The Emotional Benefits of Sacred Moments

The year 2020 will go down as a year of public health, economic, and societal crisis. Much less acknowledged, however, is the profound emotional and spiritual malaise* many people feel. In fact, in the United States, emotional distress is three times higher than in previous years and happiness is at a near-50-year low.

For many of us, something seems “off.” Perhaps this feels like a sense that something is vaguely “missing,” or maybe we “long” for something more or different. Probably many of us have grown numb to these feelings over the past several months, without fully realizing it. We may not understand why we’re feeling the way we do or appreciate how much our inner lives really have changed.

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It’s with all this in mind that I’ve been reflecting on some new research published this week in the journal Psychology of Religion and Spirituality.

In this study, 2,889 participants were asked about the frequency with which they generally experience “sacred moments” in their everyday lives. Specifically, individuals were instructed to rate, on a scale of 1 (never/not at all) to 5 (very often), how often they experience:

• “a moment that felt set apart from everyday life.”
• “a moment…that was really real.”
• “a moment in which all distractions seemed to melt away.”
• “a deep sense of connection with someone or something.”
• “a sense of uplift.”
• “a sacred moment.”

Results from this research show that individuals’ experiences of sacred moments predicted “higher levels of positive emotions and a greater presence of meaning, as well as lower levels of perceived stress, depressed distress, and anxious distress.”

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What is it about “sacred moments,” as defined and measured in the above study, that might be most essential, or the most involved in predicting higher well-being? When I consider the scale items mentioned above, the one that stands out most focuses on moments of deep “connection with someone or something.” I imagine that deep experiences of connection drive the sense that moments feel “set apart from everyday life” and “really real,” for instance.

Given this, I wonder whether this year has been more emotionally and spiritually difficult for me because I have withdrawn – often for public health reasons – from opportunities for deep “connection with someone or something.” For example, I mourn the losses of a shared physical classroom experience in which the “magic” happens with my students, the bonding ritual of my family’s yearly vacation, and the spiritual connection of face-to-face worship. My routine now is much more bland. I stay at home most days, most of the time, plugging away at work on my computer. I’m not depressed or anxious in any significant way, but I do feel the void of positive emotions – such as awe and being moved – that so often stir me.

As we move into a pandemic fall and winter, I wonder about other possibilities.

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Source: Andy Tix

To some degree, meaningful connection depends on our ability to be aware – in the moment – that what we perceive as sacred is still all around us. The belly laughter of children, the soft touch of a companion, the changing fall colors, the regularity and uniqueness of each sunrise and sunset, and the sense of the mysterious that sustains and guides us – these all have the potential to move us, if we only can pause to “take it in.”

Recently, I was inspired by this article in my local newspaper, as it reminded me of the Scandinavian concept of “hygge” (often translated as “coziness”). As we socially distance ourselves this winter, can we do so in ways that connect us with each other in ways that maximize charm and coziness? Can we gather “over a mug of hot chocolate on the front steps,” for example? My wife and I recently purchased some string lights for our front porch and a new fire pit for our back patio to connect with family and friends in some spacially distanced and yet hopefully memorable ways.

We also can remember times from our past when we experienced sacred moments. We can write about these or tell stories with those with whom we shared them. In these ways, we may re-experience some of the positive emotions we originally felt.

Finally, it’s possible to use this time of “mini-hibernation” or “mini-sabbatical” to plan for a future beyond the crises of 2020. We may be able to learn from our inner experiences this year to become clearer on what brings us joy and satisfaction. I’ve already written down some new goals, including travel opportunities I want to pursue, specific experiences I want to share with others, and my desire to find a new church community. Imagining these possibilities brings hope for more sacred moments in the future.

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* The Oxford Online Dictionary defines malaise as “a general feeling of being ill, unhappy, or not satisfied, or that something is wrong in society, without being able to explain or identify what is wrong.” Thanks to Judy Johnson for sharing how this word captures her current experience.