Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

6 Strategies for Dealing With Adult Sibling Rivalry

It only takes one person to change the functioning of an entire family system – as you shift your own behaviors, others will have to shift in response.

Constructive Anger

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Face It!
Do you use anger constructively? The Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman weigh in.

Why the Pundits Are Wrong About Clinton Winning the Debate

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Most pundits focus on content in determining the debate winner. This article helps reveal the surprising role of emotional expression and emotional intelligence in the debate.

When Is It Good to Forgive?

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 29, 2016 in Between You and Me
What should you do when your partner upsets you? Recent research suggests that whether you are better off forgiving or getting angry depends on your partner’s personality.

Intimate-Partner Violence—What a Difference a Day Makes

The frequency of occurrences can depend on the day of the week or year.

What to Do When You Feel Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
When you’re feeling annoyed by your partner, what can you do in the moment that will make things better, not worse? Here are 5 winning tips for soothing the flames of indignation.

How to Keep Calm, Carry On, and Still Get Your Way

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on September 26, 2016 in The Dolphin Divide
Diffusing negative energy before it goes rodeo. How behavioral psychology can help you get what you want even when tempers begin to flare.

Divorce: American Style

The single-most reason marriages fall apart.

The Blessings and Challenges of Having “A Protector’s Brain”

We must move young people beyond blaming themselves for having "an anger problem." Shifting their identity towards having "a protector's brain" is a start.

Our Anger Crisis: Self-Respect and Getting Angry

By Michael Cholbi Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Ethics in Question
Martha Nussbaum thinks we don't need anger in order to have self-respect. But isn't the anger-free person weak?

Sibling Conflict and Gender

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Life After 50
Are your siblings sharing the burden of caring for Mom?

Is Your Partner Annoying the Crap Out of You?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Petty annoyances are inevitable in any partnership, but you needn’t drive each other insane. Here are 5 approaches that can help you get off the train to Crazytown.

The Downside of Narcissism

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 19, 2016 in Life After 50
Despite the pleasure of feeling like everything revolves around you, feeling like the sun has certain disadvantages as well—it makes other people angry and envious.

3 Ways to Speak Up Without Starting a Fight

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on September 17, 2016 in Living Forward
Do you fear expressing negative emotions because you don't want to cause conflict? Here are three steps to help you effectively express yourself and improve your relationships.

Remembering 9/11, Who Are We, and Who Do We Want to Be?

By Ryan P. Brown Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in Honor Bound
As Americans reflect on the meaning of 9/11, our response reveals our cultural values and beliefs.

Crying on the Job: When Anger turns to Tears

Crying on the job is a catch-22; you’re weak if you "tear up" or "break down," but something worse if you "amp up" and "call out" the person who ticked you off.

"Moonshadow" Offers Many Clues for Letting Go of Entitlement

By Christopher Bergland on September 16, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A new study pinpoints how a sense of entitlement leads to malcontent, distress, and anger. What can we do to break the cycle of entitlement? Pop music and poetry offer some clues.

Setting Effective Treatment Targets for Angry Patients

The truth that I believe we must integrate is that people don’t change for their mental health counselors. They change because their behavior impacts those they love.

Aggression and Violence Are Possible, Not Inevitable

Humans are not “bad to the bone,” just really complicated, potentially dangerous, and generally kind. We should remember that.

Listen to Me!

When we are ignored in relationships, we either despair or become angry. Here's how to work together to find a solution.

What Makes Self-Compassion Such a Hard Sell?

Finding self-compassion challenging? Understand why and how to meet the challenge.

Negative Emotions? Mindfulness Meditation Is the Answer

By Itai Ivtzan Ph.D. on September 10, 2016 in Mindfulness for Wellbeing
Would you like to deal with negative emotions in a healthy way? Here is the best method to do that.

Working With Rageful Couples: A "Free-Range" Approach

My very angry patient was making great progress, applying a range of new insights. The problem was that his wife became very angry as a result of these changes.

When Rage Is the "Third Party" in a Relationship

For some couples, rage is a "third party" in the relationship in much the same way as alcohol or drugs can be.

21 Common Reactions to Trauma

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on September 07, 2016 in Think, Act, Be
While everyone's reaction to trauma is unique, recovery can feel more manageable when we know what to expect in the aftermath—including opportunities for growth.

How to Install Your "Emotional Reset Button"

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on September 06, 2016 in BrainSnacks
When you press your magic reset button, you instantly distract your brain from its undesirable state of arousal, and you redirect its attention to a more positive feeling state.

Trump and Narcissism

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 05, 2016 in Life After 50
Narcissism is back--it's on the cover of Psychology Today! Donald Trump is responsible for narcissism’s return to the popular consciousness.

Colin Kaepernick, Beyoncé, Chappelle and Black Lives Matter

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on September 04, 2016 in Full Living
Few folks want to be accused of being racist. And hating certain protests and protesters isn't proof of racism. Failing to see the need for racial discrimination protest is proof.

Madness and Guns

By Lawrence D. Blum M.D. on September 04, 2016 in Beyond Freud
The ability to control anger, and to distinguish fantasy from reality, are difficult tasks to master. What does this mean for access to weapons?

What Angry Patients Need from Skilled Clinicians

The very nature of most anger management referrals contributes to the failure of meaningful skill development in managing anger.