-----"start fashioning some of our societal reactions to it to fit the crime and contain the damage"

Before modern times society did exact punishment on this behavior, and still so in some countries. Stoning anyone? Donning the scarlet letter "A"? Beheading?

Thankfully there is no going back to the bad old days of those types of punishments for modern societies normally always inflicted on women!

What reactions to these behaviors that you classify as crimes do you then propose?