The White Knight Syndrome

Rescuing Yourself From Your Need to Rescue Others

Narcissism
How to Recover From a Narcissistic Parent

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on August 5, 2017

The effects of emotional neglect by narcissistic parents are particularly pernicious and difficult to acknowledge, let alone overcome.

The effects of emotional neglect by narcissistic parents are particularly pernicious and difficult to acknowledge, let alone overcome.

Empathy
Your Sense of Agency: Are You in Control of Your Life?

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on September 24, 2010

Your ability to take action, be effective, influence your own life, and assume responsibility for your behavior are important elements in what you bring to a relationship.

Your ability to take action, be effective, influence your own life, and assume responsibility for your behavior are important elements in what you bring to a relationship.

Addiction
Rescuing Yourself From Rescuing Relationships (2): Letting Go

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on February 13, 2010

You may have ended your relationship but, in your head and heart, still hear it calling to you. Letting go of a relationship filled with tension and excitement is a difficult endeavor for many reasons.

You may have ended your relationship but, in your head and heart, still hear it calling to you. Letting go of a relationship filled with tension and excitement is a difficult endeavor for many reasons.

Attention
The Rescued: Rapacious Partners

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on November 10, 2009

The covertly predatory style of rapacious partners may lead you to believe that you have found paradise in their arms, but sooner or later you feel like a victim.

The covertly predatory style of rapacious partners may lead you to believe that you have found paradise in their arms, but sooner or later you feel like a victim.

Trauma
Temporary White Knights

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on August 25, 2009

Excitement, danger, and addictive distraction are often found in a temporary rescuing relationship.

Excitement, danger, and addictive distraction are often found in a temporary rescuing relationship.

Anger
The Terrorizing/Terrified White Knight

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on July 14, 2009

The terrorizing/terrified white knight is the subtype most likely to have experienced overwhelming fear and shame as a child.

The terrorizing/terrified white knight is the subtype most likely to have experienced overwhelming fear and shame as a child.

Embarrassment
The Tarnished White Knight

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on June 23, 2009

The tarnished white knight wants to be loved and appreciated. He seeks to compensate for, and repair, the ineffectual sense of self that he developed in childhood.

The tarnished white knight wants to be loved and appreciated. He seeks to compensate for, and repair, the ineffectual sense of self that he developed in childhood.

Empathy
The Overly Empathic White Knight

Mary C. Lamia Ph.D. on June 10, 2009

Rescuer Subtypes: The Overly Empathic White KnightAfter reviewing the commonalities and differences among rescuers, we created four subtypes - the overly empathic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/terrified white knight, and the balanced rescuer. These subtypes are not discrete entities but represent our observation of clusters of characteristics that can overlap. In this blog, we will focus on the overly empathic white knight. 

Rescuer Subtypes: The Overly Empathic White KnightAfter reviewing the commonalities and differences among rescuers, we created four subtypes - the overly empathic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/terrified white knight, and the balanced rescuer. These subtypes are not discrete entities but represent our observation of clusters of characteristics that can overlap. In this blog, we will focus on the overly empathic white knight. 

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