Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

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By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in Face It!
Here's how to untangle the confusing array of emotions we feel in the aftermath of terrorist attacks.

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By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on July 25, 2016 in Cravings
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Who Is That Big, Green Judging Machine?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on July 23, 2016 in Wander Woman
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How Common Is Road Rage?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on July 20, 2016 in Media Spotlight
A new research study released by the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety suggests that road rage is far more common than you might think.

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The Energy of Anger

By Matt James Ph.D. on July 19, 2016 in Focus on Forgiveness
Is it just me or are there a lot of angry folks out there? It just seems to be getting worse and worse. How do handle the energy of anger?

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The Missing Word Is Panic.

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on July 16, 2016 in A Swim in Denial
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For People Who Are Angry With “The Other Side”

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
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Dealing With Your Partner’s Explosive Anger

By Marty Babits on July 11, 2016 in The Middle Ground
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You Aren't Hating Enough

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on July 10, 2016 in Social Lights
The outrage over not enough outrage.
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Why Do We Hate Difference?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 10, 2016 in Off the Couch
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Tension can quickly dissolve when we are sincerely willing try to empathize with the truth of our partner's feelings and perceptions.