everything your partner asks, you likely expect gratitude in return, but what it actually creates in them is a reservoir of guilt and anger.

Mind the Gap

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on April 30, 2015 in Think, Act, Be
We can train our minds to avoid going off track.

Angry Tears

It’s become increasingly common for therapists to note that underlying your anger are feelings of hurt. In fact the more pronounced your anger, the greater the hurt it conceals. So if the phrase “angry tears” sounds oxymoronic to you, that’s because it is: It’s profoundly descriptive of human experience yet, on the face of it, certainly seems contradictory. . . .

7 Ways to Heal After a Painful Breakup

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on April 29, 2015 in Me Before We
After a stormy relationship, you can think you’re OK, you're feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again.

Inner Selves: Calming the Demons

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on April 29, 2015 in Fixing Families
We all have inner voices that criticize or make us anxious or simply make us feel bad, but can control our lives. Some tips for pushing back.

Moving Past Anger in Divorce

By Wendy Paris on April 28, 2015 in Splitopia
Anger is a backward-looking emotion. It can keep you trapped in the past you no longer have. Moving on can mean moving past anger.

All The Rage

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 28, 2015 in In Excess
Beserkers is a culture-bound condition historically affecting Norsemen. The condition manifested itself among males only as an intense fury and rage (berserkergang, i.e., “going beserk”) and mostly occurred in battle situations. But what more do we know about it from a psychological perspective?

Using Time-Outs: Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make

Time-outs do not cause brain damage and are an effective strategy to reduce negative behavior in children. However, they can easily be used in less than optimal ways. Keeping in mind these 5 common errors can help parents get the most out of this valuable technique.

5 Things You Didn't Know About Anger

By Ryan Martin Ph.D. on April 24, 2015 in All the Rage
Anger is everywhere. It influences our behavior in ways we can’t possible imagine. Here are five examples.

3 Reasons Any of Us Can Blow Up, at Anyone

We all have thoughts and impulses that are horrific if acted upon. Keeping our impulsive behaviors in check is one of the most important and hardest things we have to do in life. And if you add extreme frustration, anger, or alcohol it becomes that much harder to control this more ugly side of all of us.

Please Let Me Act out on My Sugar Addiction in Peace

By Anna David on April 21, 2015 in After Party Chat
Those who consider themselves sugar addicts but then quit never tire of lecturing other sugar consumers about the dangers of that white powder. Why can't they just let us leave us alone with our cookies?