Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

When Children Begin to Talk

Language represents a huge developmental leap for a child. Once childre begins to talk, the task turns to teaching them to use words to appropriately express their feelings.

7 Stories You May Tell Yourself Invariably Arouse Anger

What fables might you tell yourself that increase your vulnerability to anger? Recognizing them and cultivating more realistic narratives is a potent pathway for healthy anger.

Is It Narcissism or Sociopathy?

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on July 19, 2017 in Evil Deeds
What is the nexus between narcissistic and antisocial personality?

How and Why You Compromise Your Integrity

Your most important possession is your integrity. It’s your trustworthiness, word of honor. Yet at some point you’ve certainly violated this most “sacred” part of yourself. Why?

The Psychology of Revenge (and Vengeful People)

By Peg Streep on July 19, 2017 in Tech Support
Is revenge really sweet? And what makes people vengeful? Does playing tit for tat make you feel better? Or not? The science of revenge.

Bridging Relationship Distress

Is it possible to cut each other free from the conflict?

Fear-Based Anger Is the Primary Motive for Violence

By Scott A. Bonn Ph.D. on July 17, 2017 in Wicked Deeds
Anger is not a primary emotion. It is a secondary emotion or reaction. Fear or terror is the root of all anger.
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The Crisis of Meaning

Now is the time to address the crisis of meaning in life, work, and society.

“Shots Fired” Cry Havoc’s take on Dallas Shootings of 7/7/16

By Julie K. Hersh on July 10, 2017 in Struck By Living
Two thought-provoking plays in Dallas, Texas address the anger and pain associated with race in the United States.
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Why What I Hate in You Also Says Something about Me

It can be very easy to decide who are the good guys and who are the bad guys in the world around us. But the concept of negative projection teaches us the answer is not so simple.

Why Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word

By Neel Burton M.D. on July 05, 2017 in Hide and Seek
The psychology and philosophy of forgiveness.

Happiness Tool 2: Cultivate Enlightened Tolerance

With the perspective of Enlightened Tolerance, one can pursue happiness, even under adverse circumstances.

Chores: Secrets To Winning the Parent-Kids Chore-Wars

Fights about chores demoralize everyone in a family. At the same time, children's participation in the tasks that keep life going is vital to their become self-sustaining adults.

The Bronx Hospital Shooter: A Chronic Catathymic Crisis?

Who shoots up a workplace two years after being fired? Someone who is obsessed with that incident, who has ruminated about it, and fantasized about revenge.
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The Toxic Emotion That Rules Our World

Shame is a hidden emotion that infects our politics. A sign of shame is to shame others. Spotting how shame operates can lead to wiser choices in our lives and in how we vote.

Americans Intoxicated

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on July 01, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
It’s an angry era in America. Instead of debating who’s right or wrong, let’s ask what kinds of work anger is doing for Americans now? And what's behind it?

Seven Agreeable Ways to Be Disagreeable

When we know how to use our defiance wisely, we can move mountains. Unhappiness can turn into happiness, failure into success....

A Better Understanding of Betrayed Spouses

Do therapists sometimes treat betrayed spouses in unhelpful ways?

Putting an End to Tantrums

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on June 28, 2017 in The Dolphin Divide
Understanding the lifecycle of bad behavior. Displays of distemper may be distasteful – but there are ways to quiet them for good.

What’s Normal?

By Kathryn Seifert Ph.D. on June 27, 2017 in Stop The Cycle
When it comes to childhood aggression, what is normal and what is not? When does behavior cross the line from anger to aggression?

High Temperatures Raise the Risk of Aggression in Dogs

Data has shown that for humans the tendency toward aggression increases as the outside temperature goes up, and now data confirms that the same is true for dogs.

My Mean Tween Made Me Cry

Seeking to affirm their individual opinions and identities kids start to argue back. These new responses may at first seem sweet, but sassy lacks luster when you're the target.

Can Our Anger Be Explained by Global Brain Vulnerabilities?

Is it possible that our angry world reflects changing anger thresholds in our brains?

Parental Alienation and Its Repair

By Molly S. Castelloe Ph.D. on June 25, 2017 in The Me in We
Parental alienation and how to recover the parent-child relation.

Avoiding Toxic Peers: How Online Friends Become Frenemies

Online friendship involves self-disclosure, which increases vulnerability. When friends become frenemies, disclosed personal information becomes ammunition for cyber-aggression.
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A Choose Your Own Adventure Guide to Building Relationships

We build our relationships upon the strengths and weaknesses of our parents, as well as our own. An exercise in discovering the challenges and the keys to overcoming them.

Aggression and Fear Can Be Reduced in Specific Dog Breeds

New data provides a possible alternative to breed-specific legislation to control aggression and fearfulness in dogs.

When People (Appear to) Have No Feelings

By Nick Luxmoore on June 21, 2017 in Young People Up Close
Therapists listen all the time for anger and despair, for sadness and hatred. But when a young person appears to be feeling nothing? To be entirely empty of feelings? What then?
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Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive?

Passive-aggressive try to block whatever it is you want. You feel their unspoken anger. Learn the signs and what you can do.

Getting Over a Grudge: The Case of Taylor and Katy

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Wrong or right, does it matter?