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Kissing Adds Years to Your Life

... and life to your years.

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Linda: A psychological study done in Germany during the 1980’s found that the men who kissed their wives before going to work in the morning lived an average of five years longer than husbands who didn’t kiss.

Dr. Arthur Szabo, professor of psychology at the University of Kiel, collected data for two years from several dozen physicians, psychologists, and leading German insurance companies that cooperated to provide actuarial data. Szabo published his findings in a West German magazine called Selecta.

The kissing husbands earned 20 to 35 percent more money and used less sick time than their peers who left with no goodbye kiss. In this same study, a sampling of Germany’s top 110 industrial managers shows that the 87 percent who left home after kissing their wives saw an increase in pay and held their management positions. This same research outfit reported that not kissing one’s wife before leaving in the morning significantly increases the possibility of a car accident.

Here is Szabo’s summary of findings:

“Husbands who leave home in the morning without kissing their wives do so either because the couple has had a spat, or because they have gown apart. In either case, the husband begins the day with a negative attitude. He tends to be moody and depressed. He is disinterested in his work and surroundings. While a great many men feign indifference to their wives nearly all of them are deceiving themselves. Even if a man has ceased to love his wife, he is still influenced by her attitude toward him. Our research proves this and conclusively so. A husband who kisses his wife every morning before he goes to the office begins the day with a positive attitude. His feeling of harmony is reflected physiologically as well as mentally.”

The psychologists who analyzed the data do not believe it is the kissing alone that accounts for such a significant outcome between the two groups; it’s the positive attitude that is strongly associated with a healthy lifestyle. It’s quite clear from the study that the strong bond that comes from regular kissing promotes not only emotional well-being but physical health as well.

Enjoying the Natural High

During the act of kissing sensations go directly to the limbic system that is the part of the brain associated with love, passion and lust. As the neural impulses travel from lips, tongue, facial muscles and skin, a love cocktail is produced in the body causing a natural high. The love cocktail is composed of neurotransmitters and hormones including dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, adrenaline, and endorphins.

As a marriage counselor, I want those I work with to utilize the natural high that comes with a terrific kiss. I have a multifaceted approach encouraging each couple to work out the challenging issues that trouble them by learning to communicate well, negotiate for their needs, practice getting complete by using learning from their experience, apologize for causing harm, and forgive after having been harmed. These methods clear a passageway for the fondness and affection system to flourish and for romance to become a regular feature of their partnership once again.

Regular check-ins, dates, fun adventures, and novel experiences all work together to bring a relationship back to a place of enjoyment. By adding in the built-in bonding powers of sensual delight that Mother Nature gave us, the shift in behaviors and attitudes conspire to heal a damaged partnership and move a good relationship into the great zone.

Sincere, intentional, heartfelt kissing is an essential ingredient in that process. Kissing therapy goes a long way to restore the ingredients that may have slipped out of the daily practice due to painful arguing, disengagement, or preoccupation with work or children. To intentionally engage in more sensual kissing brings a level of affection, respect, and love back to the partnership. Kissing is a sign that there is a new beginning to a glowing partnership, or a continuation of a connection characterized by attention, connection, and caring.

Kissing is a communication form that can transcend words and convey a feeling of appreciation, trust, support, attachment, security and even adoration. Good-morning kisses, goodnight kisses, greeting and leaving kisses, foreplay kisses, kisses during sex, and juicy kisses just for the hell of it, are all good.

And when it comes to kissing, more is definitely better. Kissing can restore not only emotional well-being and physical health but longevity as well. Always available if we are awake and aware to recognize the awesome benefits, we can celebrate and rejoice in nature’s glorious gift.

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