Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

Are You Feeling Cross?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on December 11, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
These three things will help guide you to find peace: 1) Stop Things from Building Up 2) Understand What's Making You Angry 3) Find Key Ways to Turn Anger into Peace

Accept Your Self-Doubt To Diminish Your Anger

How often is your anger a go-to reaction to discomfort with underlying self-doubt? Distinguish between destructive and positive self-doubt to help you curtail anger arousal.
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Five Reasons You Get Angry

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 07, 2017 in Fixing Families
Trouble managing your anger? Here are five common causes and their solutions.

How Can I Fix My Family?

By Kimberly Key on December 06, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Family therapists view each member of a family as reinforcing the behavior of others through feedback. While each may be part of the problem, they are also part of the solution.

His Hormones Made Him Do It.... Or Not

What do we really know about hormones and sexual harassment?

3 Ways Kids Can Solve Friendship Conflicts

Conflicts are common in children’s friendships, but they don’t have to mean the end of a relationship. Here are three ways kids can move past disagreements.

5 Ways Intimate Partner Violence Research Informs #MeToo

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on December 03, 2017 in ExperiMentations
High-profile cases raise awareness of gender-based sexual violence. Research on perpetrators of domestic violence tells us what we may need to do to prevent future aggression.

Mandatory Implicit Bias Training Is a Bad Idea

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on December 02, 2017 in Rabble Rouser
Mandatory implicit bias training is all the rage. And seriously counterproductive.

Why Sexual Aggression Is About Both Sex and Power

By Gregg Henriques Ph.D. on November 30, 2017 in Theory of Knowledge
We should dispense with the myth that sexual aggression is only about power.

Can Dogs Tell Us We're Angry When We Don't Know We Are?

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on November 30, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Dogs mouth-lick when they see angry human faces, but not when they hear angry voices. Might these data help therapists working with people who aren't in touch with their feelings?

In Search of Constructive Conversations

Initiate, be humble, listen, find common ground, be cool, think big, keep it short, and end on a positive note.

Does Getting Older Mean You're Wiser?

By Nicole F. Bernier, Ph.D. on November 29, 2017 in Ripening With Time
Why we may find ourselves saying or doing regrettable things without knowing why.
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Keeping Emotional Sobriety When Parenting an Adolescent

Parents can sometimes emotionally "lose it" with the surprising adolescent, but they can also take steps to keep their emotions in check and their judgment in charge.
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Forgiveness Is a Gift of Clarity to Yourself

By Tara Well Ph.D. on November 26, 2017 in The Clarity
If you're having trouble forgiving, remember it's a gift to yourself.

In Long-Term Care, Patient-on-Patient Violence on the Rise

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on November 23, 2017 in Talking About Trauma
Mental-health treatment plans may reduce aggression in dementia patients.

American Shootings: "Thoughts and Prayers" Are Not Enough

By Saul Levine M.D. on November 22, 2017 in Our Emotional Footprint
The repeated domestic and mass shootings in this country are astoundingly frequent. We do know how to stem this tragic tide, but our "thoughts and prayers" are simply not enough.

Your Body Is at the Root of Your Rage

By Jason Whiting Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Love, Lies and Conflict
Is anger interfering with your intimate relationships? Your body may be hijacking your good intentions.

Can a 4-Step Self-Help Therapy Technique End Upset Feelings?

Therapists use this technique to help their clients gain insight and feel better. Can it also relieve upset feelings if you use it as a self-help technique?

The Seven C's of Thanksgiving

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on November 21, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Feeling nervous about an upcoming family gathering? The seven C's of Thanksgiving can help you prepare you, body, mind, and spirit for any family dynamics that come your way.

When Reconciliation Is Impossible

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on November 20, 2017 in Complicated Love
What do you do when there's nothing you can do to reconcile with an estranged family member? What if you don't want to reconnect? Here are some ideas for making peace with what is.

Emotional Actions Are Not Exceptions

By Bence Nanay Ph.D. on November 20, 2017 in Psychology Tomorrow
Actions can be more or less emotional, but they are never completely non-emotional.

52 Ways: Identify Threats to Your Relationship from Others

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Identify behaviors that undermine the integrity of your love relationship, create conflict between partners, or destabilize one member in a way that throws a couple into chaos.

10 Reasons Why Your Grown Kids Hate You

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Between the Lines
Wonder why you and your grown kids can't get along? Here are 10 reasons, just in time for Thanksgiving dinner.

Pure Solitude, Away From Devices, Is Calming: New Research

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Living Single
Four new studies show that pure solitude, away from electronic devices, is calming. They also help explain when time alone is and is not experienced as sad, lonely, or boring.
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The Absent Presence for Suicide Grievers

By Elizabeth Young on November 16, 2017 in Adaptations
“I feel closer to them all,” Carla says.  “And I feel so sad to know they are gone from us.”

Block the Pop-Ups: Think Less, Think Better

By Nicole F. Bernier, Ph.D. on November 14, 2017 in Ripening With Time
Imagination is used in a positive way whenever it brings peace. Imagination is used negatively whenever it brings unnecessary agitation.

The Problem with Anger

How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?

Seasonal Stalking: How Ex-Lovers Turn Rejection Into Revenge

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Tis the Season. Jilted, persistent paramours and lonely ex-lovers view the holidays as the season to turn rejection into revenge. Recognize when holiday blues become red flags.

Fanning the Flames of Anger

Ever feel consumed by anger and unsure what to do about it? You might be surprised to learn that listening to it can go a long way.

Can Bad Emotions Be Good for You?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on November 12, 2017 in Wander Woman
Nonpositive emotions can motivate productive behavior. Learn how you can use them to channel your energy in positive directions.