Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent posts on Anger

7 Types of Stalkers and How to Spot Them

An estimated 12 – 16% of women and 4 – 7% of men will be stalked in their lifetimes. Most stalkers are men, but one type of stalking is perpetrated almost exclusively by women.

Still Standing After Severe Abuse

Stories of clients who witnessed molestation as children, the impact of molestation and the mind of the molester are discussed with six suggestions for coping and recovering
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Is "You're Too Sensitive" a Form of Gaslighting?

Being accused of oversensitivity can be infuriating--but should you take it to heart?

Losing Love—and Finding It Again

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on May 13, 2016 in Finding Love
My extraordinary father recently passed away at 90. How he freed himself from hate’s grip, healed his relationship with me, and reclaimed his love for his wife is a story of hope.

Helping Children Cope With Divorce

Children who handle divorce best are the ones whose parents honor their children’s needs above their own.

How Can You Bear to Listen?

By Nick Luxmoore on May 12, 2016 in Young People Up Close
Sometimes we simply have to bear witness to the effects of other people's cruelty and remember our own capacity to be cruel.

How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child

We all enter the parenting relationship wounded in some way from our childhoods, and our kids surface all those wounds.

Change Your Painful Habits With a Mindful Review of Your Day

It’s one thing to wake up and set the intention to be aware throughout the day of your thoughts, emotions, speech, and actions. It’s quite another to be able to do it.

Driving Amid the Stress

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 07, 2016 in How To Do Life
An interview with Leon James.

Narcissist's Adult Child: A Painful Role

If a narcissistic parent feels threatened, they can go from extreme adoration to devaluation in moments.

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible? (Part 2)

I'll explain what I mean when I use the word "forgive," why I recommend the healing power of forgiveness, and how to heal even when you don't feel you can forgive.

Why Should We Forgive?

Forgiveness is an act of love, strength and a gift from which no one benefits more than ourselves.

How We Shoot Ourselves in the Foot Again and Again

We can repeatedly shoot ourselves in the foot for one simple reason. Under stress, we tend to retreat to habits of emotion regulation formed as far back as toddlerhood.

A Noble Sadness: The Benefits of Sorrow

What are the benefits of sadness, sorrow and grief? We tend to shy away from these emotions, because they make us feel vulnerable. But could sadness lead to love and belonging?

The Science of Violence

By R. Douglas Fields on April 27, 2016 in The New Brain
A leading cause of death throughout the prime of life is not disease. It is violence.

3 Tools to Dissolve Sibling Jealousy

Since all "misbehavior" is driven by upset feelings or unmet needs, the real work here is helping the child resolve feelings that are triggering his aggression.

Why Forcing a Smile at Work is Bad for Your Health

5 tips to help you avoid the stress and exhaustion of "faking it."

Do Panic Attacks Really Come Out of the Blue?

It is often claimed that panic attacks are not triggered by specific environmental or interpersonal stressors because they seemingly happen at any time. This is misleading.

Three Steps to Getting Out of a Toxic Relationship

Toxic relationships can be hard to get out of. Here are three steps to help if you are feeling stuck.

Trump Feels Your Anger and Anxiety

Emotional intelligence helps explain Trump's appeal!

Do Liberals Inadvertently Help Donald Trump?

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on April 20, 2016 in Critical Feeling
Donald Trump is the frontrunner in the Republican primaries. How could he become so popular? Cool research helps explain the heated dynamics of present-day politics.

Do You Suffer From Election Stress Disorder?

Political campaigns are designed to exploit bias rather than expose it. But how do candidates seem so certain about enormously complex problems?

Red Flags, Workplace Violence, and Terrorism

To perceive the warning signs of terrorism and tragedy in the workplace, we need to read behind the resumes and get to know our coworkers.

6 Science-Based Ways to Say “I’m Sorry” Effectively

New research has pinpointed the 6 key elements to an effective apology. Interestingly, 'requesting forgiveness' is the least effective way to say "I'm sorry."

How to Deal With Fear and Anger After a Terrorist Attack

An alternate way of managing fear after a terrorist attack can help reduce stress.

The Formula for the Good Enough Apology

The formula for a good enough apology seems pretty straightforward. Why is it so easy to get it wrong? used with permission

Understanding Serial Animal Abusers

What exactly is the relationship between animal cruelty and violence towards humans? A look at serial animal abusers sheds light on this complex relationship.

Three Proven Ways To Help Children and Teens Behave Better

If you are tired of fruitless power struggles with your child or teen, read this...

The Excitable and Mercurial Boss

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on April 10, 2016 in A Sideways View
What if you boss blows hot one day and the next cold? What if he or she is emotionally on a roller coaster? How best to cope?