Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

52 Ways: Identify Threats to Your Relationship from Others

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Identify behaviors that undermine the integrity of your love relationship, create conflict between partners, or destabilize one member in a way that throws a couple into chaos.

10 Reasons Why Your Grown Kids Hate You

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Between the Lines
Wonder why you and your grown kids can't get along? Here are 10 reasons, just in time for Thanksgiving dinner.

Pure Solitude, Away from Devices, Is Calming: New Research

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 17, 2017 in Living Single
Four new studies show that pure solitude, away from electronic devices, is calming. They also help explain when time alone is and is not experienced as sad, lonely, or boring.
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The Absent Presence for Suicide Grievers

By Elizabeth Young on November 16, 2017 in Adaptations
“I feel closer to them all,” Carla says.  “And I feel so sad to know they are gone from us.”

Block the Pop-Ups: Think Less, Think Better

By Nicole F. Bernier, Ph.D. on November 14, 2017 in Ripening With Time
Imagination is used in a positive way whenever it brings peace. Imagination is used negatively whenever it brings unnecessary agitation.

The Problem with Anger

How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?

Seasonal Stalking: How Ex-Lovers Turn Rejection Into Revenge

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Tis the Season. Jilted, persistent paramours and lonely ex-lovers view the holidays as the season to turn rejection into revenge. Recognize when holiday blues become red flags.

Fanning the Flames of Anger

Ever feel consumed by anger and unsure what to do about it? You might be surprised to learn that listening to it can go a long way.

Can Bad Emotions Be Good for You?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on November 12, 2017 in Wander Woman
Nonpositive emotions can motivate productive behavior. Learn how you can use them to channel your energy in positive directions.

52 Ways: What Motivates Others Who Threaten a Relationship?

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 12, 2017 in Life, Refracted
A couple's relationship can be threatened by others. To minimize potential damage, explore conscious or unconscious motives that a third party might have.

On Being Treated Unfairly: Don’t Let Them Win Twice!

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Too often when people hurt us, we get so angry that we hurt others. "The bad guys" then win twice: first in their hurting us and then in our becoming injurers of others.

The Struggle to Maintain Basic Humanity

Basic humanity is like a muscle, it gets stronger with exercise.
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Suicide's Grievers (Suicide-2)

By Elizabeth Young on November 08, 2017 in Adaptations
I feel like I don't breathe for 45 minutes, as each person describes the death of their loved one.

Dead Man Talking: Deceased Killers Reveal Motive for Murder

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Words Matter: In retrospect, mass murderers were in the best position to predict the crime. Threat assessors advise us to both look and listen.

The Ravages of Nature: Human and Otherwise

By Debbie Joffe Ellis on November 08, 2017 in Tried and True
When tragic events occur, we can choose to focus on what still is good in life, create stability within, and consequently cope well and act in more effective ways.
with permission from Pixabay

Managing Anger and Letting Go of it: Achieving Inner Peace

Is anger getting in the way of achieving inner peace? Learn when and how to let it go.

Preparing for the Holidays

Consider these five things when you have to spend your holidays around those who irritate or upset you.

No Search and Destroy: Part 3

Here is a good example of a couple that has been doing Shadow work, by interrupting a downward spiral and turning a breakdown into a valuable conversation.

Can People With Borderline Personalities Succeed In Life?

What happens in the lives of women and men who have a borderline personality disorder?

Dealing with Passive-Aggressives Without Losing Your Mind

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on November 01, 2017 in Mindful Anger
Passive-aggressiveness is a form of anger.

If the Woman You Love Gets Sexually Assaulted

By Michael Castleman M.A. on November 01, 2017 in All About Sex
Sexual assault leaves survivors traumatized. How men can help them cope and recover.

Whiny Women? Angry Men Display Disempowered Behavior, Too

Male anger is often rooted in depression, toxic childhood experiences, and our societal "male code." We all have a role in ending this.

The Psychology of Mass Shootings: How to See Red Flags

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 01, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Strategically planned mass shootings like Stephen Paddock´s Vegas massacre always have a motive, which will inform future investigations geared to violence prevention.

The Meaning of Halloween

Why do we like to be scared on special occasions while we seek comfort on most others? Here are two ways to confront the darkness for the sake of a deeper and happier life.
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10 Tips to Manage Strong Emotions

When we stuff our feelings down rather than acknowledging them, we carry them around like a boiling pot. We make ourselves sick and tired.

Power: Five Non-Traditional Views

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on October 30, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Is your basic life-orientation to seek power over others or to use what power you have to be in service to others? Five ideas are presented to help you self-examine power.

Mad Men: The Three-Word Phrases That Lead To Men's Anger

Here is a hidden three-word short story that is often misread by angry men and those who know them.

Learning to Manage Your Arguments

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 28, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Couples argue for many reasons, none of them good or excusable, but it’s just part of being in a relationship, right? Not necessarily, and here's why.

Why Is There So Much Hate in the World?

By Robert J Landy Ph.D. on October 26, 2017 in Couch and Stage
A modest attempt at imagining an integration of hate, love, and hope.

Do Minorities Have Equal Access to All Emotions?

Where a person lies in the hierarchy set by society determines which emotions to express and which to suppress.