Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

What to Do When Your Kid Talks Back

When kids express irritability towards us, often called "back talk," they're trying to tell us something and if we don't listen, they just escalate.

Protesting God

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on October 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
Adversity can lead people to atheism or agnosticism. But what if questioning and anger were actually considered a critical component of a close, resilient relationship with God?

Consumed by Anger Long After the Marriage Ends

Abandoned wives say that they hate feeling angry all the time but they can't stop. They seek revenge and wish they could make their ex-husbands suffer what they have suffered.

We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires to Cheat

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on October 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We are often convinced that mistrust of our romantic partners is well-founded. Sometimes it is but research suggests that suspicion also comes from our own attraction to others.

The Real Reason Behind Teen Anxiety and Depression

By Jeffery S. Smith M.D. on October 16, 2017 in Healing and Growing
The real reason for increased anxiety and depression among young people is deeper and bigger than is often recognized.

Shadows of the Dark Triad

Perpetrators of mass violence aren't always apparent in the form of a readily identifiable monster. They often appear as the garden variety people who live among us.

Don’t Justify What You Want to Change

We justify resentment by citing evidence of unfairness and how badly other people behave. The more adrenaline we need for justification, the more subject to confirmation bias.

Harvey Weinstein Proves Sex Addiction Doesn't Exist

By Marty Klein Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Sexual Intelligence
Labelling Harvey Weinstein a "sex addict" allows us to confidently say "I'm not like that," rather than encouraging us to look at our own pain.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust VI: The Break: Independence

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
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How to De-Escalate a Fight with a Narcissist

These strategies can help you end those ugly, pointless fights with the Narcissist in your life.

The Role of Anger in Depression

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on October 09, 2017 in Compassion Matters
The more we can take our own side and resist the tendency to turn our anger on ourselves, the more we can challenge our depression.
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Living in a World of Opposites, What's the Best Way to Cope?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 09, 2017 in Off the Couch
We live in a world filled with turmoil and contradictions. How do we manage the feelings they stir up? And what can we do to make things better?

#VegasStrong

By Cortney S. Warren Ph.D. on October 09, 2017 in Naked Truth
What goes on in the mind of a mass shooter? In the mind of the shooter, there is a justification for killing. And it is based in lies.

What to Do When Doctors Haven't Helped You

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on October 09, 2017 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
A new approach when the old ones fail.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Address the Conflicts

Addressing conflicts in a relationship is essential to maintaining trust that love can endure, emotion can flow freely, challenges can and will be addressed.

Managing Relationship Conflict: Letting Go of Being Right

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Tired of having arguments that end with you and your partner insisting that you both are right about long ago events? Learn to let go of being right and find strategies that work.

Three Reasons Why “Quick Forgiveness” Is Not Phony

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on October 07, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Not all quick forgiveness is phony forgiveness.

Nature Versus Nurture: Where We Are in 2017

A lot has changed in our understanding of the timeless nature-nurture debate. Find out where we are now.

Aggression in Dogs: The Roles of Oxytocin and Vasopressin

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on October 05, 2017 in Animal Emotions
New research shows oxytocin and vasopressin shape affiliation and aggression in dogs. While cause and effect haven't been teased out, controlling aggression is a win-win for all.

Ignoring Biological Bases of Senseless Violence

By Stephen Greenspan Ph.D. on October 05, 2017 in Incompetence
Although much is today know about brain-behavior relationships, commentators on the Las Vegas tragedy have generally failed to ask whether the shooter's brain was abnormal.

Seeking Redemption: The Rage of Alzheimer’s

By Greg O'Brien on October 04, 2017 in On Pluto
Profane language can be common in Alzheimer’s. An expression of gut rage and loss of filter, along with inadvertent grabbing, kicking, pushing, and throwing.

Why Is a Dog Combative and Aggressive toward Other Dogs?

Recent research shows that the balance between two common hormones may account for aggressive behaviors in some dogs.

Twin Estrangement

By Barbara Klein Ph.D., Ed.D. on October 01, 2017 in Twin Dilemmas
Defining Twin Estrangement

Help Your Child Learn to Forgive

Holding onto resentment is emotionally costly. Here are some forgiveness guidelines to help your child figure out when to let go.

How to Avoid a Personal Political Meltdown

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on September 29, 2017 in Listen Up!
Feeling worn out by the political situation? A little group can make a big difference

Are Narcissists More Likely to Be Abusive?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 29, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
The public's understanding of narcissism is growing, and many people see how it can be a challenging trait in a partner. But does it increase the likelihood of abuse? Read on.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust V: Siblings: Adoration&Abuse

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood

6 Ways Highly Emotionally Intelligent People Deal With Anger

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Feeling It
How to communicate frustration without destroying your relationships.

Aggression from Other Kids

We all need to learn to stay grounded in our own dignity and compassion as we cope with the unhappy people who will inevitably come our way.

Does Couples Therapy Promote Good Sex?

By Marty Babits on September 27, 2017 in The Middle Ground
What makes couples therapy sexy? Does it help promote good sex? And how does it approach the issue of sexuality? The answer to these questions may surprise you.