Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

10 Signs of a Passive-Aggressive Relationship

The NYU Medical Center defines a passive-aggressive individual as someone who "may appear to comply or act appropriately, but actually behaves negatively and passively resists.” A passive-aggressive relationship can occur in romantic partnership, family, social circles, or at the workplace. Here are ten common traits passive-aggressive people exhibit in relationships...

What Can Anger Do for Me?

How to use anger wisely and keep yourself safe.

5 Ways Relationships Get Derailed

Relationships get stuck or can't move forward because one or both partners don't feel safe. Here are 5 of the common causes and ways to make it better

The Psychological Appeal of Donald Trump

Like Peter Finch in the movie Network and like the American public, Trump is "mad (and rich) as hell and not going to take it anymore!"

Punk Music Isn't "Bad"

New research explores whether extreme music (e.g. heavy metal and punk) makes you angrier, or helps you process and regulate your anger.

Stories of Seclusion: Afraid He'd Lose His Temper, He Hid

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
Injustice, especially if it could cost your livelihood, can cause great anger.

Emotions, Culture, and Heart Disease

The relationship between expressing hostility and heart disease is a strong candidate for a psychological universal. Or is it?

Fundamentalist Masculinity

There is a fundamentalist American form of masculinity that is dangerous and misogynist. At the very same time, it is weak and shaky, fragile and demands constant proof in order to Trump more civilized forms.

The Trouble With "Shame On You! You Shouldn't Feel That!"

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Ambigamy
Some people shun negative emotions to purge them. It doesn't work.

Should We Work Harder?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on July 24, 2015 in Hidden Motives
In America, we tend to think that success is all about individual effort. And recently Jeb Bush reinforced that idea in suggesting that our economy could be more robust if each of us worked harder.

Severe Migraine: Finding Answers in the Mind, Not in Pills

There are 45 million Americans with migraine and about 10% of those have frequent and severe headaches that are unresponsive to medications and other treatments. Most doctors would describe migraine as a genetic disorder, however this blog presents a different view. A patient with severe migraines is presented and her cure lay in her willingness to reappraise her life.

How to Resolve a Misundertanding

By Kimberly Key on July 22, 2015 in Counseling Keys
When mindreading doesn’t work, what can you do to improve your communication and lessen misunderstandings?

There Must Be a Good Reason

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 22, 2015 in On Having Fun
A game to play with yourself before you start hating people.

Angry? Don't Lose It. Use It!

What to do when when your child's behavior sends you into your own temper tantrum.

How to Deal With "Stop, I Don’t Want to Talk About It"

Is there an elephant in your room? Hidden agendas and passive-aggressive behavior can wreak havoc in any relationship.

The Deafening Silence of Passive Aggressive Behavior

Has a relative, colleague, or friend ever gifted you with a passive aggressive present or backhanded compliment as their way of trying to prove a point or express their hostility wordlessly?

When Your Child's Anger Triggers You

When tempers are fraying at your house, who has the power to calm the storm? You. But you can't do that if you're in a state of emergency. Unfortunately, many of us forget that parenting is rarely an emergency. When our child gets defiant, we feel an urgent need to take action. So we rush in, sirens blaring, and instead of a minor squall, we create a tsunami.

Anger Problems

It is nearly impossible to understand other people's perspectives when angry or resentful. You're bound to oversimplify and see only the negative aspects of something.

This Is How We Should Treat Each Other All the Time

By Ryan Martin Ph.D. on July 15, 2015 in All the Rage
Why can’t we muster up that same level of encouragement and support for the people we run into on a daily basis?

Are Your Spiritual "Shoulds" Sabotaging Your Spiritual Life?

What "should" a "spiritual" person feel like and behave like? When our ideas about being "spiritual" block us from our true spirit.

Living With a Resentful or Angry Partner

The biggest challenge of living with a resentful or angry person is to keep from becoming one yourself. The high contagion and reactivity of resentment and anger are likely to make you into someone you are not.

Dysregulation: A New DSM Label for Childhood Rages

The disorder, which is meant to distinguish intense temper outbursts from bipolar disorder, describes children who lash out for a host of reasons.

Aggression Beyond Frustration

I have had several decades to reflect on German folkways. I find a streak of aggressiveness, that, while mostly contained, breaks through from time to time, stingingly.

Why Kids Sometimes Hit After They Feel Close

After some nice snuggling or giggling, your child may begin to cry or even lash out. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It means your child wants to accept the love you’re offering, and needs your help to let go of those upset feelings that are in his way, before he can connect with you.

Inside Inside Out (No Spoilers!)

If you want someone to know what you’re feeling, they’ll need the story, not just the headline, and certainly not just which section of the paper it’s in.

Anger: Not All Bad?

Similar to SUVs, canned cheese spread, and guys who ask to split the check on the first date, anger has gotten a bad rap.

Undecided

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on July 03, 2015 in Love Doc
Darla has it all. She is brainy, beautiful, sexy, and successful. At the ripe age of 33 she is worth 200 million dollars. She owns a chain of medical spas with top plastic surgeons who offer numerous beauty enhancing procedures. Darla easily makes good decisions in her spas.

How Your Beliefs About Yourself Limit Your Potential

At one time, your beliefs protected you and helped you navigate your life. But as an adult, believing you can't express your anger or that winning is all that matters - doesn't help you anymore. It limits you.

"Love Hormone" Oxytocin Linked to Domestic Violence

Oxytocin, which leads to trust and attachment, may also lead to possessive and abusive behaviours.

Random Acts of Kindness Meets Road Rage

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in Digital Altruism
Positive psychology takes to the road in this new gadget designed to make the road a happier place.