Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you better manage this raw emotion.

Recent Posts on Anger

Couple’s Alert - Is Your Love Dying?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 17, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
By the time I see couples in therapy, they are often at a breaking point. Frustration tolerance is at an all-time low, and a love that once had such hope is floundering badly. We have to get through layers of disillusionment, anger, and hurt to see if there is anything worth saving at all and if both partners want their relationship to heal.

12 Ways to Reduce Your Stress

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in How To Do Life
These tactics have been effective for my clients...and for me.

Breakup: How to Tell If You Suffer from Complicated Grief

Sometimes it is impossible to let go of grief. When you continue to grieve a loss, your condition is called complicated grief. Complicated grief is so severe that psychiatrists now consider it for inclusion in the psychiatric manual for diagnosing mental disorders. Here is how to tell if you suffer from complicated grief.

Can You Really Calm Disturbing Feelings With Just One Word?

By Meg Selig on April 16, 2015 in Changepower
Can one word calm your agitated feelings? Yes! Try this simple and effective word magic and ease your distress in a nanosecond.

Outing My Inner Racist

Me: Otis, it’s been two days and I can’t stand how the deck is stacked against us and justice. I’ll bet you’ve felt that before. Otis: I’ve never felt any different. Me: It’s awful. Why didn’t you tell me it was so bad? Otis (looking me directly in the eye): Because YOU didn’t want to know!

When Your Four Year Old Hits Your Two Year Old: a Script

Rewards and punishment don't usually stop the hitting, because they don't help kids with the underlying feelings, or teach them a better way to solve the problem that caused the hitting. When things do go wrong, we want them to find a way to repair the damage they've done to their relationship.

Saying “I’m Sorry” Can Heal

Apologizing is difficult for many of us...No one wants to be seen as a bad person, and we usually want to protect our image.

Smartphones for Dummies—and Young People

You've hemmed and you've hawed, but finally you've given in and bought your child a smartphone. Now, the challenge begins: how do you ensure that he or she uses it wisely? Here are 10 guidelines to promote respectful, responsible use of your child’s new gadget.

Outgrowing Jealousy

Obsessive thinking is inevitably inaccurate.

Why We'll Give Up Everything, Just to Be Right!

Why are we constantly explaining--to ourselves--why we’re right and why someone else is wrong. Is being right really more important than being present, or real?

Whom Would You Rather Marry: Stress or Pressure?

By Hendrie Weisinger on April 14, 2015 in Thicken Your Skin
A life of stress is tough so don't add pressure to it!

3 Signs That Your Relationship is Built to Last

By Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on April 14, 2015 in The New You
What is the secret to a long lasting, happy relationship? Psychologists and relationship experts are always scrambling to find the answer to all relationship woes. While we don’t quite have the holy grail of health relationships, researchers have found some amazing tell-tales of a thriving relationship, and not all of them are what you’d expect.

Tired of Being 'Stuck' in Your Relationship?

There is an art to creating and embracing change so you can reinvigorate your relationship.

Simple Ways to Be More Present in Our Everyday Lives

By Brad Waters on April 14, 2015 in Design Your Path
Developing a more present-focused life by showing up fully for our everyday routines.

Navigating Through Your Divorce

By Angie Hallier on April 14, 2015 in Life After Divorce
Steps towards coping with divorce

How Much Should Parents Protect Their Children?

A legitimate question about how much risk parents should allow their children to take, and how protective of their children parents should be has been all but drowned out by extreme emotion.

5 Questions We Often Ask Ourselves After Microaggressions

Society’s awareness of microaggressions and its many expressions have increased over the past few years. The internal dialogues and psychological struggles that microaggressions cause marginalized people, however, are rarely discussed and remain largely “Unseen and Unheard” by the general public. I hope this helps.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

By Carrie Barron M.D. on April 13, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.

Mental Illness On Reality TV: Helpful Or Harmful?

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on April 12, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
A new TV show begs a very basic question: Does showing the intensely emotional moments of untreated mentally ill individuals help or harm the overall cause?

Why Not to Yell in a Nutshell

You can stay mindful to not yell at your child by being aware of the problems is causes.

How To Change Your Life

By Sheila Kohler on April 12, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Change, which is so difficult to achieve in life and to portray in literature is often brought about by a catalyst, a stranger, who comes into our lives and makes us see ourselves in a different and perhaps more truthful light.

Holding a Grudge Produces Cortisol and Diminishes Oxytocin

Are you currently holding a grudge against someone? Is someone holding a grudge against you? This blog post offers scientific reasons and some basic advice on how-to let go of a grudge and move on with your life.

Asian Parenting

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on April 11, 2015 in Minority Report
Asian parents are often very attuned to taking care of their children's physical needs (i.e. food, shelter, finances for education) yet the emotional support can be lacking. Here's what parents can do to be more attuned to their children's overall health.

4 Ways to Thwart the Serenity Stealers

Learn the danger signs that affect you when you are in the presence of someone seems to intrude on your peace.

Sarcasm Bites

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 11, 2015 in One Among Many
Are you ready for sarcasm? Yes? Yeah, right!

Smiling at Fear

I’m remembering the words of Swami Satchidananda , who was fond of saying that we can’t stop the waves from coming, but we can learn to surf. Hang ten!

Is Competition Between Men Healthy?

In moderation, competition is a normal, healthy human expression and way to strengthen ourselves. But it is not uncommon for competition to be taken to extremes, and manipulated to feed a man’s ego. If left unaddressed, unhealthy competitiveness can lead towards detrimental relationships and other long-term problems for men.

The Problem of Having Only One Friend

Friendships that feel one-sided and unsupportive usually aren't worth the cost.

The Making of a Murderer

From poverty to riches, serial killers to gang members, behind almost every violent person, there is a story of despair. Not every trauma creates a killer, but most killers are created from trauma.

Can’t Help How You Feel? Yes You Can!

By Erin Olivo Ph.D. on April 09, 2015 in Wise Mind Living
Declutter your mind and clean out any negative thought patterns—because your thoughts are not facts.