Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

Critical Thinking 101: Why Lies Travel Faster than the Truth

Mark Twain said it best: "A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes."

Child Rearing: Boundaries and Love

At a certain point during breastfeeding, it is natural for the baby to bite the breast. This is one of many important avenues for mother and baby to negotiate their boundaries—between self and other. All of child rearing revolves around boundaries and love.

Who Would Jesus Stone?

By Rebecca Coffey on November 20, 2015 The Bejeezus Out of Me
Classic nonviolence is far from passive. It is smartly aggressive. To get under their oppressors’ skin, civil rights and social reform leaders have had to be psychologically astute. (“What will get their goats them this time?”). And, apparently, thinking that way works. A growing body of research suggests that nonviolence is more effective than violence.

How to Survive the Paris Terrorist Attack

After happened in Paris, I drank a half bottle of wine, ate carbs, and didn’t want to come out of bed. But, in an ordinary day, an act of kindness changed everything. Here is my very personal blog about how terrorism affects us and the choices we can make not to sink into a depression.

Even Sober, I Was the World’s Worst Employee

By Anna David on November 17, 2015 After Party Chat
I used to talk back to my bosses and screw up important tasks. Then I got sober and into recovery—but my behavior didn't.

Slow Is From the Heart

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on November 16, 2015 The Pacific Heart
A trip to Cambodia, 40 years after the fall of Phnom Penh to the Khmer Rouge, leads to an encounter with ancient wisdom in the form of a dancer, Vong Metry. Here's what she taught me, and what is so relevant in the aftermath of violence and rage.

How to Persuade Defiant Teens Without Aggression

Certain types of beliefs promote or hinder access to solution-focused thinking, and a commitment to a non-aggression principle is a belief that promotes greater access to peaceful and effective solutions during conflicts.

The Assault on the American Mind

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on November 15, 2015 The Pacific Heart
A response to recent Atlantic articles about campus unrest and the supposed "coddling" of the American mind. We can't tell students they're "too sensitive" and that they should "lighten up and get over it." The moment calls for more than just free speech or intellectualizing. We need empathic inclusion.

The Terrorist Trance

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on November 14, 2015 A Swim in Denial
One of the few truisms that deserves to repeated over and over is that hysteria can be as deceptive as it is thrilling.

Use Black Diamonds to Trigger Change

By Nick Tasler on November 11, 2015 Strategic Thinking
What the psychology of social change can teach us about getting our kids to bed on time and keeping our co-workers from taking jabs at each other.

Do You Defend Your Partner’s Defenses? Here's Why You Should

We all need our psychological defenses. They protect us from experiencing an otherwise disturbing anxiety. Or an ancient sense of inferiority, or shame that may go all the way back to childhood—and that we’ve never managed to fully resolve. So when we talk about getting our buttons pushed, it’s about someone’s (however accidentally) triggering these uncomfortable feelings.

5 Easy Tools to Resist the Urge of Bad Habits

By Rubin Khoddam on November 10, 2015 The Addiction Connection
Substance use treatment isn't always about one's drug of choice, but it's about behavior change. And here are 5 simple tools to help us learn ways of facilitate the behavior change.

How to Begin Saving Your Marriage in Five Steps

It doesn't always take two to save your relationship. In the beginning, it can start with one person making serious change.

The Mythology of the Helicopter Parent

Are helicopter parents primarily motivated to protect children from the parents’ own aggression?

Honoring Fallen Comrades of War in Indochina

By Eric Newhouse on November 09, 2015 Invisible Wounds
Stuart Allen Beckley, a retired lieutenant colonel, restored his own sense of honor by honoring comrades in arms who died in Indochina. His monument on a remote ridgetop in in Colorado, was largely unknown until a group of bikers found it recently and posted this image on YouTube.

Married to a Man With Asperger’s Syndrome?

By Eva A. Mendes LMHC on November 04, 2015 The Heart of Autism
Being in a relationship with an undiagnosed Asperger or autistic husband can be challenging in some marriages. The wife can sometimes experience mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, Affective Deprivation Disorder, and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a result of their husband's low emotional reciprocity, communication struggles and anger issues.

To Win an Argument, Women Need to Hold Their Temper

In the heat of an argument, it’s natural to lose your temper once in a while. Whether that meltdown will help you or hurt you in winning that argument depends on your gender. For a woman, chances are you’ll lose the power of persuasion according to new research on how juries reach their decisions.

Compassionate Communication

By Marty Babits on November 03, 2015 The Middle Ground
Compassionate communication safeguards love.

5 Ways That Passive-Aggressive People Thrive Online

Today’s technology affords anyone who wants to mask their anger or aggression a perfect front.

The Gun Control Window Is Closed Until the Next Mass Killing

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on October 30, 2015 As You Like It
Liberals keep focusing on the wrong issues, with the full blessing of the NRA.

How to Finally Change Your Life

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on October 29, 2015 Wander Woman
There are three emotions you can draw on that will strengthen the courage you need to make the changes you want. Don't let fear paralyze you. Use these emotions to make your hopes come true.

Five Reasons People Abuse their Partners

Why do some people abuse their partners? The answers will surprise you. A therapist who runs a treatment program for abusive partners writes about why many people behave abusively in their intimate relationships.

Why Is Peace So Elusive on This Planet?

Is peace even possible among our species? How?

Parent Abuse

When rebelling turns into abusing, it's vital for parents take a stand. Remember, parent abuse only thrives when authority is weak.

Why Road Ragers (and Others) Rage

Hyper-aggressive people don't view their outrageous behavior as you and I do. In their minds, they are underdogs, avenging angels, agents of justice—anything but malevolent malefactors.

Have A Difficult Partner or Parent? Learn this One Technique

Stop confronting that difficult person, and stay on course with this important rule.

9 Keys to Handling Hostile and Confrontational People

Most of us encounter confrontational and hostile people at some point in our lives. On the surface, they may come across as domineering, demanding, or even abusive. However, an astute approach and assertive communication style, may help you turn aggression into cooperation, and coercion into respect.

It Is Possible to Avoid Arguments: Part 2

Arguments can be avoided, and when we consider the futility of trying to resolve differences by efforts that are coercive, controlling, and manipulative, the motivation to learn more effective ways of dealing with differences can grow exponentially.

10 Common Myths About Emotions

Emotion and reason are not competing forces but complementary processes that interact and influence each other.

American Narcissism and Mass Shooters

By Jean Kim M.D. on October 15, 2015 Culture Shrink
The American Dream of the self-made individual is failing; the easy way to get narcissistic fame and attention has become turning to mass shooting. How do we get rid of this toxic phenomenon?